| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:02:13 PM | | I had one guy kick my (formerly) 4 pound kitten, when he tried to prop up on his leg for a pet. The cat is now a full grown 13.5lb fatty and I couldn't care less where that guy is. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:11:43 PM | Im going to say it right now... Im NOT a dog person. It takes a VERY special k-9 to win my trust, and even welcome them.... and usually a very quiet dog.
Now a cat, I understand them (I know... someone understands cats, the armageddon is at hand!)... and I can figure them out alot easier... therefore, Im often alot more comfy with a feline.
THat said, I more then understand a pet not being liked souring a relationship... if a guy (or girl) is really interested, they will do their best to get along with the pet.
WHy bring up cats and dogs specifically? because walking dogs in the OP put it in my head.... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/12/2007 3:56:35 PM | I met someone on here and just mentioned I had a pet and he went bullistic!! Went on about how he can see how there are so many single women on here - it's because of their dogs!
Keep the puppies. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/12/2007 4:21:29 PM | It sounds more like he did not respect you. In either case I would have told him the same. Life is too short for you or your dogs to be criticized in a second date. Imagine what he would be like if you married him! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/13/2007 4:20:05 PM | Flower
Just the thought of it give me the shivers...Brrrr what a night mare it would have been to live with a man with a *daddy knows best attitude'because he wasnt good at dogs at all,he was the kind of person who thought he was the manmade expert in dogs....But he forgot that a person who lives with a dog doesnt take crap like that!I mean I am swedish,who cares if someone complains about Ikea,volvo,Sony Ericsson etc..But if they open their mouth about my dog,GGRRRRRRRRRR | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 1:17:52 AM | | Guess, I had a Basenji. The alpha male of his litter and that dog was a handful. Beautiful, but the most damned stubborn and obstinate animal I've ever had. Of course because they are smallish (26 lbs) and very striking in appearance, everyone thought he was stuffed animal.....Quite a few people got nipped because my ex refused to muzzle him or lock him up around company.....Not a dog for casual owners for sure.... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 1:56:45 AM | I don't think anyone could do anything but love my dogs! They are so sweet, cute, adorable and affectionate.
As they say a dog is a man's best friend! If my girlfriend couldn't accept that then I'd find someone who did! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:15:32 AM | | Lose the guy and keep the dogs, no other option, right? I may be a guy but any a**hole that puts dogs(pets) and kids before a relationship needs to be shipped to Iraq!! Please take care of the canines, PLEASE!! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 4:56:33 AM | Ha- no way...
My parrots are the species which will live 50-80 years. The older one is 7 and a half. They will be with me longer than any man, so I do not date guys who don't get along with them... though I don't mind educating a dude, if someone is outright antipathic towards my birds, I move on. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 5:22:47 AM | No way Jose!
I have 2 hairless Chinese Crested girl and you wouldn't believe the amount of horrible messages I get sent to me on here, purely because I have a pic of one of them on my lap on my profile pic. I don't even respond. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 5:48:20 AM | No,nada,nope,hell no.Thats almost like saying would you date someone who wont respect your kids!Id say you did the right thing telling him to march on..The nerve of him & what a wimp,being jealous of a dog or the fact you dont have all your attention on him while you're walking the dog..hello you dont do it 24/7 & he gets winey about that..insecure loser..glad you bagged him.Good on you girl  | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 6:15:47 AM | | Those Chinese Cresteds look like something that would fly out of the back of your closet at night and land on your face and start chewing, with superhuman power, the nose and eyeballs right off of your face. They are hideous! Did you decide one day, "hey I think I'll get me a lapdog that looks like one Lucifer the Prince of Darkness would dig?" What was that movie with the cute little furball thingies that turned into vicious deadly little monsters? That's what you have! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 7:42:12 AM | I have three cats and love them to death. That said they are not my kids so if a date did not like them its certainly not a deal breaker. Abuse which seems to be brought up ad nausea is a different subject. The OPs date gave some advice he thought may be helpful, she took offense to it and kicked him to the curb. Even knowing only one side of this story, which logically should be the side that shows the OP in a glowing light, I think her date is better off without her.
Dated single mothers before and when things get serious the whole love me/love my children thing is certainly expected. Carrying that rule over to pets is dehumanizing and borderline fanatic. As long as they tolerate the pets and don't abuse them its all good. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:24:39 AM | Animals have the best instincts of all. I watch, listen and comment on the interactions with my pup. If he is not an animal lover then he is not for me.
Having said that some cultures view animals in the home much differently than in North America and I would respect those feelings with putting some effort forth to
help his see the virtues of these amazing creatures. They bring so much to our lives. | |
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Joined: 1/23/2007
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:58:55 AM | | I think that you are right about that,I have been in North America and I wasn't very impressed over how to many people had one or more dog's in their yard and they had a really boring barking life.Here in Sweden nobody keeps their dog's or cat's in that way,here they are like a family member and maybe that is a difference that some people in this thread can't understand... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/24/2007 7:16:00 PM | | has anyone brought up the subject of severe allergies? Like, what if your pending mate is asthmatic around your little scooby-do? What then? Say he loves animals, he loves you dearly and he's trying his best to be understanding and patient, but the dude can't breathe when Fluffy's in the same hemisphere, much less sneaking a slide onto his lap for a little attention. How do you handle it? | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/24/2007 7:24:34 PM | If he does not respect an animal I love, then he does not respect me very much, does he? He does not have to be in love with my guinea pig, but don't drop kick him either.  | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/24/2007 7:36:30 PM | .................................................................................................................................
I hear ya. I've dated a few for a very short period of time. One was already rearranging how i handled my animals in the event we met. That meeting event never happened.
Sorry, but I made a commitment to my animals and Im not changing for anyone in regards to them. If I am to be accepting of a potential mates life structure, (your pets, children..etc.) I expect the same consideration in return.
...and ya ... im allergic to them...asthma....so what.... Change your eatting habits, organic holistic vegan and the allergies subside. Im off all inhalers and antihistamines.
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/24/2007 7:58:28 PM | I expect no one to respect my dogs. I do however expect everyone in my life to respect my wishes about my dogs. Many of my rules are for everyone's well-being. No one meets my dogs until they have been fully versed about my animals and why they respond to certain commands and actions as they do.
My dogs do not make decisions about who I date, and who I date does not make decisions about the care and training of my animals. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:23:44 AM | wow! this topic caught my eye so i sat here and read every post...whew! what really amazes me is how most ppl seem to think its all about the dogs behavior!...folks, its the man's behavior of telling her how to train HER dog that started this thread!....
as for the dog peeing where it wanted to....well, when a pet owner walks their pet they have an understanding of what their pet needs to do and as responsible pet owners generally know where to let them go to do it...kinda goes with the territory, but then i cant imagine taking my dog for a walk to do his thing in the middle of a playground either!
my dog is my siezure alert dog so anybody i date will meet him up front, they will also be told about him in advance....he is well behaved but he does need to have access to me at all times...however when i have had intimate moments in the past i simply tell him to go lay down in another room, supply him with a blanket and a reassuring pat, and leave the door cracked open so he can see i am ok.....no problem, he simply takes advantage of tha naptime ...some fella's sac is of no interest to him and if someone is eating he wont touch their food unless i specifically tell him to check it out......
i know my dog is well behaved, and i know my skills in training animals .....i also know my tolerance level of having someone tell me how to do something......if this was a person i really liked otherwise i would simply tell him he was stepping on my toes and was about to botch up the best thing that could ever happen to him if he continued to disrespect my training methods then it would seem HE was the one with boundary problems, not my dog!
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:57:49 AM | | annabelle...can ya go into detail about why you think the op doesnt deserve a pet?...c'mon girl, we will accept your self recognized expertise here if you just give us a reason to! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 8:38:17 AM | 1. It's a pet. It will be treated well by me but that's about it. Respect? Um...ok.
2. It's hard to instruct people close to you. Usually this should be left to others to do.
3. If your pet is an annoying pain in the butt...that little beast can put the kibosh on things really fast...I'm not going to make a move on a woman with animals who want to be active participants, and as much as I like animals, if we're going out and the furball has contaminated every possible place in your home/apt. with hair, that doesn't mean I want to be covered with it... | |
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