| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:59:29 AM | I know its tough it happen to me its like she has a web and she picks what she want and you to be happy about it love at first site is lust so go slow and make sure its 50 50 it seems that we have to let things take time but keep options open and do go deep at first it can hurt you I have found out too.
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:00:06 AM | i've seen this movie a hundred times on the forums!!! plot goes:
boy A likes girl, but girl is seeing boy B (who is sometimes friends with boy A), but flatters boy A regardless. Boy A says how he feels and girl's answer is the same - seeing boy B but unsure.
the result: lots of swearing and namecalling and no-one remains friends. instead, girl now starts dating boy C.
take the crush as a compliment and nothing else. if she was serious about her statement you'd be dating her by now. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:20:59 AM | The only thing you can do is put your feelings in cold storage, and spend time with other girls. At your age you need to be having fun, not pining after a girl.
Tell her if she wants you then she needs to break up with her boyfriend. Whatever you do, don't sleep with her unless she has broken up with him. If you do she'll string you both along for as long as she can in a eat-her-cake-and-have it style, which will end up in misery for all 3 of you, and particularly you.
Fun good, pining bad. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:37:12 AM |
The OP is a young man (22), he is not a teen ager. His problem is very real to him, just as your problems are very real to you...would you want someone making in fun of you??? Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions?
Not criticising. Just asking a question. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:44:51 PM |  
Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions?
Did I say this at some point?
If so, please refresh my memory, that is not what I believe. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:50:39 PM | And IF and WHEN she dumps her current bf, who she's " not sure about" for you- ask yourself this.
How long til she finds ANOTHER guy, who seems a bit more interesting, hotter, more $ etc, and suddenly- YOU'RE the guy she's with, but "not so sure about".
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:12:18 PM | I would suggest you wait some time and see what happens.
One thing I found out about his website is that people here are very negative in general. They view everybody as a potential cheater unless prove otherwise. Why just look things in positive ways and give you and the girl some time? things will be clear, say, about half a year later. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:30:36 AM |
Naughtical, if a young person at 22 is a man, then why is any woman under 25 a child and/or not responsible for her actions? Did I say this at some point? If so, please refresh my memory, that is not what I believe. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:49:02 AM | First off, forget all of that "once a cheater, always a cheater" garbage. If people really believed that then no politician would ever get elected to a second term. If she's willing to cheat on her current BF with you, it's because he isn't fulfilling her needs in their relationship. And if you end up dating her and you don't fulfill her needs, then she'll cheat on you too. But if you truly are the best man for her then she'll have no reason to cheat on you.
What you need to do is spend some time with this girl and get to know her. Then you can decide whether she's even worth pursuing and give her a chance to figure out what you bring to the dating table. Why would she leave her current BF when she doesn't even know what you have to offer her? Lots of people don't like their job but they don't quit it unless they have another one lined up. Same thing with dating. A lot of people (girls mostly it seems) won't leave the person they're dating until they find someone else.
But you can't let things go on for too long. It's like one of the other posters said; she'll be having her cake and eating it too. You eventually have to drop her an ultimatum. Either she dumps her boyfriend and dates you or you're gone. Then she has to make a decision and if you're really what she's looking for, she'll dump him. If not, then you move on. At least then you'll know. If you walk away right now you'll never know and that can drive a person crazy.
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:43:38 PM | Dont go for it.
From what I hear:
You are her out. the crush part may be true, but she wants out and the easiest way out is to cheat on the current guy. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 1/7/2008 5:53:27 PM | Unless you enjoy having your heart jerked around big time,
NEVER get involved with a women, that has some guy, either
as a boyfriend or even just in the background! | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:53:52 AM | If the bf is in the same town and all, it's tricky. If it's long distance, then it's in the pocket.
If you decide to stick to her, make sure she leaves her bf after a couple of weeks max, otherwise you'll feel used, and she will be in a situation where she can choose between him and you... you're bad she goes to him, then when they fight she goes back to you... believe me some girls (most?) would love to be in that situation.
And you will loose face big time.
Just make sure she leave him soon enough.
Also, expect this girl to dump you for someone else later... just as she did with her bf now. But it's ok, happens all the time.
gd luk | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 8/19/2008 3:16:00 AM | seriously, this has situation has been done to death. need to do a forum search next time.
normally plays out something like "boy likes girl, girl likes boy but has boy2 as boyfriend/husband/fiancee/whatever. boy tells girl and girl strings boy along until boy tells boy2 and then the shit hits the fan and everyone breaks up and everyone gets hurt".
for whatever reason, she CHOOSES voluntarily to be with the boyfriend. behind the scenes, her and her boyfriend have something together which you don't see (not just talking about sex either). its a road to disaster and unless you want to just be her friend and support her, you shouldn't entertain thoughts about wanting her intimately.
i hope you're looking for an honest answer and not someone to simply validate your thoughts that its "worth it". i'm fairly sure the majority of posters will agree that cutting someone else's lunch (which is what it is) ain't a good idea! | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/7/2008 3:06:45 PM | | update on the situation i did take most of all your advices and i havent talked to this girl in over 7 months now she is still with her boyfriend ,me ive stayed away from that situation and have basically moved on | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/8/2008 9:19:35 PM | I have three words for you RUN FOREST RUNNNNNNNNN
dont waste your time kid, its like chasing butterflies in the wind, gets you hot and sweaty and in the end you end up with nothing. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/8/2008 10:52:59 PM | Don't get near someone if they're dating someone else! You're just setting yourself up for drama. If this girl has any respect, she'll figure out how she feels and what she wants with her current b/f, either decide to stay and work things out, or end the relationship and possibly pursue things with you. Why would you want to be the 'other guy'? Let things take their course, live your life, don't wait around, and who knows what will happen down the road! If you're meant to end up together, you will......when she's single.
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/9/2008 5:38:36 AM | | I say move on. She's an idiot! She obviously doesn't know whats he wants. Do you honestly want to waste time on someone like that? Also, how she treats others in her past relationship is an indication of how she may treat you. Do you want to be with someone who halfway into the relationship can't make up her damned mind? There's more fish in the sea. Find someone who will appreciate you and who is ready for you and dump the loosers who aren't! | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/16/2008 3:53:45 AM | You can't sit around and wait for something that may never happen. You deserve someone who wants you and knows they want you. This girl sounds really needy and indecisive. If she's not completely happy with her boyfriend, she should get rid of him, plain and simple. I would keep your options open. If she steps up, breaks up with the guy and wants to pursue something with you, then go for it! For now, don't waste your time. If you do, something great could come along and you wouldn't give it the time of day.
Good Luck! | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/16/2008 5:30:14 AM | | She has a boyfriend. She doesn't know whether or not she wants to be with him? Tell her to call you when she figures it out. She's keeping you on a string for in case the thing with the boyfriend doesn't work out. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/16/2008 5:33:18 AM |
Not saying you did. I'm just clarifying that anything else would be sexist. According to WHOM exactly? You are pulling stuff out of the air. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 12/16/2008 8:46:16 AM | | Yeah, I wouldn't pursue it. Too much trouble for too little possible pay back for yourself. Get her to dump the guy as a signal to you that she's interested. If she doesn't, well, then you know how she feels. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 2/19/2009 12:42:33 AM | grow some balls bro if she really liked you that much then she would break it off with her boyfriend. plus what relationships dont have there ups and downs this is normal. my best friend went though the same ****ing thing for a year until he finally ended it now when you end it they will come around most of the time if you break it off and she comes on to you and still has a bf dump her ass/ i hate it when girls pull this shit | |
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