| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:10:54 AM | liveluvlife: "stephanie, sad that you are stereotyping men as murderes, rapists, etc etc...all negative. Think, what you think and portay men as in a negative light, so do other women think the same about your brothers, male relatives and father too!! You see it works both ways."
Haha, Are your for real, livelovelife??
This is what I said, dear: "it's a lot less common for women to rape and/or murder strange men." That is a FACT, not a stereotype. It in no way implies that ALL men do that, unless you have poor comprehension skills.
Do try to dry your tears dear, and instead of crying, go find a dictionary and look up two words that you don't seem to know the meaning of or the difference between:
first word you need to learn: Stereotype
second word you need to learn: Fact
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:22:42 AM | Mortalez "coffee is expensive too"
Are you serious, Mortalez? Don't you know it costs more to purchase all the ingredients and cook something at home. Heck just to make something fairly cheap like Hamburger helper and a salad with seriously cheap wine, that meal will set you back at least maybe 20 bucks, if you're very frugal. About 4 bucks for the hamburger, maybe 2 for the Hamburger Helper, 4 for the vegetables, 4 for the dressing, which leaves 6 bucks for a beverage, wine, juice, or pop, or whatever. So if you're trying to save money, wouldn't the coffee be much cheaper than the home cooked meal?
And do you really not care about a woman's peace of mind or feeling of safety? And if you don't care about that, why should she date you?
Geez if you can't part with a few bucks for a cup of coffee, I'm not sure you should be dating. I mean the woman I'm sure she can pay for her own, but the point is if you're getting bent out of shape about a few bucks, I wouldn't want to date a guy like that. Money isn't life. You can't take it with you. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:48:13 AM | mortalez "
You dont seem to respect the woman's right to choose. You are coming across as aggressive, intimidating, even. Movie, dinner and dancing----bit over the top for a first date. She maybe saw it as trying to impress. Too many people lie about too much on here. only a stupid, or extremely desparate woman would allow a strange man into her home. You dont know these people just talking to them online.
A woman is suposed to put herself in danger to save a guy some money?
""""""""coffee is expensive too, and i did meet a woman from pof at starbucks not long ago and though we seemed to hit it off and had a good convo I have not gotten but one call since then so that was a waste of 5 bucks + gas. and after a week of not hearing from her I get this in my inbox. """""""""""""" """""""""""" Mind you I called a couple of times a day for 3 days before I gave up with no answer.
Geez I feel like a chump for wasting my time."""""""""""""
Something must have gone on that she didnt want to see you again. Wondering how many times you would have gone to her house, had you actually known where she lived? | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:18:03 AM | My fondest memories have been home dates, back when I first moved out of my parents house( some 20 years ago) we used to go to the mall and meet women all the time and go back to the apartment and hang out all day, flash forward about 9 years (after 9 years of marrage) dating has become a nightmare of expectations and distractions.
Basically put this mentality many of you women seem to have is the reason dating sucks now compared to then.
My kingdom for a time machine!!!!!! | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:19:55 AM | "Basically put this mentality many of you women seem to have is the reason dating sucks now compared to then."
Mortalez I believe your mentality is the reason dating sucks for you. You need to deal with reality instead of fantasy. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:35:39 AM |
Mortalez I believe your mentality is the reason dating sucks for you. You need to deal with reality instead of fantasy.
its not fantasy that dating was better then than now, its merly my opinion. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:26:13 PM | [/I'm not really interested in meeting anyone anywhere right off the bat. I prefer a phone call first. Is that bad? Why waste each other's time if we can't find anything to talk about on the phone.?]
I completely agree about the phone call... only I like to talk a couple of times.. if the first convo was decent.. like to make sure it can be done again lol. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:16:31 PM | Hey soldier of love-- are you a Donny Osmond fan? :)
Speaking of this post-- I have to agree-- its WAY too early to meet at your home - you dont know what this man is like--- he could be REALLY scary or too sexual...
best to meet in public the first few times--- at some point though you have to trust--
hence I guess its why in some ways its better to meet someone you get to know
in a public place such as work, or a club, that kind of thing-- still you cant always
be certain no matter where or WHEN you meet someone...
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:06:20 PM | jrsyqrlinva69,
I would also like to know why when a woman says NO to this suggestion why is it a rejection or a sign of disrespect to a man? I have had numerous men not want to meet me after I said NO to the above.
I don't know what kind of freaks are chasing you, but they are not normal, maybe you should be reporting them?
Public place or at a social gathering of "mutual" friends. Never alone to start, there are plenty of women freaks out there too. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 6/17/2009 2:30:50 PM | OP, first thing right away, Never invite a first time date into your home for any reason. at this point and time, you can never truly trust anyone, " Male or Female" and with how most of the participants on many site's overly become inquizitive of where you live? is it with children? Dogs, Ect, Ect?
The safety and security of your home is the place you bring them into well after you have dated for some time. Has nothing to do with specifically where you live,just what you have laying about? what type of furniture gives a stranger an idea of what kind of financial's you may have.
And last but not least, if this person, again Male or female is a true stalker, you have no privacy! your house will be watched from anywhere possibly daily? maybe to see if you bring home different people other than them? that will go over well. My policy is always a public place, and wait for a while till you drive to a planned location together. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:08:04 AM | Do men truly not realize tht it is a safety thing for women?
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And a woman has every right to take every safety measure and precautions. Although I wouldn't mind having a home cooked meal on a first date, lol. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:20:31 AM | | You know what? i had this convo w/my girlfriend the other night...i just find it so disrespectful in this day and age for a single woman to be asked to invite some guy to her home to cook a meal together?? No!! first off that is just a invitation to get someone in bed. and that is A DEALBREAKER..next thing you know they want a massage or some bs...plus, when you take someone out in public you get that chance to know them well, their likes and dislikes etc.. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 10/25/2009 2:38:39 PM | | i always bake a fabulous meal and we go to the drive-in (obviously i haven't been on a date since the demise of the drive-in). why not have a cute little picnic and cook on the grill together and then watch the ubiquitous sunset that everyone raves about. I bet that would be the start of many happy years together or at least get you laid. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:39:15 PM |
You know what? i had this convo w/my girlfriend the other night...i just find it so disrespectful in this day and age for a single woman to be asked to invite some guy to her home to cook a meal together?? No!! first off that is just a invitation to get someone in bed. and that is A DEALBREAKER..next thing you know they want a massage or some bs...plus, when you take someone out in public you get that chance to know them well, their likes and dislikes etc..
That seems kind of extreme to call it a dealbreaker if a guy invited you to his house. I don't really prefer inviting someone to my house on a first date, but if it's a long distance thing, it is kind of unavoidable. But the bootom line is that girls have the fredom to say no to any situation and in any situation. If you don't feel comfortable going to someone's house, don't go, and if you don't feel comfortable with going any farther than dinner at someone's house, then eat dinner and say so. | |
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| HOME COOKED MEALS AND MOVIES FOR A FIRST DATE?
Posted: 10/25/2009 11:59:28 PM |
That seems kind of extreme to call it a dealbreaker if a guy invited you to his house.
It is, and has been, a dealbreaker for me as well. I won't consider meeting him at all if he suggests coming to my house/going to his house for a first date. It sends the wrong message. The fact that he would even suggest it illustrates to me that he has the potential for very bad judgement.
Men that propose these types of impulsive "seemed-like-a-good-idea-at-the-time" concepts that are not well thought-out seem to be the ones claiming that they've had far too much drama from women in their lives. I wonder why? | |
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