| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:17:51 PM | From a 'one minute man' to a 'damn he went all night man'
Flippant is todays word 
tut tut and, altogether now, tut | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/2/2007 4:38:25 PM | | Well, I am over the hill now, so I have plenty of knowledge on this, but at 65 it still works every day. If I do it myself, never a problem, and quick. Have always been like that. Erection was fast, if she just rubbed my pants even as a teen. Rock hard and twitching. I did the tongue stuff everywhere and she was hot. But when she finished I was still hard and many times it would get right to the edge, I could feel it, then it would drift away even though I never moved or changed speed. Slowly it would come back and do it again. But if she got hold of it, especially oral, WOW. What really pissed me off was I could go to the bathroom still hard and finish it in a minute. Yet I had 5 kids with 2 wives. It was as if I did not want to impregnate subconciously. My guess. But one thing I did learn, before I married. If the woman is horny, dives on it drooling and rubs my nuts properly it goes quickly. If she is very physical and uses dirty words it really gets me hot and WOW. It seems a placid female somehow affects me mentally, like I am "forcing her". But with my tongue...I have been gushed in the face often, and I don't care. Love it when she does that, I know I have done her right and enjoy yhose animal sounds. A real turn on. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:10:01 PM | This guy could have been taking some sort of drugs. I'm not sure. That could certainly explain it. If that is the case, he should have told me and I'd be more understanding.
The married guy has no trouble completing. Nor do I when I'm with him. That's why I love him. It's an oxytocin thing.
But the guy with the problem .... would seem like a perfect guy on paper. If not for this ... problem. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/2/2007 5:18:00 PM | I am 29 and my husband is 40. He has had that problem since we have been together. I never saw it as a problem and he seamed ok with not cumming. He said that way he could focus on me. But he is gental he doesn't hurt me. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2007 5:21:41 PM | | Was he taking any medication that could have caused this? I have heard Viagra has that side effect and also some blodd pressure meds. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:36:26 PM | Would this be the same man who you have been screwing for the past five years who is still married to someone else?
Gawd you really get around dont you? | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:57:39 AM | Sometimes Alcholol and Anti Depressants/Anxiety medication can have that side effect on some men. Doctors even precribe low levels of Zoloft for premature ejaculation.
You did say he had a very bad experience with a breakup. He may be battling depression and just didn't tell you. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:02:07 AM |
The issue was he never finished. Not once. It was painful to me to the point that I was bleeding. Not once but many times. We discussed it and he researched the problem. But he couldn't fix it and it was horrible for me. I had no choice but to break up. I think it was an emotional problem. He couldn't open up to me. He also couldn't talk about his ex. Except to say that he understood why she left him cause the other guy had a better job. Weird in my opinion. I know I would have ended this relationship too.... not because of the sex, but because of his way of dealing with problems. I have no problem with the "sex forever" thing - lube works wonders - but I have to agree with you that it certainly seems like it is more of a symptom of the larger issue than an issue in and of itself. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 5:04:26 AM |
He couldn't accept that he had a problem
Maybe HE isn't the one with the problem.
I have been with a guy who couldn't cum either. It wasn't a problem for either of us. I'll admit at first I wondered if I was doing something wrong (was he not enjoying it). It ended up that he was enjoying it but just had a hard time to "finish". It was never an issue because we never made it an issue. Just because he doesn't "finish" doesn't mean that he isn't enjoying it. There is no reason why you should be in pain from it either. If he is "in tune" with you he should know when to stop. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 5:09:30 AM | Ya know I knew this gal that dated a guy with the same problem. She asked me about it but I had never heard of a guy that couldn't cum from intercourse. She told me he could cum....sometimes, from her going down on him but said when he did there wasn't much there. I thought maybe her jerked off before they went out, but she said she asked him and he assured her he hadn't. He had no problems getting a hard on either.
I guess this guy could go 3-4-5 times a night without him cumming. Kinda left her wondering if there was something missing on her end that prevented him from finishing. I knew she really loved all the other aspects of the guy...except this ONE thing. I haven't spoke with her in a while, but I know she doesn't date him anymore.
All along I had assumed that women wanted a guy that could go all night long, but I guess I was wrong. She told me as long as a guy lasts a solid 2 minutes (of actual intercourse) that she would feel fulfilled. | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:46:58 AM | Yep, I remember you too ... I wrote a post about your wonderful five year relationsihp with a married man and how it didn't interfer with his family because his family was all moved out ... Haaha
You are a jem.
He can't cummm because he feels satisfied that his wife is giving him it all and you are getting the sloppy leftovers. But remember what you wrote ??? You guys are having a great time, sharing friendship and all that bull, oh yea .... and you clearly stated it wasn't just for the SEX ...
I imagine anyone would be all worn out and sore too if they were doing a multitude of men ... Sheesh I hope you use protection, wouldn't want to give that beautiful wife of his something she doesn't deserve, that goes for your husband too ... he needs protection too from a woman like you.
Move on. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 6:28:26 AM | hey savona
I can guarantee that I've been with fewer men than you have. I can count them on one hand. My profile here is for fun only. I have no intentions on acting on any of it.
The married guy could cum for me. All the time. Our sex life has always been electric. He told me his sex life with his wife was so awful he needed an outlet. I was the outlet.
I said this before ... but I'll repeat it for your benefit since you have a hard time reading ... I broke up with the married guy. I started slowly dating this other guy (divorced man). They I had sex with him after several dates. Then I found out he had this major problem.
After I broke up with him .... I started to miss the married guy who was still in contact with me.
Isn't this just the most sinful life you've ever heard of?
And BTW ... my kids and his kid have never met. My kids have only met one of my boyfriends ... the guy who couldn't finish (sounds like a movie title now) and I'm not married bozo ... this is a persona. They don't need to meet any man unless I am serious about them. And it's slim pickins out there so that doesn't seem likely for a long time. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 6:46:11 AM | I thought the purpose of these forums is to discuss a topic. I posted this subject to discuss a specific problem I encountered with my boyfriend.
If y'all wanna discuss people's lifestyles and personal histories and then attempt to say how "we" are so much better than the next guy .... then let's call it that.
So back to the topic: I have learned that this problem is most likely due to a reaction to a drug he was taking. It could also possibly be due to a depression from his marriage that broke up.
That's all I wanted to know. If there are any other suggestions on the topic I'd be happy to hear them.
Other than that ... I do not wish to divulge my personal history. Nor do I wish to know yours. Are we all ok with that? | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 7:04:19 AM |
hey savona
I can guarantee that I've been with fewer men than you have. I can count them on one hand. My profile here is for fun only. I have no intentions on acting on any of it.
Sin 2 Gether, Good for you, if we are all to believe that, since your posts contradicts from one to the other.
Only thing is I haven't and don't need to pick off a married woman's cherry tree.
He told me his sex life with his wife was so awful he needed an outlet. I was the outlet.
Just what I always aspired to be a married man's outlet !!! A receptacle .... Hahaha you kill me. I think you take class to a whole new level.
I started to miss the married guy who was still in contact with me.
Isn't this just the most sinful life you've ever heard of?
No not the most sinful, but dammm dirty.
And BTW ... my kids and his kid have never met. My kids have only met one of my boyfriends ... the guy who couldn't finish
And anyway why would your kids ever meet? You said his kids had moved away ... sheesh, thank god ... what kids need that in their life. Obviously you are not going to have your kids meet you are having what is called an AFFAIR WITH A MARRIED MAN ...
Yet all the while you hoped he would leave his wife for you, I wonder what great advice you would give your own children, or your step children if he ever did leave her for you ???
and I'm not married bozo ... this is a persona.
Married for many years with a young child. Unhappy but cultural issues and concern for my child have kept me here. My husband travels and I have many opportunities to be alone. Hoping to meet a man in a similar situation who would be willing to spend some time with me.
Bingo, I am a bozo !!!! Maybe, but I am at least honest.
And it's slim pickings out there
Slim pickings for you maybe ... That is what happens when a woman has no self-esteem, you get the dregs. I feel sorry for you for that.
Oh well, I am sure you will find another cherry tree to pick from, there are loads of men who will doooo you for just a change of flavour. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 7:07:29 AM | OP?
I think you are taking heat due to what your profile states, your being married. And also due to your "doing" a married man. Then again, for chatting about "another" man. Seems you do like to travel around. Do I care? Not really. But when you post stuff like this, please do expect to be on the receiving end of msgs that perhaps you do not care for.
OT: Far as this is concerned, have never dealt with the issue myself. I would however think, that if the two people involved worked together to overcome or accept, then it shouldn't be an issue... | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 8:17:49 AM | Hi How are you what is your age please write to me something about yourself. I am looking for fun.
Thanks
John
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Posted: 9/3/2007 8:19:56 AM | Hi would you like to be a friend please send me reply or call me. How old are you. I am looking for fun.
Thanks with best regards.
John
Mob-07847167812 | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 8:42:45 AM | Sounds like your problem wasn't the man's problem, it was your failure to communicate with him and he with you. It is interesting that people can engage in the most intimate activities with another human being but cannot ask him/her a question. Such as, hey, you are tearing me up, either tell me what you need to get off, figure out when it becomes unpleasant for me and get me off so you can take care of yourself, or let me know that it is okay to tell you I am done.
Not particularly difficult. It also sounds like you had an intellectual and emotional relationship with the married man, perhaps because he was safe, he was never going to get too far into your personal space, both physically and emotionally, and that you failed to cultivate that with the man who can't cum.
Maybe you need to find out why you have intimacy issues because it sounds like you do. You get close to someone who can't finish the relationship but when you have someone that can, you focus on his one detractor rather than trying to build something with him and working on what you perceive as sexual dysfunction. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 8:50:05 AM | Why is it that they always try to look for someone to blame!
I dont think its his fault but then I dont think its your either.
I understand your feelings because Ive been with guys that are WAY younger and cant cum also, they see it as something cool because they last a long time.
After 30 mins of sex, of just banging away guess what? it get BORING, if he doesnt cum you wonder, "am I doing my job right", you start questioning yourself and maybe that will bring you down. If you are like me, you will start feeling like you are not attractive or that theres something seriously wrong with you.... and why even go there? better find a guy that suits YOUR needs and can cum in a good tim
Also after a while and it gets boring... you get dry and usually the guy wants more because he thinks he is just being awesome... when he is not!
I agree with your decision dont let others tell you otherwise  | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 9:14:38 AM | Thanks astelia! Someone who knows exactly what I'm talking about. You described my feelings about it perfectly. After a while, you are begging for the guy to stop. I tried talking to him about it til I was blue in the face. Like I said in my opening paragraph, he described it as "amazing endurance". Sounds like he had the same attitude as your younger guys.
It's like they say ... if a person doesn't realize and accept they have a problem, they won't look for ways to solve it.
Thanks again ... | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 9:40:26 AM | Several possibilities exist:
1: You're just way too ugly for him to cum while being forced to look at your face. Try turning the lights right off.If it works, you've got your answer.
2:You're way too big for him. Friction is required, and if there's none there, he's on a hopeless quest.
3: He may have some real concerns which weigh heavily on his mind when having sex with you.From your profile and postings, I can't imagine him not being concerned about that little itch, and his upcoming appointment at the V.D. clinic.This could inhibit one's ability to have an orgasm.
I'm sorry to sound rude, but why should we be so concerned about this when you have no concerns about breaking up marriages? | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 10:17:41 AM | | wow. i hate when they have to pound you, its like hitting a pillow but feels better i guess. lol rough sex is nice sometimes but where is the passion in it?? its like using those 2 words "f*** me" thats not very romantic. | |
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