eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 8:16:18 AM | again...another thread to infer that sex is only important to men, when in fact, its just as important to women.....
1. trust
2. communication
3. sex
you cant have ANY relationship without those three things...doesnt matter what order they are in, but if one of those is missing ANY relationship will NOT survive | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:30:44 AM | Several things come to mind, actually more important than sex.
As one guy mentioned, sex is more on the minds of the younger men, and of most women, but as men age ... mature, other priorities take over.
Honesty is the most important, it is a sign of personal integrity, and is a pre-requisite for trust, and mandatory for genuine respect to be nurtured. Communication, based on the three above, is also mandatory, as well as the understanding that intimacy does not simply refer to the act of intercourse, but is an emotional state more than a physical one.
Sex is important, at any age, to be sure, but if the objective is a lasting and solid relationship, it should not be the most important part of anything.
If sex is all you want, get a hooker. The only issues are you getting laid, and her getting paid, without the complications of a "relationship"
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 4:54:52 PM |
Communication!!!
Most of my past relationships have ended because
of a breakdown of communication.
Stop talking to each other about the way that you feel,
and everything else seems to fall apart
communication is the key to success.. that and total trust. you must have trust befor you have love. i can go without sex, but once we start being exclusive and when the LOVE word breaks our mouths, then i would think the sex should be somewhere in there, otherwise we got a problem. sex is a very vital part of a relationship, but not the basis. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 5:02:51 PM | Has to feel strong about me, altho I thoguht that was assumed for any relationship. Common sense is a huge factor. Emotionally open (after I earn it) and full of moral fiber.
As far as sex goes, it's like frosting. It may be the least important and smallest part of the cake, but if given the option of two good cakes I'm taking the one with the most and sweetest frosting. | |
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svj
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Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 33 | |
| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 6:42:16 PM | From an evolutionary standpoint... if that's true, it will spell the end of end of the human race as we know it.
Stupid people will keep multiplying exponentially faster than smart ones, until the only people that are left are the ones that think Britney Spears has talent.... soon after things like fire and the wheel will be things of the past.
Actually, that explains a lot about the world....
Alley, if you want to discuss it, without all the politically correct BS, mail me. Can't tell the truth without getting dogpiled.  | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 6:51:08 PM | | Sex is important for me, not because I'm sleazy or anything, but because thats where the bond is, the closeness, the touch, the sensual connection you might say that only comes between you and your partner. There are other things that are important and sex definately doesnt make a marriage or even a long relationship, but for a couple to have a long trip together, the physical needs to be as good as the emotional. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 7:21:41 PM | | It depends on age, education, sexual experiences and many other factors. You can not generally expect too much from young person (boy or girl) s/he is full of hormone, and it requires time until s/he appreciated other aspects of a relationship. Please try to consider sexual desire a positive thing which stabilize the relationship and give both side enough time to deepen the relationship. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 7:29:35 PM | Basing a relationship on sex is like buying a race car to go to work. I mean sure its fun but for the most part you are going to be stuck in traffic and not get what you want out of it.
Wow, I don't believe I just wrote such a crappy analogy but I guess it works. People that base relationships on sex or physical affection often find it hard to reach a level of trust where they can really be themselves around their partner. Well, at least in my experience. I mean what kind of relationship are you in if you can't stand the other person unless you are in bed with them?
Some people just find it to be such a big thing, too big sometimes. I think it should be about obtaining a level of trust with someone before you get in bed with them. You shouldn't need to have sex with someone you should want to have a good time with them sex or not. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 9/18/2007 8:54:29 PM | | A relationship based upon solely upon sex is meaningless and empty. To me the feeling of intimacy is the most important aspect of a relationship. Intimacy must be built on so many different levels. You must first have some basis to even start the relationship, typically common interests or beliefs mixed with a splash of 'chemistry'. You must be able to communicate openly and honestly with each other. There must be an emotinal and spiritual bond. To me, the sexual aspect of the relationship is a culmination of everything else. It is not something to try and derive the other stuff from. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 11/1/2007 7:54:13 PM | Apart from the fact that men in their mid twenties are hormonal time bombs, very few
of them have developed a feeling for intimacy - it's something women have to educate
men into, usually leading them step by step - a place that their not initially comfortable
being in - but with time, if they are just stunted juvenile's rather then just idiot's, they will
grow into these emotions - and from that you will have a 'Man' who will take care and value being in the relationship as much as you, sex then becomes part of larger experience - not the be all.
Find some-one who respects you, perhaps try out different social circles - as it seems
the one your in is restrictive and full of the 'guys', not 'men'.
The most important thing is Intimacy in any relationship, not in a soppy way, but
because its a fundamental human need to free ourselves from the isolation we all
pay the price for, for being individuals.
Paradoxically we never find ourselves until we are 'In-relation and There for Another'.
So Intimacy is what most men desire, but they have been born mute and deaf from their
own feelings.
I don't know whether this is of much help, but it may shed a bit of light on the predicament of finding a receptive partner. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:08:42 AM |
Apart from the fact that men in their mid twenties are hormonal time bombs, very few of them have developed a feeling for intimacy - it's something women have to educate men into, usually leading them step by step - a place that their not initially comfortable being in... Rather than being any kind of "fact" since you've mixed metaphors and hyperbole with your "fact," this may better serve to answer the dozens of posts concerning why young men pursue women 10-20 years older than themselves...unless it's just for sex with an experienced woman. | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:11:41 AM | Okay, yes you need to talk more and do other things, but sex is important and all this touchy feelly about communication is fine, but if your not gonna sex your man he's going to find another after a few months.
So get use to it. Just like we have to get use to communications and answering :"what are you thinking" and "do I look fat in these jeans" | |
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| what is the most important thing to a man in a relationship besides sex?
Posted: 11/2/2007 8:17:07 AM | Compatibility is probably the most important or else your relationship is doomed.
How attractive you are is also very important. Men love to show other men how well they've done in the dating world. If you are bright, funny and successful that will also add to his bragging rights. | |
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