| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:30:06 AM | cmsweet.......
There are a lot of women out there that are seeking a man that has money. Gold diggers? Could be. As I am sure that in everyone's life there was a time when they may have come up a little short in the funds department. This is not an indication that they are in dire straights, nor need a woman to support them. As some have indicated in this thread. Son what if he doesn't drive a Rolls, own a Rolex, live in a mansion. If he is living comfortably, and has enough to entertain you, then what is wrong with giving him a chance? | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:32:22 AM | Ugly.......
Amen to what you said. But as sad it may be, there are those that think money is the answer to all things. They think if you don't have money to burn, then you are of no value. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:49:26 AM | I once made my living while wearing a tailored suit. Many women expressed an interest in me. I have also made my living wearing greasy coveralls. During that period, I received little or no attention from women who did not already know me. Should I presume from this that all women are just interested in money?
I don't think so.
If what a person is seeking is truly love, then I really believe another person's bank account would have no influence. If what a person wants is to just 'date,' i.e., go out to dinner a lot , attend the theater, and other entertainments that cost, then yes, he or she should look for someone with disposable income. But in my experience the best 'dates' have always been something simple, like going sailing, or for a walk to look for the first spring wildflowers. Paddle a kayak out to a little island with a pack of cheese and crackers. Find out when the local elementary school is putting on a play and attend.
Maybe what a person decides about dating someone with or without money says more about their goals at the moment than it does about their basic character, doesn't it? | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 10/5/2007 11:05:31 AM | Yes I would. It does'nt take money to date, think out side the box. If you like a person it should'nt matter. I don't mean that he or she should be a bum, but we should understand and empathize.
There are so many activities that won't take a dime to do! Make a lunch, take her /him to the park, I think it speaks volumes! A long drive in the country (LOL) on bikes, volumes again! Question is, who are you looking to impress? If this is not your thing move on! Different folk, different strokes! | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 10/5/2007 11:44:33 AM | i would rather date a guy who was normal down to earth, no assetts etc
than someone who was loaded and would keep reminding me about the fact everyday.
if a guy picks the right women, dates dont have to cost and arm and a leg.
Just my opionion but i think compatibility is more an issue than the size of his wallet.
Although most of us would like a bit more money to live on, my dad taught me one thing " money does not bring you happiness". | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:12:19 PM | If I met a guy that was intelligent, fun to be with, communicative, and had money...you bet I'd date him........but not because of the $$$$! It would be because of the other qualities....could we throw in honesty as well?? I've met several great guys that didn't have much after a divorce and child support.....they are still great guys. Like the saying goes "Money can't buy you love" | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:31:20 PM | My take on it is that its not what's in a guys bank account.. it's what in his character and heart.... Rich spoiled types flashin the cash is a dime a dozen , garish and BORING...
Much more impressive is a man who is down to earth smart, decent guy who treats me well, knows what its like to struggle , not materialistic, but ambitious.. A man who can respect people for themselves , not for what they have..Never would judge a man by his finances of lack therein as I would not want to be judged by that criteria..
A man who has an independent spirit and can support himself though is important..
I never was attracted to "wealthy" types..All to often, I have found them to be bankrupt souls as far as the character..
I dont want ANY man who in ANY way conjures harkens up images of paris hilton or any of the cast from the Hills...ewwww | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 2:16:11 PM | | There are a lot of things to do that cost very little. Most women will appreciate a man with imagination. The key is to show her what makes you, you...Share your passion.. And I do NOT mean sexual here. One of the best first dates I had was simply to see the Philadelphia skyline from the steps of the Philly art museum (the one from Rocky). It was a perspective of the city I had never seen, totally beautiful. What made it so great was his passion for his hometown and favorite view of it. Another was a treasure hunt at an old Amish dump to dig for old pottery and glass bottles to use for a mosaic project. You can always show up with a picnic basket, coffee and pastry or wine and cheese etc. Remember the details, a real basket (goodwill or yardsale) real glassware, no plastic, the checkered cloth (walmart) and a nice blanket or spread(clean,no holes). This is just an example. What you do is not as important as the thought you put into it and that it reflects your personality. Good luck! | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 3:14:47 PM | re sunbunnys lil catty remark:
"Were they attracted to you??? in the first place...."
Not sure why you're all up in my bizzness, lady but since you put your nose in it, duh ..not pulling statements outta my arse ok? Maybe a better question would be what type do YOU attract?
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 3:48:01 PM | What has amount of money you have got to do with dating - its all about the person - not materialistic at all - dont like money being spent on me at all - honest - although I do like to spend it on others if I have it  | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 3:58:38 PM | It's not about how much a man has, but about how he uses what has.
hmmm...sounds familiar. he he 
Seriously though I'd have a great deal of a respect for a man who can't wow me with his money because he is using it to take care of the things he should be taking care of first. I'd know that every penny he spent to wow me or cater to me in some way was very special in deed.
Of course if the guy has little money because he'd rather live in his mom's basement, smoke a bong and playing his XBox all day rather than get a job then yea...I'd not be interested.
Another thing...A man could have a ton of money but that doesn't mean he will spend it on a woman he is dating let alone treat her well. The best dates...the ones that really "wowed" me were not expensive dates. They were thoughtful...very thoughtful dates.
I think there are many guys who go out and get supposed "wow factor" things like houses, cars and expensive clothes to lure women. I've seen several profiles with pictures of cars, houses and even rental properties in them. Yeah rental properties. When I saw that I had a WTF moment.
These same guys will cry and snot over everyone listening about how women are gold diggers. Ummm...if that's your problem you should think about what you want someone to find lovable about you and change the bait you are using accordingly. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:35:04 PM | Well put, i am a women and i agree with you. so many of you men want to believe that we are all gold diggers. i am not out to find a sugar daddy just a good man that wants to spend time not money on me so next time you bitterbutts want to say that all we women want is gorgerous men with money take a long look at your profile and tell me your not looking for a barbie doll. to many pissers and whiner's. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:05:10 PM |
Not sure why you're all up in my bizzness, lady but since you put your nose in it, duh ..not pulling statements outta my arse ok? Maybe a better question would be what type do YOU attract? I don't care about your business......but every time someone says "I am not attracted to wealthy kind of people" means they don't want to have anything with "the type" like yourself
Don't be flattering yourself
Did I state, I attract wealthy kind of guys? nope.... but I can't say I am not attracted to that kind of them....I am not attracted to trashy one - that's for sure. Wealthy guys are the same like everyone else, no $$$ in the eyes...maybe slightly more educated, intelligent and don't showel their assets into your face.
These who do, usuallly "the type, who try to look wealthy".....if you get the difference | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/3/2008 10:14:49 PM | I agree, people are people.......that said, I am strongly attracted to people who take care of me....in return, I take care of them...(this is an ideal, I know).
admittedly, money tends to have a strong positive correlation with having goals, working to meet them and wise choices....it can also be attributed to luck or deviousness....
For me, it really comes down to how he treats me and how he chooses to look after, care for and display his affection toward me and HIMSELF, most of which has little to do with money.
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:09:30 AM | As long as he can support himself now and in the future, it's not a problem. But as a single mom, one child is enough - I don't wish for a grown man I have to also support. But your original post did say he can pay his own way.
As for suits versus coveralls, most men, AND WOMEN, look better dressed up. Most people don't just throw on any old thing when meeting someone for the first time. But a suit can hide a pretty large belly on a man, whereas exercise clothes don't hide very much. | |
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| would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:39:04 AM | I married a lady with alot of money and found out ,Money dosnt buy you happyness!! I know! I walked away from millions..I dont have much now but im Happy!! and what i have is mine and i worked hard for it.
Its nice to know there are attractive ladys out there who dont judge you on what you do or what you have. | |
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