| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 9/25/2007 2:36:31 PM | The only thing i can think off, is to kind of agree, all these people talk about how its so expensive, and i don't want to say its not, it is freaking expensive out there
But when i was 18 and got booted, i had to get a job to pay my way or have nowhere to stay, heres the thing that i always wondered, (No it doesn't necessarily add up completely, but i cant fathom im the only person thinking it)
Back 10 years ago, rent on a 1 bedroom was about 450, and minimum wage or wage to sling coffee was less than or equal to 5$/hr, now those kids are making 10$, and the rent on that 1 bedroom is about 900 or 1000$, now that doesn't make it quite fair, but it was never fair, it was expensive when i was starting out, but every0ne told me to get another job or something of that sort, now im not saying its as easy now as it was then, but IT WASN'T EASY THEN!!
Im having a much easier time now than i was then, and even if i was still renting an apartment, my wage has grown alot more than the bills or rent could ever hope too. But like was said, there are good reasons to move home, if you cant find a place without going somewhere you don't want to be, and your parents offer you a place for 6 months to save up or something, well you might be foolish to not take it, but its still not for me. | |
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| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:32:50 PM | Im gonna throw my two cents in on this one and put myself out there.
I live with my parents and it doestn make me feel good to have to explain to everyone that im NOT a spoiled princess who doesnt have to pay her way.
I moved out on my own before graduating highschool, worked, payed my own way, had a crap appartment and made it to college without handouts. Four years later, I ended up in a bad roomate situation, my best friend ended up being a control freak, I needed out. Dads rent was cheap.
So here I am at Dads, making car payments and student loan payments. So is it less responsible of me to live where its cheap and take care of finances or should I prove myself to the world and pay insane rent so that a boy might like me more when I say, I live alone\with roomies.
Trust me no one is covering my cell phone bill or picking up my special shampoo.... but me. I am looking for oppportunities to move out again but I will not move in with random people.
So I guess after all that ranting, my point is, you cant judge based on the single statement I live with my parents. You need to get a little deeper than that. | |
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| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 9/25/2007 9:59:43 PM | Student loans etc. are not a new thing.....
The rental increase in Alberta? Also, not a new thing.
I remember when I moved out, it was like heaven to hell.... My parents had ALL 15 channels (lol), and I only had the basic 4.. What did I do? Stayed home and listened to the radio or chatted on the phone with friends. (fricken PARTIED when I had the money) ... OH!! And I lived in McMurray at the time... the HIGHEST rents in Canada then.
The "breakaway" from the parents is the goal. Independence. Budgeting, and relying on ONESELF. If you need to room with someone, then so be it.... Do whatcha gotta do to get your OWN.
Forget about the cost for cell phones, text messaging, monthly internet costs, hair dye and makeup, booze... etc...etc...
Just do it... It's amazing the self respect you gain for yourself, and by others, when you SHOW them you can do it.
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| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 9/26/2007 10:01:41 AM | If it was just my mom at home, I would happily live with her. We've done that before, I pay her rent, kept the house clean, bought half the groceries and she was happy with it. It was a good deal, I was taking my first year of college and working full time. I was also reluctant to leave when she was single because she always seemed so lonely. I also ended up moving in with her again over the summer, my old place flooded and couldn't find a new place right away. I know I'm always welcome there, my brother and I have both crashed with her when we needed too.
On the other hand, I'm pretty independant. I always felt a little depressed that I was living with my mom, even if it was necessary at the time. And bringing guys home...never, nada, don't even think about it.
But don't be confused. There are a lot of cool chicks out there who live with their parents for one reason or other and they are not flakes in any way. There are also a lot of people who are 'living on their own' when in reality they still get their rent paid for by mommy and daddy and they deposit money into their account so they can buy groceries...ect ect.
Take a look at the person, talk to them, get to know their views of life, that is the best way to judge someone, not by their living situation. But I totally understand, have known a few people still tied to the apron strings, its annoying as h3ll. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2007 9:30:49 PM | | well. there are also some girls out there who only live at home to help their parents out.. Its not only because they're living in some "fantasy world" There are some circumstances that keep people living at home. did you bother to find out why they where still there? or did you jump to conclusions? Yah I'll agree a lot of the time it is due to lazyness but theres also legit reasons! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 6:09:10 AM | I lived at home until I was 36. It was expensive to go to university and there was no point in taking student loans to pay rent. I did take time off in between degrees and worked for a few years at a time.
There is this idea that (in the case of women) we are "princesses" or live in some fantasy world and spend out money on clothes, partying and games. How silly! Our world is the same place and its just as hard. There are valid reasons why single people live at home and if my mom's place had been bigger, I would still be there. I now have this money pit called a house that I cant maintain alone and I am home enough only to sleep in. I dont see what I have gained by moving out. I am (and always was) self-sufficient and took care of myself even though I was at home. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 2:22:09 PM | | I don't have any problems with people who stilll live at home as far as they are not kind of crazy spoiled prince/ss. I'm 22 and I'm independent. My parents are both prosperous business owners and always say they would buy me a whatever car I want "IF" I came back home. That's not gonna happen. I drive a $1200 car, and I'm so happy. As other people have said, if sometimes there are some kind of circumstances that prevent people from moving out, OK, Otherwise, I think it's just ridiculous. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2007 8:23:07 PM | Good for you, show,s gumpshoun. Did you get tyres with that $1200 car, how about a stereo , just kiding, my first car i paid $50, and had no brakes but that was before we had to stop for ppl. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 1:14:40 PM | cheapern burial and the cheques keep rollin in. hell the gov would just keep it. and after you set out pans of vinegar the odor is more than tolerable[ better than live old people smell] the cats are fed and the dog does'nt need fancy milkbone to clean his teeth. its a nice thing.[ did not read thread as did not care to] | |
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| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 10/12/2007 5:47:17 PM | I have a friend that is 37 years old - and she lives with her mom - why? Because her mom is on disability - and she doesn't earn enough to live alone in this so called 'boom' of sky high rents. So my friend is the bread winner of the family - and its just easier on both of them.
I dated a guy that was in the same position. He was an only child, his dad left when he was a kid - his mom was ill and couldn't work - so he lived with her until he was about 34 - taking care of her (she found herself a boyfriend that cares for her, and after about two years of dating - they moved in together).
So there are other reasons for people still living 'at home'. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 6:02:22 PM | We have the highest inflation rates across all of North America. This means that the average person living in Edmonton cannot afford it on their own. The salaries are not keeping up to that inflation, purchasing a house is too expensive for the average individual, starting at 400 000.00 and not enough affordable rental property for those coming here to work. Corporations and Oil industries are making the money but the empolyees are not receiving the benefits. Sad but true.
I would estimate a lot of people living with parents to try to get a head start in life. More and more middle aged adults are taking care of their parents as well, referred to as the Sandwhich Generation. There is nothing wrong with helping family out, it has been going on for years and years, as long as no one is taking advantage of it. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2007 2:10:01 AM | My two cents worth:
Survival. It should be a natural instinct in all people to survive, no matter their circumstances. However they choose to survive is up to them, and if that means one goes home to mom and dad, so be it, provided they are making an honest attempt to get back on their feet and get back out on their own. I have been without my own place enough times in my life to know that if mom had been closer (she's in edmonton, and at the time, i was in calgary), that the door was probably open...for a price... and it was open a few years ago when I lost my job, but at a price... and I was asked constantly when I was moving out. I have student loans, a truck loan, and couldn't have saved up enough for a down payment on my condo had it not been for my mom. But did she help by giving me money? NO. She merely provided a solid foundation for me to stop, catch my breath, and get back on track (the warm bed and 3 squares a day didn't hurt either).
As for me dating someone who lives with his parents, I would have to ask what the circumstances were to send him back to mom and dad's and go from there. | |
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| People who still live with their parents.
Posted: 11/23/2007 8:12:01 AM | You all have talked about dating the one living at home with a parent. What about
dating the parent who still has a 22 year old daughter living at home???
No... not in university.. has a job, a boyfriend of 4 years and a new car and all. Can you say... princess has it made? you betcha! oh and yes.. she interferred all the time.. for almost 6 months. Did it cause problems???? duh.
So you see.. the dilema can work both ways... | |
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Posted: 11/23/2007 3:09:28 PM | i just helped a friend move out from their folks place .... man the transistion of stress they were going through has gone. I guess some ppl are in situations where they have no choice but to tough it out with the folks. I did the same thing to move back home when i opened up my own business ( i needed all the assistaance i could get until i was able to move oput on my own ). i have no problem doing it agian ( i like the idea of being pampered )  | |
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Posted: 11/23/2007 7:15:44 PM | | I know someone who is in her late 30's and still lives with her mom and her mom's husband. She pays half for everything. Is that strange...not really! It works for her. It is much cheaper for her and her daughter. I would do it if I could!! | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 8:52:43 PM | | Everyone needs to live on their own for a few years of their life, no parents and no roomates...all on their own. It builds character, teaches responsibility, and strengthens independence. Cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing and other domestic skills are a neccesity in life if you want to be independent... | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 9:17:30 PM | I live at home with my parents.
I lived on my own for a couple years when I went to school in Pennsylvania but had to come home because my health got the better of me.
I'd love to live on my own but right now I can't afford to pay for my car, student loans, etc on the $17 I make an hour.
Coming home really sucked but it's been somewhat of a blessing on my health because unfortunately I need help sometimes. To work all day and then come home and deal with household things would exhaust me. Has it lost me relationships? Oh yeah, and it's pissed me off. I don't see why I don't deserve a chance because I live at home. Yeah, it seems like I'm lazy but I've had my fair share of experiences and had to grow up at a pretty young age.
I think you should find out WHY they still live at home before you write them off. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2007 11:02:51 PM | I don't understand why someone who is considered to be an adult would want to live with their parents! I couldn't wait to get out! I think I moved out the weekend after I graduated from high school! LOL I do understand though under some circumstances it does happen.
When people move out at a younger age like I was I think it makes them grow up a lot faster. From what I have seen, people my age that are still living with their parents are immature and still into the party scene way too much! Heck, I owned my own house by the time I was 21! But really, it all boils down to the fact that if Mom and Dad don't push you to move out, why would you leave the comfort of having everything paid for and the stability that they will bail you out of almost any situation? | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 5:00:35 PM | | if you're going to judge me because i happen to still live at home with my parents because i'm saving for my own place... then you're not someone i want to know in the first place. that is the most shallow thing i've heard in a very long time. the price of rent in the foothills (where i work) is CRAZY expensive and i don't make all that much money. however i am saving and i am working towards my own place... but for the time being i'm at home with the parents. i'm not living in a fantasy world... i'm trying to get on my own two feet and it takes a lot of money to make that happen. living in a fantasy world is thinking you're going to get a place to live for a reasonable rate these days. i could rent a basement****oach suite and still pay unrealistic rent for it... but why? when i can stay with my parents, raise my money and find a nice place to OWN later on down the road. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 5:15:20 PM | I think if someone has various reasons, whether to save for their own place, to help parents that may require some special needs that is perfectly fine to live with them. I think the only time where it would be rather crappy is if either the parent or the son/daughter is abusing from it.
I gota say however from a dating point of view that if i was to date a woman that was living with her parents that it could lead to some funny situations. I mean if you date someone and stay overnight at her place. It can be rather uncomfortable, depending how your relations with the parents are. I know i used to date this girl when i was back east in the army and of course i didnt really have a place of my own because i would only come home during the weekend back in Montreal and as such i was more or less staying at an aunt/uncle place. I know it would make THEM uncomfortable when i had her overnight.
So from the dating point of view it can be rather odd, but i wouldnt say impossible. As long as her dad isnt making you sleep on the couch and standing guard by his daughter's bedroom with a loaded 12 gauge shotgun.... | |
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Posted: 11/29/2007 5:36:51 PM | OP - why is it you continue to date these type of girls...instead of real women...not sure...but if the parents are ok with it...and it is working for the parties involved...not sure where there would be a problem....you just have to make different choices in who you date maybe.... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 2:40:37 PM |
why is it you continue to date these type of girls...instead of real women
so if a woman lives at home with her parents that doesn't make her a real woman? i was wrong about my earlier post... YOUR statement is the most ridiculous i've heard in a long time. i think i'm more of a real woman for trying to make it on my own than settling for second best. even REAL women live at home with their parents because sometimes they don't have a choice... and sometimes they're trying to make a better life for themselves. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2007 11:49:56 AM | ^^Here's a Cherry Halls and a hot rum toddy for that nasty cough.
It's OK, it must be 5 o'clock somewhere.
OT- with our crazy economy, it is not surprising that some find it necessary to live with their parents or have their parents live with them.
Almost any living arrangement is preferable to slowly going broke every month or ending up on the street...or (insert best Chris Farley voice here) living in a van down by the river. | |
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