| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:19:06 PM | | I have a couple exes on Pof, and I do not make a big deal of it at all. i am sure that they dont either. Be grown up about it. His bad karma wil catch up with him. If he lies in his profile he lies in real life. He is already a cheater.the best theing you can do is move on and find a healthy fish. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:22:36 PM | I wouldn't waste the time or energy, he isn't worth it and he is an ex. I always say if it isn't broken don't fix it.
Let her find out for her self. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:25:46 PM | and here i am, just new to pof. i sure dont want or NEED to get hooked-up like that anymore. I WLD WANT TO KNOW>  | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:52:50 PM | Move forward and not backwards. It's a new year to make a new beginning.
You have nothing to gain by informing the other woman. If he cheated on the both of you, more likely the cycle will continue. You should actually thank him for breaking it off. Just let it go. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:02:52 AM | | Without reading any of the other posts....I will say you may be tempted to mail this chick on his profile and tell her all about him but that will only make you look like the bitter ex that wants him back, or you are jealous. He is no longer your problem....So, just leave it be and move on with yourself. That would be the mature thing to do. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:03:28 AM |  Hey, theres no rule that x's can't post on POF and probably not too many that prohibit anyone from telling fibs about themself. 
maybe the x will break another persons heart  , etc but letting go and getting on with your own life is alot more important. 
Hope this helps.
Bye everyone
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:16:03 AM | I've been cheated on also and I've met my share of dishonest men on line. I think its fine to tell the truth and expose him for what he is. It may save someone from heartache.
Why not report him to the site also? I've met far to many liars and cheaters online and I wish they all would be exposed for what they really are. And yes I know women lie too. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:19:06 AM | | think all should name and shame im a loyal honest person and i think those that cheat should be named and shamed it gives sites a bad name also i also have been cheated on in the past and dont think its right if these cheats are not happy get out of relationship before going else were that way others dont get hurt | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:19:33 AM | | you could probably make a full time job telling about how you found cheaters! why don't you just find someone who isn't a cheater and stick with that? like my mom always said "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!" Leave the guy alone and if a girl can't figure out that he's a cheater, that would be her problem, not yours. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:22:22 AM | OP, I'm sorry for your turmoil. It must be shock to your system to see the face of one you loved on a dating site, trying to find new love or (from what youve stated about the ex) a new conquest.
I abhor cheaters. Obviously, you too dont 'understand' a cheater or you'd still be together...? I say, no, dont tell the 'testimonial' your experience. It might not be what you think.
There may come a day, the ex will see you on here as well...getting on with your life. Everything works out in the end | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:22:49 AM | You're right, OP - it's not your place.
Focus on your own future or this guy is still running your life. Besides which, just because he's cheated on others doesn't mean he will cheat on the next.
If he does, it's his life he's wasting - and you don't know the nature of the person you will be 'warning'. They may be cheaters too and it could be cheating heaven for them. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:29:30 AM | You said it yourself.. it is not your place to inform his possible conquests what he is really like.
Give any cheat//liar enough rope and they normally hang themselves! I certainly would not be deleting your profile just because he is on POF. He will always be wondering if you are going to drop him in it , Let him wonder !!
You were engaged to him once and obvioulsly in love ...Would you have believed some woman you didn't know or your fiance ? He would have sweet talked you into believing him using reasons such as .. "oh she is a woman scorned" or i refused a date with her and she is crazy etc etc..
Stop looking at his profile , even if you are hiding that you look. Move on sweetheart, you sound like you had a lucky escape !
Remember though DO NOT remove your profile .. keep him wondering if you are gonna spill the beans on him or not ..!!
Take care.
Kit | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:31:51 AM | | hey read your info and thought maybe we could talk. I'm going through a rough time in my life, i'm having luck on here, just 2 mos ago i found out my bf fiance whatever u want to call him of 3 yrs cheated on me w some girl he met on yahoo personals. more on that later. hope to talk to u soon. take care | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:37:07 AM | | Us women have to stick together!! What would you do if the tables were turned? You know damn well that his buddies would cover his ass and lie for him! You found out that he was a cheat a long time after you broke up right? I know I felt dumb and taken advantage of when I found out about mine....If they lie to you that just means that they think that your stupid enough to believe it. Take that power away from him and tell! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 11:37:41 AM | | think you should not dwell move on but think that those that are cheaters should know that sooner or later you will get caught still think should have a name and shame page thou lol but not all blokes are ass holes there are women that also do the cheating as i have spoke to a few mates that have had cheating women but what goes around comes around two folds over do as i do wish him all the best and say goodbye | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 1:03:57 PM | | Be glad you found out what kind of guy he really was before the I do. Move on with your life. He isn't worth it. If you should delete your POF account just think sweetie of all the fish you would miss out on meeting. The lady may all ready know what kind of a man he is. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 1:10:17 PM | | not only is 'your' ex on POF, so is 'his'...stay out of it | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/15/2008 3:17:23 PM | Mine was, too. Only he wasn't an EX at the time. He was right in the next room. I don't believe you can really rule somebody else's life. If they don't want to be with you, they need to head on down the road. It's when it overlaps that it gets hard to take, but you do live through it (whether you want to or not, LOL).
Once the issue was forced and we talked about it, he showed me the girl. She did the only decent and appropriate thing, and I liked that. We actually ALL did the appropriate thing.
Of course I was not happy about it. I now know how other people have felt when the same thing has happened to them. But we're grownups. We dealt with it and no blood was spilled, no creatures were harmed. :) | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/15/2008 6:32:14 PM | ANYONE TAKE THE TIME TO NOTICE THIS THREAD WAS STARTED IN SEPTEMBER AND THE OP IS NOT EVEN ON POF ANYMORE???
Food for thought........ | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:27:27 PM | Well he was loyal !
To any woman he was with at the time !  | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:38:39 PM | OH MY GOD
My ex husband, that I am trying to escape, who sent me pictures of him having s e x with another woman............................who stalks me..............................
stalked me on BOM. he even made fake profiles ........fake pictures of men on these profiles................. and listed himself in the city where I live and sometimes where he is living with his current girlfriend in Canada or his country of origin which is Great Britian. SO, HONEY, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This man has sent bondage to my house. Posted me in classified ads with my phone number in the newspaper. Sends me pornography. Has cheated and sent me pictures of it!!!!!
Believe me THERE is worse out THERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:06:00 AM | | Just a discussion topic - and not the oldest on these forums by FAR. It happens all the time! :) | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:27:21 AM | "Ex" means just that: EX. Both of you are completely free to do whatever you want, so get over it. Of course, you will have feelings for the other, but ex means ex as much as no means no. Get over it and move on!
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:38:33 AM | | r.e.girlie I wouldn't even bother with him or her, best you move on and be glad he's no longer in the picture, you'd find someone alot better than him I'm sure. Stay positive and move forward. | |
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| My ex is on POF!!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 3:14:22 PM | | who cares...let it go he's an ex for a reason, no? | |
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