| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 10/2/2007 8:58:12 PM | From what i've seen time after time, players eventually do settle down. (both male players and female players)
The game gets tired for everyone. Including the player.
Now, when the player does settle down.... there is this thing called "karma" that pops up on it's own scheduele years or decades later for all those hearts they stomped on in the past.. but thats another story.
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/8/2007 7:06:56 AM | When does a person become a player?. Personally I think that going out with a number or women/men is part of the dating process. I don't think you can call a person a player if there is no commitment to one person, if both people haven't taken the next step and are seeing each other exclusively. (You really do have to "kiss a hundred frogs" so to speak to see if you are compatible, and if it means dating a number of people then so be it). If that is established then if either of them is still seeing other people then they are a "cheater".
A PLAYER to me is someone that PLAYS with another persons FEELINGS and their LIFE. If you are going to tell someone that they are the one, that they have fallen for them and want to take their relationship to the next level and see where it takes them, then just disappears from their lives or is still looking for that "grass is always greener" that is a player. If you are seeing someone and feel that it isn't going to work and want to date other women/men, and tell the other person that, then you have been honest and are not a PLAYER.
Do players ever settle down?, I think they can, when the right person comes along. But like I always told my children, treat everyone with respect, regardless of colour, race, size. Even overweight or people that aren't attractive have feelings as well. I remember one of my boy's telling me that he danced with a certain girl at a dance, she was overweight, wore glasses and was always being ignored and teased. He said that she was a nice person. That night I was so proud of him because he realized that other people have the same feelings as him and if the tables were turned and it was him, he would be hurt. The point I am getting at is that if you play with peoples feelings all the time, one day you will meet the woman/man that you have been looking for and because of your reputation they will turn you down flat!!
So no dating numerous women/men is not being a player, but when you toy with their feelings and give false hope then you are a player. | |
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Savona
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/8/2007 7:53:50 AM | Do players ever settle down?
Yes when they line, sag and drag and not so on the point anymore. They look in the mirror and see that old look they avoided in everyone else.
They thought they had everything and suddenly see without love they don't got much. They suddenly get scared, thinking they have missed the boat with all those great women/men and suddenly they get Desperate. They fall from Player to Desperate, and guess what ??? No one wants to date Desperate. They are just not desirables ... ahhhh the most unwanted trait of all, the one thing we can all agree upon.
No one wants to date Desperate.
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| They look in the mirror and see that old look they avoided in everyone else.
Posted: 11/8/2007 9:11:20 AM | Very true. When they know they cant attract what they used to. And when they know they arent so desirable anymore. Thats when they are likely to want to change. They seem to judge women by their looks or figure and hop from one to the next. But when the shoe is on the other foot is isnt so exciting. They can flit from woman to woman experiencing an emptyness after meaningless sex. The thrills they encounter from these many women are short lived.
They then crave something more. Companionship, things in common, someone similar who will also love them and not change them. When a man has this offered to him, the fool is the one who passes this chance up. Chases something that will never work out for him, ie bad past relationships, women who have nothing in common with him. To make things work out he has to take a good look at himself and know what will REALLY make him happy. | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| They look in the mirror and see that old look they avoided in everyone else.
Posted: 11/8/2007 11:16:06 AM | Players get played, if you were a real player you would know that for sure. There is an infinite amount of men who disillusion themselves and truly think they are a player. Yes there are allot of beautiful women and they do want you, cause you are so showy. So into yourself that they can just forget about their own issues for a bit and concentrate on you. They are usually beautiful, but desperate ... players spot them and just love to troll them on their arm. Eye candy, arm fluff. Yes there will always be women like those who need players attention to stroke their broken hearts or egos.
If you are digging that, hey player you are. The women you really want they don't want you, your drama, you constant checking yourself out in the mirror. I have lots of men friends, I know allot of player men, friends and all. They are so fun to go out with, as friends to club or whatever. I watch them in action, always chasing skirt ... the one they really want is not the one they end up with when the night is over. The woman they end up with yes may be attractive, but he just could not reel in the good catch of the night. Players really only get the booby prizes, and the next morning player is wondering as he always does ...
That must have been a hell of a night, WTF ... get her out of here before my kids come for their daddy day visit !!!! Hahaha some player.
Just because you are boinking allot of women does not make you a player. And if you think you are playing the game so good, well you aren't quite on the point are you? Because all players say they want to meet the one who will make them give up their playing days. Why are they still players after so many years, because they love the player life? NO, it is because you aren't good players at all, after all you have never even won the game yet have you?
Still playing like the longest monopoly game in history. The women you say you want, they don't want you, that is why you are still playing, get it? They think you are a bore, all about you ... sheesh if you only knew what people really think. Especially behind your back, we're LOL. I tell my friends that too, that we are all laughing at you ... You Player You !!!
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/8/2007 11:18:29 AM | | Real players.. probably not. Always looking to cheat. Player wannabe's will settle down. They never were players to begin with they just tried to be and didn't feel good about it, so they went back to their more comfortable conservative lifestyle. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/8/2007 1:53:36 PM | | Why is a "player" so reluctant to settle down with one woman? Even if he loves her? "The Player" mentioned about physical attributes in people, but what if for example the woman looked great one week and dreadful the next? Would he stop loving or desiring her? Would this make a difference if his woman wasnt all glam and pretty as she usually was one week but the next week she was back up to scratch? Surely nobody would get judged on their appearance if you have feelings for a person? Although it may have been what attracted you in the first place, you have to consider that people cant look their best all the time, even players. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:01:21 AM | What type or kind of woman is a "player" more likely to settle down with eventually? Would he wait until he is older and has aged a bit more, and not able to pull the field as easily as he could in his younger days? Would this be the reason why he would eventually settle down? Or would he be likely to stray again?
Also can a player just have women "friends" with no hanky panky and just a harmless flirt? | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:10:05 AM |
Also can a player just have women "friends" with no hanky panky and just a harmless flirt?
Hi Sassylilbaby,
Yes to your question. I have a number of men friends who are players (or who think they are hahaha), who are only friends, never FWB ... ever. They are very fun to go out with, no flirting though.
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:20:52 AM | | I cant see a player going out with a 51 yr old woman, they arent players there hag bashers | |
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Savona
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Joined: 1/28/2007
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/9/2007 10:46:26 AM |
I cant see a player going out with a 51 yr old woman, they arent players there hag bashers
YOUR PROFILE:
Well travelled, cultered intellectual with dark hair and blue eye's a big d1ck and a marathon tongue seeks beautiful woman for soulmate, for purposes of making ex husband/boyfriend insanly jealous by aquiring jaguars, diamonds and beach front properties, multiple orgasm training included at no charge.
I look at the source and laugh. You are just too ridiculous.
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 8:16:47 AM | oh dear!! Anyway, would someone terrified of commitment eventually settle down? And what kind of person are they most likely to settle with if all their adult lives they have been terrified of commitment or simply avoiding commitment so that they can be free to hop from one person to the next when they want to   | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 8:25:03 AM | I look at the source and laugh. You are just too ridiculous.
Savona
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 8:55:14 AM | > I cant see a player going out with a 51 yr old woman
I can't see anyone seriously going out with a 51 yr old woman.
By their late 30's women become the players -- if they haven't done so already. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 9:01:00 AM | If that's what you hope for, then you're still hoping to domesticate the player.
Why would they settle down when their behavior is exactly what makes women so attracted to them? They have found the way to succeed in getting what they want. They get to call all the shots, are never vulnerable and you know what? they feel safer that way. If they do though, players settle down when they can no longer pull it off. When all of a sudden, they can no longer play...
Only in rare cases are couples mature and confident enough to think "hey, we are a good match" instead of "hey, maybe I can get someone hotter... just like in those MTV videos"
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 9:01:08 AM |
Players only settle down when they can no longer pull.
Players love the chase and when the cahse is over they get bored and move on.
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 10:27:06 AM | | Bohemianbeast: My, you are very wise . Thanks for excellent insight on this question. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 12:18:43 PM | | Do players like women they are "seeing" running after them? Do they get fed up if their woman calls them all the time? | |
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cazxx
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Joined: 8/8/2007
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 1:39:15 PM | | I agree and have seen guys that have played me when I was young wanting to get all serious now they are 30+ and not aging all that well | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 1:51:58 PM | If dating's a game, and I do believe it's called the dating game, then aren't we all players anyway?
Having said that, I do think some people are more enamoured with the game than the end result. I've certainly known a few guys who seemed to get a kick out of juggling as many girls as possible, and one of them now cuts a rather pathetic figure. He's going bald, is still going to pubs and clubs all the time, and seems to end up more and more with young girls who are impressed simply that he has a car, his own home, etc. but they're 20 years his junior. Some guys might think that's brilliant, but I think it shows a lot of emotional maturity and if he ever wants to settle down, well, what experience does he have? Everyone has moved on and he's stuck in his childhood. Pathetic really. | |
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cazxx
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Joined: 8/8/2007
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 1:59:01 PM | | Dont you think though, Mr Louche ,that the real problem is that men need to realise that they age faster than women and so they need to grab and keep a good one while they get the chance? | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 11/10/2007 2:56:50 PM | | There is no such thing as a "player". Men do not set out to play with women's emotions. They set out to get laid and sometimes get pinned down. The trick is to give them a reason to let YOU be the one that pins them. | |
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