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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:38:10 PM | Go for it, it might be a little risky and awkward if things don't work out. But you don't want to go through life thinking if only i'd given it a go.
Good luck  to you both he's a lucky fella | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:32:36 PM | | I've had single dads hit on me before. I didn't feel comfortable, however, some people seem to have no problems with it. A teacher, who I worked with, married her former student's father. Teacher and parent relationships can work. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 12:35:31 AM | | I would say if you're discreet its okay. I wouldnt be so direct as to ask him straight out though. I would wait for a situation where you're talking informally before that happens. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 11:27:56 AM | Hi Tara
It looks as though you have more than enough feedback...but I am male, was a high scholl teacher and, where does a guy find beautiful compatible women in the profession....fellow teachers? NO students? NO
I do feel that if a teacher meets a lovely woman, while it is somewhat delciate, it can and should be followed up. I have seen teachers have affairs with teachers, some married, teachers affairs with students, it happens. However this sounds not
only appropriate, but something you must take the next step on. Obviously
he has eyes for you...(trust me on this)
You need to be gentle with your son and his concerns, but you may find he is pulling for his teacher to date his mom.
Ask him out for coffee, or over for a muffin and tea,,,but let him know you are interested!! We guys are thick sometime, especially teachers lol
And it may be a loser date,,,nothing lost but you quit thinking about it. And then
if you never follow through, you will wonder the rest of your life "What if?"
Good luck
Former teacher
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Posted: 10/7/2007 11:40:57 AM | Why would you want to wait ayear? or even a week?
If you are feeling those vibes , then so is he.! .. This is part of a persons ability to comunicate...
Go for it all the way and the heck what anyone else thinks.. This may be your only chance to find true happiness. ... Don't drag your feet.. If you do then another gal will snatch him up.. Good luck.. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 2:31:11 PM | | It would be unethical of him to date you while your son is his student. He does seem very interested, and I do not think you are misreading his intent. However, make this easier on ALL of you. Do not try to follow through on any of this flirtation until your son is no longer a student of his, it would only make ALL of you uncomfortable, and EVERYONE will know... what child who loves his teacher wouldn't want to tell everyone how his Mom is dating him, and worse how he is going to be his daddy soon... etc. See where this is going? It would not be ethical for him to date you. Once he is no longer your son's teacher, it will no longer be an issue. If it's for real it can wait! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 3:29:36 AM | Just had to make a comment here as I find this thread interesting, It really doesn’t matter what this guy’s profession is end of story, him being a Teacher in your son's school doesn't matter at all. When you think about it, the only way to know if this guy likes you is to ask him out, it’s that simple. If he says YES, great, if he says No then move on to the next ten millionth guy out there. Do not allow
rejection and even the mere idea of rejection with this particular guy to impact you emotionally. I’m sure he is interested in you anyway. There is thousands and thousands of men about. It’s not that your unattractive Tara, anything but so what’s to worry. Thinking of this man as a scarce commodity puts too much importance on the outcome, big mistake. If you think good men are scarce, you’re going to treat whichever particular
guy you’re dealing with as if he’s your only chance.
Continually behaving like this could make you unattractive to this man, eventually ;-)
Don’t worry about this particular outcome and have the mindset that good men are plentiful, why worry about blowing an approach? There
are plenty of good guys on the streets, in pubs, clubs, at your local
supermarket even, every day! If your relying merely on chance encounters, meeting men randomly through your friends, schools, work, etc you’re making men
seem more scarce than they really are and giving them more value than
they deserve. Date other guys on this site and you will reduce the importance of this one guy. Be aware of the bountiful sea from which you have to fish from ;-) Good luck Tara… | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 4:05:00 AM |
i really want to ask him out, but i just dont know how, im too embarrassed to come straight out with it
Rather than try for a one-on-one date why not just throw a barbecue party and invite a few teachers including him plus a bunch of other adults you know ... gives you a chance to chat without looking/feeling like a fool if it doesn't work out ... follow your heart and go for it!!! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2007 4:18:17 AM | Tara,
You're putting too much pressure on yourself. I realize you like him, but you need to convince yourself that
(a) Dating him is NOT going to change the world
(b) Being rejected is not going to destroy the world
He's just a guy. Sure, he's probably cute (you are, I assume you have good taste in men) and obviously he's good with kids, and there are likely many other qualities you find attractive in him. Seriously, I looked at your profile, and if I were him I would NOT be saying "no" too quickly. If he does turn you down for whatever reason, it's clearly his loss - not yours.
Just go do it. There's no better time than the present! | |
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Posted: 10/13/2007 11:56:55 AM | | my son has an embarrassing illness, i dont want any questions about it plz, iv mentioned it in a previous post and have already put it to the forum, but i just wanted to say that, i have a very isolated life at the minute and my only means of romance is thru chance meetings around the places where i associate myself on a daily basis. and theres nothing of interest as yet only him im sad to say. my friends all have newborns now, never go out they never did before anyway lol but i cant get out in the evenings even if they did arrange somethin, 'he' (the teacher) doesnt know how im reacting to him or how i feel, the way you all do!! lol i have some pride you know :P thx for the responces tho i appreciate them all. | |
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Msg: 38 | |
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Posted: 10/13/2007 12:14:16 PM | Im not a teacher, but I do work with kids on a daily basis.
Many of my "students" are from divorced homes with Single dads and occasionally Mr Single Dad will give me signals they are interested in getting to know me on a personal level. Just yesterday I had a single guy giving me very OBVIOUS signals he wanted to get to know me more. I was at work, trying to disuss his 5 yrs old and 3 yrs old kids with him, and their pretty serious "problems" Im concerned about. It was necessary for the discussion to get a little bit personal, because some of their "problems" are probably related to parents divorce and all that trauma. So Mr Single Dad was telling me a lot of his personal stuff, home life, divorce drama etc. It helped me to know this, to be able to understand and help the kids......however he seemed to think that meant He and I were having an intimate conversation...AND WE WERE NOT!!!! so it was a little awkward. but hey thats life in the big city. Sometimes the lines between professional interest and personal and get a bit blurred.
Be careful...due to your isolation and son's illness and needing someone to accept and understand all that you might be reading more into the teacher than is really there. Very possible he's jsut trying to have professional interest in the boy.....and sure, be a pal to him. Many teachers are "pals" to the students. that doesnt mean he's taking it across to a personal level with you.
anyway, I would NEVER date a Single Dad/students parent I jsut met. NO WAY!!!!! HELL NO!!! But....after knowing the guy a few years like you say you have well, maybe at that point it might be worth it. But Id prefer to wait till I dont have to have professional contact with him (my kids not at his school) before I open up that can of worms.
merry xmas! | |
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Posted: 10/13/2007 3:29:39 PM | | I, personally, wouldn't date the parent of one of my students. It sounds to me like you've already made up your mind, and you just need some validation. My advice is to do what you think is right, for your (and your son's) situation. | |
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