| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:05:42 AM | Renee thats so sad.As long as woman like you exist men like him will cheat.have more respect for urselt then that.You seem like a very desireable woman you deserve better his beauty will fade but his lack of character will remain intact forever | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:11:51 AM | | CAN YOU SAY BITTER. If you knew this information why did you take up with him. Was he cheating with you when he was married. Sorry but this comes from an ex wife of cheating man.. No sympathy here. You got what you deserve | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:26:29 AM | I found my boyfriend on here last week.............now my ex! We've been in a relationship for almost 8 years. He cheated on me most of the that time. He hangs on the personals it's a sicknest with him. I've let him get away with it all these years and that's my fault. It's time for me to move on I'm worth more than that! It makes me wonder how many guys on here are married or in a relationship?????? I read the profile over and over. My ex's profile is all about what he has not who he is ,a cheater and liar!!!!!! 
Good Luck to all! | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:55:54 AM | It is very tempting to try to save others from the pain of deceit. The karma thing works for me as a reason to let go. Besides, you never know if you are going to save the person from the most dreadful experience or if you are going to rob them of an opportunity to become stronger by the experience.
I would do nothing. Nobody will believe you. By what you wrote, OP, he is a lier and will manage to twist it to you being a jeolous bitter ex. what do they say? the road to hell is paved with good intentions?
I think that what he is doing can serve as validation for having broken up with him.
I would totally stay away from his profile. I would probably leave the site and find another one, however, I understand how difficult it is to give up these forums!
The more you check on him, think about him, the more you'll stay attach to him for all the wrong reasons and with no 'rewards'.
I think that finding an ex registered here is better than finding a 'current' one registered in here.
Let him live, give him that proverbial rope, but mostly, you live.
B | |
|
MNhill
|
Joined: 5/22/2007
Msg: 30 | |
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 8:44:52 AM | Is it just me or do other's wonder about a person who has to claim that they are "loyal".
It makes me think twice, like why do they have to bring that up, have they been unloyal in the past, or do they view the rest of us that don't post as being "loyal" really just abunch of cheaters that don't advertise it?
Just wondering?
MK | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 9:53:11 AM |
CAN YOU SAY BITTER. If you knew this information why did you take up with him. Was he cheating with you when he was married. Sorry but this comes from an ex wife of cheating man.. No sympathy here. You got what you deserve
Morjen15, i did not know he had cheated on his ex wife until his mother told me one day over the phone. He had been divorced for 2 years when i met him. My ex got deployed to Iraq and we were going to get married when he came back so I took the initiative and wrote letters and talked to his mom. I wanted us to be comfortable with each other by the time he came back and took me to meet her (she lives in Wisconsin, he is stationed in California). It slipped from her one day when we were talking because she hated his ex wife and she liked me and she was telling me how glad she was that he was with me. This was all news to me. I immediately emailed him (since I couldnt call him in IRaq) and he called me back and we talked about it and I asked him why he didnt tell me the truth and he said he was afraid i would leave and he gave me the "that will never happen to you bcause i love you and youre different than her" speech...although at that time he had already been cheating on me with the same woman, like i said in my first post, i didnt know he had cheated on me until this year. When he came back from iraq i asked him and he told me the truth.
So I understand your hurt and lack of sympathy for me. however i DID NOT deserve it. I did everything I could for this man to feel loved. I spent every single weekend at his house, cooking and cleaning for him taking care of him, watching football (which i didnt even like at the time). I knew he would be going to Iraq and i wanted to treasure every single moment i had with him. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:03:39 AM | | Tell her. It's up to her to listen or not, at least you will know you did the right thing! | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:08:43 AM | | Hey snap! Problem is I didn't actually recognise my ex husband (bad Piccy)! so I thought I may as well read his profile, Haha , I couldn't believe it! If any woman actually want's to have a relationship with him ... GOOD LUCK.. cos I certainly wouldn't put them straight. Have the last laugh babe, move on and have fun! | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:10:38 AM | The worst possible thing you can do is be involved. Although it is a honerable thing to want to warn this woman, it will most likely backfire.
Let's study human nature:
The Fact is, this guy may or may not cheat on her, if they do have a relationship. Each relationship is different. Don't take it personal. It's just part of selecting a mate. Attraction & relationships are so complicated, it's hard to say. There is someone for everyone to quote an old adage. People behave differently in different situations.
The chances are indeed high for infidelity given his past record, And if this woman is attracted to him, she will not believe you and label you a "trouble maker" People want to be loved and happy, so they tend to overlook the danger signs and make excuses.
If you really want to get this guy's goat, find someone and be happy. It works every time!
Tom | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:23:42 AM | | Sorry but if you kissed his butt like that no wonder he used you a a door mat. You need a reality check. If the mother had liked you it would not have slipped out that he cheated in the first place. Your young and this guy took you for a ride is all, it happens. Get over it and learn from it, next time when you watch the sign you will know whenthey start cheating if they do. But if you let thoughts of this clown cloud your mind. You are going to miss some one great. Put it down as a learning experence and get over him. He is not worth the time or effort. Let some else deal with him and his Mommy. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:08:10 AM | Stay out of it - you need not have revenge. Have the upper hand and remain in control.
You need not do the 'punishing' as the laws of karma have a way with dealing with anyone such as he.
If you advise the other women that he cheats, you'll look like a woman who's bitter.
This isn't your concern that he's ( possibly ) cheating on someone - let HIM become the headache for the next poor sucker. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:16:44 AM | they always say...if you have something good...share it
ask yourself...how would you have been if someone had told you???
do you wish it to happen to another? | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:18:13 AM | I'm going to go against the flow and say you should if you really want to. If he wasn't saying he was loyal I'd probably be with everyone else, but eh, he sounds like a slimeball & you might save someone else from being hurt. Or maybe make a new friend afterwards if she goes through the same thing wishing she had listened to you
People generally don't leave testimonials on people if they're dating though, unless they're the "omg i love you so much xoxoxo" type | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:26:22 AM | | Ex is Ex. If you and he are now broken up, it is none of your business where he is, or what he does, or with whom he does it. Having slept with him a few times over a 6 month, or whatever, period gives you no power to run the rest of his life now that you are apart. If he cheated on his wife,or other gf, with you then you have no right to complain that he cheated on you. Keep your mouth shut, unless you want to be charged with electronic stalking. Then, too, if you have the right to hound him, and mess up his affairs, he has the right to return the favor by messingup yours. I am sure there are things he could tell your current dates about you, which would make you seem less worth dating. Grow up little girl. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:28:23 AM | | If you were on here, when you found him here, you were cheating on him...and found he cheated on you. You are as guilty as he is. You are a cheater,and a liar, too. If you weren't you would not have been surfing on here enough to spot him. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 11:32:12 AM | | ozziefan, i respect your opinion and will only say i can give you his username and you can email him and ask him what he thinks of me. i guarantee you he has nothing bad to say about me...except for one thing. I didnt swallow like the slut he cheated on me with. that is the ONLY complaint he has. I only know about POF because he told me about it. So no i did not find him on here. I am not a cheater or a liar, this little girl waited for him for the six months he was gone and I wouldve waited the rest of the 8 he still had left had he not dumped me. so dont you say i am a cheater and a liar. I gain nothing by lying. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 12:30:26 PM | | I really appreciate the input that everyone gave. I spoke to him last night, he asked me to call him and when I didnt he called me. We had a long talk, mostly about why things didnt work out and I've decided to just let it go. Even if I tried to say something nobody would listen to an ex. I know when a friend told me that he knew my ex had cheated, I wouldnt have believed him if he had told me at the time it was happening. My ex is moving to Connecticut in October so its not my problem anymore. i wish i could go into detail here about more things just so i could get your perspective (your--all the people that posted) but it wont change anything so why dwell on it any further. Once again, thanks. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 3:45:58 PM | r.e.girlie
when you look back..at your past, it's best not to stare,
Tom Petty..
with the different changes and life issues I have dealt with,
that is some good advice..to put in practice
Look to the future, even there, a lil heartache may surface.
Let this make you better for having lived it.
The right thing is not always the easiest thing to do
but over time, you will learn, it is the BEST thing | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 3:51:23 PM | I say tell her and then let her decide how to handle him and whatever BS he will hand her.
Forewarned is forearmed. Let him say what ever he wants to her..... she is NOW HIS problem, but at least you tried to warn a fellow female. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 4:08:58 PM | | LOL! Try having Three ex-boyfriends on here at the same time! Who am I to tell other women about them!! It would just go in one ear and out the other! You can warn women all U want but they want beleive you until they turn blue in the face and see for themselves the lying cheating and using men that they are!! You are a strong women and You can move on and enjoy life! As long as you're sitting back wondering what he's doing with another women whether he will cheat or not is taking precious time from your life from which you could be enjoying it!! I know been there and done that and I learned to not worry about something or someone I can not change!!! Keep your profile and know that's he probably checking it out and he will see what attention you now get from other men and let him ponder about you for awhile! Good Luck and best wishes! one_rose1969 | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 4:39:27 PM | | i dont think she would believe you but if i was you stay on pof and get a better guy than that cheating pig yr worth more than that hes no good and gives our service men a bad name and i hope he lives to regret his actions so girl show him you can do better xx scarlette if you need a friend to talk to im scarlett20 x | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 4:40:12 PM | | thanks one rose. i really wasnt looking for his profile. I went to see who had viewed me and I saw a guy i thought was cute and i clicked on it and it was MY EX!! with a new pic. that's how this whole thing started. I know im better off without him and thinking back on it, thank god we didnt get married and have the family we wanted to. It wouldve been disastrous now. He will always have a special place in my heart. we had more good times than bad, actually up until i found out about the cheating i wouldve never thought he would do that to me. I cant hate him, he did a lot for me. He encouraged me, motivated me, supported me, and believed in me moreso than my own parents at times. i guess maybe thats why im having a hard time getting completely over it. he was the only person I felt loved by and i put everything of myself into it never expecting to get hurt like this. He is moving out of state for work at the end of the month so this chapter will end completely but i must admit i do still miss him. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 5:34:47 PM | | See i told you he would be checking you out! LOL regardless I know it hurts and you're right it's ok to miss him because theres times where I miss one of those ex=s just want say which one! LOL But No, I could never hate either of them because two wrongs doesn't make a right! but I think you will feel better once there is more distance from both of you! You seem to have a good heart and is very high spirited so I have no doubt that you will meet someone who will make you very happy and they will come a day when you will say my ex- who? it will take time but the more you stay busy and active and moving forward each day will get easier! best wishes one-rose1969 | |
|
MaryS.
|
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 49 | |
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 5:49:31 PM | | My ex is a member on POF also. As a matter of fact, I actually helped him set up his profile. Although, I do not quite agree with what he decided to write in it, I am not going to go around telling everyone our business. I figure that the lady who is willing to get with my ex is either going to get a hard taste of reality or she may get a good thing. My ex husband had his faults that unfortunately he could not/did not want to change in order to make our marriage work. If this other woman is willing to accept that than more power to her. Anyways, my ex and I have agreed to keep everything civil and on an even groud because we do have children together and they need to know that no matter what, they will always be placed first in our lives. This may even sound sick and twisted, but I have met a few of the ladies in person that he has developed friendships with. I mean, for pete's sake, I would like to know the person who may be involved in our children's life someday. I am currently talking to a very wonderful man, we are just friends now, but looking forward to see where it goes in the future-well if it had not been for my ex telling me to "get past my hang-up and give the guy a chance", I probably would not have given him a second glance after he IM'd me the first time. I am very thankful to my ex and very thankful for my new friend. Take care and good luck in your search. | |
|
| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/12/2007 6:20:48 PM | Chances are that if she let a testimonial that htey didnt hit it off anyway ... I wouldnt leave one for a guyi was interested in persuing would you ?!!
Let it go and find yourself a shiny new one
LOL
Good luck and sorry for your heartache | |
|
Home
login 
