| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/13/2008 6:35:12 PM | former player with over 300 women under my belt.
Happily married, with same woman for almost 8 years. No urge to play around, no reason to. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:56:58 AM | I don't think there are players actually. It's a term women have come up with because they allowed themselves to fall in love and get used because they were too dumb to take the time to understand men.
Look, there are men with no game. You know who they are and probably wouldn't go out with many of them. Those men mostly would never cheat or move from woman to woman. Why? BECAUSE THEY CAN'T. They have no options. They're the one's on the sidelines judging men with lots of money or looks that seem to have tons of women.
So...if you're a woman and you're going after a Brad Pitt or someone wealthy, be prepared for what you think is a player because a lot of other women want him too. He's a man with options...married or not. So...from his standpoint, he has a ton of women trying to get with him. Does he "enjoy" some of them while he's finding miss right...uh huh. Because he didn't "close the deal" they called him a player. He'll close the deal when the "right" one comes along, but in the mean time he has a lot of "get me bys" to spend some time with.
If he's married and a handsome doctor for instance, you think that hot 25 year old nurse with two kids and home and nothing going on won't try to take him away from your 38 year old carcus given the chance? She probably won't if he's really nasty looking ergo he can't be a player...depends on how much she wants to live in the big house.
I could go on and on, but feel I've made the point about the term "player" Some of you women simply got "played" but not because he was a player, but because you didn't understand men. Just because you give "all" doesn't mean he fell in love with you.
Here's a tip to help. Loser guys will say "I love you" and words of marriage etc. to trick
you to get what they want. Hot men usually don't. They don't need to. They have you with their first smile or when they look in your eyes. That's their out in the end and they don't want to use it up and be called a liar and a player in the end. They only say those words to women who truly have their hearts. It's not a fool proof tip, but should help if you keep getting played. Good luck | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:09:26 PM | | why would he want to settle down with so many more women today wanting players because their not looking for someone serious? | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:41:08 PM | "Be truthful hey guys!!"
I've known a few ladies who like the chase....like the pursuit...and have actually cheated on their "new" husbands within months of getting married.
So I don't know.... but "ladies" can be players too. One chick in particular who was a friend of my ex was bangin her boss on his desk within 3 months of gettin married. Go figure. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:50:06 PM | A player to a lady is a guy who leaves her for another woman ( or women ). My question is, why did he leave her? What did she do that forced him away? It's easy keeping a man, player or not. Simply be a nice lady and don't turn into a nagging you-know-what.
Why is it okay for a lady to go from guy to guy, but if a man dates other ladies, he's called a player?
If a lady I'm dating says she wants to date another fellow instead of me, I tell her okay, bid her good wishes and a warm goodbye, and then leave, no hard feelings. Why bother wanting a lady who no longer wants you?
And why shouldn't an older man not date several ladies? At birth, there are two males for every female born. Into our early twenties, there are more men than women. By the time we get into our thirties, the ladies outnumber the men. By our forties, according to the US Census, there are 200 single ladies out there for every single man. What goes around, comes around... Ain't life grand?
And no, a player seldom settles down to one lady. Why should he marry? His first wife probably took everything he had and he's not willing to be gelded again. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:58:50 PM | | There are just as many female players as male players out there. They spend their time running around seeing how many bedroom experiences they can notch on their belts wondering all the while why they are not satisfied with their encounter even though the other may have been really "hot". They really don't understand love too well. A sexual encounter is a wonderful experience don't get me wrong, but it pales in comparison to having the experience with someone you really love than with someone you just met. It's possible, but very rare to have such feelings for someone right away so the person will continue running around being a "player" until they realize that they are looking to experience a connection of love far deeper than what they previously imagined it to be... | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:40:19 PM | | We always assume that it is just men who are players..........I have known many women who enjoy myriad partners as well.......I think it is more about personality & values than it is about gender....! Do they settle down? Sure, & then they have an affair....oh! I am being sarcastic now........these forums are truly fascianting. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/15/2008 6:22:06 PM | A player is not likely to ever settle down. I'm not saying it doesn't happen occassionally, but more often than not, it's something he will do for the rest of his life.
What makes this even better for him is that there are so many women who (no offense, like you seem to) want to tame him and make him settle down. So they will openly put themselves in the position to be used to his whims.
In the end, he will not settle down with these women and will move on and continue doing what he does.
You basically have two options when dealing with a player; either enjoy the time you have with him and acknowledge that it is only temporary and/or shared or ignore him altogether and do not get involved with him.
But trying to tame him and make him settle down is just asking for grief. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:54:22 PM | | At one point i was a bit of a player... then i found a woman that made me realize that my outlook was messed up. She was the only woman i wanted.. then fate bent me over and fu*ked us both. Now im happy being with just one person. I'm never going back to the "old ways" again. Oh well. you live, you learn, you love. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:42:03 PM | | Yep, they settle down. When they go bankrupt or are diagnosed with an illness. Suddenly, they become meek little boys who just want to be loved. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/17/2008 12:14:04 AM | Do players ever settle down? No but they will tell you they would for you, so that they could "get" you then move on. I wouldn't want a player not because I'm jealous or envious, but because they might have something Ajax can't rub off. eewwww.
Best of luck to ya  | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 4/23/2008 8:03:20 PM | | {quote}Raphael, very asstute There is something about a "player" that is irresitible to women... probably one of the reasons they are a player. I agree with you whole heartely.. we can either enjoy then or just not get involved... unfortunately... they are so irresitable we usually get involved thinking we'll change then...LOL! Ok, bottom line , women are suckers for the cool romantic type and players are this type! Ain't life grand??? Oh, oops, maybe it sucks! | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 5/2/2008 12:00:28 PM | | i have seen players settle down and fall in love.but as karma has it most got played in the end like the song says i ve been a player and i have been played.so girls you dont have to get back at them karma is something. | |
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| Do players ever settle down?
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:00:17 PM | | players tend to be alpha males. Their nature suggests that they are never likely to settle down as they're ALWAYS on the hunt. That which makes them so irresistable makes them impossible to break. Just like chocolate is SO good but goes straight to your hips...that's what life is about...balance. | |
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