| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 1:31:37 PM | | i am not narrow minded ty, i didnt say everyone should date bi women, i think its wrong to assume someone is a cheater and has no morals if she is bi..thats what my narrow minded statement was about, if you cant deal with it dont date them but all im saying is its just another form of judgement..and i dont like people who dont know me judging me before theyve gotten to know me, this goes for anything, hair or eye color, name, religous background,heritage..i just think its wrong | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 3:41:11 PM | Msg. 1
No I wouldn't. Simply because the bi sexuals I have encountered, usually are not satisfied with the love of one man. They allways wanted that little extra from their girlfriend. More often or not, they dont even realize, or consider the sex acts that they are participating in with their girlfriend to be cheating. They simply consider it a part of the relationship you can't share in. And with that part there comes many more. Most that I've talked to are rather self absorbed and quite selfish, actually. Most turn to bisexuality to satisfy their needs conviently and rather indescreetly, often with an in your face attitude to boot.
Basically I just dont trust them in a relationship, because they tend to wander from bed to bed. Acting more the part of the sensationalist, then a person.
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:43:13 PM | I would date a bi-sexual woman IF she was willing to be monogamous. However, how a LTR would go is another matter. Every bisexual woman I've ever met/known has a different definition of a relationship than I do. One couple I know decided that they can each sleep with someone of the opposite sex, but not of the same (it's two women, each can sleep with men) and it's no problem. I can't deal with that. If we're using the word "relationship", then it has to be truly monogamous with no loopholes, regardless of sexual orientation.
I am of course just speaking for myself. Some people are into open relationships and that's fine, it's just not for me. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 7:53:05 PM | I would totally date a bisexual woman, as long as mine was one of the sexes she was attracted to. 
Actually, I had a bi- gf a few years back. There's no difference, people, except when you meet an ex-, they might not have a penis. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 8:22:49 PM | Yeah, Why not?
Bisexuality has nothing to do with faithfulness. I dated someone for quite a long while who was bisexual. I didn't know that at the start and only learned part way through, but it didn't really change anything. (Actually, she also didn't realize it at the start and only realized it part way through.) In the end we drifted apart do to other reasons. And yes, the relationship was exclusive. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:59:34 PM |
Would you date a bi-sexual women?
This does not mean that she's going to invite girlfriends into the bedroom, still an exlusive relationship, and there would be no-threesomes involved.
Why or Why Not?
maybe.
I might date a girl that has had girlfriends in the past.
but I would not be cool with a girl who needed to have other females on the side when we were dating. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:17:09 PM | Oh my goodness...I would be happy to clarify a few things.
First of all, I am a bisexual woman, with more of a heterosexual leaning. This means that I am attracted to both men and women, but have more of an interest in men. I have dated more men than I have women, and at present have little/no interest in dating a woman. Human sexuality is on a continuum, as I have noticed in my own personal process. I fall in love with a person, not a gender.
Secondly, I feel no need to "pick a side", and as I explained above. I know what "side of the fence" I am on...a human being's.
What I have noticed from the comments on this site is that some men (maybe women too, I am not sure) appear to be threatened by the possibility of a bisexual woman not being faithful. Hmm.
Just to be clear, I am attracted to many different folks, for various reasons. Some are men and others are women, and not all of them are sexual/romantic attractions or with any intentions. Just because I am attracted to someone does not mean I will take any action. For those of you who have been married, you will know what I am talking about. We can be monogamous with our partners and still live in a world filled with attractive beings who we merely admire.
Therefore, the perceived threat that some of you have expressed is only your perception, not reality. At least not for this bisexual woman. When I am with a man, I am with him. No one else.
I hope this clarifies what it's like to actually be bisexual. I am very comfortable in my sexuality, and I have no problem telling people.
Incidentally, no man in "real life" has ever expressed discomfort with my bisexuality. Maybe living in Central California has sheltered me from some other views to the contrary?
Peace & Best wishes to you all...Michelle  | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:23:28 PM |
I would totally date a bisexual woman, as long as mine was one of the sexes she was attracted to. Actually, I had a bi- gf a few years back. There's no difference, people, except when you meet an ex-, they might not have a penis. Hee hee. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/15/2007 8:54:35 AM | | Everyone has some kind of sexual past. Having a bi-sexual past should be no different than having a heterosexual past. The only kind of sexual past I would never trust is having no past at all, unless the person was very young. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/15/2007 9:12:21 AM | So some time ago I was dating this girl... We were laying in bed late at night, just talking like we did nearly every night. She told me that a few years ago she had messed around with girls. She insisted that she wasn't into women anymore... it was just a phase, just experimentation. I had no idea how to take it. It wasn't shocking, but wasn't expected. The girl was a very down-to-earth, well mannered woman of etticute and tact. I did not expect this of her.
Then she went on to tell me that she would bring another girl over for me if I wanted her to. WHAMMMMMM!! I was so floored. I have never been that speechless in my entire life. Most men say they have a fantasy of being with 2 women at the same time. However I don't, and never have. I guess that makes me a bit boring in the bedroom, and I guess we just weren't sexually compatible in terms of our desires. But honestly I was completely jaded after hearing her talk about bringing another women into our sex life. The fact that she brought this up just after having had sex with me really convinced me that she missed being with women.
Anyways, the whole situation left me feeling uncomfortable. I am strictly a monogamous person, and I don't feel that the needs of a bi-sexual woman(or man) can ever be completely met within any monogamous relationship. As a man, I can never fully satisfy a woman who is into women. Just as a woman could never fully satisfy a gay/bi man. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/22/2007 7:44:44 PM |
Anyways, the whole situation left me feeling uncomfortable. I am strictly a monogamous person, and I don't feel that the needs of a bi-sexual woman(or man) can ever be completely met within any monogamous relationship. As a man, I can never fully satisfy a woman who is into women. Just as a woman could never fully satisfy a gay/bi man.
CoolestName...I do not feel comfortable with having a threesome either. I understand that situation was uncomfortable for you, because you were surprised by her admission and subsequent request. I am also a strictly monogamous person. The feeling that my needs are being completely met by a man has nothing to do with my being bisexual. Each couple is unique in their sexuality. You made it clear that the two of you had different paths in that regard. However, this had nothing to do with her being with women in the past. I am not her, so I don't know if she will identify as bisexual or not. What I do know is her wanting to have a threesome and you not wanting it is completely unrelated to bisexuality! You were simply incompatible in that area, because you want different things.
You say you believe that as a man, you can never fully satisfy a woman who is into woman. This is your belief, yet is not a fact for everyone. Bisexuality does not imply that a person NEEDS to be with both a man and a woman. It simply means that we are attracted to EITHER a man OR a woman.
I can speak from experience that a man is definitely capable of fully meeting the needs of this bisexual woman. He was well aware of my being bisexual. This is SO not a big deal, folks! It is a private, personal discussion you all can have with your loved ones individually. And if you are confused, please educate yourselves! Take a human sexuality course, whatever it takes. I don't mean this to be harsh. I am just appalled at the lack of information.
PS. To answer the original question...Yes! If I were more on the lesbian side of the continuum (which is what we're talking about, by the way), I would date a bisexual woman.
Now let's all get off of the internet so we can meet some really nice bisexual people! Yay!
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/22/2007 8:53:15 PM | Very nice post loveserendipitee.
I Have and she was a wonderful woman. Really enjoyed her company a lot. In the long run we were not a great couple. This had nothing to do with her sexuality. I hope that Sara has found someone that really makes her happy be it a man or a woman. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:44:24 AM | Why would this ever be an issue? To me it would be like saying would you date someone who likes chocolate or vanilla. In this case both
Or put it this way, one day you may run into your future soulmate, and perhaps she/he may be someone you have stereotyped as the kind of person you never want to date. Well, all I can say is...you may have already missed the boat.
The more things I choose to avoid, the less choices there are to be had. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 1:56:23 AM | Hmmm. How do I explain this.
If it's for a serious relationship and she's willing to be manogamous (And YES sex with same sex partner IS cheating) then yes.
If it's just a dating, since she's having women on the side then she won't mind me having women on the side either. Fair is fair. just cuz she's attracted to the same sex doesn't mean I am so she has an extra woman, expect me to follow suit. She doesn't share hers & I won't share mine.
I really don't condone it and actually avoid it whenever possible. I just don't need the extra hassles. Dated one who didn't admit it until later on.
Just take my advice, avoid it at all costs unless you want some strange love triangles going on.
Well Except Michelle up above, she seems to be a rarity. A Bisexual being who understands monogamy. Hooray for Michelle!. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 6:16:57 AM |
Just take my advice, avoid it at all costs unless you want some strange love triangles going on.
Well Except Michelle up above, she seems to be a rarity. A Bisexual being who understands monogamy. Hooray for Michelle!.
Wow, that's harsh to lump people in like that. I guess you have your experiences but they are contrary to the few that I know personally. Besides, if cheating is the worry, don't you think the law of averages would suggest that Women overall have more to worry about a cheating male partner than any man would have to worry about with woman (regardless of sexual prefrence)?
I know I'm nuts when it comes to this kind of stuff so take what I say with a grain of salt. But if my wife desired to be with woman while we are married, as long as she was honest about it, I don't think it would cause me any worry. After all, she is my friend first, and as a friend my first desire is for her to be happy and my 2nd is to give her my unconditional trust. If she violates that, its her loss not mine. All this fuss about cheating and stuff is just bizarre to me. To me there are far worse things someone can do to another that would allow me to lose my best friend over. Desire that I cannot fulfill is not one of them. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 7:55:56 AM | | I have, and would do it again. Actually lived together for 2 years. Never got to experience the 3rd party, but we talked about it. I try to limit myself to people with integrity, so I never worried about cheating. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 8:48:44 AM | I have before...she didn't know it at the time but I wasn't surprised when she told me some time after.
We still talk...it's also nice to be able to have a female friend who I can say "Oh man I just saw this hot chick today." and proceed to talk about that subject with.
In the future, I don't care if my significant other is straight or bi. Bi people are not mutants or w/e. If anything, they are more open minded/smart. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 10:17:02 AM | Have dated bi-sexuals (my ex-wife's one), and from experience, I'd say no, not again. I know far too many personally (I work in the biggest place for homosexuals and bi's in the world, lol), and the attitude I run into doesn't match that of LoveSerendipitee here. A majority of them hold the attitude that their b/f doesn't need to know about that piece she has on the side (like for an extended girl's night out that ended up at a "friend's" place) because it's a woman. Granted, a large minority are able to have monogamous relationships (that's from experience and observation, too), but from experience, it's rolling the dice---and I don't like the odds. If she's bi-sexual, a guy's gotta be on the lookout for her activities with other females, too, and such things will be harder to detect.
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 7:54:20 PM | Wowser...I followed this thread out of interest as a bisexual woman and can't believe some of the responses! The assumptions being made that 'dating' or having a LTR with a bisexual woman means that she will cheat ....because she can't make up her mind etc etc...holy batpoop!
and shots like bisexual = bipolar...that was truly low and uncalled for.
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the romantic and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender (socially) or sex (biologically). Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women and may even shift between states of finding either gender or sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.[1] However, some bisexuals are and remain fairly static in their level of attraction throughout their adult life.
Bisexuals are no more or less promiscuous than any other group. Because most bisexual people have had to think deeply about their sexuality, they also may have had to seriously consider the sorts of relationships that work for them. Contrary to myth, a bisexual does not need to be involved with both a man and a woman, nor does attraction involve acting on every desire. Why should a bisexual's attraction to people be any different to those of straights or gays? Some act on them, some don't. Many bisexuals have long term monogamous relationships, others may have a greater number and range of partners. Some may cheat on or deceive their partner as occurs in other groups but many are faithful or honest to their partner. One thing all the best arrangements or relationships have in common is a great commitment to honesty from the start.
HONESTY is what matters most.
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/23/2007 11:52:23 PM | Really Nicebluiz?
It's based on experience and observation.. lets evaluate that for a moment.. You've dated how many bi women? Lets be really generous and say 100. And you have observed your friends and their dating and lets say just what you see around you and thats probably going to give you lets be really generous here too and say 10000 women. So you've got 10100 bi women to base your "additude" on. Lets continue being generous and say that 75% of those women gave you a legitimate reason for your "additude" 7575 bi women and just bi women mind you gave you a reason to have an additude.
According to the US Census for 2006 there are about 151,886,332 women in the US alone. Lets just pic a number and say 2.5 percent are bi 3797158 of which 7575 or about .19 percent. Yep I can see how you would be justified in your views.
I wonder though if we checked out how many straight women have troubles with being monogomous what the numbers might be like. Dare I say it would exceed the 2.5 percent that are bi?
Here's a thought.. just a person as a person by what they do, not a stereotype. | |
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| Would you date a Bi-sexual women?
Posted: 10/24/2007 3:27:36 AM | | Short answer is yes, I would. I'd be careful how much stock I put into it at first. If she's bisexual there's a chance 50% greater chance that she's going to meet someone else that she likes better then me so stay for a good time , if not a long time. | |
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