| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 8:44:59 AM | | It's difficult. You meet someone and start liking them. You can't wait to have sex. Then, you start knowing the person more and don't like what you see. Relationship goes down hill from there. So, one shouldn't rush into sex, but let's admit it, it's tough. | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:10:08 AM | Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Also, if you keep returning to him no matter what confused state he seems to tell you he's in, why should he ruin a good thing, right? He'll play that card for as long as possible so he can get away with not making a committment to you and you'll get angry and break up with him, and then go back because you love him. The whole makeup-break up cycle needs to stop because the more you continue, the worse you are going to feel inside and the more power he has over you. He'll never break things off with you because he knows you'll always come back. You're so predictable (within X amount of time, he knows you'll be back in his bed) that he probably doesn't take you seriously anymore.
I think you are also to blame here by not following through with your words. You mentioned a few times here that you told him "I didn't want to be with someone that didn't want me in return". Well if he said it was over and yet you continue to go back to him when he says a few sweet words, you're fueling the fire here.
I know it's tough when you've invested your heart but there's no prize in being with someone who doesn't want you back. | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 10:52:21 AM | | I wasn't two paragraphys in before I knew, it was another women. It's the old tell tale stuff, blue, distance, and then hot and heavy. He feels something is missing, and that's whatever he feels for her. When he said he's not ready, what he means is, he's still with her in his head. He still loves his ex. Plain and simple. It's pointless to persue him. He will always compare you to her... draw a line under it and move on. These things happen. | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 11:06:01 AM | | Cares too much? I'm not sure there is such a thing but someone who cares does NOT take the risk of losing you...working through feelings is one thing, saying goodbye is another. Try hitting the mute button and decide what his actions are saying...... | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 11:20:32 AM | | Some men are afraid of commitment. This guy sounds like a classic commitmentphobic. I think Creativeguy's advice is perfect. | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 11:34:57 AM | Someone who says they are not sure after a while...in my humble opinion, are either really not sure, or...too cowardly to say goodbye. Based on my experience, it's the latter.
Time to move on I think. I'm sorry you've had to suffer. | |
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| I'm needing objective advice
Posted: 4/5/2008 12:19:56 PM | i just read a book called 'he's just not that into you'.
look for it on amazon. it's helped me and i think it would help you.
big hugs! xx | |
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