| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 9:06:29 AM | | I met a guy from here and we're still friends etc...but when he came to my house to meet for the first time, my dogs loved him. Well they loved him so much they tried to hump each other in front of him...my dogs are male! Since then one of them has been fixed...but when I told my friend I was getting Chuko fixed..he laughed and said "Why? you have gay dogs! " Been a ongoing joke now and he impressed me with how well he handled it that even my teenage son who is normally shy, came down and talked with us... | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 11:25:00 AM | I am a pet person, and I dumped my last boyfriend when he told me how I should train my cat!
I was like who the hell do you think you are?
My cats are loving, and yes, they are head of my household, no man can tell me what to do with my pets! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 11:43:33 AM | I know my dogs have intent when they do obnoxious things. Any trainer that says that they don't should come and observe mine if someone so much as touches me in "their" house. I can accept that my dogs aren't perfect and if a guy I dated commented on it, I wouldn't be offended. In fact, I would want them to be the alpha to my dogs (after me, of course). You have to know how to ignore their attention-seeking ways. My dogs will try and herd a poor unsuspecting stranger into the corner opposite me in the blink of an eye. LOL! It's part of their charm  | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 1:23:03 PM | OP...whether your dog misbehaved or not...this fellow knew you were taking him for a walk and wanted to come along. He was out of line to start instructing you on how to handle your dogs.
If a fellow asks me out and says we'll be going to a park or the country to exercise his dogs...you can bet I'll be taking notes on his treatment of his animals and their behavior.
In both cases...your real one and my made up one...they are great indicators of the humans' character.
I met a fellow on line recently. Almost his first question was if I had any pets. Yes, one cat. He was way concerned if I was a "cat lady". A little to concerned...but, then again, why not find out right away, so no time is waisted?
I had hoped to have a dog by now, but the dog I was going to rescue managed to be able to stay with her family. So, this spring I'll be searching again. I am a responsible pet owner and will not have animals that act badly.
Whoever enters my life will be right for my animals...no others will be allowed into my personal space otherwise. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 4:54:24 PM | | Love me, love my dog. Not being able to get along with my dog is a deal breaker. I will compromise on some things - for example she sleeps on the bed with me and obviously if there's a man in my life sleeping over, she would be sleeping elsewhere at least most of the time. However, she is allowed on the couch and the easy chair and that I will not compromise on. I don't want to have to lay on the floor, so I wouldn't expect her to either. | |
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gigna
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Joined: 6/2/2006
Msg: 184 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 6:12:09 PM | Poodlefancy, am with you totally, don't own any dogs (live in a flat so not conducive to keeping dogs!!), and if I could I would adopt them from a rescue centre, and cats, horses, ducks etc so many abused pets!! But have a beautiful (in my eyes) brilliant cat. I love animals and any man who wants to be around me must truly be an animal lover. Its a fundemental as far as I am concerned. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 6:15:34 PM | I'm nice when she's around.. but when she leaves the room I tell the pets mean things
"That hair cut looks horrible"
"She feeds you poison"
"One day she's gonna eat you when she doesn't have time to make it to the market"
You know.. stuff like that. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/28/2007 8:44:02 PM | | Pet problems are kinda difficult. If nothin' else they will distance your quality relationship potential in my mind but I guess it really depends on the person and how you talk with them about it | |
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guess
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Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 188 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 9/29/2007 5:44:29 PM | MichaelRayBuddy
I can't see why petproblems are difficult at all.First of all my pets behaves after my rules since I am their boss,when a stranger comes into our already made crowd he is the one who has to adapt,no matter if he have had a dog at age ten who now has a gloria over it's head,so it makes him the dogexpert nr1. | |
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guess
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Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 189 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:38:18 PM | | Double post by me,but I have to tell that since that date I decieded to not have a date without my pet.So I had one today brought the yellow Labrador retriever i just bought,hell ,half American as she is,she might be related to Marley if you have read the book if not do it!... with me,he isn't 'dog fanatic' like me but he did great and I will forsure date him again!He was a nice present for myself to myself and the pup at my Birthday! | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:41:47 PM | | I wouldn've taken the dogs out at all period, let someone else do that. This guy probably wanted you all to himself without any interuptions. Just my opinion. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:44:49 PM | | Well I had a date with this man who called my dogs baggage because I could not go away on the spur of the moment. Needless to say, I no longer see this person. | |
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guess
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Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 192 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/2/2007 7:00:18 PM | Msg 191
In my reality he has to accept me and what comes with me,I don't waste my time on dating men who can't see or understand that!My pup takes a whole lot of time and I even payed hmm crap a lot of money for her doing so..If he can't see that,it would be like a date with 'the blind men then'Nothing bad about the blinds,just a saying in Sweden where I am from. | |
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JRydel
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Joined: 9/5/2007
Msg: 193 | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:54:26 PM | | As I sit at the computer with 2 cats on me and a dog at my feet. My pets are a part of me and when I got them, they were given a lifetime home. I wouldn't waste their time or mine if they didn't like pets. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:00:32 PM | For our first date his doberman sat between us in the pickup and the rotwieler and other dog sat in the back.
He said he could not leave them alone since they got into serious fights. he was very proud of the fact his doberman could lick the rotweiler.
if he thought the doberman was cold he tucked a blanket around the dog.
when I was visiting him I sat in a chair across the room while he sat snuggling his dogs.
He wanted me to watch his dogs for him when he had to go to the hospital. I said they are not controllable. He said just do what his daughter does and shoot them with a bb gun. I flat refused.
when he went to bed all three dogs had to go to bed with him and sleep on the bed except. Only a double bed. Bed filthy from dog hair. he closed the bedroom door to make sure they did not get out. They might get cold.
Dogs not allowed outside the trailer cause they would run off. So no exercise for them. they just spent their days fighting each other. Too much effort to put up fencing which he bought.
House looked like a pig stye. Wood chips all over the place. Dogs ate off the same plate he did. They tried to take food off my plate and I yelled at them.
I used to raise and train show dogs so I was trying to teach him how to get his animals to be manageble. He did not want them manageable. He liked them just the way they were. Did not take me long to give that idea up.
the doberman was the alpha male according to the guy. The guy was under the doberman. I tried telling him no dog should be alpha over his owner. His dog was so strong and powerful. He was alpha male.
He always had one hand on the doberman. If he went to the bathroom the dog went with him.
After this experience if someone says they like dogs and act nutty about them I run!
Did not take long to come to the conclusion the guy was nuts. i did everything I could think of to help him. He needed it desperately. | |
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| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:08:31 PM | "Did not take long to come to the conclusion the guy was nuts."
^^ Heh, well, keelahashay, it doesn't sound like you had no respect for his pets, you just had no respect for *him* after seeing how he treated them (or them him)... | |
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guess
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Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 198 | |
| the first date and he wont respect your pet
Posted: 10/27/2007 10:11:05 PM | | Well as I might have said before...I don't waste my time on a date anymore,was different when I was new at dating over the net do..So these days the dogs of mine walks on the date with me,so I wont waste my time.No matter where he traveled from,who cares?His money,not mine! | |
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JRydel
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Joined: 9/5/2007
Msg: 199 | |
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