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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/3/2008 4:45:33 PM | I've heard POF'ers talk about some mysterious "Black Hole" where they believe people who just vanish never to be heard from again may be going.
I think cocytus may be on his way there.................................................. | |
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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:08:54 AM | Let's face it ~ there is no purrfect way to end something shared between 2 people. Regardless of the 'how', it's still gonna hurt either way, right? Oh sure, some ideal situations come to mind, but when it comes to a break~up, there really IS no ideal when hearts/emotions are involved. When it hurts, it just simply hurts ~ no matter what!
I've had endings in all forms ~ in hindsight, I can say I respected the in purrson method more, but at the time of the ending, I don't think any particular 'way' would have made it any easier at that very moment in time.
In fact ~ guess if I really thought about it, (depending on the length of the relationship), cowardly ways make it easier to get over that purrson ... afterall, who really wants a coward for a partner anyway?
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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:33:55 AM | | There are as many opinions as sand on the beach. People are different, each and every one. While there is only one way to draw a straight line, there are 50 ways to hold the pencil and your arm. Ideally some one could sit with you look you in the eye and " I'm sorry this isn't working out or I want a divorce because...." but due to some people's personality confrontation is NOT they're style. Breakups are like spilled water, messy. No one way is univeral, no two people are necessarily the same. I agree, if you can, do it in person, give closure, try to be compasionate for the person you've been in a LTR with. BUT is that possible? My 2 cents, Bob | |
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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:35:49 AM | | I think the best way to leave a relationship is honorably. If you leave someone because you don't share their feelings, the best thing you can do is to be honest, tell them and then let them alone to heal. I have had met men who have not shared my feelings, told me but instead of leaving me alone, they continued to use my feelings for them to bolster their egos. That behavior showed me their lack of honor and integrity and just made it that much easier for me to get over them. | |
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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/4/2008 11:31:36 AM | | I was seeing someone for several months. I thought it was going great, I even decided to let him meet the kids. Big mistake. I let my wall down. The next thing I know is the day we were to go out I get a voice mail. Sorry honey, I like you but Im going back home to Utah. I was shocked, at least have the balls to say it to my face. | |
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| Break up Etiquette
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:23:57 PM | | while I don't have a problem with guys that I talk to on here that just disappear into that deep dark hole, because after all this is the internet and we are all talking to numerous people trying to find the right one to meet (time is limited so a person cannot just meet everyone they talk to) and it is impersonal till you actually meet. My problem is when you meet someone, are dating and then they just drop you for no reason. Makes me wonder if they do that everytime they dont' want to bother with anything. | |
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