| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:19:54 AM | Responding to allowme4u2
1. And you posted your pic cause ... you are so hot right?
2. Never had this problem teeny man so I can't comment. How do you compensate for it?
3. So tell me smart guy. Was there a big lineup at the V.D. clinic last time you were there?
Don't apologize. You aren't rude. Just ugly and stupid. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:21:03 AM | Hmmmmm......A one minute man vs. someone who is a "Duracell Bunny"??? That's a no-brainer, darling!!!!
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 10:28:58 AM | Reply to Sabrosura
I'm not talking about a long session. That is fun. I'm talking about a torture session. You really can't understand til you've been through it ...
Sex should never cause bleeding. And it wasn't a case of no lube.
I think part of the problem is the guy kept holding back. He was thinking that this is what I wanted. Probably spent years wacking off and holding it in (he was inthe Navy ... no women for long spells). Shows there is a dark side to practicing endurance guys.
This chain is right out there ... probably because there are only a handful of women out there who can relate. And it's starting to get as painful to read as "Sex with a Man who Can't Finish". | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 11:12:40 AM | !:Same reason you posted your pic. Or could it be that because you're so hot you have to publicly advertise your status as a slut to get laid, and even then can't get guys off.
2: My aren't we full of assumptions, Grand canyon?I've never had any complaints, but since you're asking questions about your inadequacies,this was only a helpful suggestion.Perhaps, see a gynecologist.
3. Never been there. Of course, if I had met you (which of course would have involved sex, if #1 wasnt in issue) I would have had to go. Why don't you check the lineup out yourself, and see how many people in line you "recognize"?
Ugly, no.I can, unlike you, get my partner off.And stupid? Maybe. But at least I'm not a stupid whore. | |
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eman07
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 11:22:28 AM | sin...
just remember your posting in a public forum and you put your business out there, so dont act suprised when people call you out on the married guy...
anyway...back to topic..
Im sure that he is turned on, and im sure that he likes you. But now he has got so much pressure on him to finish, that he is probably thinking about it way too much and cant now. Its not that he doesnt want to, or that he has "trouble" as you say it...trust me, we men want to get off just as much as you......women wont understand that those things sometimes have minds of there own...just happens....
you have no idea what your talking about when you talk about the whole wacking off and holding it comment. I was also in the Navy, and i never once "held it"...why would I hold it?...what good would that do?
you have already made your decision, so i really dont know what advice you want. You wont accept any responsibilty for anything, as you have already said its "his fault"...so again, I really dont know what advice your looking for....again funny saying i heard one time...
man cant cum...mans fault
woman cant cum...still the mans fault | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 11:48:02 AM | I can cum. No problems there. If he can't cum and a woman's tried everything ... what else do you suggest? Any ideas.
In his case, I suggested therapy cause I tried everything physical. I think it is psychological. And I'm not qualified to help in that regard.
I think this is really a puzzle that can't be solved. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 11:51:25 AM | | I think this thread has gotten hillarious! The silly comments, the usual "personal" tidbits thrown out for all to see and even the snarky remarks of some! Holy, thanks for the added entertainment all! | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 11:57:17 AM | | Instead of a man with "incredible endurance",i'd say you need a minute man that can finish real fast! | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 12:28:32 PM | OP It wasn't you at all. Because if he wasn't turned on by you, than he wouldn't be able to maintain an erection. Most men do not have this kind of control without losing their erection. I still believe he was on some kind of antidepressant or something. That is definitely a side effect to some.
If you really liked him than I am sure that you would have communicated this better with him. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2007 12:47:01 PM | | I'm not so sure about that, tmotts. He could have been on Viagra so his erection could endure looking at her, and the complete lack of feeling (physical) he would get inside her(that's if her problem is a gaping-wide orifice). I'm still not sure it is.Of course, he's obviously not that picky about who he's with, so he could have just come over from antoher floozy's house, and have no jam left in the bag. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 1:05:00 PM | Sometimes it has nothing to do with any kind of chemical use.
A bad relationship over an extended period of time can cause it.
It's like a Dog that's been beat too much! Eventually he will quit Cumming when you call!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 1:12:43 PM | Sin2gether2: "Bleeding"?! Now that's a different story!!!! OMG - that sounds uh er...not "right". Maybe he gets off on "torturing" women?
Now I understand your scenario. My apologies. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 1:23:29 PM | "I deal with this issue myself because I take Zoloft."
I was in a four year relationship with a man who'd been on Prozac for 20 years for depression. That plus his diabetes meds meant he had a "finishing" problem as well. A good consultation with his physician got him on the little blue pill, which made ALL the difference in the world. We had to watch his blood pressure due to the med combination, but it WORKED and things were grand from there on out. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:32:23 PM | It's in his mind.
An option would be to ask him to cum inside you, or "beg" if that's your thing (or his thing). If he can easily cum from porn, but not with a woman it's definitely a mental issue and one he has to get over. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:42:51 PM | wow im surprised at some of the pathetic posts ppl have made.. about women complaining, about her being too ugly for him to cum.. etc..
OP... I havent had ur issue.. but i would definitely be frustrated if i was in the same position, and sex is an important part of the relationship. it really comes down to how much u were into the guy to how much u were prepared to give it a go and work it out. if not that into him.. best decision to end it. into him alot.. try going to the docs with him.. etc.. my only negative comment is.. u dont have to let him go for so long.. if he never cums.. might as well just stop when ur done lol! | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:41:38 PM | It sounds like a tall tale to me. Given her profile, "looking for someone who wants to spend time (i.e., have sex) with me" and given that she said this "torture" went on for two months, either none of it was serious and worth her while to try to work out - and she is now looking for other women who will support her in putting the guy down - or it is simply a fiction to go along with a post that is simply a troll.
I mean, like, why is she bleeding? Can't the guy tell? Didn't he ever ask about it? Didn't she ever tell him? How much did she bleed? Didn't he get wet? Were there blotches on the sheets? Did he never notice? Did she hide them? I think it's bull. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2007 7:22:39 AM | | My kneejerk response is that the guy was into drugs. There are plenty that interfere with ejaculation. The next possibility is that he might have gotten off a lot before having sex with you. The final possibility is that I should mind my own business and stop offering ideas without obtaining first-hand information; conjecture can be a dangerous thing. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2007 8:37:02 AM | This thread is a turn-off for all the judgmental people on here.
I agree that it could be antidepressant drugs, or it could be psychological, or, finally - something I'm surprised no one has mentioned - it could be alcochol. Does he drink every day?
I have a friend whose ex-boyfriend has never been able to ejaculate inside a woman - not even once, and he's 46. The only way he could get his ex-wife pregnant was by articificial insemination. He had trouble getting an erection too - needed Viagra and loved physical pain, so I guess he was a masochist. She sent him for counseling, and I"m not sure if that helped because they broke up.
Another thing that hasn't been mentioned, is that a woman misses the emotional gratification if I man can never come with her. The act feels unfinished and therefore is a let-down. At least that's how I would feel - not if it happened occasionally, but if it happened regularly, I would. And bleeding even with lube?? Obviously you should have stopped him before it turned into "torture". Surely he didn't feel like an "amazing" lover if he was regularly caused you pain? I'm not judging here, but it sounds like the communication was inadequate. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/4/2007 10:02:20 AM | | If it wasn't because he drank a little to many or anti depressents (they should outlaw those meds ) I would guess its because there isn't any chemistry .or it faded once you got naked .....the no finish might just be because he just needs someone he feels turned on looking at naked ..inner beauty only goes so far In a relationship ..good sex requires good attraction ..a fast performance is always a result of over stimulation , slow to no performance is caused by lack of stimulation ..men can not fake it ...I see you do not give body type ? | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/4/2007 10:44:01 AM | As an older man I know more about this subject than most. As a diabetic with side effects of high blood pressure and high cholesterol, I have problems in this area that I am addressing with the help of a loving partner.
One thing not mentioned is that there are separate neural circuits for erection and ejaculation that normally work together. Nerve damage, drugs, depression, excessive masturbation, repressed feelings and many other factors can affect either one or both. Viagra affects the erection circuit but has no effect on the ejaculation circuit, hence the "Energizer Bunny" effect in some men that have issues with both.
Bottom line, this guy needs to see a doctor that knows what he is doing and try what the doctor suggests. It may take a while to get the problem resolved, trying different options and looking at the results. In a few cases nothing works, but that is a very small percentage. For most men it is very upsetting to have such issues. If you like the guy and he is willing to try, your help can be crucial. If he cannot bring himself to address it, he is in denial and you should let him go.
As far as going on past the point of discomfort until you bleed, there is no excuse for that. Yes, he may be working on this issue and yes he may be frustrated that it is not going as he would like But you have needs and wants also, and they should receive equal consideration. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2007 10:57:07 AM | | yea i think the men you are all dealing with are on pain killers like oxycodone, these pills hae those so called side effect, but if he is gentle bout it ou should have no problem, but if he is keeps on pounding away i can see wh u dumped him some women cant handle that. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:03:20 AM | I've had those times that within the throws of passion I just couldn't cum. Not because of mental/emotional issues, but just because I got in a groove.
Now, woman are like men in the fact that there are some that can orgasm over and over without a refractory period, but that is rare. So usually, there is a period of sex, followed by some downtime, and then you resume the festivities.
But if the man in question just could not ejaculate, maybe you could have just pushed him off after a while instead of breaking up with him. Or just explaining the concept of downtime to him. | |
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eman07
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/4/2007 5:59:48 PM | ^^^ you don't understand that? lmao....
Me thinks he is telling the OP he can help her with her issue! | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 9/6/2007 11:13:53 AM | Long ago, and far away. . . . I answered an ad in the Saturday Review. We corresponded for about six months, and I flew to San Francisco to meet him. Had a lovely two weeks, rode my first motorcycle, made love two or three times a day. My last day, as we were making love for the last time, he leaps into the air, screams, clutches his heart and falls to the ground. Just as I'm about to get up and dial 911, he grabs my arm and whispers: "It's okay." I don't call. When I finally do speak, I ask: "What the heck was that[/]?" "I came." Pause. "Is that how you always[/] come?" "My whole life."
So I'm thinking: (1)he's been faking orgasm for two weeks. And: (2)my God, what it must have been like to be 16 in the back seat of car with another couple, and to come like that! I believe it would make *me* a bit shy about the whole bidness. . . . He was 42.
Peeps is just built differently. Seems there is a huge range of normal, or near normal. I do think, OPie, that your fella prolly has some issues that it would help him to talk about to *someone* -- but maybe not, maybe that's just his normal. But that doesn't mean that if you've talked about it, and he can't/won't do anything, that you needed to stay. Sometimes parting is actually the only possible solution.
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