| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:43:34 PM | | His relationships are really none of your business any longer. You need to keep your nose out of it. The way I've always looked at it, is that I'm fairly naive. The next girl HAS to be more on the ball than me, so she'll get him figured out in due time. The only time you would need to butt in, would be if he was a child molester or something equally bad. Then you just mail her the info annonomously. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:49:51 PM | omg, yes alert her. Why should this cheat be allowed to ruin someone elses life.
You are doing the world a service.
If you could stop your best friend from getting hurt, would you?? I would do the same favour for this woman. Needless to say, this man will continue to do what he does and give the good men of this world a bad rap. Sad really. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 1:56:32 PM | Girlie.. I know the temptation is there to do something about it. As much as you want to get even which I completely understand that.. but it'll only consume you. You said you checked him out, I guess on numerous occassions. If that's true, your anger got the best of you. Just let it go. Since he's a two- timer, she will find out soon enough. If you try to warn her, he'll say something that you're a scorned woman, etc etc, and she will side with him.
Just remember this... What goes around, comes around... it will happen, it always does. I'm so sorry you're hurting. Best of luck to you. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:11:20 PM |
(1) You did say he started dating you while he was still married, this in itself has a multitude of questions for you.
tallblonde, please read my previous posts. I did NOT meet him while he was married. He had already been divorced for two years when I met him. I also stated in my previous post I'm just leaving it alone. Thank you for taking the time to give me your input, I appreciate it! This was my first time being in love, I hope the next time it will be the real thing. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:18:39 PM | Honestly? I'd love to find mine on here because he's so pathetic now, I could read his profile adn I would know everything in it was a lie.
Either he was so good you're sorry you lost him, or he wasn't. Move forward and away from this bad guy and focus on some good stuff, gotta love yourself first of all. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:46:40 PM | Dont beat yourself up about it. Move on with your life it looks like he has, you know he is a cheat as well as his ex wife does. Move forwards dont let him get under your skin other wise you wont move on. Look towards all the new friends you can find here and maybe that special person I wish you all the best and hope you find who you are looking for  | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 3:04:57 PM | So is my ex wife... It doesn't bother me, only to know that she may do someone else like she did me... I don't know why she is on this site, she likes married men, NO comittment... She probably has me blocked but I wouldn't wasted the keystrokes to bother her....
I am happy without her, Lonely but happy...
Find a GOOD GUY!!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 4:43:22 PM | OP butt out and leave it alone. The reasons are quite simple
One mans cast off is another mans treasure's.....
I personally wouldn't listen to an EX. I will make up my own mind in time I would really wonder what her problem was...
Good luck | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 4:57:05 PM | | Leave a matter of fact testimonial....no fuss, no muss, straightforward, nonjudgemental or something simple like "if it seems to be too good to be true, it likely is!" | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:10:06 PM | so is my ex, along with some other sites also
it doesnt bother me at all, in fact i feel sorry for her | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:11:30 PM | THE opposite of love is not hate, as one might imagine, but indifferance...
do nothin'....ur done
kathi
and ENJOY pof... | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:14:00 PM | My dear RE Girlie,
Sweetie, he cheated BEFORE?  hahahahaha. Enough said! You're supposed to be a bright girl, come on. You are perfectly aware that past behavior is the biggest indicator of future behavior. And you're going to let this guy run you off one of the greatest dating pools of low-morality (and many many high morality!) men...  And you ask what you should do???
FIND A FAITHFUL MAN!! A GOD-FEARIN', FANTASTIC, WONDERFUL MAN!!
(psst. I know where they all are, message me. *wink*)
Love yas, ya po' thang!! *big fat hug* I know what he did to you was miserable. But lovey, you simply MUST start thinking of yourself for a change!  You must demand better for yourself right from the start - a guy like him - no matter what he looks like, is like, you know his past, he ain't gonna change. Women are attracted to him, he can get any woman he wants I guess.  He's a devil  and he hurt you. I'm sorry he did that to you. Please know you're in my prayers.
GOD BLESS YOU! 
Try not to be angry at him so much, you knew what he was, and try not to be angry with yourself, because that's really what I see here.   Be good to yourself. You deserved better than him, and next time, I know you'll choose someone better
Right??? 
 snorky | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:18:53 PM | | what the heck are you doing on here for almost a year....and then you catch him and you are mad..LOL thats too funny. But thanks for making me laugh dancerider | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:29:27 PM | Hi!
just a word of advice...I had a similar problem, it ate away my insides deciding what i should do.
On one hand you feel bitter...the other you want to make the woman realise what he is like.
DO NOT LET ON. Its hard I know, but you will be labelled as a bitter twisted soul, a looser. I know 1st hand what its like.
Move on with your life, leave the dregs behind...you are too good for him anyway!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:39:27 PM |
You are perfectly aware that past behavior is the biggest indicator of future behavior.
semiotician, i stated in a previous post that i did not know this info until his mom told me during a conversation, at the time he was deployed to iraq. we broke up soon after she told me the real reason he and his ex wife got divorced. I had no idea up until that point. THanks for your input and everyone else that has posted. I love POF forums! I got a lot of insight and I know I am better off now and as for telling her, I have previously stated I'm not worrying with it. It's her problem and any other woman that gets involved with him. I learned a lot and I'm a better person . Thanks!
P.S. where are all the men??? lol | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:55:34 PM | | I think you should tell the woman that he cheats. Wouldnt you want to know that about somebody you were interested in???? | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 5:58:17 PM | Why is it any of your business??
You don't even know this woman!! If someone's ex girlfriend wrote something like that to me on a Personals service I'd consider it "sour grapes"!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:08:04 PM | | Let it go! I am sure you still care for him but there are "plenty of fish"... LOL (Sorry, couldn't resist) Everything happens for a reason so you are probably better off without him. Everyone deserves someone who loves him or her and only him or her...So if he cheated on you, you're better off without him...Let him be someone elses problem...Keep your head up and move forward... | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:12:37 PM | oooo-weeee, gf!
Don't waste your precious energy on him....he'll show each one his true colors in time.
Meanwhile, do things to make yourself happy and peaceful -- I'm glad he's out of your life!
There are plenty of fishies who would be happy to be with someone who's true blue!
Throw that line in again!
~Boots~ | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:28:35 PM | My ex left me for another woman, then dumped her a few months later. It wasn't long before he met his current wife.
I suspect there are a whole lot of things my ex has failed to tell his new wife. Yes, I was tempted to tell her these things, because she seems like a decent woman, and she is good to my son.
But would she have believed me, before she married him? I doubt this very much. As the ex-wife, I doubt I would have had much credibility.
I imagine she's figuring it all out for herself anyway, as time goes by.
OP, I recommend you let this one go. You just can't win in contacting your ex's new girlfriend. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:35:04 PM | Forget about it ! Thank your lucky stars to be rid of him and let it go ! Don't bother to email the woman about him she will assume you are jealous and I doubt that is the note you want to go out on ! Be grateful you are so much better then him and hold the lessons you learned from him close. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:50:31 PM | | So say you tell your side of the story, then what? Imagine how it might make you look. Not only that, but think about how much energy you will use up emotionally if you do this. I guarantee this is not the right thing to do. Let it go and just keep this in mind don't waste your time on people who don't care. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 8:12:37 PM | If I was in that man's position, and an ex came around talking about how I cheated and all that yada yada, I would just say "I cheated on her because she was a TERRIBLE sex partner." True or not, that's how easy it would be for this guy to refure her and make her look bad all in one.
Never a good idea to seek shallow revenge. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 8:18:43 PM | Honestly, I don't believe that what he is doing right now is any of your business.
He may have been a cheat in the past but that does not mean that he won't meet a woman that he'll never cheat on in the future.
I say "cut your losses" and move on. Let him do the same. | |
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