| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:50:31 PM |
You usually have your finger on the pulse of the action
Oh now that is TOO funny, because I spend some of my non winter weekends taking horses' pulses!( Volunteer vet tech at endurance races! Ya gotta use a stethoscope or heart monitor though...to be official)
Anyway, I do feel kinda sad for the OP. Dating and relationships these days, with or WITHOUT the assistance of the internet, can cause you to want to tear your hair out...
Because, YEAH, a lot of guys are just out here lookin' for a good time. How that makes them "sexual addicts" is beyond me. If you wanted to get downright TECHNICAL, I would think that only a psychiatrist or psychologist with specialized training in sex issues could distinguish a sexual addict.
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:08:42 PM |
So, my question would be, what, other than sex, are you good for??
Now that is damned unfair.
yeah I know we all wonder if the OP had been or at least into the 
but to attack her value as a person based simply on acquired skills like spelling and grammar is JUST WRONG.
Einstein flunked out of school, Beethoven probably had ADD. I personally about go nuts every time I hear our President give a speech( Good gawdamighty, can't they give him a couple of classes in public speaking? )
I hope that YOU never find yourself in a venue where YOUR skills are not "up to snuff", and the judgement is handed down that all YOU are good for is sex.
Yeah yeah I know, address the topic, not the individual posters. But the quoted comment was reprehensibly unkind to the OP. I HAD to say something! | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:20:03 PM | Sorry, I can't help myself, but simple grammar and spelling make posts more readable, and I tend to overlook the ones like this one, because they are so painful to read.
Regarding the issue at hand, most men are not sex addicts, but they do have a healthy interest in sex. OP, you should set your own criteria for what is acceptable and your comfort level regarding sex. Early screening of those outside my personal limits is quite easy with email and IMs.
I am quite opposed to generalizations and think posts like the original one, say more about the individual than the topic. | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:21:36 PM | Swamp Thing: Even your name makes me laugh. God bless you and I hope you find a lady who can end your agony!
All the best.
Irene
P.S. I counted your yes answers and they tota more than 13 -- you have identified yourself as a sex-addict. Try to think with your big head and not your little head! | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 8:23:26 PM | how do you distinguish a sex addict...
they fixate on sex
nothing interests them because sex is the most interesting thing they can think of
they like to think up kinky stuff
and dirty kinky stuff always makes them laugh
they tend to neglect their kids, they tend to cheat because they can't help it
they seem incapable of facilitating love aside from physical affection | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:20:17 PM | Yes yes ..... women like to "poof' for each other.Uh huh.And up north when it's zero outside.Uh huh.Come on now!And they really don't want men looking at all.Ok.Sure.
Listen,I love when women dress 'hot" but honestly the sex appeal lasts for 30 seconds.A woman who dresses classy and a bit less revealing is way sexier for a longer period of time.
Anyway,I may have gotten off the topic.
I am pointing out that our Poodle here is misguided and in her own way insults women.
Read the first paragraph of her profile and try and convince yourself that Poodle doesn't have some issues and instead of looking inward she's making ludicrous generalizations.
It is insane to think that a higher percentage of "sex addicts' roam the personals than other places in society.
Sure,you might find alcoholics in bars,gambling addicts in casinos and pedophiles in church but it is only a tiny percentage.
This is a person who has failed miserably at dating and is attempting to blame everyone else.
She is obviously self absorbed-READ HER PROFILE -and terribly confused.
I've been ripped off a few times on the personals and yet don't claim all women are manipulative goldiggers.You learn and move on.And after years and over 50 dates,perhaps this is not the venue for poodle dog and,as I've suggested several times,she might do well to self examine.
And as a psych nurse,and after reading her forum offal and her profile,I might go as far as to suggest that that Poodles has a mild or sub-clinical form of Borderline Personality Disorder with narcisistic tendencies.I'll even venture that BPD is higher percentage wise in women than sexual addiction is in men.
But my beef isn't with women at all-Poodle baby opened this can of Alpo.As I've said,she insults women by assuming they have no power and further insults men with the sex addict silliness.
And poodles,if you didn't live so far I'd love to hang out with you some night-you of course paying for your drinks and me studiously trying to learn what,with you with your 300 "hits',has to offer. | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/22/2007 9:57:21 PM | oh God, i'm having a ball reading this thread. hehehahaha 
I can do any thing I want to but I just find it a bit sickening to see so many people having so many sexual addictions on these single sites! They are not even concerned about the STDs or transfering it to other people!!!
I only need one special person.
I have dated like over fifty men here and I learned so much more then beofre!
*eats apple and laughs out loud*  | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/23/2007 2:08:55 PM | .
Quite by accident, I think possibly we have found the source of the problem related by the OP. Actually, she tells us what the real problem is, if we wish to dig a little for it.
First, we’re informed that she has developed some insight:
Now I can spot an addict or a jerk from a mile!...LOL They use any trick to take you to bed but unfortunately they were not happy with me because as soon as I see those fake signs in a man, I jsut dump them right away!
Okay, I think we’ve all heard that song and dance around here a few times before. Not much new with that statement. However, then OP informs us how she developed that insight:
I have dated like over fifty men here and I learned so much more then beofre! I learnd that in real life men can not as many as partner as they like to have specially those who have sexual addiction. That is why most of them come on single. Well, whatever. But, the key words we should remember are, “I have dated like over fifty men here.” Because, now she gives us a timeframe for those 50 men she has dated from here:
I have been here for about three-four years now, I think that is normal. I know men date around fifty during a three- four year period!
So, on average, she’s changing men about every three or four weeks. Keeps them around just long enough to start getting cozy, in other words, then moves on to another.
That may not be exactly true but, as related, OP would almost have us believe that she dumped over 50 guys that she dated for at least a few dates because she thought they were either sex addicts or jerks.
Anyone else see a pattern here? I hate to be too inconvenient, but it looks to me like we’ve got the pot calling the kettle black. I mean, 50 is a bit more than just a short term trend, no matter how you look at it. I’m just wondering here, but wouldn’t 50 bad ones in a row give us some insight about the one doing the choosing?
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/23/2007 2:17:52 PM | The grammar police should realize that english isn`t her first language . Unless the people bitching about her grammar and sentence structure can do all this in a second language they should just Stfu.
@ the OP
Whatever!!!!Being addicted to sex has nothing to do with being mentally ill.Besides, who decides if its an addiction ???Not you ,that`s for sure........
"The American Psychiatric Association (APA) does not yet recognize sex addiction as a mental illness;"
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/23/2007 2:24:40 PM | 20. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterward?
Yes, but I felt suicidal before, so it's a step up.
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25. Do you ever-think that your sexual desire is stronger than you are?
No, but I would let it think so if it made the effort.
LOL!! Swamp Thing you're hilarious! | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/23/2007 2:42:56 PM | swamp thing
thats 25 out of 25 ..... get to a Dr right now your really sick man :( 13 out of 25 is a strong indication what the heck is 25 ... check into a 12 step program for sex addicts
..... would that be like a 24/7 orgy????
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/23/2007 6:38:01 PM | Hm she does mean good in her post. I mean a lot of guys are like that. Although, I haven't come across of one just yet. Every single guy that I've met never had any intention in getting me in bed. I usually talk to them for some period of time first and then if sex is all what they talk about then I'll not meet them. Simple as that...
I must disagree though with her. I don't think that if sex does happen between the two people, it doesn't mean that the guy tricks her or something. It means that the girl wants it too. I mean, seriously, nobody can be that naive to jump in bed with someone even though they don't feel it's right, and they do it anyways just because the guy is saying good things about her and such, right? (or am I the naive one here?) I mean if the girl ends up sleeping with the guy, she's at fault too, cause it's with her consent (unless she was raped).
Also, OP, I don't understand what you meant by forced into moving in with these men? Did they literally kidnap you, and tie you down in their apartments and move your stuff into their apartments? Nobody can ever force you to move in with them. If you didn't want to move in with them, you could've said no. If they didn't listen to it, then too bad for them.
Another thing, what does your ex fiance being scottish had anything to do with him being a jerk? I don't understand.... :| I'll leave it at that...
PS: Yah, it's great for you to have written in English as good as you are considering your first language was French. But, my first language was Indonesian. :) It's about the decency to learn the second language better and practice it. :) | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:58:11 AM | Seems the OP may be as addicted to dating as these men who are supposedly addicted to sex. If it was only so easy for a man to line himself up 50 dates perhaps they wouldn't be so driven to feed this addiction.
I haven't been on site for a couple of years. I had to throw in the towel as I was not able to garner even the most basic reply from most women. I could see many men here rushing to (get) sex and perhaps even coming across as addicted because unlike the OP this is their ONLY date! Indeed, with 50 people to choose from I would hazard to guess that most men would be almost as choosy as women about who they slept with. | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/28/2007 4:09:03 PM | I think she is quite right!
I catch them thru conversations. Having sex right away is a very bad idea, I once told a man [ while he was coming on to me] that "I don't have to do anything to make you want me" Lots of men put on pressure and will say all sorts of things to break you down. Just remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It is true that if that is all they want they won't stay around very long at all! That is good --------------- next!  | |
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| How to distinguish a sexual addict from the rest of the crowd
Posted: 9/28/2007 4:17:52 PM | | hmmm i hear you on that subject. I myself just love sex, anyhow, anytime, anywhere. Does this make me an addict? I would be lookin at you as you are hot.....singe. Why do people in this world tend to label others? Nympho, Sex Addict, Alcoholic, ADD, etc etc etc. let people live as long as they follow the laws. People need to learn to mind their own business. Look at the USA and the rest of the world...I ask you for what??? | |
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