| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:27:03 AM | | If the pets are a problem-behavior wise-it is the owner I disrespect...he/she hasn't trained the animals correctly. I won't stay with a pet owner who won't train her pet, so she never gets a chance to dump me because I am long gone by the time she realizes there is a problem. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:35:40 AM | | I get along with most animals most of the time. The biggest problem I have is that the women I date, who have animals, get angry...because their animals usually end up liking me better than them. I let the animals know what I will put up with, and what I won't, and I am consistent with them...something female owners generally aren't. One woman I know would feed her dog at the table, or sofa, as she sat munching, and watching tv...on some occasions. She would even pet the dog after it begged food from her. Later on, the dog would beg at the table/sofa, when she was in another mood, and she would refuse to feed it. She then also screamed at the dog, and slapped it. The dog got rewarded one time, and punished the next, for the same behavior...which made the dog neurotic. When I was around, and the dog started trying to beg from me, I put a bit of food in its' food dish-in another room-and let it eat that. The dog learned not to beg from me, and I was always the same. If I wanted to feed the dog a bit of my burger, or whatever, I put it in the dogs' food dish, and I never fed it elsewhere. The dog was relaxed around me, and food, because it knew what to expect. The dog started sitting by me, rather than her, obeying me not her, etc, and so she broke up with me. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:54:20 AM | will i have a toy yorkie..and this question comes at a good time..for i had a date yesterday afternoon..and we meet in the park..and took our dogs...and if he had been mean to my lil lady..he would of been gone!!..now why...just an ole saying if a person is mean to an animal..chances are they are mean to people also....
so my answer to u would be NO...... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:59:55 AM | First off, no way would I date a guy who didn't like dogs. Dogs are not only my favorite companions, but my livelyhood. I have dogs with me 24/7. My own dogs help me to bring in enough money to pay for their keep plus some , and have earned a warm place by the fire for life.
Not to be mean , but reading your post, I noticed you said you had a Basenji, and they are a little special. This sounds like an excuse for allowing bad behavior. You might look critically at your dog . I haven't seen him to know if he's annoying or not, but ask yourself is he? Even a nice guy who is interested in you might be totally put off by an unruly dog.
If he doesn't do well with one method of training try another, or another place.
It wasn't his place to gripe about your dog, but if you were struggling could he have been trying to help in his own way?
Better luck next time. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 11:00:38 AM | wodehouse....i agree what you say about being consistent in how you train an animal but when you say that the animal winds up loving you more than its owner...well, why in the world would someone want another persons pet to love them more?.
i was doing a service dog presentation with my seizure dog and there was a woman there who just kept fawning over my dog...she was baby talking and petting him, even offering him food from her plate and wanting to take my dog over to her table so she could give him "wots of wuvin" as she called it......when i tried to tell this woman that she was encouraging unacceptable behaviour and if she continued to do so i would remove my dog from her presence she got quite huffy with me....she wanted my dog to just fall in love with her regardless of what type of dog he was..........in that moment i understood that i was looking ignorance in the face!
i have a natural knack with animals, i have spent half of my life training and working with animals, yet i have enough common sense not to encourage someone elses pets to love me more.......maybe you should have spent the time explaining how she was confusing her pet rather than showing how you could get her pet's love ....hmmmm....betcha didnt win any ppl skill awards there, bucko! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 11:09:18 AM | Interesting topic...I thought it was just me but I got rid of a potential girlfriend for that reason...we were at my house in my room because my roommate(many years ago..lol) and his Girfriend were in the front room..Madison(our dog),the girl and I were all sitting on the bed watching TV. All of a sudden the girl yelled at the dog,started pushing on it and got mad because the dog was taking up to much room...so I kicked her out...........the girl ..........not the dog... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/25/2007 4:29:19 PM | | I find that you can usually judge someones character by the way they treat animals and other beings "below" themselves. I f they don't have respect and empathy towards those who are not as well off or towards animals than odds are that they are not really that good of a person. Judge people by how they treat others and animals, not just by how nice and respectable they "act" in your presence. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:34:24 AM | One of my best friends (female) seems to collect those little tea cup size bald, toothless (almost,)yapping dogs. Registered for hundreds of dollars no less. She now has 5.
After listening to them for about 10 mins the next morning after a boisterous evening out on the town with her, I bid her and the loves of her life adios.
I didn't b1tch about it at all, just told her that my head could not take it in my present state and it was their house but my head. CYA!
I on the other hand love a DOG that starts around 100lbs and up the scale from there.
Have owned a couple and want another someday when I stop twitching about so much. Or at least someplace that doesn't mind if my psuedo baby elephant comes with me. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 12:18:45 PM | | With me comes my kids and my dogs. Actually when I look at a profile I look to see if the person likes pets or not. I had a ex b/f show up this last weekend...he heard I was getting a divorce. He asked to use the restroom and saw then I had my "boys" and turned me to and said "you still have the dogs" I was like yea why wouldn't I? He figured the dogs would go with the ex..Hell no, these are my dogs. I rescued them and they stay. I also look to see if the guy has dogs that would get along with mine, due to if things worked out I wouldn't expect him to get rid of his pets and wouldn't get rid of mine. I have a 100lb american bulldog and a retriever and both are slobbering idiots. If my dogs like the guy..then he passes the first part of the test. Dogs are a good judge of character. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:01:35 PM | My thoughts are people who are not respectful of animals dont respect others.
It also sounds like this guy knows everything & anything (red flag lol) | |
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AlexSB
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:33:05 PM | | My last boyfriend hated my dog at first. He even kicked her. The relationship didn't last, but it is almost funny now, to think of how he tried to be nice about my dog, at the end of the relationship. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 1:55:21 PM | no, if someone hated or mistreated my cat...no way would I consider making them a part of my family...I'm lucky, cause animals almost always take very well to me...
though at the same time...I wouldn't date someone who say, had a vicious dog or one that they couldn't control...I have some friends that I can't stand going to their house, cause it jumps all over me & they don't keep it clean...I mean, he'll be jumping up biting my nice leather jacket & trying to hump my leg...& they're like, "ohhh, isn't that cute"...jeeezzz 
I once dumped a boyfriend because of that...I had this beautiful male cat I loved...he was sitting on the back of the couch...the guy I was seeing was being a d**k....fussing at me for nothing...making me tense....all of a sudden my cat sprayed him right in the face....it was so kool....he freaked out & went after my cat & I went after him...he said it's me or that cat...I said I choose the one that's loyal to me....seeya.....I still laugh over that one.... I still miss that cat.... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/26/2007 2:41:01 PM | Last year, my aunt came to my house to visit her sister (my ailing mother). My aunt took her key chain out of her purse, and dangled it in front of my cat.... then proceeded to say.. "here kitty, kitty, kitty". My cat took the bait, and approached her. Then she cracked my cat over the head, with her key chain. Her excuse being... "I don't like cats"
Not only did I kick her out in a heart beat... I told her when she could respect the members of this household, she was welcome to come back.
She has never came back... HER CHOICE!!!! It's all about respect.
(If you don't like cats, then don't encourage them with, here kitty kitty kitty) | |
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Joined: 1/23/2007
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/27/2007 2:04:49 PM | | annabellelee maybe you should check out dstepson you seems like two featherbrains that would have very much in common with eachother....But exept those it is nice to see that there are sane people here too! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/27/2007 2:56:45 PM | | I'm an animal lover. Cats, dogs, horses, etc. I have 2 cats that give me unconditional love. That I have them is stated IN my profile as well. So, if you don't like cats.....move on. They stay. | |
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JRydel
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Joined: 9/5/2007
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guess
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/27/2007 5:46:24 PM | | Jrydel this thread is not about pets and marriage,it is about people who has problem to show respect for animals or other humans as well.Wheither it is a normal behaveiour or not.In my world it is not!Sorry for some spelling troubles,saw it my self. | |
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JRydel
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Joined: 9/5/2007
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/27/2007 7:09:17 PM | | Guess, yes I understand the thread is about animals and other humans. Don't you consider your family members to be human also? Based on personal observation I am asking why so many people treat their husbands and wives and family like crap when they treat their pets better than gold? If you respect your pet so much then shouldn't a person's "behavior" respect their family and others too? | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 7:08:11 AM | jrydell...if thats a topic you want to discuss, start a thread about it...this thread (as guess tried very nicely to point out) already has a topic .... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 7:22:46 AM | | I once had a date with this guy that knew how much my dog meant to me. It was our third date and he came to my house with coffee and rolls and we were going to spend the day together. He had never met my dog. My dog is one of the most affectionate dogs I have ever seen. Everyone adores my dog and wants it. Anyway Bambie is very tiny and only weights 3 pounds. She tried to get this guy to pick her up and he kept brushing her away and saying get away from me. After the 3rd time which was 2 times too much. I said what are you doing to my dog. he Said "your dog is after my crotch" I was furious. She can barely reach the chair let alone go after his crotch. She only wanted him to pick her up and hold her. She loves men. Anyway I just saw red and said get out now. He ignored me and I said didn't you hear me. I said get out. He said why its only a dog. Oh boy was he digging a deeper hole. I said you better leave my house right now. I never spoke to him again. If a person knows you love your pets and treates then with disrespect, first they are jerks, and second do they really think you would want to date someone who treats their pets bad? How stupid can you be? | |
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