| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/20/2007 8:34:33 PM | | I would have no problem. So long as she maintained her loyalty, there would be nothing wrong with it. If I'm attracted to her, it's for a reason, and every aspect of her is what makes her who she is, and so I shouldn't even consider wanting to change a core aspect of her being. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/20/2007 8:38:06 PM |
Would you date a bi-sexual women?
This does not mean that she's going to invite girlfriends into the bedroom, still an exlusive relationship, and there would be no-threesomes involved.
Why or Why Not?
Your question is ambiguous, at best.
Are you asking if we would engage in a long term relationship as well? IOr, are you simply wondering if we would date - as in nothing more than date?
Dating = it's not really much of an issue.
Long term = as someone else stated... you are adding a higher risk element for potential failure. Given the selfish attitudes of many people... I would prefer removing the higher risks, of course.
If a woman experiemented and/or has removed that element of her lifestyle from her past, I would accept that. But, to always have that indecision lurking in the environment.... I'm not convinced it is a wise thing to accept unless you are ok with that element of change and/or inclusion in the relationship. A relationship is somewhat at risk with the possibility she may want to reinstate that aspect of her sexual preference. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/20/2007 9:37:44 PM | No I would not date a Bi-Sexual.
It is strange, because I am very liberal in my
views about homosexuality and bi-sexuality.
I guess I want to be with someone that is sure of what they want,
and bi-sexuality seems...well....uncertain.
Lesbians like Women....that's cool.
Homosexual Men like Men......that's cool.
Bi-sexuals like both....that's cool, but don't date me. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/20/2007 10:51:09 PM | | I think I would find it quite a compliment if a bisexual woman 'wanted' to date me.......... seeing as she has 'twice' as many people she could have wanted to date and still chose me. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/20/2007 11:30:19 PM | | I've already dated two bi women. It's no different than dating a straight woman, except that her girls nights out (or girls nights in) have a slightly different emphasis. If I like the woman enough to date her and she feels the same about me, I'm not going to be discouraged by her orientation. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/21/2007 1:42:26 AM | | I would. I don't believe we choose who we love. That being said I still would expect her to hold herself like a woman and not cheat. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/21/2007 4:20:17 AM | | No' That would just be crazy. Women seem to have a hard enough time figuring out what they want in a straight relationship. If it's exclusive between her and her man then she is not bi-sexual. If she likes women to she is going to bring that into the relationship to. She will either bring her husband/boyfriend into it to keep him satisfied or she will slip around behind his back. Either way it is not healthy in a relationship. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/21/2007 6:28:55 AM |
I think I would find it quite a compliment if a bisexual woman 'wanted' to date me.......... seeing as she has 'twice' as many people she could have wanted to date and still chose me.
Hey peterjol - that's the coolest way to look at it I've ever seen. :D You rock! As for all the other idjits saying it introduces more risk....just because a girl likes both boys and girls doesn't mean that she's a *cheater*....that's simply what you're implying/stating by saying there's more risk. Get over yourself and find your own confidence....either a person cheats or they don't - sexual orientation has nothing to do with it. If a girl choses to be with you, she's decided to go into it understanding she wants to be with *you* and not with anyone else she could have. Unless there's an agreement from the beginning (and with this kind of thing, there should be a discussion of "hey, what are you comfortable with"), then monogamy means monogamy...not "I want to be with you and get my girls on the side". It's common sense, it's communication between adults, and it's personal and private to that relationship. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/22/2007 12:04:45 AM | | omg i cant believe how narrow minded some people can be.. i myself am bi and it says so in my profile and i hate that people assume that means that im going to cheat or that my "female friends and girls nights out" are anything more then just that, same as a straight female, when i have a girls night out i go out dancing n drinking with my friends n maybe dinner,theres no sex involved, just as my nights out with my guy friends same thing, ive been married and in a ltr that lasted 7 1/2 yrs..both with men(not that that should matter) and guess what i never cheated!!!ive had one open relationship, that was mutually agreed upon and guess what, it worked.. but all of my other relationships were monogomous n guess what..i didnt cheat..surprise surprise..i seem to be the one who gets cheated on..weird how that works.. a cheater is a cheater no matter what their sexual orientation and i am no cheater. the only thing being bi means is that im attracted to both men and women..it doesnt gaurentee a threesome or anything else for that matter.for all the close minded guys out there..good luck with whatever youre looking for, just know that you could be missing out on someone who could possibly be your soul mate because that person might be attracted to women too. oh and jst to add another tid bit ive also dated a bi guy and we were monogmous as well..well we were supposed to be n i ended up beong cheated on..but he cheated on me with another woman not a man..cheaters cheat regardless | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:56:27 PM | | During my college years I seemed to find myself involved with a number of bi-sexual females. I think it was more of an experimental time for them. As long as I found out directly from them I had no problem. I don't understand why some people have a problem with there being too much love in the world! Same sex or not, love is love. Any woman who is intelligent, honest, open-minded, non-judgmental and enjoys my company will definitely find I am willing to be a friend. If there is chemistry, then there may be a more intimate relationship. As long as people are happy what else matters? Different strokes for different folks! | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:45:42 AM | | The only thing I could see being a possible problem would be if she ever wanted me to let her bring another woman to join us in bed.........I would find it very difficult to say no and our relationship would probably then become very complicated rather than 'normal'. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 2:24:13 AM |
I would find it very difficult to say no and our relationship would probably then become very complicated rather than 'normal'.
can any one tell me what is normal?
in todays times things seam to be on the go so fast and we tend to loose track on the simple pleasures in life.......
the question; Would you date a Bi-sexual women? hell yes why not? ive have read the replys and there seems to be quite a bit of negative fella's about this thread, i take it they have not been with a Bi girl/lady, or if they have then they had a bad experiance, and are no longer with that girl! well dont you fellas have bad times with a straight girl? ........
i guess this question boils down to the old saying "it depends on the individuals" just because a girls Bi that dont mean she "WILL" be unfaithfull ....... i have known more straight girls that have been unfaithfull than Bi girls,
same question to the ladys would you date a guy thats Bi?.......
in the perfect world we would love to meet a partner, fall in love and be together for the rest of our lives, grow old then whatch them die ....... ask your self this question ...... "out of all the couples you know out there, how many of them are still together that are happy, how many of them have had an affair and are still together"?
OP simple thread mate ....... but effective and great ...... | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:19:40 AM | | My Gf is bi,and I've dated bi women in the past. To me it's no big deal,but then again I've never considered same sex as cheating,as long as she tells me about it. Her being bi doesn't necessarily mean she'll be having sex with other women. It's quite cool going to the beach and find her ogling the same women that you are. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:12:51 PM | | i was reading this as a bi woman wondering about the same thing... i have to say some of the answers bother me... just cause im bi means im not capable of monogamy wow... just cause im bi doesnt mean i need a woman to be happy it just means a woman can make me happy and purely in a sexual way... if someone is bi and looking for a man it usually means (well at least in my case) that women turn her on but cant fulfill the emotional side of the bargin.... if im dating a guy i wouldnt think of being with a woman. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:23:10 PM | I agree with trancer32 and FireKnight in saying
Bi women just seem to be more comfortable in their skin and more confident in their sexuality.
They are absolutely just as dateable (if not more so) than straight women. There's no more to fear when one goes on a girls night out than if a straight girl does. If anything, probably less since bi girls seem to be fundamentally more honest with themselves and those around them about who they are and what they want from a relationship. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 1:27:51 PM | | Well....Unknowingly I have. She (one of my ex's)seemed strait/normal and everything until she went to one party with a girl she met as a friend from another site,.....they went to a birthday party, I didn't go because I didn't know her friend and I just had other things to do that night. Well they got alittle drunk there and some things happened, one of them was that she had some sexual things going on with that girl, and they made out while drunk, and then a few days later she admitted she is bisexual to me and she admitted that on top of cheating on me with this other girl she felt she was bi-curious and perhapes even bi-sexual, so that pretty well closed our relationship there. I still forgave her and everything, I beleive in forgiving people, but I gave her alittle pep talk about this also ect ect. Just yesterday I went to check up on her "my space " account just to see what is new with her (because we are still friends and on good terms and I think she deep down is a great lady and has been through alot and I very much respect her and like her as a friend), and on her account she plainly said that she is lesbian, and apparently on her facebook account it says she is married to some girl also.....sooo....would I date a bi-sexual woman knowingly?.....honestly my initial answer will be probably not!!!!....I mean never say never right, it's about her character that would decide that and what kind of a person she is, but I would like a straight lady who doesn't have any other agendas under her sleeve , who has morals, and who is trustworthy, loyal, caring, compassionate and true to herself. Simple as that.. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:29:43 PM |
omg i cant believe how narrow minded some people can be
Neither can I.
People have preferences. If it's not to date bi women, why are you assuming they are "narrow minded"? In my opinion, you are narrow minded for not respecting a person's preferences just as you seek respect for your preferences.
As I said in a previous post... due to the rampant selfishness of people, nowadays, I would feel correct in my desire to remove as many potentially negative elements imposing on a long term relationship. Just because you, as a bisexual person, are offended by some men's preference it doesn't mean we are narrow minded... in fact, you are being narrow minded.
As for all the other idjits saying it introduces more risk....just because a girl likes both boys and girls doesn't mean that she's a *cheater*....that's simply what you're implying/stating by saying there's more risk. Get over yourself and find your own confidence....
Maybe it's you that needs to get over yourself..... calling others idiots is not a very dignified way to present your case. In fact, it's very immature and suggests you have a weak point of view.
I would interpret you to consider many people as idiots because they don't support you and/or your preferences and beliefs. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:44:03 PM |
There are so many misunderstandings being touted about here.....Bi does not mean Polyamorous, people! Bi simply means that one is ATTRACTED to both sexes, not that they go out with one and *have to be with* both sexes at the same time. Love-on-fire, your girl was confused...you happened to be in a relationship with her when she was finding out that she was lesbian - not Bi, lesbian - everyone else who keeps saying "I dunno, I'd be afraid she'd cheat on me" or "I can't handle her wanting to bring another woman home into the mix"....Bi doesn't automatically denote that she wants a threesome....closed-minded-assumptions...try looking outside of your little boxes for just a minute and think of it more scientifically rather than hormonally. Sheesh. Yes, I find both men and women attractive...I have my own personal rules for how far I'll take things with either (including timing)...I wouldn't do anything my SO was uncomfortable with or might be, even, and I wouldn't do anything without talking to them about it first *in private* (not spontaneously "hey, you ok if I make out with her?")....I despise the idea of the threesome - I've done it before, and it's completely not my thing....if I'm with a person, I chose them - end of story. The more guys bring up the idea of a threesome, the less I even want to consider it.
As to the question of if the roles were reversed, would a girl date a bi-male? Of course I would - I don't like double-standards....besides, if he's bi, we have more in common....as someone else mentioned, it's amusing to have your partner checking out the other guys/girls on the beach with you....having that connection and shared understanding....and I agree with the whole open-mindedness being more prevalent with bi people....but that's all personal experience - I'm sure there's some out there who would be the exception just as with any other dynamic. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 4:55:08 PM | | My-I, I'm so glad you chose me to attack rather than anyone else trying to explain the schematics of how dating a bi person works....and I'm also quite amused at how you chose to twist my words out of context....I didn't say I was talking directly to you, now did I? The only one I directly commented to was Peterjol, and that was a positive compliment, not an attack. Yes, I said "idjits" - meaning in a not-threatening-not-mud-slinging manner that the opinions of some were, in fact, misinformed and therefore idiotic. If you don't have facts to back up an opinion, it is only an opinion and open to the scrutiny of others - hence, "forum". I didn't say that people were narrow-minded for not wanting to date bi people - everyone has preference, and that's fine - that's why we live in this free country....narrow-minded does come into play when people are unwilling to even try to understand where another person might be coming from and dishing out flagrantly hateful words and opinions (not-fact-based-conclusions) and accusations/labels that all people of one certain "type" are going to be cheaters and unfaithful....any kind of blanketed assumptions are narrow-minded and basically stereotyping....stereotyping is what a person does because they don't have the ability to recognize people as individuals, so they group them. I am not offended by people having opinions - it's when they refuse to be open to the possibility that people ARE individuals and have their own motivations, own histories, own beliefs and moral structures and then cast their persecutions on a group as a whole to punish what was done by one or two that I am offended.....oh, and when people chose to randomly attack me for sticking up for a group who is being outnumberedly shouted against....but then you can "interpret" that however you like. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 7:16:34 PM | I date someone who is bi-sexual, we and I say we meaning the three of us go out all the time, it was a little different at first, but I must say it is a very good relathionship. At first it was a turn on and then it changed a they both told me they only became lovers because of the way they where reated by MEN. So I would like to thank the two jerks for giving me the best girl friends I or anyone else could ask for.
So my advice to other men don't be a fool, you can't compete with another woman, but that don't mean you have to be on the side lines either. The problem is with any woman, they just want to be treated with respect and like a woman. They want to cared for and listened to, they do have feelings, no matter how hard they act on the outside woman are still fragil. So why do men act like animals and lie to them and then to make it worst cheat and abuse them mentality? I'm a man and I will never know, but I can say I understand them and why they chose to be with nother woman......
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:09:32 PM | my take on this....
i would never date a bisexual or homosexual woman
that does not make me close minded
this is a choice i have made and this is a free country i do not have to accept that type of lifestyle in my partner | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 9:11:12 PM | No, I couldn't do it. Few men, if they are honest, could accept that. As guys, we think three-somes (2 women and 1 guy) are cool, but usually not in the real world--especially if it involves us.
Most guys are not shallow and we don't want to share the woman we love with another woman.
That's my take, good or bad. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/23/2007 11:47:19 PM | | just because your bisexual doesn't mean your not monogamous or that you want to have 3-somes...i know because I am bi. | |
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