| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/12/2007 10:18:48 AM | | One of the side effects of cycling is lasting a long long time. It can be a lot of fun, but it can also be a burden, mainly to the female, since she doesn't always want a bangfest, but a nice little quickie. But there are solutions to the problem. In my case switching to magnum condoms helped by bringing more sensitivity to the area. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/12/2007 10:33:56 AM |
I asked somebody about it once and they said it could be due to over enthusiam when masterbateing. apperently i was literally beating the meat and it was desensitizing me.
Can confirm that this does happen, been there, done that, a firm grip is going to provide more pressure then a mouth etc therefore you don't feel the same sensations as when masterbating and can't get off during sex. Time to take it easy on the little fella,  | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/12/2007 11:53:43 AM | Can't finish?..Ever... Have you tried it....
What's the time limit here.....and sexual stimulation includes so much more than just the "feeling"..... use other things... aka.. mental stimulation as well, fantacies, role plays, new exciting things... and Gosh I wish I had your problem... I'd be jumping with joy!!!
If one thing don't work incorporate others... Its not set in stone....Gotta love challenges....
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/12/2007 2:15:40 PM | | whats weird about a man stating that his woman left him for another man that had a better job....women want 2 things..money(security) and great sex...and of course all the women will roar over that one and get all defensive..and ill laugh in their face.....he stated a FACT the woman LEFT him for a man that had MORE money..period..cuz she definitely didnt leave him cuz he couldnt perform in bed..he OBVIOUSLy doesnt premature ejaculate..which leads me to another gripe.....women want a man that can last and then they get one and they whine.....lol..I find THAT weird.....op...not anything he said to YOU....by the way...some men cum better from oral...or have you ever thought that it might be YOU that couldnt turn him on enough to cum? kind of the same way women get pissed at the guy and call hima lousy lover if he cant make YOU cum.....yah..............double standard.......ladies wake up | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/12/2007 4:11:02 PM | | I think the answer might be condoms because they can be uncomfortable and they lack some of the sensitivity. It could also be fetish problems where he has to have something before he will climax. Did you ever ask him what he likes? | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/26/2007 10:54:35 PM | Come on people, wake up. The guy is probably circumcised and has no sensitivity in his penis. He has to thrust hard for a long time to get any feeling. If his parents had left him intact then he wouldn't have any of these problems.
After 40 years his glans has become so rough that there is no sensation. Plus he is missing thousands of errogenous nerve endings that were in his foreskin that was raped from him at birth. He could try foreskin restoration to get some gliding action back and to get a softer glans but he will never get the nerve endings back. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/27/2007 5:40:28 AM | I haven't read all the posts but there are sexual dysfunctions, one of which is called retarded ejaculation, and that sounds like the problem. This is mostly psychological. These men can ejaculate when on their own but not with a partner. Professional counselling is needed.
Pam xx | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 11/27/2007 7:17:10 AM | | Although you mentioned foreplay, I didn't see any information anywhere which said you tried hard to bring him off in other ways, i.e. manually or orally? Foreplay to prepare for intercourse is one thing but there is also sexual pleasure and climax outside of intercourse. While this is obvious to me, I think many women are unaware of this or just don't want to go there. They are much more focused on intercourse (than men) and don't really want to take responsibility to please their man. Dirty talk during intercourse or other works wonders also. That said, if you have tried everything in earnest (that means you actually wanted to) then there may be a physical or psychological issue, who knows? | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/1/2008 4:55:36 PM | | men past 40 are going to have performance issues. dont let them try to blame it on you. believe me they will. women have issues too, its just easier to mask and overcome. men have to get hard, stay hard and eventually cum. its about blood. with our greasy diet that can become a problem even in the 40's. smoking and drinking also cause sexual problems. dont waste your time feeling sorry for the poor sap. move on and enjoy yourself. he'd do the same to you if the roles were reversed. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/1/2008 9:17:30 PM | | After months of trying every possible trick in the book to get my bf at the time to reach the ultimate, i finally found theanswer to the problem or rather he did.During our intimate moment he proclaimed that he found my male gay friends voice very sexy!!!!!! Laugh at it now but certainly not at the time. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/2/2008 10:02:55 PM | Hmm,
I'm 20 and I usually take about 20-30 min myself to cum it out. Most of the responses I've got are pretty good, I always thought that long lasting is >>>> premature ejaculation. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:36:46 AM | i believe it is all in the mind.
the mind is a very powerful thing.
i would prob suggest he had issues.
a shame you ended it instead of trying to resolve it.
although i understand it was painful and you bled after, i personally would not have let it get to that point.
figure out the emotions, the sex should follow and be enjoyable.
20 years of marriage is a long time, he probably finds it hard to relate to having to think about the desires of a new lover.
he must try to remember what used to work with his wife, may not work with someone else. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/27/2008 10:16:55 PM | | Why is it everyone assumes that a man or a women over forty should have sexual problems?. I am 54 and still lean and fit weighing the same as when I was an air force pilot in my twenties. I have never had and erection problem nor a problem with finishing at the appropriate time. I have also known quite a few women who have had no problems with dryness or running out of steam. I wish sometimes that I couldn't get it up or at least it would go away after a couple of hours. Nothing more frustrating than laying next to a sexy women exhausted with a massive hard on after repeated orgasms for both. Any pills around to make it go down?? hmmm the next breakthrough maybe? One thing I will say is that if ones partner is boring in the bedroom then no amount of effort is going to make me finish up. I'm sure it is the same for the lady. The trick is is not to be selfish and have a mutual give and take with lots of experimentation and the like. Never have a master plan of 3 dates and a boink or seven dates and a BJ etc. Be natural and react when it feels right... To many boring planners that take the fun out of it. Always be different is my thoughts.. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/27/2008 10:58:55 PM | It probably *is* a case of retarded ejaculation syndrome combined with an improperly executed circumcision.
If you knew for certain that the guy could get off on his own, that would clinch it. But the people recommending therapy have the right idea, at least. While one can accomplish this result on their own, I don't suspect this is necessarily true of everyone. | |
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| Sex with a Man who Can't Finish
Posted: 8/28/2008 2:22:15 AM | | the capacity to surrender, free of inhibition, during orgasm is vital to mental health. modern man, estranged from his own nature, has become neurotic (look around). Wilhelm Reich's "The Function of the Orgasm" is an essential read. | |
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