| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/1/2007 10:51:16 AM | I'm am glad I have waited until my 30's before looking for someone to settle down with. Most of the people I know that were married in their 20's and have kids are now divorced. No thanks. Most people are not mature enough to handle the responsibilities of marriage and family that young. Almost every person I talk to that had kids and were married that young now say they wish they would have waited.
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/1/2007 5:11:05 PM | I am 32, no kids, never been engaged or married and very proud of that fact. Too many people get engaged or married to easily then end up with kids they wish they didnt have or cant support.
Having no ties throughout my 20's allowed me to travel the world, take fantastic jobs and have a very rewarding life. I wouldnt change that for the world. I feel no pressure to find a wife and spawn just yet either, unless the right person enters my life and changes that. The idea of having kids appeals to me greatly, but being with the wrong mother doesnt! | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/1/2007 5:50:06 PM | Well I'm a female and I'm here to defend the men described in this post. I put in a defense for one that passed away a few months ago. He was just over 35, never married, no kids and no serious girlfriends when we got married.
We had 12 wonderful years together before his health took him from me way to soon.
There was nothing wrong with my husband. He was kind and caring of others. He could have taken better care of himself but, that's in the past now.
Just because they are over 35 and never married doesn't mean there is anything wrong with them. My husband admitted that before that he felt he was to immature to marry or have a serious relationship. He liked to party and play ball and stay out all night. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/1/2007 6:11:09 PM | Well there are alot of different reasons, sweetnsassy. I am 36 years old I have been married. Was married for ten years. Just reciently seperated. I don't have any kids. But that does not mean that I didn't or don't want them. I really do want to have kids, and a family. I really don't know the reasons for the rest of the men out there over thirty that don't. But I think mine is a very good one. My ex told me that she wanted kids, but after 2 years of marriage I kept asking why are we not trying for kids yet. She told me that we should wait until we turned thirty then we would start trying. Well when thirty came and went, I asked her again. she said that she was not ready. Two years later she Got cancer of the tongue and lymphnodes. Sorry if I didn't spell that right. Well I took care of her for two years. Then one month after our tenth anniversary she text me at work and said she was leaving me. To this day I still do not know why she left. She is still alive today, but she doesn't have much time left. That is the reason one man out there does not have children at the age of 36. You have to remember that a man in my situation is a man that is most likely to be the most honest, and honorable men out there. I don't cheat and I don't lie. I have been a one woman man all of my life. I was brought up by my mother so I respect women to know end. I would protect any woman that needed protecting with my life. And that is a different story. Talk to you later. scorpiosrule. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/2/2007 6:26:39 AM | Just cause you are 35 or older and have not gotten married and not had kids out of wedlock does not mean that you are too picky... could mean that some woman or another took you for a ride and thankfully there was no offspring!!!!
Just cause you can get married or can have kids does not mean that you should!!!
I guess the next question is should you have a relationship with a women who is in her 30's and can't commit to a marriage and has kids...
For some of us we want to get married once... and yes that can take a longer time that is all | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/2/2007 6:49:51 AM | | Easy answer from me...am an ugli git, and no woman wants to bear the fruits of my unsavoury loins. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/3/2007 11:51:57 PM | In my case :
I never felt able to provide adequately for children. When I got married, she was old enough and aware enough to know the increased risks associated with a mature pregnancy and she wanted to protect her healt.... in adition to not being 58 when the child reached 18... LOL | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/4/2007 2:04:07 PM | I'm 31. The reason being why I'm single and have no kids is because I've never been able to get a girl, they aren't attracted to me.
But even if I could I still wouldn't want kids. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/4/2007 3:16:26 PM | take a look at my photo and you will understand
i repel women they run
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/4/2007 3:44:57 PM | sweetnsassy34 , you posted the following;
My ex, I wanted more, not material things, physical things, he couldn't give me what I wanted so I left for something else. He had the choice to give me what I wanted but couldn't.
This comment supports a previous post. What men provide may never be enough for you.
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:13:11 PM | | As a 35 year old male with two young sons that I do not live with and pay support for I can say that any man who stays single into their 30's is making an intelligent decision. It is so hard to find the right person now a days and the divorce rate is so high that it seems the only reasonable option available for men, or women, is to wait as long as it takes to find the perfect person for them. Not a perfect person mind you, just a perfect person for them. I married at the age of 30 after a 6 month relationship that showed signs of trouble right away, but we ignored them. 3 years later we were divorced and fighting over the child. My oldest child came from a relationship of convenience that occurred in my youth. I love my children dearly and would never give them up but I truly wish I would have waited to find the right person. Now I am in the position of looking for the right person while carrying baggage along with me, which makes it very difficult to find someone. My advice is to be smart, be selective, and take your time in choosing the one. Make sure you know it is love, not just lust or a strong attraction, before taking that dive into foreverness. Just a personal opinion. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:14:21 PM | I have a theory...Men become more sensitive and fragil as they age thats why older women are not as attracted to them. Women become tuffer almost like stone as they get older thats why they go after younger men...challenge, sex drive, no strings attached....blah blah blah.
Younger women go for older men because they think there more mature and better in bed, thats half true becuase as men get older like in there 40's they want to feel young and still have it going on with the women so they go for younger girls to provide them that.
Call it irony or sick game played on human nature. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/5/2007 12:58:03 AM | | For me it's that I know exactly what I want in a woman and I'm not going to settle. I'd rather be single for life then married to someone I'm not happy with fully or they not fully happy with me. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/5/2007 5:59:00 AM |
Just be careful of the ones who are over 30 and live at home still
I'm over 40 and I never left home.  Not for the reasons your thinking of. I never left because my parents were divorced and I became the "man" of the house at an early age. I lived with my mother and aunt. They both had health issues which required me to stay. My Aunt passed away when I was 19. My mother passed away when I was 37. My soon-to-be-ex-wife and I raised our son in this house. I grew up in this house and now I OWN this house. It's a good house and I know how to take care of it. I live in a good area with wonderful neighbors. Many of which I grew up with.
At this point, I'm getting a dissolution from my "wife", I'm just waiting for the final court date. Yep, I own this house and she has no claim to it. So, Yep. I never left home. I'm proud of myself for being responsible and not leaving my aunt or mother to tend to themselves. I'm the one that has to look myself in the mirror every morning. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 8/5/2007 1:39:32 PM | How bout...
Late bloomer?
Not interested in being common law married?
Hasn't met anyone worth a shit?
Are shy?
Have standards?
Oh or just part of the 80% non player class of males out there that the women pass up because the 20% players lie better?
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/5/2007 7:50:39 PM | Well, my husband was 35 and no kids and no serious relationships when we got together. To tell you the truth to this day I'm still not sure he wasn't a virgin.
Why was he that old and unmarried? Because he said he was to immature and preferred drinking and partying to getting serious and being strapped down with a child. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/6/2007 9:12:03 AM | | well I'm reading some of the post here and I have to say most are a joke.I'm 53 that is over 30 lol.I'm single because the little woman wanted a younger guy.And now I find myself looking for a mate or even a friend.But on places like this dame people do not even send a pm back saying no thanks.Hard over 30 oh ya it is hard because all the Lady's want just the perfect man and there is no such thing we all have faults. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/6/2007 4:07:46 PM | not lite needed, we just enjoy our own space own company
like both side of the bed & like batterys to stay in tv remote control | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/6/2007 7:16:41 PM | I am 34 and single and no kids my last relationship ended about two years ago the reason it ended after two years is beacuse she lived with her mother who disliked every man since she was royally left after twenty years so anytime I tried talking about family her mother would step in and say that I would end up leaving her she would never commit to a relationship because her mother who is supported by her and does not want to get a job and keep it will not leave her live her life and second reason we are not still together into moving down south .
What I am saying is sometimes its not the fault of men or women there are other factors involved. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/6/2007 7:58:04 PM | From my perspective:
I don't think I'm too picky and I'm completely interested in getting into a relationship. It's the women around here that prevent that from happening. But as the years go on, there is an element of being choosy, mainly about whether to date a woman with children.
I don't do that. I have no intention on becoming an Insta-Father (add water and stir). I'm sure the girl is the nicest, sweetest woman I'd ever meet, but I'm not father material and never will be. I like kids as long as I can give them back at the end of the hour.
True, I have never lived with a female. I have no shame. But I don't live with roommates of any kind and I don't intend to start until I'm married (shyeah, like THAT'LL happen!)
All in all, I think it's just a preferred lifestyle. There is nothing to be wary about. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/6/2007 9:53:39 PM | | Would I settle with someone just because i'm 31? Certainly not!! I'll know when someone is the right person for me. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/7/2007 1:47:39 AM | There are many other things I can do with my life other than get married and have children
The good thing is - men dont have a biological clock so to speak as women do -- so I am not in any hurry
as long as I keep myself fit and look after my health i dont have to worry
so heres to having a interesting fullfilling life
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also there is a marriage strike going on as well - believe it or not , like it or not , but marriage is in decline and it is men that are turning away from it.
The last thing I need in my life is a woman that is going internal ly insane because her clock is ticking loudly and she is looking for a sperm donor/atm before its too late ( as one 50 year old woman is doing in her blog "thespinsterchronichles" - she just now realised she wants a man and babies )
<div class='quote'>Hasn't met anyone worth a shit?
oh yeah and there is that as well
Just be careful of the ones who are over 30 and live at home still
this attitude and outlook by women really is foolish -- what if the man is a care giver - maybe he lives at home because he has a disable sibling or parent and he is the one that assists with looking after that person ---- any sane rational intelligent woman should see this as a good thing -- shows what sort of a good genuine man he is
ahhh yeah thats right -- party boy players are more the desired types now than a salt of the earth man | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/7/2007 2:32:32 AM |
Just be careful of the ones who are over 30 and live at home still
I'd say be careful of how you judge the ones who are over 30 and live at home still.
as the above poster said..... "maybe he lives at home because he has a disabled sibling or parent"... And that can ony be a good thing. At least you would know that if things weren't so good or your relationship was in a rocky period he wouldn't bail, he would be the guy who tried to hang in there instead of bolting because it got too hard.. People are way too quick to jump to conclusions..... | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/7/2007 2:54:25 AM |
I'd say be careful of how you judge the ones who are over 30 and live at home still.
I dated a plumber living in his mom's basement. That was all I knew for a few months.
I found out months later his mom had Alzheimers and he owned the plumbing company. (Yes, he hid this from me assuming I would judge)
He chose the basement so he could look after his mom.
Every man in my past has done or does something that made/makes me love him. | |
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| For the Men Over 30
Posted: 9/7/2007 3:44:28 AM | | I actually agree with Yah Roo. The people it applies to don't necessarily want to hear it, but hey, if the shoe fits... | |
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