| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/1/2007 10:13:26 PM |
What do men find romantic?
With women there are the traditonal things like flowers, candle lit dinners, walks by the water, gifts for no reason etc. I'd like to know what kinds of gestures and or gifts do men find romantic? No man I've ever dated or been in a relationship with has been able to give me a straight answer on this one. (I did a thread search and didn't find anything on this topic) Guys tell me what you think!
What do women find romantic?
With men there are the traditonal things like giving flowers, candle lit dinners, walks by the water, gifts for no reason etc. I'd like to know, what kinds of gestures and or gifts do women find romantic? No woman I've ever dated or been in a relationship with has been able to give me a straight answer on this one. (I did a thread search and didn't find anything on this topic) Girls tell me what you think!
Um, really? We men find it romantic when you find these things romantic, when we do it for you ... the response is what we crave.
If after time you don't respond to our attempts to be romantic, we will not be very "romantic" any longer! This is probably why a lot of men don't do it, and why women get so agitated about men not being romantic enough. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/1/2007 10:34:17 PM | | Ok...go ahead and post that in the ask a girl forums....I'm sure you'll get all sorts of interesting feedback....seriously. The answer I got when I asked why they quit doing romantic things was basically..."the "chase" was over". I was always appreciative of the romantic gestures and when I asked specifially what I could do in return ....what I got was "if you don't already know, I'm not going to tell you". On a postive note I have hope that there is somebody somewhere thats going to appreciate my efforts! | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/1/2007 11:14:53 PM | | Eye contact and being able to see in her eyes that she really feels something for you. But I think different guys will respond to different things as you probably gathered from all these posts. I know gifts are not the best thing for me because they have so much baggage and expectations attached. I like non material expressions much more. (unless it involves sports cars.. hah!) | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:33:41 AM | the thought of a woman being romantic would be great. I think i have a GF at the moment tho i aint seen her for nearly 2 weeks , i want to be there for her, be her shoulder, be there for the good times....the bad times , to love her, to cuddle her, to hug her and thats all i have ever asked in return from a woman........if a woman wants me , to cuddle me, to hug me, to hold my hand, to be there for me then thats what i have always wanted..........thats romantic to me.
she doesnt have to buy me ANYTHING but just be there.
forgive me if iam totally wrong but when two people are in a relationship they are meant to see each other........uuummmm my thoughts too. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:42:10 AM | | Why I stopped being romantic was the woman I was with trashed it. As women will trash anything if they are unhappy about one of those subjects you have to guess about and still never understand. When a woman is wanting to be romanced she responds well to it. Then she shreds it in her wood chipper of confused irritability, and the magic is gone. Past that it is pointless. You'll notice men do not seek to meet and romance women who complain about men being unromantic. Why? Because the women are complaining. Complaining is what incompetent people do instead of solving problems. You'll find that when women continue to respond favorably to romance the romancer continues. It still works, so he still does it. When you have had a couple of bouquets of flowers thrown back in your face you stop bringing them home. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 6:19:08 AM |
what you'd want her to to for your birthday ,or other special occasions? Make it special by spending your TIME with me. Make me feel important. I think both men and women would find that desirable.
What would you want to have happen after a bad day? Acknowledge that I had a bad day. Ask if there is anything you can do. Ask if you want to talk about it. Accept the answer 'No' if I don't want to talk about it. Give me just a little bit of quiet time so I can relax and get the 'bad day' out of my mind. That way, I won't be dragging you into my 'bad day' thoughts.
Would any of you appreciate breakfast in bed, knowing exactly how you like your coffee, learning how to cook your favorite meal and that sort of thing? Breakfast in bed? No, not for me. It would be more romantic if you cooked, and we ate breakfast together while having coffee. As far as the other things, you have to communicate with me to find out how I like my coffee, and what my favorite meal is. Then you could go ahead and do it.
As far as those types of actions are concerned, when you find something that your mate considers romantic, make a mental note of it. You can do those things, but do not do them immediately after you find out.
If you did that immediately after you found out, I would see that you are trying to please me, not be romantic to me. Suprise me a day or week later. That means more.. You listened, you remembered, you acted.
And Yes, if those romantic things were done for me, I would reciprocate! I would give back more than I receive. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:27:35 AM | 1) a woman that wants to take me away for a surprise getaway!
2) hot tubbs -um yeah
3) big bottle of mums champagne in that hot tub getaway
..........wow could go on and on but u get the picture. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:45:29 AM | 1. I arrived home one day and there was a trail of Hershey kisses through the house, up to the bedroom, that ended with a love note and promise for fun ;) I thought that was pretty romantic :)
2. Found notes scattered strategically in my car, at my house, at my favorite spot in the woods. Each one leading me to the next, that ended with a great surprise. I loved this because it was like a treasure hun ;)
3. Came home one night and everything was quiet...Went to the bedroom and Carribean music was playing, a beach towel on the floor, chilled drink, she was in a bathing suit....like a brief trip to the islands :) | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:49:53 AM | I find it very reassuring to see there are men who actually appreciate this stuff.  | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 9:02:00 AM | Reciprocate it? I have yet to meet one of those. I would settle for someone who appreciates it. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 9:07:01 AM | what i find is romantic is when she holds my hand and says i love you.
also the small things too... keeping me company when i have to go run errands is great ^_^
small notes... even a little treat.. chocolates, candy.. etc i like that too :) | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 9:41:13 AM | | Probably depends on the Man but if U just walk up to me & give me a kiss on the chops & stick your hand down my pants thats romantic. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 12:20:08 PM | It depends on the man .... much like it depends on the woman.
everyone is different.
I think a long walk - talk is romantic
sitting for a picnic by the beach
watching the sunset
sitting around a fire
singing and playing together
cuddling on the couch
a candlelight bath
looking at master's art in a gallery hop
driving a coastal highway
playing with the kids
and on and on and on .... romance is just enjoying life to the fullest.with a mate.
Traditional romantic symbols in general turn me off.
I'm not much into symbolism ... I like spontaneous life.
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 1:44:23 PM | | Again....loving the replies I've gotten here! I totally understand giving up when what you've done and or given was not appreciated. I've been in that boat before myself. Its good to have an idea , before you go knocking yourself out on something thats not going to be appreciated. Listening, paying attention and getting to know the other person well enough to determine what they'd enjoy is also key. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:14:28 PM | Outdoors alone, as in camping trips, walking in places of natural beauty, sitting by a lake and sharing a picninc, cabins in the forest. I love the outdoors, alone time away from the world does it the most for me so that you can just BE together in every sense.
Coming home to find a nice meal prepared, candles etc.. the works. I also enjoy doing the same for my SO and I like to cook.
Gifts that have been made rather than bought, anything that someone has taken time to do shows a lot to me. A handwritten letter, a card etc..
Small things, sweet and silly notes half way through a book i'm reading, things that you find unexpected.
A woman thats happy and playful in her scruffs with no makeup etc.. is also a lot of fun to be with. I often feel my SO to be most beautiful this way.
With me I think it's mainly anything that hasn't cost a lot (or free) but must have taken time to be lovingly prepared/created. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:41:45 PM | beer.
spontanious sex.
beer.
a nice homecooked meal.
spontanious sex. beer.
Yep...that about covers it. | |
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Joined: 8/10/2007
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:14:48 AM |
i prefer the small things. leave me a note where i will find it later, text me saying that you are thinking about me. really anything that lets me know that i am in your thoughts is good with me. i don't need gifts or cards.
I have to agree here, it's the small things.. Also, if we are at a get together with her friends or my friends, both of us enjoying the party, coming up to me every now and then and just whispering a "hi handsome" or something like that, just to know that I'm in your thoughts... Or even better, once in a while coming home to a nice dinner.. (this is especially true since I do the majority of cooking )
There are plenty of romantic gestures a woman can make without giving gifts... It also depends on the guy that you are dating... | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 9:28:28 AM | ermmm....beer (as noted above)....and....i dunno....oral sex? 
just kidding...although that wouldn't NOT be appreciated, of course...
personally, i'm not big on the too-thought-out-seems-a-little-contrived-and-cliche notion of "romance"... i get more of a buzz when someone wants to hold my hand, tells me they've been thinking about me all day and couldn't wait to see me...that kind of stuff. it may seem really lightweight to lots of people, but i don't need a parade thrown in my honour... one solid participant is all that need show up. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 11:31:33 AM | I like to do romantic things because I know they make her (Who ever she is) happy.
For me the most romantic a woman can be is by being affectionate, sensual, erotic and a little bit naughty.
Hopefully we would compliment each other that way.
Different guys like different things listen to what he likes. experiment, try different things. You will the chinks in his macho armor.
Your mileage may vary.
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 2:32:42 PM | | For me it's something as nice as a sunrise/sunset. I'm not the demanding type of guy. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:36:49 PM | | Romance can simply be the knowledge that the woman I'm with wants me with every fiber of her being, and that I've got an alacrity to reciprocate. You, me, respect, anything can be. | |
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| What do men find romantic?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:54:44 PM | | When she looks you in the eye and says..."I love you ,and I mean it"...me I'm a rose kinda a guy...and ya never know when or where your gonna get it....perhaps on your pillow...or in your car...or deliverd to your work...you just never know with me!!or when she grabs your hand when you feel a little blue...and says"it will be ok,I'm here"...(thats a good one)....or she jions you in the tub...after she lights the candles...and says "hold me"...want me to keep going?I can you know!!! | |
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