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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:28:01 PM | t cat..I agree with you...No romantic fantasies here...Jus joking...Everyone should try a therapist , she helped me a lot: devil: No pun intended A little counseling never has hurt anyone... | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:33:00 PM |
why in the HELL would you come on this site and blaster , I'm seeing a shrink to complete strangers???????????
Why should I be ashamed of it? I'd rather be getting some help with coping strategies and counseling now than climb a bell-tower with my rifle five years from now. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:36:38 PM | Actually that is a very common thing about clients and theraphist as they are in crisis. Their theraphist are their lifeline.. There is a very fine line there to walk.. You have to be there and show that you really care about them but never cross that line of ethics.
OP I stopped by in to give one more peice of advice.. Take you time shop around for you theraphst. I mean spend time figuring out what you want them do for you.. Also if don't click move on.. Even on a limited budget there is alot of choices out there..
Always remember the session is about you and your problems not theirs. Don't worry about what you tell them.. It stays in that room if they have any ethics at all.
Don't be afraid to test your therapist in matters to build that trust..
Trust is a big issue..
Hope you are doing better
happy hunting
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:38:57 PM | I think if they see a therapist, they need to see a therapist, lol.....
Seriously...as long as the therapist is reputable, and not a quack, I see nothing wrong with it. In fact, many people need their expert opinion and help in order to function, depending on what that particular therapist does. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:49:45 PM | Hi Msg#53
I do not know what study you read but my experience as a therapist of over 30 years is different. Although some clients become dependent most clients in the part of the world I live and work in are in therapy from six weeks to about a year. The average length of time is about sixteen weeks.
Almost all of the clients I have seen have reported an improvement in their ability to have a good relationship with the object of their affection and other people as well. In long term psychotherapy the dependence is fostered in order to re-parent the client. But it moves to dependence into independence just as it does when parenting a child.  | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 1:28:34 PM | My son has seen a therapist after 2 major events in his life. I'm proud of the fact that he was mature enough to seek out help. How many people have ended their lives because they didn't find help or didn't know how to get it?
I have had to deal with some major issues in my life like everyone else but have never felt the need to seek the help of a therapist. There may have been times when I should have but didn't. That having been said I don't think that everyone needs therapy as some people have said.
flowerforce you said "But it moves to dependence into independence just as it does when parenting a child" I would hope everyone in your profession thinks this way and not just about the bottom line at the end of the year. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:59:05 PM | | Seing a therapist is fine so long as you do the work to learn more about yourself. You see, people put too much weight in needing to get help. You can help yourself if you pay close attention to what's going on around you and within you. A therapist can help you to begin the skills of Identifying those things. My problem is with those that never seem to break away from that help cycle. We know ourselves better then anyone. Take control back by paying attention to your patterns. If unhealthy seek help to identify why, then make the changes and do the work to not repeat the patterns. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 10:58:07 PM | | I do not think that seeing a therapist is all that important, and I do not think that it is something that needs to be known in the early stages of a relationship unless your partner asks you...I have been seeing a therapist since I was in the 6th grade, and yes it has scared a lot of people off, but the ones that stayed are the better people anyway. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/27/2007 11:30:49 PM | There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. But make sure you see a good one. I've been through plenty, one of my undergrads is in psychology, and I have read many self-imporvement books. But, an open-minded therapist that has extensive life, or experience through their practice coupled with extensive education could be very helpful in addressing concerns with an objective eye. OF course this is on top of overcoming their on issues too.
I can tell you that going from that department from the business department and back to the business department to finish my grad degree was a relief. Because some of those professor's have so many issues that they are crazy themselves. That is why some of them pursue that avenue of education anyway. To deal with their own issues.
I have dealt with some really bad ones, and a few good ones. If everyone had a good therapist to go to the world would be a much better place. | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/28/2007 12:14:35 AM | I had one more thought. If you are on a budget, and your problem is related to your needing to change yourself, there are 12-step programs out in the community that are free, or for a donation. The change does not happen suddenly but over the course of years it changes one's life for the better, and one is able to handle life situations they thought they could never handle before.
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/28/2007 5:24:54 AM | Id prefer to date someone that was that in tune with themselves, recognised a small shortcoming in their makeup and was not afraid to seek help 
Much better than someone that wallows, wants pity, and has no self esteem I say! | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/28/2007 6:29:39 AM |
It's not those who are in therapy that bother me....it's the ones who aren't but should! Good answer, Columbia Punkin. 
i dont think that there is anything wrong with it either but be careful, case study shows that most that start sessions with a shrink tend to get to dependant on the shrink and have less successful relationships!! ndnspyter, IMHO that's not a good therapist. A good therapist reassures you that you are already doing better than you could be doing, but that he/she can help you do even better in your life. He/she helps you to see that you have the control in your life, and the ability to change it, and the skills to find out how. If he's making you reliant on him, then he's encouraging a co-dependent relationship. That's a therapist who's making problems and not solving them, IMO.
FYI, before people saw therapists, we used to talk to our friends. But that was in the day when you could tell your friend almost anything, and they would be understanding, supportive, yet also give you good, objective advice. But not many people are like that nowadays. So we pay people to do it for us.
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/28/2007 6:49:26 AM | *UltimateHeartSurgeon* said everything I would have said about the therapy issue, only more eloquently. And as an African-American, I would add that if your therapist isn't "culturally competent" -- meaning he or she has some experience in or understanding of the culture that you come from and how it relates to the problems you are having, then their advice or counsel can do more harm than good. Been there, done that with a therapist who had never worked with African-American clients, and had no idea that discrimination was still "real" (at least for me). Her being a tall, slender, blue-eyed blonde, she said that she felt that "all things were equal in society, and it MUST have been my misconception." She couldn't even relate to me on a "woman-to-woman" level, because her experiences, even as a female, were vastly different from mine as a female of color.
So, what I would say is if you attend a therapy session, and you leave that session feeling worse than when you went in, that's a BIG RED FLAG......not every therapist can deal with every client, and when a therapist is not meeting your needs, you should WALK.....or in some cases.....RUN......! You wouldn't let a doctor who you didn't trust perform surgery on your body; so if you don't trust or can't relate to someone, don't let 'em get into your psyche! | |
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| What do you think about people who see therapists?
Posted: 9/28/2007 7:33:17 AM | I'll give you a quote I was once told... It's a bit 'off-color' so, feel free to laugh, but it makes sense. "What happens when you have a toilet that will not flush? Yet instead of getting the toilet fixed, you continue to use it, over and over again; fully thinking it will just eventually flush on it's own. The 'crap' starts to pile up. Eventually, the 'crap' will overflow, and basically flood the room. Emotional issues are like the 'crap'. If you ignore the problem and refuse to do what it takes to fix it....soon, you'll be so bogged in crap that you'll have nothing but the crap in your life."
LOL, nasty by comparison, but...strikes a cord of familiarity doesn't it?
Having said that, I think therapy can help anyone who has the wisdom to go, listen, learn, and take away from it all that is helpful.
Lori- | |
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