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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/20/2009 1:55:53 PM |
If they want you to see "the real me", their heart and mind as well as their breasts, they should cover their breasts. It's that simple.
No, it isn't that simple.
As a woman who shows cleavage, I have met many men who understood that in addition to breasts, I have a mind. A man who can't get past the mammary glands won't get past my defenses. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/20/2009 3:03:37 PM | Well personally I think its a combimnation of things. Being a guy sure I'm going to glance but on the other side of things I'm actually more interested in getting to know the person opposed to the breasts it makes worth while. Ladies if you feel comfortable showing cleavage thats your preference you just might get the wrong attention in the end from certin people on this website.
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/20/2009 4:39:23 PM | Are we talking about on a site like this or in the real world?
For example I don't put any cleavage shots on this site because I know what would happen. However in the "real world" my breasts are obvious whether or not I have a low cut top on.
I don't get upset about men looking at my breasts/cleavage - but saying that it's an attention thing is dumb. Some of us are naturally well endowed. Just like some of you guys can't help being bald. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:29:44 PM | women get mad because for one of three reasons,
1) to begin with, we where clothing that shows off our attributes becuase we think it will get us the attention we desire from the opposite sex......the catch there is we are looking for sweet thoughtfull attention, not I want to get you in bed attention (at least most of us do) so when men react physically--it makes us mad and it all happens in that 3 seconds you take notice and we notice you taking notice---
2) We dress that way to get a certain caliber of mans attention and when someone not meeting those standards see's the "goodies" it makes us mad--kind of like putting the good silver out for a homeless guy--its very stuck-up, but a reason non the less.
3) They have self esteem issues an dressing to show off thier body parts makes them feel better and its not meant for you at all..........we are afterall truely from Venus... | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/21/2009 10:25:00 AM | The gal I was with back in 98 had stepped out from her office for lunch. She was strolling down a sidewalk and passed by a younger guy. (She had Ds and it was summer, do the math LOL - no way to hide 'em.) This guy obviously failed tact class, as she actually heard him say "Man, that's a nice pair of t!ts" - so being the bold type she was, she spun around and said with a big grin "I'll be sure and tell my boyfriend you like 'em!" He quickly threw up his hands and backpedaled "No, no, I don't want any trouble!" She couldn't wait to call and tell me that story later that day... little did the guy know that this was an LDR and said boyfriend was a time zone away. 
I bring her up because in this instance, it actually was a cleavage picture that "landed me". Tasteful but sexy as hell. We were an item for 6 months (the distance really did hurt), but we're still very good friends today and we still laugh about things like that from 11 years ago.
My general opinion on cleavage is simple... ladies, if you're gonna show it (or genuinely can't conceal the front porch), just don't be crude about it. (Hell, Match allows you to say "chest" is your best feature.) But guys can tell if you're wearing something obviously too small/tight/low and they'll react just as blatantly. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 4:56:51 AM | I of course have kind of experienced this a few times.So I just stopped lookin at women in public.And the result has been quite satisfying.
I suggest the guys give it a try.Because when a woman is trying to show off her junk? and you completely ignore her,The look of stupidity and insecurity on her face is just priceless.
Seriously try it one time.Not only is it humbling for the woman.((cuz she instantly realises there's better than her out there)) But it is really just hilarious to watch their body language.For any guy out there that hasn't tried this yet.Ya really need to.It's kinda like watching a needy little clown try to figure out why she can get attention | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 7:16:51 AM |
I of course have kind of experienced this a few times.So I just stopped lookin at women in public.And the result has been quite satisfying.
I suggest the guys give it a try.Because when a woman is trying to show off her junk? and you completely ignore her,The look of stupidity and insecurity on her face is just priceless.
Seriously try it one time.Not only is it humbling for the woman.((cuz she instantly realises there's better than her out there)) But it is really just hilarious to watch their body language.For any guy out there that hasn't tried this yet.Ya really need to.It's kinda like watching a needy little clown try to figure out why she can get attention
Angie sitting on her hands to keep from commenting, in a not so nice way, on men who are such brazen jerks, who think all women think/act a like, and who thinks they are all that themselves..or failing to consider the possibility that most women ,when guys they think are creepy look, don't like it. I am neither insecure enough to judge myself based on whether a man looks at me at all, let alone my cleavage, nor to to think it is the only thing I have going for me...it is just one of my better physical features, and , like anyone else, why not use it?
Some men can be such hypocrites..all their whining about how they are visual creatures, and women have to look exactly like how they think they should look...then , whenever a women plays to that , according to them, vital trait...they call her names.
I am pretty tired of the common mindset , that somehow, women exist to please men..especially in any sexual nature. When they start returning the favor...maybe then they'd have less to whine about. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 11:08:57 AM | Ahahahaha I knew some tard would get mad about the sad truth I spoke.((See what ya get for callin me a jerk?))
As a matter of fact I new the person that would reply would try to write it off as whining.
But I'm going to have to call B.S.Everything I said was the truth.And your just mad because you know that women have become some shallow and characterless that the only possible attribute that they have to offer is a little cleavage or a little ass.
Women by and large have used this method((showing a little cheap cleavage)) for so long that their personalities have become stagnant.So basically looks is all you have to offer.
Um,I don't know if your calling me creepy but if you are thats kinda lame.
And here if ya wanna hear some legitimatye whining then read your post.Your whining cuz I said men should quit lookin at women.And they should.It lands me all kinds of women. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 6:37:08 PM | Quite frankly when a guy stares I don't give a shit! I am the only chick I know that goes everywhere and anywhere as myself.. I don't wear a bra .. I believe bras are made for men ... not women. I only wear one in settings that conform.. funerals , weddings..
I live in Canada so seeing the peaks and valleys is a spring, summer and fall phenom.. and it gets interesting in Canada when the snow melts.. you can feel it in the air.. with the first warm day... guys get their opprotunities to enjoy the terrain once again.
I am not really in love with my chest .. I have one .. but I have girlfriends that are in love with their chests and can make half hour conversations about their breasts and their latest accessories ... it doesn't interest me.
I am usually covered in cement all summer or dirt as my passion is digging and creating so.. cleavage is not really in the agenda or an interest in chat either ..
I remember one time jumping into my truck with my mother and I was covered in cement and she said .. oh my .." look at all those guys staring at you" ... a work crew of men . I told my mother .. "that's nice ....I got work to do.. "!!! It only gets to you if it gets to yah.. me I got way more things to do on this planet than worry about whether or not my tits get stared at.
Breasts also have a higher purpose beyond .. their idolarity from men ... they feed babies.. been there did that too. Some women enjoy the admiration of their breasts.., personally I don't give a shit if I have em or I lose em .. they really aren't something I have ever spent too much time worrying about in either direction. If I lost them I would never consider augumentation.... I am not that in love with my tits ... I also think it is a waste of money for medicine that could be spent saving life .. not prettying .. ego up.. just my take.. I do realize some women's identities are caught up in their tits as well .. just not me.
Even if men wore the "corn and bean bag" pants I invented .. where everything is hanging loose as a rubbah neck goose.. I doubt at my age I would spend too much time looking .. but I can't wait til it happens and then hear women say .. " do you think his .. penis and scrotum are the real? " I mean how many guys do you hear saying that they need to get a bag lift to keep the woman happy .. personally if a guy or gal needs specific changes in their appearance for their mate .... then you got a brain dead mother f'er and a real sexual turn off... as gravity is taking us all in the end.. eventually. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 6:48:18 PM |
live in Canada so seeing the peaks and valleys is a spring, summer and fall phenom.. and it gets interesting in Canada when the snow melts.. you can feel it in the air.. with the first warm day... guys get their opprotunities to enjoy the terrain once again.
^^^^^well...I dunno about the rest of you but....my nipples got hard reading this......
I'm an assman so the cleavage thing does not play a role here for me personally. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 7:14:16 PM |
But I'm going to have to call B.S.Everything I said was the truth.
Maybe it is true in your world and with the women you are attracted to...and if you are hooking up with women who you think are shallow and characterless...I feel sorry for you.
Since neither of those apply to me, by a long shot, I don't need to respond.
Thanks for saying I have looks , btw..a compliment is always appreciated..much more so than being ignored or belittled.
I was not whining about men looking at women, can't change that..it's in their nature.
I was complaining about men who have double standards about almost anything these days, I never whine...just an opinion...doesn't affect my personal life at all.
I also wasn't saying you personally were whining, I was saying that you had an ugly, negative view of women, and they probably should be glad you aren't interested. I also didn't say you personally were creepy. All I said is, per the topic, that most women don't like men who they think are creepy, looking at them at all.
Whether a woman show cleavage or not, it is not an expression of who she is at all...just one aspect of her...
And some do it because it works...men being so visual...you have to have something they want to look at? | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 2/28/2009 10:08:10 PM |
Some of us are naturally well endowed. Just like some of you guys can't help being bald.
Only... Better! 
I appreciate some scenic cleavage as much as the next guy or more. It doesn't make me forget that there's a brain right above it, that might be worth getting to know. 'Tis pretty effective bait though, I can't lie! | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/1/2009 1:43:20 AM | I posted this on Myspace about this very subject.
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Womanizer???
Category: Romance and Relationships
I was on youtube today and ran across the video Womanizer by Britney Spears. After watching it, I thought I would write my thoughts. I am sure my thoughts will anger many women and that's ok, feel free to respond with your thoughts. Just please be respectful.
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After watching this video, I realized its the same stuff I hear all the time, its all about men and how we are womanizers. It depicts men as only being interested in sex (or a woman's body) and that is all we see a woman for. I hear this all the time and to be honest, it frustrates me... I guess this video is a good summarization of my thoughts.
Here is a woman setting NAKED singing about men and all we can see a woman for is their body. Now I am no genius but SHE is the one setting naked. This video is somewhat typical, the girls are dressed provocatively and acting sexy and seductive and then complaining that is all guys sees them for and that all we want is their bodies...
How often do you see a man walking around with parts of his privates hanging out? How often do you see men grabbing themselves or moreover, grabbing private parts of their guy friends? How often do you see women doing it? Just brows myspace for a minute or two and you will get an eye full of all kinds of explicit things women do to each other.
Now with all that being said, how often do you hear a man complain that all a woman only notices his body? We generally don't, because we don't present that as our best feature.
I guess all I am trying to say is that if you want to be noticed for your smile, make THAT noticeable. If you want to be noticed for your intellect, then present that. Just don't get angry or surprised if we notice those features first.
If you want to be noticed for your body, like this video, then please don't get upset with us if we notice. In this video, she sings about a man being a womanizer. I beg to differ, I believe its the woman that is the womanizer, the men just take notice.
I also hear that it's MEN'S fault that women dress and act that way. Believe it or not, I have even heard it's because WE design your clothes... Even if that were the case, A woman has her own CHOICE and she doesn't have to wear them. If men were really the designers, why wouldn't we design our own clothes the same way? The answer is simple. Men also have a choice and we generally wouldn't wear them.
So in the end, we all have the right to choose, that is why I am setting here in this chair in my jeans and t-shirt, wishing a woman would notice me for my brains, charm, dedication and so many other things. THEN once we find companionship, she can find out what I can do in the bedroom. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/1/2009 4:49:31 PM | Cew: You are forgetting two things...the biological laws of attraction and men and women are not the same...men don't dress that way because most women wouldn't respond to it? If it worked..they would , trust me...and the same with the body thing...while,for me, and many women, a nice body is nice...it is not a motivating factor..and if you can say with a straight face that for most men , the sexual aspect and attraction is not one of the top priorities...you must not either read the forums, or live in the real world...
Personally, I want a man who both finds me sexy, and appreciates my brain, personality, etc...in other words...the whole package, not part of it...or only it..I shouldn't be penalized for wanting to attract men in all ways...or for acknowledging their visual nature...just like men emphasize the things that attract women...confidence, masculinity, security...
While overtly advertising ones body or sexual aspect may get a reaction you may not want, highlighting those features that men find appealing is just smart ...
And if you are saying that men don't want to notice, or that it isn't important how sexy they find you...then you are a minority, and don't talk to many men.
The forums are full of threads and posts men write about how important it is..and since we know this...making ourselves attractive is wise.
Myself, I don't show enough skin for it to be an issue, really, but, I don't get mad if men notice...that's the point, isn't it? | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/3/2009 9:34:03 AM |
Women only get p1ssed if you're not the guy they want staring at their breasts. If she likes you, she won't get mad. If she has zero attaction to you, she will.
Just like men only get pissed when the woman they are staring at doesnt accept their advances. Then they are a whore for showing their breasts, up until then they were a potential date who had a nice personality | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/3/2009 9:42:00 AM | Tact! Guys should learn to be tactful/tasteful. Never stare or ogle. Give the lady an appreciative glance, then seek out her eyes. Let her know it is "her" you are interested in, and not just the equipment.
If it is just the equipment you are interested in, then look, and walk away! That way, you both preserve your dignity. | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/3/2009 10:33:25 AM | Its human nature for a man to look at a womans body......and unless we have no boobs at all or wear turtle necks 24/7 i'm sure there is going to be cleavage showing......having a date look at you and tell you that you are attractive is one thing....or having a man glance at your cleavage is one thing.....because face it they will.......but.....having a guy staring at your boobs all night on a date is just downright creepy and says mountains about what he really wants.....and its not your mind..... | |
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| Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts?
Posted: 3/4/2009 9:05:31 PM | I don't get upset.....let him have his fill. While he's looking at my cleavage, I am looking at his "open" face and getting all sorts of "cues" from it. That will tell me more about him and if there is chemistry.
Then we work on his head that sits on his shoulders....and the dance begins...     | |
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