| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/17/2007 6:03:25 PM | I think some are the only child and always had the option to live at home...or never grew up and like the irresponsibility:
That's cool, think of all the money he's saving without the bills of owning a home and can take women out on expensive dates. Ever think of that?
All the guys I know that still live with their "independent" parents and are over 40+ have growing up issues and still act like selfish children. Every single one. None of these guys were ever married and some can quit their jobs anytime.
Who knows, maybe its the parents fault for keeping their children dependent on them.
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/17/2007 8:37:56 PM | @smooze? Why always the snotty, infantile response to posts? Never mind, I know the answer. It is because you are juvenile in your thoughts.
OT: I would have to say it would depend on the cirumstances. If it was a fellow who had never been on his own over 40, I may question it. Then again, as a lot of the posters have said, they are helping their aged parents. I have no issues with that, and in fact think it is admirable. As long as the parents don't interfere that is! | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/17/2007 9:58:05 PM | | I haven't heard anyone answer the question yet - is their a different standard for a female living at home as oppossed to a male doing it - is the female a "Daddy's Girl"?? - is she relying on her parents to cook and clean?? | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:04:13 AM | | @moonchild? snotty, infantile? seems your mistaken again moonchild, i speak the truth, im not one for beating around the bush, do you not agree with my 99% women statment?? look at the threads, again i speak the truth, most women cant handle the truth, suck it up princess.......... | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:50:24 AM | | I don't know any women living with their parents after 40..........I've only known men doing that.......There may be women doing it ........ I just don't know any. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:48:28 AM |
suck it up princess..........
How nice for you to notice my title. I do try not to brag about it here in the forums though! Maybe it is just the "way" you deliver your thoughts that seems to get my dander up. Who knows Smooze? Not going to lose any sleep over it!
I am with Lady on this last question as I do not know of any ladies living with their parents. I do think though, that again, as with the fellows, it would depend on the circumstances. I do know of some men who are temporarily living with their folks as they have just come from a marital breakup and have not much money at the moment. They are just trying to get back on their feet financially and will once again, go out on their own. Tis sad really, what we do to ourselves sometimes. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 8:42:29 AM | | Most of us our at the age that our parents need us more and more. I wouldn't think twice about helping my parents. But nor am I willing to give up my life either. I think most adults can understand when their parents live with them and we live with them to help them out. I had to tell my Father that he couldn't live with me I will help and do whatever I can but there is reasoning behind this....My Mother I would let her move in with me in a Second.....I love both parents equally. I would accept any Man that had to help or take care of his parents........it would be no problem to me if his parents lived with him.........Smiles Blue | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:41:19 AM | As with anything else, you cannot control what someone does in life.
If you meet a guy and he's living at home (For whatever reason) you can choose to accept it or not.
People need to stop trying to change everyone else. Find someone who fits what you're looking for if the one you're with or considering being with does not. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 10:46:27 AM | ^^^ I second the motion. What other people do with their lives is little concern to me and I don't care if people agree with me or not.
If someone lives at home with their parents... well... considering my age, he wouldn't for long.. LOL... but IF he did, and I was interested in him, I would be interested in the person and take it from there. Every situation is different. JMO | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:02:43 AM | | Oh, never mind...now that I think of it, I've already replied to this intentionally-insulting/humiliating/shaming post. Talk about bias and prejudice, this one ranks right up 'ere. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 1:30:26 PM | Yea, Shade it will never end...
My mother was living with me until few years ago, no one complained.
Smooze, it is time to learn something from your mother:
Treat a Lady as a Lady; Moon is painted in different colors. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:13:07 PM | Why do so many women see only the worst in men?
I've NEVER heard the same gripe about women.
So what I've he's got his own business. Or, in your gold digging heat, did you think that this means he's wealthy. The average business makes less than ten percent morre than the average salary. Thats all.
So what if he "lives as home" So did the Ewing brothers, in the Dallas series.
If you want a moan session then moan about the few men who ARE worth moaning about. The ones who HAVE raped thier five year old daughters, the ones who do , and deal, drugs in front of their children.
Living with the parents is nothing.
Or is it? If you marry a guy, who doesn't have his own home, then thre's nothing to legally steal through the divorce courts. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:15:49 PM | snotty, infantile? seems your mistaken again moonchild, i speak the truth, im not one for beating around the bush, do you not agree with my 99% women statment?? look at the threads, again i speak the truth, most women cant handle the truth, suck it up princess
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I'm splitting hairs Smooze but most women CAN handle the truth. It's just the few who are posting here who can't | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:20:48 PM | I haven't heard anyone answer the question yet - is their a different standard for a female living at home as oppossed to a male doing it - is the female a "Daddy's Girl"?? - is she relying on her parents to cook and clean??
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Actually there is a different standard but it applies to the men, and not the women.
My father died some time ago, my mother uses a walking frame, and my brother is recently divorced. Once his ex and the courts had sold of the family home from under him he had a job, but not much else. No mens shelters.
Now my mum can still cook, and clean, for herself. But, when the gutters blocked and overflowed during a rrecentl downpour it was my brother who climbed onto the roof to unblock them.
I like to think that any modern women , of my brothers age, would do the same thing, but the only woman, of that age, that I've ever known to actually do so is my sister. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:27:31 PM | I am with Lady on this last question as I do not know of any ladies living with their parents. I do think though, that again, as with the fellows, it would depend on the circumstances. ====================================================
I know hundreds. I've worked with highly paid, professional women, who have been into thier forties before moving out. I know one in her fifties, who still lives with her retired parents.
I know one who was thirty five, and whos' parents were on the verge of retiring. They were planning to sell the family home to fund their retirment and move several hundred miles , to the country holiday home that they had owned for some years. She wasn't talking of reaniting a place or looking at some place to buy. Oh no. She was planning to quit the job, move with them, and either go on the dole, of look for work in the holiday resoret that they were moving to.
Eventually she suddenly got married and pregnant in one order or another and teh husband had already paid off most of a home.
But it gives you an idea of the atitudes. Men, at home, often have no other option bar the street (which is were you find quite a few of them). The women often have hundreds of options, but they stick to the apron strings. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:30:18 PM | I'm splitting hairs Smooze but most women CAN handle the truth. It's just the few who are posting here who can't
Umm Mister Crayon? I can handle the truth in more ways than you could ever "assume" from posting online here. If you had read what I stated in my ealier posts here, you would see that I don't make snap decisions against those male or female that live with their parents.Those that do to help them out I in fact "admire".
I think what I took issue with was the way that Smooze put it is all. A general sweeping of the opposite sex, (I believe he said 99%?) is not something I think is necessary? And do we really have to be so "harsh" in how we say things? But? I will admit that perhaps my using the words "snotty and harsh" were and are just what I speak of. Smooze? For that I do apologize. It makes me the same. Thanks for the lesson learned fellows! | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:53:42 PM | .
That’s sounds funny to me! “Living at Home,” eh? It took me a moment to actually understand the correct concept, properly because I call where I live “home”.
I know of three middle aged women “living at home” to help care for one or both parents, but only one guy who did that for a while. Really, I can find no reason for or against it -- except for personal freedom, that is.
Back when I returned to this state my ancient mother asked once if I would want to live with her. I just looked at her for a few seconds and she quickly caught on. I didn’t have to say a word about it. Sure, being part of the over 90 crowd, she needs a little help from time to time. However, I’m the oldest of nine and she has over 40 grandchildren. Most of the family live nearby and visit her often. Fact is, I have to chase them out of there because there are often too many there at once and she’s too old for all that hubbub every day. Also, I’m not sure how I would like dealing with a lot of people around all the time, even if I’m related to them.
And another little problem is the hours I keep -- or, in this case, do not keep. Sometimes I come in at three in the morning. Other times, I may want to go out at three in the morning. Living alone, that’s no problem. Living with mama, though, some of my actions might be cause for continuous discussion. After all, I may be over 60 years old, but she still tends to treat me like she’s my mother when I allow it. Of course there has been somewhat of a roll reversal sometimes because she can get bullheaded and not do things she needs to do for herself (like present herself for proper medical treatment) and my siblings always let her get her way. I don’t and never will.
Anyway, as it turned out, I found an interesting apartment about five miles away, which worked out just fine. I could offer whatever help was necessary, but we were not getting in each other’s hair all the time. And, I could keep my somewhat active lifestyle and a large element of privacy. I rather like living alone and surely would have a period of adjustment if I had to be around a lot of fast talkers like my family every day. But, it’s true, some people like that lifestyle.
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 2:54:41 PM | | hi im dan .well said in ur forum about guys living with parents.id live at home if i could and i wouldnt be worried what people think.home is best place to live if the parents are ok | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:07:14 PM | | does it really matter what guys or woman do as long as it makes then happy and they hurt no one?maybe our western society would be better if we lived with our parents when they get old instead of shoving them into an old folks home to die .i know the old parents would make great baby sitters and your children would be safe etc. | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:07:38 PM | im not a harsh person, im just not one for beating around the bush, i like to get my point across with as few words as possible, i may come across as harsh, but, im a really nice guy...............honest!!!!!!!!! lol | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/18/2007 5:11:16 PM | | @crayonzz, i know most women can handle the truth, i get a bit heated when i read threads that do nothing but bash men, if they dont like men, be a lesbian, and get over it | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:04:46 AM |
Can you tell why do men who have jobs and some values want to live with their parents.
I know of several men some who own their own business's that still live at home with their parents. Why when they can have their own space would anyone want to do this ?
Oh, their parenst are not disabled, just getting older.
Some people never "grow up"
Staying at home is a safety net...
In my experience,relationships w/ "adults" like this are usually very draining,emotionally and physically....
Also,you'll only very rarely be accepted into the "core group"...
When someone tells me they live at home...and it's not to take care of an ill relative...I politely listening and make a mental note not to pursue the relationship seriously | |
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| Grown Men 40+ who live at home
Posted: 11/21/2007 8:27:46 PM | | idk about that but I work with a woman who is in her late 30's and lives with her parents...we don't ask her why either she's kind of private | |
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