| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/24/2007 2:48:53 PM |
It is possible both on line and in real life. I have a number of female friends, and I would never put those friendships at risk. It would be like sleeping with my sister. Once I get clear that someone isn't available or appropriate as a sex partner, that's it. Doesn't mean I don't love them. I love them dearly.
I have some friendships like this, only insert the words "male" and "brother" and husbands of very good female friends. These are great men whom I love and respect and I would never risk their friendships. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/24/2007 2:58:12 PM | Sex is too widely prevalent to have it become the tool of destruction for a good friendship/etc.
I have always been a little leery of people that lack this basic level of self control.
--Serenity | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/24/2007 3:06:39 PM | | Mixed messages folks. If two people are into each other, than barring extra relational or marital experimentation aside, you both need to be clear and commited to each other. I do not see anything wrong with maintaining friendships and lending an ear now and then. Keep work and play seperate and you won't have a potential bomb to defuse later, trust me on this! | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/24/2007 8:13:35 PM |
Completely different scenerio... my sister-in-law told me about a friend of my brothers who is on eharmony, he is dating and sleeping with 8 women he met on that site and they don't know about each other. This guy easily has earned the name rat bast*** in my opinion.
Possibly the best ad yet for eHarmony ... | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/25/2007 11:18:01 AM | Well of course it's easy to cheat. I can think of 4 different sites that various codes and all kinds of different hacks and tricks to make gameplay easier.
Oh...you meant THAT kind of cheating...
/hangs head
//walks away quietly. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/25/2007 2:21:10 PM | All the Internet does is provide the opportunity to meet a lot of people.
What you choose to do with said people once you've met them is entirely up to you.
People who are inclined to cheat, are going to use the Internet to cheat... as well as whatever other opportunities they've created for themselves. People who are not inclined to cheat are not suddenly going to start cheating because they meet people on the Internet.
In your hypothetical scenario, you could have easily met "Steve" at the bar or at the office. The Internet did not make you two become close. You did.
I am the type of guy who can't even get a *date*, much less get multiple women available to him so that he can juggle them. Even with access to the Internet, I couldn't cheat if I wanted to.
So, no. The 'net isn't any better or worse at this than any other method of meeting people. You could be trolling newspaper personals for all it would matter. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:49:04 PM | What stops some people from cheating is integrity. The Internet won't change them.
What stops some people from cheating is fear of getting caught. The internet has definitely changed that, for the worse.
What stops some people from cheating is -- nothing at all. They already were cheating, regardless of the Internet, or telephones, or smoke signals.
The Internet has made many things easier. You can buy stuff you never would have known existed, or would have had to canvass Chinatown to find. You can organize a political campaign, talk back to your newspaper and be heard, or show a billion of your closest friends what happens when you drop Mentos into diet Pepsi.
If it's made so many other things easier, stands to reason that it's made cheating easier as well. For those who are inclined to cheat, that is.
"On the Internet, nobody knows you're a dog."
OP's argument was that it's created more "slippery slopes." Perhaps true, but you don't have to slide all the way down the slope to the end. I've hopped off a couple of those, even before the Internet, once I realized where they were heading. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:15:08 PM | I agree, "without a moment's doubt, the internet has made cheating extremely easy, just as it has made it easier for child predetors".
I found out, that the person I was dating was also dating 14 - 16 other girls. I was astounded! As a result, I have become less trusting of the opposite sex.
Thank you for asking this question. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/25/2007 10:19:36 PM | I want to know where he found the time to date that many other women. I barely have time to blow dry my hair in the morning...  | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/26/2007 9:13:09 AM | | Well, it's Modesto. There's not much else to do. :) | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/26/2007 9:18:53 AM |
Possibly the best ad yet for eHarmony ...
I could use a little extra money now and then, do you think they'd pay me? | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:02:21 AM | I long since gave up on trying to see multiple women, I will say though that at one point I was "dating" a few women. It was not a sexual thing, I was just looking for the right person and consequently went to a lot of random dinners with a lot of random people, it quickly became too much like having a second job that consisted of driving a fair distance and eating at restaraunts.
These days I wouldn't even consider trying that again, and even though I was completely up-front about the situation, I still managed to tick a few people off.
I just find it easier to be serial in my activities.
--Serenity | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/26/2007 9:50:45 PM |
Well, it's Modesto. There's not much else to do.
Yea, we're all a bunch of inbred hillbilly's with humps on our backs sleeping with all of our friends husbands.
too much like having a second job that consisted of driving a fair distance and eating at restaraunts
You know they actually pay people to do this. So you could have been killing two birds with one stone... dating and working all at the same time. Oh wait my bad... that's called prostitution.  | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/27/2007 4:09:55 AM |
Yea, we're all a bunch of inbred hillbilly's with humps on our backs
I had mine surgically removed when I left.  | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:48:36 AM |
Yea, we're all a bunch of inbred hillbilly's with humps on our backs sleeping with all of our friends husbands. I heard that was only if your friends were second cousins, twice removed... | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/27/2007 10:55:27 AM |
I heard that was only if your friends were second cousins, twice removed
That was supposed to be a secret... | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 9/27/2007 11:03:55 AM |
Well, it's Modesto. There's not much else to do. :)
Reminds me of a Merle Haggard song...
Figures... No one does cheatin' songs better than a Country Western singer... | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:10:23 PM | | Easy to get sucked into thinking someone cares about you only to learn they trick you into making a totally innocent meeting with someone else and then burn you for it. I have never cheated on someone I cared about. There are those who think if you talk to another woman, or meet them for coffee, you are cheating. They can do what they want, when they want, but you are screwed if you even speak to another. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:28:54 PM | ^^^^ Yeah! A man who finally gets it! Now all you have to do is accept it! Totally kidding Cap!  | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 10/25/2007 9:57:44 PM | | Cheaters will be cheaters. That happened before but with friendships at work. Now we can do that anywhere in the world with anyone in the world. Yes the opportunity is more than ever but if the person does not want to cheat they will not. I really don't have male friends when I am in a relationship it does seam fair to me. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 10:12:00 AM | After hearing about these males (None Men). I feel like the extreme exception.
Not perfect, but agree with your account. I moved back from Monterey (After retiring) from the state of Ca. and looking for a long term relationship (No Games or deceit) to relocate there. My real-estate agent sends prospects daily and I know the area well. Nightspots are great, music, sites etc. I would never return. Well, case by case.
I want to wish you a very nice Happy Easter and success in finding the Man of your choice, established Gentlemen are there.
In the Easter spirit; Runningbear | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:43:27 AM | As many others have said, if someone wants to cheat they will no matter if they have access to the internet or not. Although I believe the internet definitely gives cheaters a broader area to find willing participants which makes it easier for the cheaters to cheat. They can do it almost in front of their SO's nose while at home! Not only are there "normal" dating sites but there are all the sexual sites, too. Add a camera and/or web cam and WA LA! Easy! (Cheating to me includes ALL things with the intent of going behind your partners back. Anything you feel you have to hide, is cheating!)
On cheating.....I figure if someone is "looking" or even thinking of cheating, there is definitely something wrong with their relationship. They should either try to deal with that and set it right or end it BEFORE going elsewhere. I see absolutely NO reason for anyone to stay in a relationship they are not happy with to the point they want to cheat. Period.
I have had several male friends that were "just friends". Nothing sexual ever came up or happened. We were indeed just friends. I have had others, though, who said they would be that and then eventually other things started up. That really put a strain on the friendship, for obvious reasons. Those I just had to tell I was only interested in friendship and if they couldn't handle that I would understand. Gave them an out if they wanted it anyway. | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:39:57 PM | I always find it highly amusing when men who are married here looking for an intimate encounter try to complain that they are being attacked and try to justify their behavior in the forums. They seem stunned when others disagree with them, as if they had no idea what they were doing was immoral. They want support for their willingness to lie and cheat from the mainstream and choose to paint themselves as victims of an overly principled society.
................i totally agree. It always amazes me how they seem to think that anyone who is objective to this type of behaviour and betrayal are old fashioned or (as iv been called before)frigid!?!?!?! If you dont want to hear the truth about yourself in a forum or message then dont act like a lying cheating cowardly dog!!! :-) | |
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| Easy to Cheat?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:41:58 PM | | Isnt meeting for coffee with a woman off the internet classed as a date??? hence you are cheating?? or am i completely insane ??? lol | |
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