| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:30:17 PM | Tensaw12:
To answer your question ... That would be viewed as a bonus ... Like I said money is not nor has it ever been my priority... Integrity, honesty, personlity & values are what counts the most in my book. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:37:33 PM | | There are sometimes things in life that money can't buy. There are people with much money that can be a complete a$$, there are some practically poor who are rich in personal appeal though. I would welcome and enjoy the company of a decent man (one that knows how to treat a woman with courtesy and applies that)even if he had no money to "wine and dine". I don't feel going to expensive places or doing costly things defines a real relationship. I feel interacting and caring about what happens to and with someone has much more long term value. After my last two dating attempts that did NOTHING much I'd be happy with a man that would go for a walk in the park after dinner, or to the lakefront, a night of playing games or just to sit and take time to know each other WITHOUT the tv on. I actually feel uncomfortable if a man makes money any issue when with him. It's like I "owe"him something if he spent money on me. Forget that. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:38:32 PM | | you don't think there are some guys who pay for the take-out?If you have more money than him,is it wrong somehow if you pay for the take out?I'm sure there as just as many women as men with limited funds.Who pays for the take-out shouldn't have any bearing on a relationship,whoever can afford to pay,just pay. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:40:47 PM | | Money doesn't make the man! I've dated guys with money and dated guys with little money. It is all about how the person makes you feel. Plus, I'm all up for doing free stuff on the weekends. There are tons of free festivals and stuff down here. Tell him to be creative. Get the news paper and look to see what kind of local stuff is going on. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 4:43:09 PM | It would depend how attractive he was (to me) and if he was willing to do some cheaper "fun" things I'd enjoy.
I figure there are enough free things to do to have fun once or twice a week, and enough reasonably priced things (a movie, or a game of pool, and then a coffee and nice dessert, for example) to do once every other week or so.
If he couldn't even afford that, well I don't know, to be honest. He'd have to be exceptionally active/imaginative/willing in the freebie/fun realm. It would get pretty old pretty fast if he only wanted to stay home and watch TV. That's OK, too, but not all the time. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 5:06:37 PM | I love how people are saying that someone with money can be an ass, and someone whos poor can be so great...yes it's true.
But let's remember, there are guys/women out there that do have money--and aren't asses.
And there are guys/women who are poor...and are asses.
So it really doesn't have anything to do with money--it's only about money if you make it about money. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 5:21:18 PM | I've always taken care of myself and at my age I am financially o.k. I have dated guys with little money but I will be honest when someone reaches 50 years old and still lives check to check it does make me nervous. I start to question whether he is with me for myself or because of my money. If U feel he is only dating you because you can pay for the food it is a downer. If I know he isn;t interested un me just because of money, then I can be happy. You have to be caregul when you reach my age. When I got married my hysband had bo money but we worked very hard for 30 years to have something.
sadly now we are getting a divorce. All you nice gentlemen out there with little money, I am available but please don't try to take advantage. I am kooking for someone to love me for myself not my money.l
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 5:59:53 PM | I think to sum it up-Demi Moore-Paris Hilton-and Martha Stewart ..date some of the hottest young guys in the world because they already have money. In todays society for most women money is not an issue, however attraction still is an issue. I dont care much about money but looks plays a part and if the guy is not that attractive he has to have money. If any woman here told you that it didnt work that way..they would be blowing smoke up your -know what.
All of these leading women Britney Spears, Tori Spelling, Jessica simpson and Star Jones have some sexy hot guys on there arm. While Donald Trump and other older rich men, have beautiful women on their arms. That is life! So, you have to have it going on physically and be a nice person if you are broke.
If we would be honest most of us go for looks that is what attracts us. So, if the girl thinks you are hot enough and you are nice to her..sure no problem with getting ladies. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:18:30 PM | | I dated and lived with someone who was poor and treated her and her kids with the utmost respect and love and still got cheated on so ah no, I'm not doing that again, the next woman will have to be financially independant. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 6:57:56 PM | I'm honest enough to say that I won't date a man that can't at least keep up with the lifestyle that I can provide for myself.....
I don't ask for ANYTHING financially.... but I expect that we be financial equals.
At this stage of my life.... ( my prime), my struggling days are over. I have worked too hard and come too far to date a man that doesn't have the money to do the nice things in life that we both enjoy before life gets the best of us and we are too old or too sick to enjoy them.
Keep in mind... this is IMO.
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:08:00 PM | Well - I hate to dispel the fantasies and the self-delusions, but from one man's experience - especially after age 45 - talk is cheap and it always comes down to some form of money -- wealth, assets, home or homes, condos, etc., etc., etc.
Women can say what they want on POF or any other venue -- but the bottom line is $.
Oh - there are dozens of different approaches - and as many variations as there are women - but $$$$$$ ALWAYS comes into play in the dating game - up front or later on.
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:17:04 PM | | YES ............... I WOULD DATE A GUY FOR SURE IF HE DID NOT HAVE MUCH MONEY $$ IT IS NOT ABOUT MONEY AT ALL. IF HE IS A NICE GUY ,, WHO CARES ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY HE HAS . IT WOULD NOT BOTHER ME AT ALL. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 7:53:30 PM | Not eveything requires money or more than a pocketful- going for walks, gazing at stars, cooking dinner at home, renting DVDs, etc. However, I would say if he cannot treat a lady once in awhile to a coffee or a movie, he may need to re-examine his own budget and spending habits and make adjustments. For example: Does he buy a coffee everyday on his way to work? Beer every weeekend to drink with the boys? Eat out more often than not? Does he have lots of the extras like cable, cell phone etc?
If he is simply "getting by" has he thought about asking for a raise to improve his quality of life? If he has debt- tried to consolidate and lower his intrest rates?Other payment arrangements negotiated? He should look at lowering expenses or increasing income so he can have a little play money either for himself or to spend on someone else.
Although I agree that he should find someone who likes him for who he is, he should also be considerate in the fact that once in awhile it is nice to go out and have fun etc. ( even if in the beginning they agree to split the costs) That being said.... women should also be cognizant of the fact....if a man has bank accounts of money then to spend $40 on some roses is no biggie, however, if he is only barely making ends meet the single rose that cost $2 is just as beautiful, if not more so, since it cost a lot more to buy it in the full scope. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 11:10:30 PM | Sweetthing - if you don't date women - you have no basis to know what women really say - except for yourself...
Women may tell other women how they approach men and why - but it is not necessarily what the women really say to the men they interact with and date.
I know many men and have known hundreds over the years and the common reaction - especially in the past several years is - Women want money money money . . . .
Until you correspond with a dozen women in a month on POF - with the goal of dating and mating - you know little about what is said or done BETWEEN the sexes.
You only know (for sure) how YOU think...
JoeBob | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/22/2007 11:34:43 PM | Seems to me that your friend's family obligations are as important a factor in his situation as is his resulting lack of "cashola." With that in mind, I'll bet a woman with similar family obligations and similar lack of funds would be more than happy to do lots of free activities with him. Lots of women are in a similar predicament.
On the other hand, if the guy's paying child-support as his price for escaping the doldrums of daily family responsibilities, well, it wouldn't matter if he was a millionaire. He would be very unappealing! Character's more important than cash! | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:00:10 AM | In my experience I've found exceptions to this rule. However, what I really want to know is the definition of the term "financially secure" that I see in many women's profiles among the "qualifications" for their ideal mate. Is this where the bank accounts and wealth-assets come in, or does it mean monetary surplus? Does this exclude men who do have a steady job but, as mentioned in many posts under this topic, don't have much left after bills and CHILD SUPPORT (which isn't a penalty tax for getting out of a marriage or relationship) are paid? I've been at my job for 8 years, pay child support and my bills, and am not a moocher or gold digger but I do have my limitations.
That all said, would someone give me the definition of this "financially secure" requirement? | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:31:42 AM | In my travels I have met many people. It has been my experience that position, wealth or job are a very poor barometer of what you might find in someone’s heart.
I have been show kindness by people who have had next to nothing but were willing and happy to share and I have seen Olympian meanness from some who could solve the debt problem of a small third world country and have change....
Don't get me wrong - if I met a woman who set my heart and soul afire and she happened to be wealthy - great, but if she were of more modest means that meant we had to travel economy then what would be important is that I was with her - not if we were seated in first class..... | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/23/2007 3:37:06 AM | | If he's making an honest living and still has very little money yeah...If he can accept me with what little I have what's the problem..We'll go dutch to McDonalds if it takes getting to know someone. | |
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