| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:09:43 AM | My goodness, after reading this thread, I dont think I ever want to meet anyone from a dating site! That is terrible.
But the thing I dont understand is why did the OP have to stay with this woman once he knew she was safe inside? Watching TV until she woke-up, came to, what ever happened?
I would never have gone inside that house/apartment. For all he knew, she could have had a husband or boyfriend waiting inside, or out with his date from POF that could have come home and tried to hurt him.
I think he should have refused to buy her a drink, he said it was obvious that she had been drinking when he met her. I think he should have left the bar/restuarant, and called the police. Of course that is just my opinion, like all the others here.
As for the guy who was used as a baby sitter. I think I would have called the police, and told them that a lady had left her children alone. Waited for the cops to arrive and slipped out the back door! Both of these women are unfit mothers in my opinion and I agree with the others" they made their choices." It is the children who suffer. The sad thing about it is that if these women survive and dont die from liver disease or in an accident, they are raising children who will grow up and do the same thing to their children. We are all a product of our environment!
And to the lady who finds this funny...It is not! | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:47:08 AM | People, why are you jumping this guy's *** ? He said pretty clearly that she HID her pregnant belly under the table. She knew DAMN well what she was doing (at that point) and didn't want him to know she was pregnant & drinking. He was responsible enough to escort her home - obviously concerned about her...but how much of this was his responsibility? You can call DFACS but if it's an anonymous call they're not likely to respond.
I met a guy online once who said he was 40...had a decent pic, nice voice on the phone. When we met, he was clearly 67 - he was also drunk, and admitted he had been using his SON'S photo in his profile to attract younger women. The bitter, slobbery old fart had the balls to yell "shallow little ****" at me as I walked out of the restaurant.
Lemme guess, was it my responsibility at this point to call a cab for him? Or a shrink?
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/23/2007 8:02:32 AM | cuteanfunsafeguy@ your profile rocks , thumbs up.... unfortunately someone people dont appreciate the kindness of others, you did her a favor by being making sure she was safe. even though it wasnt appreciated by her but thats ok, it was the right thing to do by any decent human being. thank goodness it wasnt someone who would of taken full advantage of her, and gawd knows what he would of done to her, guess she has no idea of the consquences or what kind of people are really out there, I hope she learnt her lesson, doubt it, she'll probably do it again. My friends sister was murdered just a few weeks ago, she was followed home late at night after work and now shes gone. she was a decent, remarkable smart lady, who made a good life for herself, god rest her soul.
people, just take precautions before going to meet anyone, extra precautions, i sure do my life means alot ot me....you never know! | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/23/2007 8:13:11 AM | Wow, since I don't think I could add anything to what has been said about your experience I won't, I'm so glad I've never had a date that bad, as a single dad I have had some women switch off when they were told I'm a full-time dad not a weekend one.
Keep pluggin'
may we all find what we are looking for | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/23/2007 11:28:01 AM |
and she wanted to drive home even though she could barely stand up!
- I wanted to run away screaming, but out of guilt for the drink I bought and her reluctance to give up her keys, I followed her home Allowing a drunken pregnant woman to drive is very irresponsible - how come no one is upset about that part of the story? | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/25/2007 5:33:26 AM | | cutefunsafeguy, I can't imagine anyone hating that profile, it was one of the first ones I read when I logged back in here after two years, and I thought it was a hoot! | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:36:20 AM | Thanks beachchick!
I only wanted to write about a ridiculous and selfish situation that someone I met once put me in. She never told me her situation beforehand and hid her stomach from me when we met, otherwise I would have never bought her a drink. I couldn't force her to stop buying herself drinks. I couldn't argue with her because you simply can't argue with a drunk. I couldn't physically take the keys away from her because she could have me arrested for theft and assault, besides the fact she could have miscarried in her state, if she underwent any physical stress from anything. She would have definitely freaked if the police showed which seriously could have caused a miscarriage. They would not have wanted the responsibility of possibly endangering the fetus either, and would have most likely just brought her home. Is anything happened at all, both the police and I would be facing lawsuits from her. America is the most litigious country in the world, with 80% of all the lawyers in the entire world all working out just in the United States (...that is a fact)!
I don't have her number anymore, don't know her last name or where she works, and I know which apartment community (which was huge) she lives in but not the apartment. I could go back and look all this up. But what if she just has a medical condition, or a huge beer gut, and I called the police on her now? She could then bring me up on charges and sue me for defemation of character. Also, my testimony would only be hearsay and not taken seriously by anyone. If you don't contact anyone immediately after an event happens, it's useless. That is just the way it works, otherwise people can say anything about anyone, at anytime! And what a wonderful world we would live in then, eh? The only thing that could happen now is if someone follows her around and waits for her to get drunk again and then calls the police to investigate. If she is no longer pregnant, where is nothing illegal about her drinking unless she can not care for the child in her present state.
All I wanted to go was meet someone for the first time on a date, which I should have been paid babysitting wages for. I have a life, we all do, and it doesn't include caring for a selfish stranger who does have plenty of family, co-workers and friends who's responsibility is to help her, not a person she met out one night.
If anyone has constructive suggestions on how I should have handled this situation differently, please write it on this forum. I really would like to know for the future. | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/25/2007 1:58:02 PM |
If anyone has constructive suggestions on how I should have handled this situation differently, please write it on this forum. I really would like to know for the future
I think some already have. | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 9/26/2007 7:20:47 AM | Sorry, let me clarify.
Does anyone have any new, constructive suggestions that would not contradict or under-mind all the issues I just wrote about, concerning my story. I'm looking for suggestions that would work with all these sensitive and tricky issues because this is a very difficult situation where we all can't just make simple "cut and dry" statements about.
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 1:36:14 PM | Okay so I dont have any suggestions for you. I think that as people we all do what we see as the best thing at the time and that is what you did so tell all those who are being critical that you hope they in their infinate wisdom get the chance to do it themselves I'm suret they would amke the best decison.
As for the woman if she is on here and reading any of this you need to grow up and get a life this is rediculous and you should know better. Being a mother is one fo the most important jobs you will ever have and it is one that should not be taken lightly. Side note where is the father? | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 2:29:28 PM | hi there noughty littls,hits  now ha ng on a minute ?????? ive just met this lass ???? ha oh yesd oiofff thi ds site ooooooooo kin,ell well im loooooking ror a forien lass ha that cant speak english haaaaaaaa ???? ha just cos your chris wants to be a teacher ????? ive done my exams xx???????, oih i want to talk to a big woman xxxxxxxx yes yes i want you in my life ??? ha blimey am i sure ??? ok darling ok im not sure but im not a whimp xx it would cost me a fortune to arrive at your airport ??? im not CUMMIN only if ya saied i want your cummm down the back.of my throught ha ha my lady in red mmmmmm xxxxxx get some kissessss down ya very sexy throoat ha ha ya cant swallow CUM you greedy ****  :awe ngel: ooops ya noy one of them ?@???,  we haven,t had a xmas cos my little lass is going****suckingvha hac honestlyhe is not a****sucker she is sort of a kearner ok i said a learner ???????, nite god blesss its chris xxxxxxxx | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 2/10/2008 6:50:32 AM | Why is everyone is blasting you for not calling child services or calling the police for the bad things she was doing on this 1st date. Why is it your responsibility to handle her? She surely has family and maybe some friends who must know how she is, why have they not made these phone calls. Why should you be the one to get involved in that sad mess? However, if you do find yourself on another date and you show up and she is already a bit intoxicated you might want to run like hell because she will likely get more intoxicated, and then there you will be with your "good guy" personality taking care of another drunk and I can tell you that gets really old. Everyone on here has answers to how they would have handled the situation but until you are in a situation that bizzare you have no idea of how you will handle it. I probably would have done the same thing you did, you were probably alot nicer about it than I would have been. I am a bartender and I have a very low tolerance for stupid drunks in my own social life, I just serve 'em I don't hang out with them.
Good luck to you man, that was a rough one. | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 4/5/2008 8:56:11 PM | You sound like a very responsible and caring man. Thank God it was over before anything even began. This woman is seriously disturbed and needs help in so many ways. It's not your fault you bought her a  How would you know if she was pregnant and obviously she had no regard for her child anyway.
Poor child-to-be. I have a feeling the children's aid will be taking that child off her hands soon after it comes into the world. | |
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| I met a drunk and pregant woman on a first date!!
Posted: 4/6/2008 1:54:21 AM | | what on earth were you doing, going into her appartment, she could have said you raped her, stole her money, anything, I would have let her fend for herself I'm afraid, she got to the bar, she could have got home, anyway she wasnt your responsiblity, Ive heard of having a drink for dutch courage, but to turn up for a date smashed...so will you be seeing each other again then?....lol.... | |
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