| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/17/2007 1:56:21 PM | What do early 30's men really want?
are you saying what we want isnt good enough? or its a lie? or that what we want isnt good enough?
The mentality of asking that kind of question supports this answer......A.) What we want...isn't here on POF (Plenty of Freaks). I have read hundreds of the absolute stupidest, contradictory, mentally and maturity devoid, game playing, saleswoman, mundane cookiecutter, profiles on here and I have read the forums until I am ready to puke. Its almost like a death wish to read the trash people come up with. Its like a car wreck, you just have to look.
If you people would just stop bullshitting everyone, and stop "selling yourself" like a high priced hooker, and stop trying to outclass or outsmart your competition like you are fighting for the last man on earth, then the REAL men would come out of the woodwork and you wouldnt have to deal with what you have here on Plenty of Freaks.
The NORMAL people are out here in the real world...read a few hundred profiles every month and you will have STARK comparrison. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/18/2007 8:12:02 AM | | Apolinary, I got a chuckle out of your formula...I'm 57. I'm sure the formula is better suited for someone 20-30 but somehow I don't feel comfortable with the 35-100 year range for me, but it did make me smile.....Thanks | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:54:50 AM |
The NORMAL people are out here in the real world...read a few hundred profiles every month and you will have STARK comparrison.
Oh man, I'm glad I didn't just take a sip. There would be coffee all over my monitor.
Incidentally, you're right about the drivel some people write. I've seen fifth graders with better lanuage skills. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/20/2007 7:38:54 PM | Basically for me....seems alotta younger girls are just lookin for someone to take care of them...I personally am looking for a woman who is independent,doesn'thave to depend on me for all the decisions,but still able to let me lead when neccasary...
I would love to meet a lady that is around my age range with similar interest and willing to explore.just seems there is a shortage.. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:24:57 AM | I prefer someone within my age range (27-33ish), but within the last few years I've dated women anywhere from 19-43 years old. I've found age is not really a factor, it's more about life experiences and chemistry. For example, I know a 25 year old that acts like a 16 year old, and I know a 23 year old that acts like a 30 year old. Life experiences season and shape a person. Consider the maturity levels of someone who grew up rich and spoiled their entire life (Paris Hilton), vs. someone that grew up having to take care of everyone in their family.
With that said, having a few years under my belt I know very much what I want: I find humor, confidence, and independence in a woman extremely attractive. For every guy out there afraid of strong women I just gotta say: your loss buddy! My match will “get me” and my dorky sense of humor, be active, love the outdoors, have the ability to engage in witty banter, be outgoing, nurturing, and have an open curious/inquisitive and positive outlook to life in general.
If I meet someone I can tell very quickly if they're someone that wound end up a fling, a friend, or if they're a real possibility. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:54:15 AM | | I usually find that women in their early to late 20s are most compatable with where I am at in life. Not to generalize but younger girls tend to have less life experience and as a result have less emotional issues, they are less set in their ways, less judgemental. There are exceptions but from dating on both ends younger women seem to have all the benifits of the older without the additional drama of multiple divorces, teenaged kids, chemical dependancies etc. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/21/2007 11:18:14 AM | They are looking for a piece of ass. duh! thats the only reason why younger guys chase after older women. they just have this idea that someone their mothers age will give it up easier. don't over analyze it cuz no matter what they say, it comes back to just that. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:34:32 PM | | I am 32 years old and can tell you that I am looking for a girl who wants to experience marriage and children for the first time with me. If she's 19, ok...if she's 32, 33, or even 40....whatever! I'm looking for a serious relationship that has marriage potential. I wouldn't have said that 10 years ago. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:42:38 PM | | I actually prefer older women between the ages of 35-45, but it's not a requirement. I would date a woman in mid/late 20s or early 30s if she matched most of the things that I was looking for. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:59:53 PM | What I'm looking for:
A woman aged 26-35 who has her head in order. That means she's not sitting there carrying baggage of whatever guy who destroyed her or from the father who never loved her. If she got dumped by the man she thought she was going to marry or ended up in a divorce, my heart goes out to her...but if she hasn't moved on or can't move on...stay away from me. I want a woman who wants to date, is ready in her mindset to date, and isn't afraid of the words "date", "relationship", and "commitment".
She also cannot have a taste in her mouth for playas, ***holes, jerks, bad boys, "challenges", etc. If she still wants to tame the untameable...to be Carrie Bradshaw and find a Mr. Big...stay away.
A woman who takes care of herself. Fat, obese, very visibly overweight, I don't care what you call it...stay away. Sorry to sound shallow, but fat is my #1 turnoff. She doesn't need to be super-thin or model-esque, or even athletically tight. But if she's got a body like Rosie O'Donnell or Kirstie Alley...I'm not interested.
A woman who is intelligent, mature, and has her life together. She wants to be with me because she genuinely likes me...not because she's desperate to avoid whatever stigma of being 30 and unmarried that her family puts on her. A woman who either has a career, or at least a passion about something. Not someone who's only priority in life is "looking hot and finding a man". She doesn't have to have a degree hanging on her wall, but she has to be able to talk about more than just trivial things and have more interests than just hanging out, shopping, and partying.
If she has children, then I don't want to deal with her if it was because she was some wild party girl who banged a jerk she thought she could tame and ended up having his baby. Also if she has kids then she has to have time to be someone's girlfriend. Not some scenario where work, kids, and such make it where she can only see a guy once a month or something like that. I'm not even sure if I want to even mess with single moms, but I am trying to be fair and open minded to the women who were not out there sleeping around irresponsibly.
A woman who still wants to be a woman. She's not spending her life in sweats or jeans, and isn't chopping her hair short into a soccer mom cut. She still wants to look attractive and feminine on a date...not like she's just walking to the store to pick up milk. She also isn't afraid or turned off by a guy who wants to be a good man to her...who wants to be a gentleman to her. So if opening a door, pulling a chair, helping with your coat on comes off as "he's a weaking" to you...then stay away.
I honestly don't think that's asking too much. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/24/2007 9:07:04 PM | | If you can, keep it +/- 4 to 5 years of your age, you'll likely have so much more in common. I'm 35 now and trying to find someone my age that doesn't have a million kids or who isn't in that good of shape anymore is really hard to find because they are all married. So, there's the early to mid 20's crowd (who really are kinda young) and then there's the mid to late 30's crowd who's already been there and done that (which unfortunately for me, means they have kids). I don't have kids yet and want them yet I want them to be mine. Selfish? No. I have raised other guy's kids, I want to raise my own now. What a dilemma... | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 9/24/2007 10:00:00 PM | If one is impressed by the thoughts of another, likes the looks that are shown, should age be a factor in making a new friendship? I say no. I say this because I feel that love can find age gaps too. Some search many years and find nothing, could it be because they never gave a younger, or older person a chance?
On to your question, what does this thirty year old want?, I want a Lady, one who donates all her love to me and whomever is already apart of her life. I want her to be faithfull, honest, and caring. I would make her laugh everyday, explore new travels as much as our dollars can stretch. I want a Lady who is mature and is good with children. Age is not the issue with me, the issue is everlastng love and the search for happiness.  | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/1/2007 1:29:06 AM | | i agree with j! im 37 with 4 kids. im not a silly immature little girl anymore and its only ow that ive got to my thirties that ive learnt that relationships are meant to be worked at and both partners deserve the respect of one another! i had know idea how to do that in my twenties i was only out for a laugh at that age! | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/1/2007 6:30:54 PM |
What do early thirties men really want?
Well, I'm afraid that I cannot speak for the other males that predominate this particular site...but for This Early 30's Man, age is not a factor when looking for love and/or companionship. It's just merely another futile condition on which to set a basis to find love. Makes no sense to me to put conditions on something that I myself wish to be unconditional. Besides...How can age be a factor when I'm not currently looking? | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/1/2007 7:22:57 PM | Must be me, but I tend to find men in their late 20s to mid 40s who are all looking to settle down...they all seem too intense, a bit too focused on closing in on a serious thing and wanting either to get married or have kids (if they don't have kids already). I get the vibe from them that they feel like they have a time limit...
Seems like most of em want to stay home, rent movies, garden, etc...I mean you CAN get older and find a middle ground between partying 24/7 and givin up your social life.
None of them seem to be able to just relax, go with the flow and enjoy life...with no freaking expectations. Expectations are a total buzzkill for me so early on. If you end up involved over time that's cool - but it seems like most are trying too hard to tag and bag a mate. | |
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| Perhaps only at this age we start to know what we want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 1:34:23 PM | | The famous line that is out there is the 30's are the new 20's etc. I believe that you need to have a few serious relationships with regards to dating before you actually know yourself and they type of person you are compatible with. Usually it takes until about your early 30's to reach this milestone. It is also in your 30's that I find people's differences really seem to be apparent. The intellectuals are obviously focussed on cultural themes such as the theatre. Active minded people are still into sports, outdoors, and taking care of themselves. People that prefer a slower, quieter pace to life also seem to settle into their own routine choosing the nights in and smaller gatherings. Myself I am personally hesitant to date someone much older than myself given my active interests of sports and outdoor affinity. I find as women are older they are less involved in these things, evident when I participate in co-ed sports it is usually a challenge to find interested women to join up. Things such as smoking, past marital relationships, and children complicate the potential for a successful future relationship, which makes people selective. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 1:40:10 PM |
When a women hits 30, i just don't want to deal with them wanting kids because their clock is ticking. Been there, done that. I would like kids someday but I don't want to deal with the clock.
I was really disappointed to see all women in their 30's lumped into this scenario. I do want children SOME DAY but there is nothing that says I am looking for someone who I am going to put pressure on because my "clock" is ticking. How absurd! I would like to date someone around my age because our 30's are suppose to be the best time of our lives, not because I am dying for children. This kinda ticked me off. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 5:21:51 PM | I can't speak for other men, because they do thier own thing.
For myself, I want what I don't have.
A partner in crime, a friend, a lover, someone who 'gets' me. All wrapped up into one.
As for wanting kids, ticking clocks, etc... None of that really matters. We are all slaves to our priorities, biological or otherwise. I personally cannot find fault in somone for that.
The biggest issue for me would be making sure that whoever you decide to procreate with is someone you can actually spend your life with. Kids need a whole family, not days they get to see dad on once a month.
It seems however, that these days the 'whole' family ideal is a dead concept.
It is so much easier to ditch a partner when things start to get a little (or a lot) rough, because we are too lazy to try and make things work. We want instant gratification- The end result is men and women who have kids from multiple relationships.
I think our children deserve better. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 6:32:46 PM | | I am looking for a kind and honest lady that will treat me with respect and someone that is willing to try to make a relationship work and not run at the first sign of things getting tough, too many people run today when things get tough. I am tired of games and I want to find my Ms Right. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:19:29 PM | | Johne102 ... agreed. People give up way too easily these days. Thats not to say that you should stick it out if something serious happens (cheating, lying etc) but normal everyday issues can be worked on together. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/7/2007 7:29:55 PM | Well, I can tell you what I am looking for. Basically, I am looking for a woman that I could see myself being married to and spending the rest of my life with. However, someone who is willing to wait just a couple of years or so before having children. I want to be able to do some traveling and spend quality time alone with her before starting a family.
I never had really been a player in the dating scene, but I'm definitely looking for a lifetime commitment with one girl. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/10/2007 6:54:42 PM | The same thing everyone wants. A nice healthy relationship with someone who they are attracted too, with the hopes and ambitions of finding the one, whereever they might be.
Age is a number, that has very little impact on my decision of whether or not to date someone.
The things I look at are maturity level, honesty, the way a person carries themselves, personality, humor, and chemistry. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/10/2007 8:09:02 PM | | A recent survey suggests that what early 30's men really want is imported beer in the fridge, a cool car, and a really hot girlfriend (age irrelevant). | |
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