| | Why do Cheaters run and hide when caught?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Very easy, don't stay with one when you find out. Don't listen to them, move on.
But how do you catch a cheater? Try some simple searching on the handle name and email address (only the first part of the email address, omit the @xxxx.com). Search google and you might just find something. I was told by someone that they found one guy posted on 10 different sites, different ages, etc... all found from a google search on the handle name he was using here. Best to know what he is about before you waste your time.
Too bad they don't have a way to get them off of POF, great group of people but the cheaters do hide here very well.
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Posted: 9/17/2007 9:35:38 AM | you don't need to catch them... eventually they will get comfortable with what they are doing and the cat jumps out of the bag on it's own.
Only one thing to do when they do get caught.... show them the door!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2007 9:49:43 AM | It takes no guts to cheat. It is much harder to be honest and tell the person they are currently involved with that they want more than they are getting from that person.
Cheaters run and hide because they are cowards to begin with.
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Posted: 9/17/2007 10:32:46 AM |
Best to know what he is about before you waste your time.
With respect, dating is not a "waste of time".
You find out "what he is about" by, among other things, DATING. Sure, background checks may be warranted in SOME INSTANCES, but they're not conducive, generally, to good solid relationships.
!Les | |
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Posted: 9/17/2007 11:36:22 AM | Do I have this correctly? Ya'll pick cheaters, they cheat, they come back, you pick them again. And then instead of blaming yourself or the cheaters, you blame the rest of the human race, who *haven't* cheated on you? "I'll never trust another man/woman again."
Ya, I've been cheated on, and I should have seen it coming, and it was damned hard getting over it, but I sure as heck don't go around blaming men I haven't yet met for it.
Perhaps ya'll should take yourself off of dating sites till you get your baggage stowed?
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Posted: 11/3/2007 11:27:09 AM | This should not be the question. The question is, why do I stumble onto cheaters...?
Cheaters are made, not born.
They are made because people like smooth talk, good looks, tallness etc....
Not that all good looking people are cheaters or anything like that but just think for a moment: You are attractive, you are the center of attention. You have phone numbers like you would not believe, you can go out with whomever you want without anyone flaking out on you....
All that adds to a person that feels they can choose whomever they want and would not know the word commitment if it bit them in the you-know-what. They do not need to struggle to get a date. They can play, have all the sex they want, get people swept off their feet.
They feel they can get away with playing with people and cheat because there is a line of willing people just waiting for them. That is why they cheat.
You think people would cheat if they were not in heavy demand?. At least not in my case.
What you need to ask yourself is: Why did I date this person? (hint: look at the symptoms of a cheater/player I described above). Believe me, these people send out warning signals but their attractiveness, charm and manipulative ways keeps them under our skin. Happened to me. I learned the lesson.
Ask yourself the questions. There will always be cheaters. As long as there is easy prey for them, they'll keep hunting for their next victim. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 4:40:52 PM | >>
Actually cheating is not an action of bravery...its an action of a coward (gets into a secret selfish relationshp rather than face the reason why they want to cheat and deal with it or why if in a good relationship they feel compelled to feed their ego and attention neediness). Cowards.
so its absolutely no mystery to me why cheaters run and hide....None..whatsoever.
It takes a brave strong person to face their unhappiness and deal with or to be loyal when its good. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 4:47:12 PM | "cheaters are made not born....people like the smooth talking, tallness...."
(sorry the copy paste didn't work)
roflmao!!...what does tallness have to do with anything in this thread LOL...
i think cheaters probably come in all looks and sizes lol...it takes all kinds lol
oh thanks for the chuckle...I got your drift (and more insight into your insecurities) but trust me...some of the men I've been with were not Adonis' (is that spelled right?)
and some were cheaters either because of sexual addiction, sociopathic tendencies (of the common kind...not the serial killer kind) or rampant immaturity...but definately not ****just**** because they were tall or good lookin'...some were and some weren't.
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Posted: 5/11/2008 6:05:23 AM | Women tend to0 cheat more than men if that is possible I never cheated on any of my past g/f's or the ones I lived with . But they sure found the time to play around. what ****es they are. Kinda makes a man just wanna be alone and not be in a relationship at all.
A friend of mine once said
GOD NEVER MADE A WOMAN A MAN COULD TRUST I'm a firm be;liever of that sayin
yall have a nice day wildman  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 6:06:05 AM | | Cheaters cheat for many reasons and none are attractive, so they hide when they get caught. I've read that they WANT to get caught so that the ensuing events will get them out of the relationship they are in. For example: the marriage that they are not happy with and the cheater can't work on the relationship for various reasons, so the cheater cheats, it gives him/her an 'out'. The cheats don't care about hurting another person, its all about them. When the 'ensuing events' happen their role isn't attractive, so they hide and wait it out. Evenutally it will all blow over and settle down and the cheats come out of hiding, pick up the pieces and move on. The scene has changed forever, they have a new set of problems to deal with, which they think are better than what they had before. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2009 10:07:08 PM | simple it boils down to accountability ... if you don't acknowledge something.. then you remain the same .. if you come clean you are ready to become a different person.. anyone that hides or runs is moving away from something...
anyone here that is hiding is hiding from something... first flag..
cheaters only cheat themselves .. if you embroil your emotional well being in their actions they own your life ... and that is the crime.. really .. a cheater should only have themselves to answer to.. as anyone with honor should move along and be proud that they are and always will be honest. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2009 5:54:01 PM | It sounds to me that there is a much deeper issue such as Sex Addiction or something similiar. Speaking as a man, men either cheat or they don't. I think someone once said those that you can trust with a little you can trust with a lot!!
Someone who steps outside of there relationship is not resolving issues within the relationship. There's a saying.... No Change, No change.. They will do it again. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2009 6:06:59 AM | | I agree my man was caught sometime ago i took him back and took him back and told him a month ago no more of this crap he still calls weekends and trys to yack for 2 and 3 hrs at bizarre times of the morning so now i have to unplug the phone the one he cheated with still calls and trys to upset me however i put a restraing order on her.I guess he got caught and its all my fault so he says even though im not a cheater never been and never will and now hes cheating on 2 more girls some boyz never learn | |
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Posted: 3/3/2009 8:40:40 AM | Because they're COWARDS!!! PUSSIES!!!
If they had any balls and fortitude (male or female), they'd broach the subject that "we're not working and I think we should see other people" AND END IT FIRST!!! | |
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Posted: 3/3/2009 9:01:15 AM | Interesting post. Last year I watched a guy maniulate and lie to a friend, he was cheating on her whilst telling her it was only superficial and it was only to keep their relationship secret. He explained that he would let everyone think he was seeing other girls so they wouldn't suspect him and her. I saw what he was actually doing and put my friend in contact with one of the other girls, even though my friend knew he had consistantly cheated on his ex she still thought I was lying purely because as I didn't like the slimely little weasel. She realsied I was telling the truth, she confronted him at his work and he ran, quiting his job 30mins later by text message saying "can't take the rumours anymore". 3 weeks later she ran back to him though. silly sod.
But spot on post, this guys first reaction was to run. Then denial, then he crawled his way back. All this instead of confronting the people that he says are lying about him - in this and other matters. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2009 2:39:27 PM | Having just cheated myself with a married man - this is a hard question....I'm certainly not wanting to be the pot calling the kettle black. But when 2 married people are both not having a good marital relationship - and heaven forbid others find out....that leaves an open door. We were both vunerable and leaned on each other for comfort and support - at first - then it became something more. His wife found out and he dumped me like a cancer...when HE was the one that promised he wanted to get married and take care of me and my kids. I'm not sure why he ran from it all....maybe he was being threatened...Maybe cheaters realize what they have to loose. I certainly do. Having said that - we all go through this life in short phases....good and/or bad. Happy and/or sad. These phases suck and it hurts everyone involved.
He "faced the music" with his wife; I'm sure....but that won't make it all better. Sometimes "facing the music" takes more courage than people can handle. Sometimes it is just a very long process.
We're all just trying to get through our lives.....I really don't think "Cheaters" are all the same. Sometimes things just happen. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2009 11:25:06 AM | Don't they have to hide to do what they are doing in the first place?
When I left my marriage...it had been lousy for a long time......I suspectd he was cheating or at least trying to ..........I just left. From the first moment I suspected anything, I refused to have sex with him..........don't care what anyone thinks of that...... don't mind being poked.....but I 'll be danged if I was gonna be jabbed.
He did get a live in not long after I left with my children.
I already knew I was in love with someone else, but did not act on it.
His wife was definitely cheating on him.....and really it was no secret to him or most people in town.
Being really good friends brought us together.
By the time we finally got together, we were both divorced. I guess emotionally we had cheated...........but the respect I had for him and myself that we waited was a good foundation.
We had many opportunies to go ahead and say we had " justification" to cheat....but we didn't.
I will never, ever understand people that can have sex with one person and CLAIM to love another.
I know this is all too common a practice, but if I was married, and found out today that my husband had cheated on me ten years prior............his stuff would be in the street, on fire....faster enough to make his head spin.
I have been in relationships where I just didn't care...........so I didn't consider it cheating if he had someone else....there was no committment for either of us.
But in a committed relationship or marriage...his a** better run and hide.........and hope he is not stupid enough to try to come back!!
It is the LIES more than anything that get to me. I can't stand a liar!! | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 3:24:05 PM | Belle, Belle, Belle, oh my...
Who cares what a cheater does or not??? Go simply by the fact that situation is making you uncomfortable and "your" cheater might not be giving a dam_n to what you're asking, thinking, aching, crying, tantruming, whatever else doing about... to hell what the cheater ever thinks, it is not material worth, it is absolutely not your time worth...
Simple math explained:
Do you like drama and suffering like a masochist-pro? Stick with the cheater.
Do you think you love who cheats or make you uncomfortable? Stick with the cheater. (Though, never a guarantee cheater will stick with you... cry a river)
Do you love yourself and understand your guts? LEAVE THE CHEATER WITH NO REMORSE and make the cut above that piece of SCheater! Woah, who loves a stinker spraying and aggravating you with stinkey cheating???
Hard is to have vision and refuse to see.
Easier is to face the truth and save precious life time for everything good at your hands - and decisions.
Make wise decisions, never waste precious life time. We can't turn back time or mend what has past with the moment.
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Posted: 6/3/2009 5:58:15 PM | The cheater is a coward; they don't like confrontation; they dont' like drama; they just love getting what they want without caring for others. If you are a coward, you run.
It doesn't take guts to cheat; it takes guts not to. if someone cheats on me, its over; end of story. | |
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