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Posted: 6/22/2008 8:57:55 AM | | I'm not hung up on my body or conceited or anything I just use it as attention getter. Am I wrong about this? Is it a turn off to most women? Should I change it to just a face shot? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:15:49 AM |
I'm not hung up on my body or conceited or anything I just use it as attention getter. Am I wrong about this? Is it a turn off to most women? Should I change it to just a face shot?
You should put on your profile what you feel comfortable putting on. If this is what makes YOU happy, go for it.
It's nothing different from a woman showing lots of cleavage. Either she is comfortable showing it or she uses a different pic.
Do what you want. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:45:33 AM | | For me, a picture of a guy with his shirt off is actually a turn off and usually an easy way for me to decide to pass looking any furthur at a profile. I can appreciate someone who takes care of themselves but find myself generalizing people who define themselves by showing off their body. I usually assume guys who do this are****, promiscuous, unintelligent or have no personality. I'm much more attracted to a guy who defines himself in a photo that shows personality-not just physique or sexuality. So, I'd say save those photos and post normal ones of you and your smile. Save your body to discover in person. I'd rather date a guy who made me laugh and had a tummy than a guy with a six pack who was dumb or boring. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 12:03:19 PM | Assuming someone is something by a single picture is very STUPID
a picture does not tell the full story
and thats such bull really: I am 167 lbs, skinny, and yet single, I am not buff, in fact not even close, am I funny? Id like to think so, oh and uh I sent you a message while back and you just delete it, and I dont have any shirtless pictures
quit being a fake, be REAL. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 12:31:40 PM | | thats a bit harsh shes just giving her opinion,which i would have to agree with,if i was looking to meet someone id consider the guy with the top off a bit of a turn off,wouldnt really be bothered trying to fin out anything about him,id prefer a bloke fully clothed with a decent profile. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 9:24:05 PM | | I simply was answering his question- and I did say- I generalize. Judging someone by a picture may be stupid in your eyes, but I dare say I believe everyone does it. And in this case, the least attractive thing to me personally (my likes and dislikes here, just me, obviously not everyone) is a guy showing a picture of his abs instead of his face. A perfect gym sculpted body is not something that is important to me personally so to see that tells me right off the bat: this person finds this important, I do not-and if you are on a site where you are advertised in a profile which is a "quick glimpse" of this person that you view and decide wether this is something you'd be interested in-based upon that fact I will pass. There's nothing for you to be so mad about-theres plenty of girls who enjoy it-but I do not. The op was asking for everyones opinions. And btw- I have never deleted any msg I've ever received since I signed up on pof a month ago-so wrong gal my friend. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 10:34:14 PM | Showing a certain type of picture isn't the act of defining oneself. I guess it's more "showing-off", but in a lot of cases, there's no real conceit behind it.
We all use what we have to get what we want. Be that a job or a date. For a job, we dazzle people with our wit and experience. For a date, we have many more options. We can use wit, our looks, our personality, our sense of humor...
The options are endless when you think about it. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 6:03:48 AM | I'm kind of surprised at the level of negativity that women are showing on here. If a guy has a nice body, and wants to show it off, he should. Just as women do it. People are attracted to good looks. If I see a picture of a girl who looks like a model, I assume she is out of my league. But I don't go so far as to judge her personality based on good looks.
I have one pic of me with my shirt off. The reason I put it on here is because I got a lot of positive feedback when I put it on my myspace profile.
And, to be perfectly honest, I purposefully did not show my stomach, which is not bad, but is nothing to brag about. I often will change my style in how I dress or have my hair. Just to see how people react to it. However, ALL of my other pictures are face shots. Does this make me conceited?
No. I know that most women consider me to be cute. Not hot. Not sexy. Not gorgeous.
And, to be honest, I am looking for the woman that will take the time to get to know me, deeper than my appearance. Which can change from day to day, or week to week. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 6:12:50 AM |
when you find a profile with pic(s) with a guy obviously showing what hes got, what impression does that leave? does it matter what else is on the profile before you make that important judgement in deciding if you are interested? Do muscles/defenition ever play a large enough role in getting you interested in the person when you normally would not be?
Not having read all the replies, this is my take on it.... I'm female I see a good looking bloke with out his shirt on and muscles, I would be telling a great big lie if I said I didn't have a good look and thinking oooooo baby where you been all my life.... I'm shallow so sue me already will you, lol, seriously though yes I like to look, and any woman who doesn't I will say they are talking out their backsides, but it's not just about having a fab body, no who am I kidding, YEAH...... Seriously there has to be something going on between ears, something that envolves more than two brain cells firing off. As to the pictures what kind of impression does it leave me with errrrr, I don't know to busy drooling, seriously If they are proud of their bod why the hell not. In saying that I'm being really serious now, If I read aa profile and I don't like what I'm reading I won't even attempt to get in contact, I'll just go back and drool some more lol | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 9:07:27 AM | | Oh hogwash. I'm not being dishonest when I say I don't drool over pictures of guys who aren't wearing shirts. That's not everyone. I have to be attracted to someone intellectually before I am attracted to them physically. If anything, the most attracted I am to a guy just when going on looks is if they have a cute face with a great smile or I really like their style. I have never looked at a guy and said omg he's ****ing hot just looking at his body. That's just me though, and that's not fake. Put it this way- I could put up a pic of me in a cute dress with a nice tit shot and a pic in a bathing suit laying on the beach- but then ill get a bunch of your hot, nice body msgs- or maybe grab the attention of some people who wouldn't have msged me with just a normal pic- I don't want people to msg me because I piqued their interest with a "hot" picture. Looks fade- I want intellectual company now- that's what will make me attractd to someone at the end of the line. So Its not fake, its a preference. And it does exist- people who don't go just on looks. Maybe I was too harsh when I said I assume people are stupid or non intellectual or conceited but maybe its just more simple- its not important to me, so I'm not attracted to it. True storyyyyy. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 9:18:23 AM | ^^^^
Shotgun,
You have 2 pics show nothing but skin and you yet you come here accuse people being stupid/dumb for showing their hard work.
What do you do for living? Since you're smart and intelligent, tell us what you do.
Before you talk about other's intelligence, you better take a good look at yourself.
How hard did you work to get those legs? How many hours/days/years of dedication and hard work did it take you to get that tattoo?
What a joke... | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 10:23:55 AM | | this is gettin funny now at this stage,everyone has their own opinions,each to their own,i would agree with her,i would obviously look at a picture of a man with his top off,yur gonna see it either way like it or not,but for me i have to say id prefer to see an attractive bloke dressed well,n i too certainly would not be drooling over someone showing off his muscles,fair enough i would notice if hes attractive n dats about it,certainly wouldnt make me want to get to know him just because hes showing off his muscles,just my opinion! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 10:26:24 AM | When I see a guy with a picture of his shirt off--if it is the first picture I will think that appearance is all they care about--maybe a bad assumption but it is what I think. If it is one of the many pictures he has or if he is in a setting that one might have ones shirt off--lets just say at the beach, then I won't jump to that conclusion right away. Muscles never play a role in getting me interested. Personally I look for interests and then education. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 10:47:59 AM | Here is the problem,
Instead of seeing him as a dedicated hard worker with a lot of self-control(good traits), you women label him as shallow, dumb, unintelligent etc.
That proves me ONE thing and one thing only, your insecurity.
You look at yourself, then him and say "oh well, he's probably a muscle head anyway"
He could be a Banker, a Doctor or the damn governor of California, but but but...hmmm he's probably a womanizer then..
believe me you're not fooling anyone here, but yourself...
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Posted: 6/23/2008 10:52:12 AM | | Wow, thanks for the "ownage" or maybe more accurately- "personal attack." The op asked for the general populations opinion- unfortunately for you I guess, I count here too. I never attacked anyone personally just gave my take on it. Didn't mean to offend you-and I won't respond to your attacks on me personally because that's not what this thread should be about- I would just like to say sorry that my feelings about shirtless pictures offends you so much, wow. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 11:04:23 AM | | she is just giving her opinion ffs,just because someone doesnt find pictures of guys showing their muscles off that appealing does not mean shes insecure,i dont find it appealing myself to see that,meaning while i might notice it,it certainly would not make me wanna get to know someone,some women do not like it,i am by no means insecure as a person or with how i look and i would be one of those women that would be more attracted to a guy not showing off what he has got! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:02:32 PM | yarimelma has some very good points and you are all missing them.
1. He did not say you HAD to be attracted to muscular guys. You made this assumption. There was no personal attack.
2. What he said was that deciding that a muscular guy was automatically a dolt based on his good physique was an insecure and grossly unfair stereotypical decision.
3. This can be seen as, if you reverse the situation you do not automatially assume that every 'out of shape guy' is a rocket scientist, by comparison.
4. You see an asian looking guy, do you automatically assume he is a terrorist? No, then why would you assume that a guy who is muscular conforms to a similar stereotype? This is unnaceptable behaviour.
5. The current trend of slamming the in shape guy is quite worrying. I am glad to weed out these females from viewing my profile.
6. You think because the above is "your opinion" that makes it ok to discriminate against an entire sector of society? Sorry, take your feminazi discriminatory views elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:48:03 PM | | have a look over the rest of the posts,some women made it clear that they would not really be bothered dating muscular guys n find it a turn off,n then it was said that these women were lying basically so it wasnt an assumption,it was said previously n thats what started all this crap,a lot of people that are insecure with their personalities,traits,etc will show off what they have physically because they feel thats what they have got to attract the opposite sex,so saying women are insecure because they feel a certain way about men showing off their bodies,the same could be said for those men that tend to do this,im not saying its like that for everyone but for some it is.you have your views,other people have theirs,why are ya bothered,its not gonna make a difference to you what they think,at the end of the day all they are saying is they would not be attracted to that kind of picture for whatever reason! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:55:02 PM | | There is no need to stereotype people based on body types. Not all or most people with muscular / fit bodies are arrogant, rude, shallow etc. Just like not all overweight people are lazy and unealthy. Both statements are false generalizations. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 12:58:52 PM |
people that are insecure with their personalities,traits,etc will show off what they have physically because they feel thats what they have got to attract the opposite sex
So you're saying,
If I post a muscle shot, I am insecure with my personality, traits etc. And that's all I have to show for.
Say I have 3 pics of me casually dressed and 2 muscle shots. And all of a sudden I am dumb, unintelligent, or/and lack good traits, have no personality?
Do you even realize how dumb this sounds? | |
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