| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/11/2007 11:17:40 PM | Im on this site for that reason. To get to know a single woman who I think I like/am attracted to and vice versa. I even complemented one. By writing; " It would mean a lot to me. If I can give you a massage. " She's 35. In her 30's. I thought. She's probably mature enough to handle it and realize Im just trying to break the ice. Im not going to do that on the first date. Wrong,she was a stuck up snob who thought she's too good for me.
I have to remember Never judge a book by it's cover.
But, at least another woman responded; "Intresting proposition.. " But,she never invited me out for a drink after. I guess she was bluffing. What I learned from this online dating thing is; Some women aren't necessairly getting more interesting, mature or openminded as they get older. I used to think that all were. Guess I was wrong. Im starting to lose hope in older women. But,I haven't given up on womankind in general. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/12/2007 6:55:13 AM | well we dont want bad attitudes of jaded women who have been burned many times and then feel its ok to take all their past relationships frustrations out on us.
I think this is why alotta guys in their 30's date women in their 20's
Im 30 Ive experienced the older cynical jaded women. Or the ones who have all these expectations because past relationships didnt live up to what they wanted. So now they have all these requirements that they are looking for and expect so much out of us because they screwed up in past relationships. Look I wasnt in that relationship so not going to be responsible for cleaning up the mess it left.
Not all have been like that but I have met a few like that. The oldest girl ive actually been with in a relationship is 23. At this point in my life I would like to meet a more mature fully developed woman, but for the reasons above I have problems getting in committed relationships with older women.
I have been holding out for a more mature woman, hopefully I will meet one that doesnt bring a crapload of baggage into the relationship. Try to hold me responsible for all her ex bfs/husbands mistakes in the past, or who knows maybe I will meet a younger women who seems to be on the same page as me as far is maturity and direction in life.
Until then I'll stay single. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/12/2007 11:25:26 AM | Msg. 1
In terms of age, I prefer 30 to 40. And in terms of the type of woman, thats covered in elaborate detail on my profile. Definately a decisive one that is willing and able to take concrete steps toward our togetherness, without using "lifes issues" as excuses for "can't do" in terms of a meeting or her exclusive company.
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:25:53 AM | When I was in my early 30's there didn't seem to be any available women who were about my age, especially those who didn't have kids. I concluded all of the good ones were already taken, and were tied up raising families. Since 80-85% of women marry before age thirty, this made sense.
The women who were on the market were either quite a bit younger or older -- less than about 27-8, or well up near forty or above. I remember seeing an ad for a weekly Sunday night "single's dance" in the paper once, and I was the youngest one there -- all the women were older and divorced.
Could have just been my particular locale, and maybe times have changed some since then, but I'd say men in their early thirties want not to settle and be stuck with the dregs, so they go for the twenty-somethings. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/14/2007 3:07:46 PM | Dang! I'm freaking depressed after reading this thread! And, I don't get down easily. I'm 32 with two kids. My ex is probably busy boning his coworker at this very minute. Not too worried about that:shes 10 years older than him and a serial adultress so, that little relationship should be fairly entertaining to watch unfold (really, I don't care. only put it in to point out that I didn't just have 2 kids with some random person. I expected to grow old with this person but, poop happens.). But, I digress...I guess I'm just screwed! I'll be pouring a glass of wine now. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/14/2007 3:31:43 PM | This is my first post on here. I'm in my early 30's. What do I want? Hmmmmmmmmmm? Well, not much. Just someone to be nice to me now. I've been through the mill of.....people......and I'm now fed up. Only nice people apply. Hmmmmmmmmmm. There it is!
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/14/2007 6:43:43 PM | Its my understanding that you divide your age by 2 and then add 7 years to find your minimum age for dating. Could be way off with that but I have heard it a couple times from other people. As for myself im just looking for me but female and dont really care about age. I do tend to avoid getting involved with younger women because I believe everyone needs to live for at least 25 years to even begin to know oneself.
As far as I can tell from my friends and family im decidedly odd for a 34 year old male and not at all typical so not to sure how useful this will be.  | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 10/14/2007 10:29:48 PM | I don't think i have a date range, but I tend to look between 26 and 34. I don't look further down because they don't tend to have enough experience in life to take it seriously where it has to be taken seriously, and I don't like looking too above, because they tend to take it too seriously where you should not take it seriously at all.
There are many exceptions, thats why I don't really discriminate by age and just try to meet people and get to know them, but I seen in average these ages tend to be the most common margins. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/15/2008 11:44:13 PM | | not to sound bitter but what about the women that want to get married once but the husband,father leaves for a younger 20 something girl then what | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/20/2008 3:50:12 PM | I'm 29 (awaits bannination from the over 30 forum)
It seems most of the "prospects" for dating have been in the 22-25 range.
The bulk of the single women my age seem to have multiple kids or are bonkers.
Then there are the good looking women my age who are dating guys 10 years older than me.
I really don't care to go too much older. I don't have a "hard" age on my profile, but I had to put some verbiage in there about about no cougars. Because when I did not, I got a lot of women old enough to be my mom trying to ask me out.
The (age/2)+7 formula seems to be about what my bottom end of dating is anyways. Younger than that, and there starts being too much of a generational gap. Women 27-32 seem to want someone who has more stuff (had plenty of stuff, now the ex wife has plenty of stuff) along the lines of a nice house/condo, new car, and disposable income.
The younger (recent college grads) women seem to be OK with that I have enough money to go have fun, but I am not living in a McMansion or driving a new Audi. That, and that a trip to Tahiti is not happening anytime soon. Austin for the weekend? Sure. Week in Aspen in a 5-star lodge? Not so much. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/20/2008 11:55:20 PM |
lol i'm the opposite. I'm more drawn to women in their late 20's or early 30's because they have been married, had kids and have already learned all the lessons.
Just because they've made the mistake before doesn't mean that they've learnt all the lessons. Many of them will just simply repeat the same mistake with more wrinkles each time. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/21/2008 3:20:59 AM | What early thirties men really want is what they tell you when you ask them, individually. I think that way is much more appropriate as some men know, some men think they know, and some men are honest in that they do not know. Whatever answer they give and the following actions help define if they are compatible with you.
The trends you are noticing are of men on the internet and should not contaminate your views on men in general, or those that are in the real world. There will be some overlap but I think most women are hit on far more by age disparate men online than in real, physical, life.
A lot of men are not looking for women outside of their age range. A lot of men want to find someone they are compatible with socially, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and in the norm, general, or most this means a similar age as age is a simple way to judge someones experience and education, or the possibility of such, in each category or compatibility.
I have seen people put the age range equation of 1/2 plus 7 years. I think originally it was 1/2 plus 9 years and that was from either the Kinsey reports...or the novel "Little Women," I was reading them both at the time and it was a while ago. Kinsey seems more reasonable, but I think there was a conversation in the novel about one protagonists marriage was bad because it fell out of the range of the prescribed belief.
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/21/2008 3:23:28 PM | Younger girls come with DRAMA. I don't know why any 30something guy would want a young 20something girl unless he's looking for a trophy.
What do many 30something men want? Here's a small list:
1) A pretty girl who hasn't let herself go. I'm not talking about model-thin and features that make her look 23. Just the woman who didn't gain a ton of weight and can still look like a pretty adult woman. She takes care of herself just as much as the guy does.
2) She is NOT a headcase. This is the big one. I know many women in their 30s experienced either a divorce, or a bad breakup from the guy they thought they were going to marry...but now is the time to file it all into the past. We want the woman who is interested in dating us and isn't sitting there carrying the past with her in bags. The woman who isn't going to get drunk one night and cry about how he broke her heart.
3) She has her life in order. She's doing something with her life and being responsible. Men won't be into the woman who is 30 and working a retail job meant for teens. I'm not saying she has to be a college scholar with a big career...but she's taking care of herself and shows she won't be a liability on anyone's life.
4) She wants something REAL. She's not playing the "I just want to stay single and have fun" mode in her 30s. She's not playing wishy washy on dating and relationships, or using work as an excuse not to get close to a guy. A woman that's also not sitting there holding out for some alpha male that never came. No commitment-phobes, or women who want men to play the "good friend" role for a few years before trying dating.
5) Someone in a convenient distance. When I last tried POF for dating, I had a lot of women message me who lived hours away. No offense, even when gas prices were not as bad as they are now, I didn't want to go drive 2+ hours to see someone for a date.
6) In the case of single moms, most guys aren't going to let kids bother them...but they will run if the woman's life is a mess because of it. If the ex is always causing drama, ruining quality time by not taking the kid(s), causing trouble...we'll feel bad, but also probably walk away because we're not in the mood to get involved.
Also with single moms, we also want the woman who has TIME TO BE SOMEONE'S GIRLFRIEND. We understand that you can't come out all the time...but if suddenly you have no time because you're always wrapped up in work and kid stuff, then maybe it's better you hold off for a while on dating. I dated one single mom in my past and she could never make any time for me. She wanted this to be a once a month thing, which I refused and ended it. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/22/2008 10:49:38 AM | I'm 32 and I would prefer a girl in her mid-late 20s. I agree with what some other people wrote on here about many women in their 30s being bitter. I know some women like that who mistreat guys or date players and then are upset that they are not yet married. Who wants someone like that?
Another problem with women in their 30s is that a lot of them, but not all, get lazy and let themselves go. I stay in shape and want a women who does the same. When I go to the gym, I see way more women in their 20s than I see women who appear to be in their 30s. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:17:34 AM |
Another problem with women in their 30s is that a lot of them, but not all, get lazy and let themselves go. I stay in shape and want a women who does the same. When I go to the gym, I see way more women in their 20s than I see women who appear to be in their 30s.
Where do you live? At my gym, women in their 20s are at the gym, but not to workout as they don't need to as much - mostly they're there to wear little clothing, and stand around trying to get the attention of the men who are working out.
If they are working out, are you sure they're not in their 30s and just take such good care of themselves you're not aware they're older?
Just a thought.
Personally, I can't find many men over 35 who haven't let themselves go. It's sort of the opposite... | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/22/2008 11:36:27 AM | Hi Wicked Lovely (have a glass of wine but don't give up),
What I really want is a SANE woman who can be her own person. I don't have a lot of time and neediness drives me crazy. I can be really into a person but if I haven't shown her enough attention then we struggle. I can't handle that.
I guess once I had kids, and I was single I was really freaked out. The first two times I tried dating things worked out badly, after that I vowed I had to be very serious with someone before anyone met my kids. The problem is I have them on 50-50 custoday and I work a lot, so that does not always leave a lot of time for me or dating. Oh well, eventually I will find someone. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:05:46 PM | Personally, I can't find many men over 35 who haven't let themselves go. It's sort of the opposite...
I don't disagree with that. Most of the guys at my gym in that age range do seem to have let themselves go. I think that the problem is that a lot of men and women refuse to change their diets as they get older. Working out alone is not sufficient to overcome a poor diet as we age and our metabolisms naturally slow.
Most of my male friends in their early-mid 30s never work out and it shows on them. Even the ones that are not fat don't have much muscle. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:20:05 PM | | this question has been asked over and over again, in every age demographic imaginable. It boils down to, we go for the ones who dont treat us like crap, and the ones who give us a shot. Plain and simple! | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 4/23/2008 12:10:40 PM | | I detest when people ask what other people want. What? You're gonna find out what the majority wants and then be that!? Be yourself. Let others know what that is. If you're correctly polarized you'll stick and whalah! The magic of luuuv. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:04:15 PM | | ohhhh ........we're not all single Moms or divorcees, some of us have been really busy and have had long relationships too, but are looking for a great guy!!!! | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:45:28 PM | Two things...
1) Seeyasoon, you would probably be the exception to the rule. Based on my own experiences anyway.
2) To answer what guys in their 30's want...it depends on the guy and where he is in his life. A simple answer that could be elaborated over pages and pages of text...lol.
On a more personal note. What i am looking for is to settle down and have kids in the next few years. So, let's say i "search" on POF for women in my area, I'll put in 25 to 36 years old, no kids, non-smoker, athletic/slim....and i go from there.
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:29:23 AM | 2) To answer what guys in their 30's want...it depends on the guy and where he is in his life. A simple answer that could be elaborated over pages and pages of text...lol.
Right there :D For one thing, I still do things I did in my mid twenties - clubs/bars, it doesn't help that I don't look a day over 30. But most people I know are either married or settled down - not really my cup of tea, been divorced already. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:48:19 PM | | I want a woman thats drama free, open minded in all views, easy going, and mature. Im out of the whole club/bar scene every weekend and just like to get outside and enjoy life with great weather. | |
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| What do early thirties men really want?
Posted: 5/15/2008 5:00:43 AM | I am looking for someone to cook and clean and do my laundry...........  j/k
A nice stable long lasting relationship with a beautiful woman would be ideal. | |
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