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Posted: 9/7/2007 8:02:06 AM | For those of you who seem to think that I am a low life trying to "live" off of the government, here is a list of my goals, not dreams, but goals:
1. Earn my masters in Microbiology
2. Publish 5 novels
3. Publish book of poems
4. Publish songs
5. Sell designs
6. Sell recipes
7. Send kids to college
8. Travel to 5 diff. Continents and 8 islands
9. Invent new means of travel
10. Discover something new in nature or the universe
11. Find a cure to 3 diff. Diseases
12. Build my dream home
13. Own 10 diff. Exotic animals
14. Be in a broadway musical
15. Earn my pilot’s license
16. Read the Bible the whole way through with understanding
17. Make the history books
18. Adopt a child from a third world country
19. Swim with dolphins
20. Ride a horse on the beach
21. Conquer at least one of my fears
You see.... I have been making this list since I was a little girl and will not stray from it.. I intend on doing great things, just need some help right now before I can truly accomplish this. I was a smart girl with a great head on my shoulders who made a mistake when I was a teen.... but there is more behind the story that I am not going to share here as to why I did what I did when I was 16 and got pregnant, purely by accident, and most teens have sex.... I just happened to be the one who got knocked up on the first try, and yes I had protection. Everyone makes mistakes.... this makes me no less wise or responsible and mature.... I personally believe that it was responsible and mature to own up to what I did and take care of what came out of it.... I can't help the fact that HE decided to screw things up for us. Give me a break here.... I am not asking for pity, but rather some answers on how to solve the issues at hand...... I believe that asking and trying to do the right thing is more responsible and mature than just letting the situation get even further out of hand. And if you haven't noticed, I have also been getting help with my resume and what have you so that I can do better with less help from the government.... all I am asking from them is childcare, medicaid, and some food stamps for now to help me get going on a better way to life. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 8:16:59 AM | OP: I'm very sorry for your situation, but I have to agree with Harley...I think there's some stuff missing from your story. Why on earth would you be supporting your friend when you're having problems supporting yourself and your children? What kind of friend takes advantage like that?
I have to question the whole "1500 resumes" thing...1500 and not ONE response? I don't believe that for a second.
I will say that it sounds like the Army is screwing you as much as possible. Ask them to at least buy you dinner first. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 9:02:27 AM | | realistically Lizbeth those goals you have...only a few may be attainable | |
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Msg: 87 | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 9:10:04 AM | ^^^^i disagree Johne. I read at least 16 that are realistic goals.
Some times you have to push yourself to achieve goals.
The first step is writing them down as Liz has done.
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Posted: 9/7/2007 9:39:09 AM | ^^^^^very true pucks writing them down is the first step. I just do not see where the time would be in the day to work, write novels, do that much travelling and find cures for 3 diseases. Many researchers spend their entire career looking fr cures and find only one cure or not even a cure but a vaccine not to cure something but to at least give pain relief (example: cancer drugs) If the OP can do all of this, more power to her.
Lizbeth I hope you are sucessful in life but it will not be easy, you will get knocked down asgain by something. We all do from time to time. | |
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Msg: 89 | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 9:43:52 AM | Johne,
they are called goals for a reason. So as for time goals are Something to achieve in the future.
Some are short term and some are long term.
Curing diseases could be a long term goal, while tougher to achieve, if she set out to acheive her degree it is attainable with supports and help.
Earning a masters in microbiology, publish books, poems and songs, selling recipes, selling designs, send kids to college, travel, build a home, own animals, read the bible, earn pilot's licensce, adopt a child, swim with dolphins, ride a horse on a beach and conquer fears are all realistic goals.
Wake up and stop being so darn negative. Deal with your personal issues before ruining someone eles's dreams. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 10:00:14 AM | I spoil no one else's deam pucks just pointing out what many see as realistic. Writing, publishing and adopting children can be done. Finding a cure for 3 diseases is a great long term goal but the OP should not be dissappointed if she does not achieve all of her goals. As I stated some researchers spend their lives searching for cures but only find pain remedy for a medical condition, there is nothing wrong with that.
For now the OP needs to concentrate on getting the help she needs to get on with her education and with the rest of her life.
Lizbeth: I swent you a few personal e-mails..not sure you wanted me to post a few things on this forum.
Best wishes
John | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 10:30:40 AM | Liz,
It's the age restriction, which is painful to admit by the way!
You can email me and I will be able to respond I believe. Let me know if you need further assistance. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 3:28:58 PM | aldubu,
There are a few things missing that I would rather not post here.... some things are just too personal!!!! I am supporting her in return for childcare.... until I get help with that then I am stuck with it..... I pay less for her a week by supporting her than I would putting my kids in daycare with no help paying for it. Yes, I sent out that many resumes.... I guess it wasn't good enough... maybe lack of experience or college education..... or maybe it was a bad format.... who knows! Yes, the Army really isn't helping any here, but that is why I am pushing for my discharge to get done as soon as possible. It will makes things a little easier. Thank you for your post. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 3:32:42 PM | John,
I posted my goals to show you that, even if some may not be attainable, I am not a low life loser with no dreams and just wants to live off of someone else. I have already made my designs and wrote my poems and lyrics and made my list of recipes and studied for 12 years on my own in the medical field..... I know that I can attain most of my goals..... some of my goals might take a life time, but I aspire to complete them all. I hope you understand better now. Thank you for your posts John and Pucks. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 3:33:56 PM | myblueshadow,
I will change that restriction right now. I look forward to hearing from you soon. Oh yeah, and I wrote to Untied Way this morning after reading your post. I am still waiting for a response. Thank you. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 3:41:27 PM | your welcome Lizbeth.
May I ask why you did not start school this year? | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 3:45:56 PM | | I didn't start because I was in basic training from October to January and have been trying to get on my feet since they sent me home. That and I am still working on getting more funds for school which I lost when I got married. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 5:53:15 PM | | If your pelvis has healed why can't you just go back to basic and start again? I cannot see the Army turning too many people away these days. Just curious, good luck. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 5:55:27 PM | | I understand Lizbeth..I just thought if you started school this fall it would have made things a bit easier for you. I hope all goes well next year | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 8:01:20 PM | Lizbeth, I didn't know you had a list. And a fine list it is.
Had you let us know, my advice would have been different.
I am a bit upset that you didn't include world peace on your list.
Do you have any idea how important world peace is?
I know there are many other beautiful young ladies working on that one, but why leave it to others?
Please consider adding it to your list. Thank you.
Good luck on your journey.
ps, Consider going to a local church, many offer help - I'm certain that there are good people who'd assist you in helping you to help yourself. Aloha. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 8:08:26 PM | carolann,
The girl that keeps my kids now was doing so while I was in basic..... she doesn't do very well with them on a full time basis and said that she would never do it again.... I guess it is too much for her to handle..... I don't know anyone else or trust anyone else with my kids. You have to give over gaurdianship or custody of your children when you sign. That and when I was in basic they already had a contract waiting for me to go overseas for 2 years directly after post training.... that puts me away from them for at least 3 years!!!! When I was gone, my poor eldest daughter felt that nobody wanted her and that everybody was leaving her.... I can't put her through that again..... she already lost her dad, his family, and all of his friends.... she's smarter than the average 3 yr. old. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 11:45:41 PM | i cant help you with any advice hun
i just want to say it took alot of streanth to give your guy up like that for what he was doing and for thinking of your children first
i was in a simular situation but it involved his daughter through a previous marriage
i certainly hope you dont intend to take him back cause they never change
best of luck and just hold on to your inner streanth | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 8:33:50 AM | lady,
I was going to send you a personal message but do not meet your criteria. I am very sorry to hear that you were put through something similar. If you would like to talk about it sometime, please feel free to send me a message. I would NEVER consider taking him back.... he is a perverted nutcase.... he did a lot more than just look up porn.... he drank, cheated on me at least 3 times a week, left my daughter with a complete stranger to go to a strip club, and more. I know he's not a keeper! Now that I have said that I know I will be asked why I even got involved in the first place..... when we were dating he was sweet and caring... he took me to church.. put on a whole different face. Thank you for your post. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 7:55:16 PM | | UPDATE: I have recently submitted many applications and essays on fastweb.com for financial aid to get through school. I am still waiting to hear back from the Congressman about social services. I am still waiting to here from the CNA program that starts in October that I signed up for which includes paid training for 18 days. I have found a program here called Wages and should be getting low income childcare through them.... it's about $30 a week! My roomate decided to let me work when needed to make money and that she will get a job to help out as well..... finally, with the help of some friends, we talked some sense into her! Harley, I went to print my revised resume and my printer broke.... I sent it to my email and went to the public library to print it out and then spilled tea on my envelopes, lol! I will try again! Thank you for all of the help from all of the posters on here. If I can ever repay you, please let me know. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2007 7:06:20 AM | Parker,
Maybe you should read the ENTIRE thread before posting. I was simply asking for advice. Don't judge me so quickly before knowing my complete situation and without looking into mistakes that you have made. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:49:12 PM | so, you were 3 yrs old and able to take of your parents. well, you say you have a 3-1/2 yrs old daughter. its sounds like youd be better off if she started taking care of you? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 1:58:51 PM | | Sorry to hear about that evil man. I cant image what that would be like finding out. I am a little confused though you want to join the army or you are in the army, yet you have kids and if so mething happened to you. Dont you think they would wonder what happened to you and why you went willingly? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2008 3:18:31 PM | Hey lizbeth, I noticed on page 1 that youre wanting to do a masters, I take it you have a science batchelors then? If so, have you thought about medical/scientific sales?
Like you I am ex armed forces and with a scientific background, and have a family to look after.
Ya know, moving into that kind of job is fantastic when raising a family, the salary is high, cars are provided, medical care also.
Might be worth looking into? | |
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