Guess
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 226 | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 12/27/2007 8:17:24 PM | | No way. I have a cat so someone would have to deal with all that means -- like the wall plaque in joke shops: "cats don't have owners they have staff". True enough. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:02:14 PM | | I don't have pets anymore due to allergies I've developed.. but if I did and I had a boyfriend who didn't like them I would absolutely not hold it against him. I think that pet owners need to realize that not everyone likes their animals as much as they do and that it is completely unreasonable to expect anyone to appreciate their cat or dog to the same extent. I personally do not like dogs (not in the least bit) so if a guy expected me to change that about myself or resented me over something so silly I would not be too pleased. I'd be willing to tolerate having a dog around but nothing more than that. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:22:47 PM | uhhh respect your pet as if it's a person? Cause if that's what you're looking for, you're out of your tree.
But if he was abusing them then yeah, he's gotta go. Not dating a guy cause he isn't as big of a pet lover as you sounds down right crazy to me. | |
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mizbex
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Joined: 8/8/2007
Msg: 230 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:36:18 PM |
I think that pet owners need to realize that not everyone likes their animals as much as they do and that it is completely unreasonable to expect anyone to appreciate their cat or dog to the same extent.
Funny that is how I feel about most people's children. | |
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Guess
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 231 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 12/31/2007 3:23:00 PM | I think that pet owners need to realize that not everyone likes their animals as much as they do and that it is completely unreasonable to expect anyone to appreciate their cat or dog to the same extent.
It is not unreasonable to expect others to respect your pets,because if they dont they don't respect you or in this situation me,as that date didn't do and for that very same reason werent there a date nr 2. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 1/4/2008 7:06:24 PM | Mizbex I couldn't agree with you more.
I was a board member of an animal rescue group for years. The local City Shelter called us to come and take a beautiful****r Spaniel out as it was her "last day". Seems the poor dog was "turned in by the owner" as he recently married and the new wife didn't like dogs. They were an elderly couple. The man wrote on the "turn in" form that once the dog saved his life by barking and nudging him at 3 am, seems his mobile home was on fire. If his dog hadn't done this he would have perished in the fire.
Gee that was the Thanks the dog got for saving his life, a death sentence at the pound. We found the old dog a good home. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:44:49 AM | what if he loves u and y have been with him forever but he is allgeric to cats he is good about it but what do i do i wont give up my cat nortimer for any man so where do i draw the law there we are getting married its not his fault he is allergic to my kitty so what now   | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:15:05 AM | Is the pet is well behaved and properly socialized or pretty much out of control and obnoxious?
I mean I don't want to tangle my life up with somebody who neglects training and discipine with for their dog. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:17:58 AM | Animals are a major part of my life and I have a lot of them, so whoever I'm with must at least be tolerant of them and their behavior; the hair, the mud, the inconvenience, etc. I understand that not everyone is, and these people would probably prefer not to spend much time on a farm.
They'd certainly need to be respectful of how I chose to deal with my animals.
Having said that; sometimes I find it challenging to deal with the way some folks deal with THEIR animals! I'd be polite about it, naturally. I'm a big know - it - all, I suppose. | |
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Guess
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 237 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:55:36 PM | | If they don't respect your pet,they wont respect you at the end of the day.So in one way is it really good to find out early to not waste feelings and time on one like that. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/13/2008 8:32:40 PM | | I would not date anyone that won't respect my stuff, pet, family etc. If they don't RESPECT my family, they won't respect me and that's major home run kick in ass for that person to get out of my face. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/13/2008 8:44:48 PM | | did they piddle on him? animals are good at sensing people who are uncomfortable around them (or something not quite right with them)and will show it in there actions/behaviour. | |
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Joined: 2/18/2008
Msg: 240 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:41:22 PM | When I first meet someone,I want to get to know her,and if she is also interested in me,she will give me time to get used to everything.I don't have pets,and since I don't,it will take time to get used to being around them.You can't blame the animals for not behaving,its up to their owner to ensure they're trained properly,and safe to be around.
Someone commented that you're date was jealous of the attention you give you're pet,I don't agree with that.The type of love you have for a pet is obviously different than the way you love you're lover,so what is there to be jealous of?
I don't agree with the way a lot of people baby their pets,dressing them up,buying them expensive treats and so on.Some people go way overboard with this.They're not a replacement for people.I guess if you grew up with animals in the house,you have a stronger attachment to them.I had a few cats as a kid,some fish and reptiles too,but I found that I'm not a good pet owner,so I choose not to have pets.Its not fair to the animal,they need care and attention more than I'm capable of giving.
Like most things,in moderation its Ok. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:56:06 PM | | Any man I get involved with will have to respect all animals. Not only do I have cats, but I also have snakes. That pretty much narrows the field. It's easy to find people who like cats, but the snakes are definitely an acquired taste for most. Anyone who disrespects one of my animals is history. | |
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Guess
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Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 242 | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:06:57 PM | I have been on the other side of this with a woman who brought 3 dogs on the date and spent the date fighting with them to control them !
I didnt ask to see her again. I think people should come before animals. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:19:33 PM | Hey guess, I have had similar experiences and I am completely turned off if my date disrespects me or my pets ( especially my dog ). A natural love for animals is something that is important to me when looking for a potential partner. My dog is usually my best bet when it comes to figuring out someones true character.
This may not be as important to some, but for me it is a must as I work with very special dogs everyday!
So an big NO GO if they don't like my pets or complain about them. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:29:41 PM | | Not enought information here in the question.... It depends what your dogs where doing at the time. Where they jumping on people while pulling your arms off? Scaring the kids? Being agressive?.... If they just did not come back when called or walked ahead of you instead of at your side, then you are right and he is wrong IMHO. Otherwise... not enough info..... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:34:58 PM | | You did the right thing OP....that's like walking into a relationship with someone who has kids and telling them how to raise them....middle finger seems to be extending...LOL | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:26:13 PM | | My pets are my babies... they were here first and are not going anywhere. That being said, while I know that I may miss out on a good guy, I only date guys who like pets and are not allergic. They don't have to fall inlove with my dog or cats instantly but they have to realize that I love them and respect that. If they don't respect that, well, it's just not meant to be!!! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:26:36 PM | | personally i think someone who doesnt like my pets doesnt like me... to me my pets are part of Who i am ... so its like them, or get out!! ( i am a real animal lover, i currently have 2 cats and a budgie) | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:36:18 PM |
personally i think someone who doesnt like my pets doesnt like me...
The OP didn't say the guy didn't like her pets. He just complained about their behavior. And for all we know, he was right and she was just defensive about it because it was her dogs.
My ex had a dog that she loved to death. But he was totally disobedient and it was a nightmare when she wanted to bring him along on a walk. Unfortunately we are only getting the OP's point of view on what actually happened. Maybe one of the dogs p!ssed on his car and she thought it was cute. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:40:06 PM | | I personally would not give him a second thought. First because my dogs are more than just "pets" to me. Secondly, if he can not respect someone/something that is part of your life(whether they are well behaved in his opinion or not)....ultimatly he will not respect you or your needs. Third, if the realationship did continue; at some point you would likely be given an ultimatum "the dog or me" Hmmm gee tuff choice.....NOT! | |
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