| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 2/19/2009 3:32:58 AM | Like a couple others have basically said man....
Do you *REALLY* want to be with a girl that would -better deal- a guy? We're not like cars/homes where she gets to "trade up" when she finds something newer and better.
Unless you want to be the trade in of the season.
If she wants you for you, she'll leave her current bf because THAT relationship isn't working and she doesn't know if it would work with you. Otherwise you'd be giving her the signal that she could easily move onto a new relationship and barely (if at all) spend some time in the interim single mode. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/3/2009 2:13:12 PM | | The question is how valuable is the friendship? I am in this very same situation right now. The only difference is we weren't friends to begin with. She made it obvious to me that she is interested, and for over a month now, I've played it "cool". We just talk in a casual manner, and I never bring up the boyfriend, but she hints that she is not happy. She lives a couple hours away, and sees him once a week at most. When I asked her what her weekend plans were, she said with a great lack of enthusiasm "going to our old high school homecoming game." Now I figure, and this is my opinion and my situation, may not apply to you and you may not go this route. I am going to ask her to do something completely innocent, a coffee or something. If she drops any hints, or comes out and says what she feels for me, then I will let it known that I do as well. To hell with the consequences. She is a woman, she has free will, and is not something to be owned. Pressuring her to make a decision is wrong, but quietly being myself has worked so far. If we end up together, sure, she might cheat on me, or the relationship could blow up in my face. But I won't know unless I let my balls drop and go for it. I believe if you find a shot at happiness, you grab on with both hands and don't look back. The only thing in life are the experiences. Good and bad, and you will look back on them later, and you will have regrets if you think you should have done something and did nothing. It's better to get hurt than not know the answer to your "what if?" 10 years down the road. That's what happened to me, and probably why I feel differently than others on this thread. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:49:14 PM | | I had a very similar situation and did just exactly what you did, I stopped contact with her and she basically dissappeared. It boiled down to the "lack of interest" or "lack of knowing" what they wanted, I feel terrible truly since I did like her but I had to do what made sense, not be a wuss or anything. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:01:33 PM | "Best bet in my mind is to steer clear of it all,do you really need the drama.....Or..Just wait till she has been single for a few months before you go sniffin around.. "
Ditto. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/3/2009 10:15:00 PM | Im going to assume English isnt a second language for you, so I have to ask
which part of "she has a boyfriend " do you not understand? | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:24:09 PM |
im in a sticky situation and really dont know what to do about it. ive known this girl for a very long time and recently she told me shes had and still has the biggest crush on me. which i didnt see the clues for a very long time untill now the problem is she has a boyfriend.
This one's easy.
Tell her to dump the boyfriend.
Boyfriend / girlfriend isn't marriage. It's dating. Sometimes, these things don't work out. C'est la vie. There is precisely nothing wrong with telling someone you're dating, "You know, this just isn't working out, so sorry, here's your stuff, have a nice life".
If she won't... walk away and do not communicate with her again. For here there be dragons. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/5/2009 5:40:56 PM | | Oh Wow! I had a similar situation but I found out she was married.She did'nt wear her ring. When she told me after it was getting pretty good between us.That in two weeks her husband was coming from overseas to live in this country.I painstakingly let her go but I have always known I made the best decision.I think I was scarred in the process but I will always continue to look for my partner where ever she is or how long it takes. | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/6/2009 2:19:03 AM | Well, she seems to like you, but she also likes another guy. If she was really into her boyfriend, she wouldn't be telling you the feelings she has for you. But, beware she's not with you which also tells you something. She may not really know what she wants.
You have told her how you feel about her, so now you need to take a step back and see how she responds, if at all. Also, you need to be respectful of her boyfriend as long as she is seeing him exclusively. You would want the same respect from other men and from her, too.
You shouldn't wait for her because she's with someone currently. So there is no point in waiting. If I were you I would continue to date and keep your options open until you meet the woman that you feel compatible with, whether it is her or someone else.
Hope that is helpful! | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/7/2009 12:52:15 AM | | Shes ambivalent to her current boyfriend, and didnt tell you for YEARS that she liked you (or she was dropping hints and you missed them, because YOU dont like her like that) move on, move over, move up, but get outta this one. If anything you will be rebound boy for a month and a half, and then she will meet someone that is the "ONE". | |
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| this girl likes me but has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:43:03 AM |
.. if she ends up cheating on her current boyfriend with you, because she likes you, somewhere down the road somebody else will come along that she likes and she will cheat on you with him. That's what cheaters do in many cases. If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you.
Any man who considers being with another man's woman deserves to be cheated on so its not a big loss. | |
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