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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:29:31 PM | | Tell her. It IS your place. It's every woman's place to not put up with this crap. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:30:40 PM | Give it a rest....after all you are on here also.
Maybe you should see a shrink......I read some of the advice these people are giving you....or you could go on Jerry Springer with your ex!!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:42:54 PM | see there you go the naughty boys always get the girls, sad but true and they are always cute and always believable.
thats the trouble with internet dating you just dont know who they are, what they are up to, and with who is next do you?
I think if you know that the man is a cheat and a liar and played more than one woman, you should say who he is and at least give the heads up to other women and if they get involved then that is their choice. But tame these players - never going to happen!
Just an idea to stop the players playing for a laugh of course. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:41:59 PM | To the last one respondant...............I am sure that the woman that started this crap is a saint..............yeah right................I don't know this guy but remember this head hunters...........you only heard one side of the story.........innocent until proven guilty. Doesn't sound like he did anything illegal to me.
Welcome to POF.....if ya can't swim....get out of the lake. 
Oh yeah: Post This!!!!!!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:08:34 PM | | GIRL.....let me ask you how you would have appreciated being forwarned about such a man. Why not put it out there for her to make up her own mind and choice. At the very least she could re-evaluate her choice and not be blind sided as you were. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:23:32 PM | I guess anytime someone breaks up with you it will be told on the forums for all to see........doesn't it take two to tango?
Any guy would be a fool to date you if he read this or to date any of the others (male or female) that told you to tell his new female friend.
If he is that bad then he will hang himself.
What is really bad is that you do not have the intelligence to make up your own mind. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2008 3:39:08 PM | [qhote] UPDATE: hello everyone, I am the OP just not with the old account. I'm backkkk! lol
Well, I did NOT say anything to the lady who posted on my ex's profile. I just left things alone and moved on. As a matter of fact, it had been a LONG time since he and I had any contact and just recently, about a month ago or so he instant messaged me on yahoo.
His first question was "how's the weight lose going?" When he and i were together I was trying to lose weight in preparation for the wedding.
Well then he went on to tell me about how his hot new live-in girlfriend is about to join the Army and he's nervous she will cheat on him since she will undoubtedly be hit on because shes so hot. THEN, he sends me a picture of her to show me how hot she is.
Yes, he did me a favor by breaking up with me and sparing me the pain in the ass of going through a divorce.
Can we close this thread?
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 5:18:59 PM | I agree with stillanicechick..............close this thread..........I know you people have a lot of other bs to talk about.  | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:18:26 AM | | let it go.if he does all this stuff he will get caught ,you dont need anything to do with it.what happens to players is they eventually get played.you may not see it but it will happen then he will get it.also if he cheated on his wife with you did you think you were that great that he wasnt going to cheat on you.the writing was on the wall and now your mad c-mon. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:12:59 AM | I thought about it and if someone hurt me bad I would do it. I just wouldnt' talk to him.
I dont think its a bad thing. Some will say keep it to yourself, but this person deserves the truth. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:29:01 AM | Chill Out~~~ it is to be excepted.
After all everyone is looking.
I met someone here, someone who had {longterm} in their profile. Once things seemed to be going in a certain direction---seeing each other for 5 straight days, lovely phone calls that seemed to have meaning. I jumped out of the water, oh yeah, they said, "I like a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it..." ; So, I thought I was doing the right thing, by MY own standards, that's when he said, "Your appling too much pressure." I need time, so, I jumped back in the water, then I jumped out, due to MY feelings, then I jumped back in and here we all are swimming around, looking for something that may not exsist. That is the REALITY of it. Relax, when the right person is in your life, they are in your life. Not giving you BS.
I've heard people say, "You can't have Everything" I DON'T BELIEVE IT!!!!!!!!
I've seen great relationships, where both parties are fulfilled and content, even HAPPY!
Like Dory says, "JUST KEEP SWIMMING & FISHING"
Chin up!!!!!! & | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:57:16 AM | Dear Lady,
As I have mentioned on many other threads before, I find it disgusting how some people use this type of medium to exploit the true intent of it. Individuals like your ex should never be allowed on sites such as these. To each their own...I understand...but when it can effect the lives of many others NO BLOODY WAY!
I fully appreciate and empathize with all it is you say and are feeling. I had a somewhat similar dilemma of my own here once upon a time. Although, in all fairness the man I was dealing with was/ is sexually abusive and would use the internet to lure women into his clutches. I not only contacted women who wrote him sweet testimonials but also wrote letters to the moderators here trying to explain my case and that individuals like this should be banned. Not only was my letter ignored but I got a nasty react ional response from one of the "new women in his life" Let's just say that she expressed her feelings toward me using some very colourful words. I (as you do now) felt unsure of my actions as well. I fought with my thoughts continuously for days before actually writing the two women but I finally realized that as a woman I had an obligation to do all that was in my power to prevent another woman going through the horrific encounter I had at the hands of this monster. If I could keep at least one woman safe from him well it would be worth the humiliation of allowing someone to know my story. Sadly, no one heeded my warnings. His profile stayed on site here and women continued to feel his testimonial page. Now I completely understand and sympathize with the situation on another level as well. The fact that women/men can be VERY vindictive when wronged or scorned and stories can be embellished with the best of scenarios. The site cannot simply just "delete profiles" based on one woman's plea. Men or women will not just stay away from someone because they received some random email from a potential freak - which could very well be just a jealous individual who was at some point possibly rejected by the said person in question. I understand all that but there most be SOMETHING that can be done in situations such as mine or yours no?
The sad thing is that a month later I got a one liner email from the woman I wrote to. (the one who wrote me back calling me a jealous crazy ...well you get the drift) All it said was... " I should have listened to you. I'm so sorry. More sorry because now there are two of us that he got to." I must have cried for what felt like hours after reading that.
So....after this extremely long winded response to your thread dear Lady.... my advice to you is to email this woman. If you can save her any kind of pain, grief or suffering than it's all worthwhile. If she thinks you're nuts...great. Crazy... so be it. But at least you have her the knowledge and tools to do with what she chooses. What she does with the information is her business and ONLY her business. You can sleep well knowing you did what you could to prevent un-necessary pain coming to another.
Thanks for letting me rant.
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 11:11:31 AM | gitchie1 is right about taking the time to get to know someone, that's one of the bonuses of online dating. you've got plenty of time to chat, email, talk on the phone...really find out about their beliefs, values, morals. it's alot harder to do if you just meet some
good looking person in a social setting...then it's pretty much based on just the physical attraction.
unfortunately, cheaters aren't required to have it tattooed on their foreheads!
on the other hand, "chicks before****" might also apply here.
you always have to go with what feels right. who knows...if you tell her and she confronts him...if he really cares for her, it might make him take a long hard look at his behavior.....nah, probably not. but there's nothing that says you can't tell her and move on at the same time. best of luck...we all deserve love AND honesty! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 11:32:13 AM | | Hey there, my ex is on here too and his profile is all lies. This man stole money from my family and from me. Lots of money. I just filed state suit against him for over $100,000. Yes, six digits. I was so dumb. I found out a month ago that while we were trying to have a baby back in September he was soliciting women online for sex and propositioning my friends while I was in the room. He also was eyeing his daughters seventeen year old friends and making comments about how he can't wait for them to turn eighteen so he can "have them". How slimy does that make him? Look him up at John_Tampa and read his profile. Doesn't it sound right out of a sappy poetry book? He could never have written something like that. He is such a cold fish. I know I was with him for a long time. If women fall for his crap they deserve him. I have faith in women, that they are smarter than that yet I fell for him so what does that say about me? Anyway, I am still upset at my "friends" for not telling me what he was doing behind my back. They apologized but if I had known that was going on I would not have stayed with him. He has threatened my life since the lawsiut started and has threatened to have me killed. What a nice guy huh? The sad part is that if he needed me I'd be there for him and his family. That is the kind of person I am. I was way too trusting and giving and although I will not let him change my heart, I will be very careful next time. Good luck and whatever you choose to do just make sure that in your heart you believe it to be the right thing. If it were me, I would tell her. She may think that it comes from a jilted ex but at least if she sees a red flag later she will remember those words you kindly shared with her. TL | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 1:21:05 PM | My ex is on here to, he lied and cheated on me too.
some womans given him a glowing testimony to, she obviously doesnt no him, i feel sorry for the women on POF, as know because of that testimony he thinks hes gods gift to woman and an incredible pulling machine.
oh and his profile pic is years old and a few pounds lighter than reality
i've moved on and i'm just glad to be away from him
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 1:50:06 PM | oooohhhh that is a tough one!!!!! I would be SOOOO tempted to tell! BUT I think she wouldnt believe you anyhow.....You will just come off as the jealous psycho ex girlfriend.....on the other hand maybe not???? HEHEHE
I say do what you want but MAKE sure you know what you are doing or this could backfire in a BAD way! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 2:28:15 PM | "My ex is on POF!!!"
Like almost a year ago!
Anyway:
Re post 199:
"see there you go the naughty boys always get the girls, sad but true and they are always cute and always believable."
True!
"thats the trouble with internet dating you just dont know who they are, what they are up to, and with who is next do you?"
Whereas that does not apply to IRL dating? It does! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 2:46:41 PM | | Just let it go...count yourself lucky...whether or not he is "loyal" is no longer your problem. Your instinct is right...it's not your place. I would also like to suggest that you stay in the POF waters... why should you pull yourself out of the pond?...you need a replacement fishy my friend!! Swim on Sweet Girlie. Don't waste anymore energy on this guy. OWL | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:14:09 PM | | sounds like your ex has moved on and you cant do that. you are still trying to effect his current relationships when they are none of your buisness. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:25:22 PM | I believe in "What Goes Around, Comes Around!" He will get what he has coming. On the other hand by you holding onto a resentment or grudge, keeps you anchored to him and doesn't let you get on with your life!!
He did you a favor! It's best you found out now then later, right?
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:32:11 PM | | Honey, thank GOD you didn't marry him. The girl wouldn't believe you anyway, and, if she did, she would be one of those kind that says, "Oh, but he wouldn't do that to meee! I give him what the other ones couldn't! !" You know the kind. She has made her bed, let her lie in it and suffer for it after. Don't delete your profile. You will be giving him the power over you, and we, as good women, deserve soooooo much better than his kind. All the best, count your blessings and be happy you aren't with the loser anymore. Lots of hugs and good thoughts. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2008 4:41:30 PM | Thats very good. . I agree I saw something on an email someone sent me the other
day and its so true. "Leave the past behind and take only the lesson" I have been married three times and I know how true that is. Hate only hurts you ! Its not a posion you can spray on anyone else.
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