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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/14/2010 11:32:10 PM |
ONS, FWB and NSA
ok...please overlook my ignorance of the above,
i know fwb
but what is ons and nsa?
any other abbreviations that should become aware of?
i have learned so much "stuff" since being on these forums.
to the women who asked who knows who is getting more mail:
it is in reading forums that i have read that men complain about not receiving mail on pof and women get mail all the time.
its not always quality mail. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 2:35:06 AM | | I never really thought about it but I think the dating sites are geared towards men more as stated by another poster because men tend to do the asking out, the majority of the time. As for men complaining how they outnumber the women, so this is an excuse for women to be picky, well after e-mails filled with "hey there sexy", "lets have some fun tonight" or the occasion penis pic, they don't realize that quantity doesn't mean quality. I too agree that it is just another tool to meet people that I wouldn't normally get a chance to meet in real life and the forums are great fun, just can't take it all to seriously. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 4:07:14 AM | | It's not always quality mail? So what? Would you prefer to receive mostly low-quality mail with occasional high-quality mail, as most women on this site claim they do, or to receive no mail at all? Sorry, but a starving man can't help but feel jealous when he sees someone eating, even if that person is dining on Spam. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 6:18:27 AM |
It's not always quality mail?
what i meant by ^^^^was that some of the mail says things such as
"hi there, wanna chat?"
"lookin good sweetie"
in other words...not much to respond to. make sense now? | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 8:49:14 AM |
It's not always quality mail? So what? Would you prefer to receive mostly low-quality mail with occasional high-quality mail, as most women on this site claim they do, or to receive no mail at all? Sorry, but a starving man can't help but feel jealous when he sees someone eating, even if that person is dining on Spam.
This is to me the classic attitude that an awful lot of men have and I will never understand it. No body has to accept anything, if some men are jealous because THEY would be willing to accept any attention, regardless of how ignorant, pointless or stupid, that doesnt mean that they get to set the rules for anyone else.
I dont think that equating an internet dating site to a starving man is that good of an analogy, seem that the same men that think women should just have to accept things also have a problem with perspective as well.... | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 1:29:56 PM | thankyou mischeivious..
ons, fwb, nsa, fb,...anymore?
as for the low quality mail..
"hey there whats up"
i usually have no response to give. unless i felt like reading his profile and it is a particuarly good one.
and for the "hi miss, i think you are beautiful"
to those i most always respond with a simple "thankyou"
i dont know the point of those short letters. to me, they are harmless. and those men are just flirting....like a smile in a bar...nothing more.
worse to me are the letters that seem canned...
they may be a paragragh long, they mentions absolutely nothing that lets me think
they read my profile,..so the same letter could have easily been sent out to hundreds of women...i know that is one way people here hope for responses.
back to OP: why would on line dating sights be created just for women? i dont get it?
they are for both men and women.
to the poster who said that hot looking girls come up on the adds...
check out the adds on my page...hot looking men...obviously models. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 1:31:58 PM | So, grizzelda,
Would you rather get NO messages than get pointless/ignorant/stupid ones?
They say the grass is always greener on the other side, but while a lot of guys say they'd prefer getting pointless/ignorant/stupid messages to getting none, I can't remember a woman ever posting that she would prefer not to get any at all.
My guess is that a woman who posted a profile and got no messages at all would give up on POF after a while.
Created for women? While more men evidently utilize POF(or try to), women, on average probably have more success, at least in terms of contacts. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 2:16:24 PM | hardwoodfloorboard:
i am very happy with the messages i get.
but i would not like to recieve a message from you. in fact, my stomach is now hurting after reading your profile.
but thanks...because i am now getting away from my compter and going outside...
after i go and throw up.
i hope that you are polyamourous (open about your lifestyle choices), which would make me wrong on my feelings about yr profile. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 2:25:58 PM | hardwood..you are from the sticks? so are your neighbors then.
just hope to your god that someones husband doesnt get pizzed off and crazy drunk and dig out his smith and wesson if he finds out. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/15/2010 3:18:45 PM | | Gee, I guess I got the whole idea wrong!! I thought they were created to make some a sh1tload of money, guys to email 100's of women with no answer, b1tch about buying their coffee and women to complain endlessly to many guys want sex and BOTH SEXES to be frustrated by the whole experience!! Hahahahaha! | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/16/2010 9:30:31 AM |
Would you rather get NO messages than get pointless/ignorant/stupid ones?
Ummm yeah! Why would I want to get messages like that? What possible use are they? If someone isnt smart enough to realize that presenting themselves like that is not in their best interest, that person is not someone I want to communicate with, what else will I have to help them understand about social interaction? | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/16/2010 9:51:24 AM | | Online dating sites are made for adults with realistic expectations...and people that insist on playing a victim card as often as they can. And prostitutes. And hermaphrodites....Republicans...Taliban..... | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/16/2010 2:04:18 PM | Hi Vancer
I agree with you that there are plenty of women who do online dating and give up because nobody shows an interest in them. I would say that men unfortunately, are suckers for the physical and many of the women who give up, just can't compete with their better looking rivals who have more success.
On a free site like this, looks are far more important than profiles. Very attractive women and men know that they won't need good profiles to attract people. When you mention plenty of men who are "chick magnets" again the reason for this again is down to good pictures. It's much less likely that it's well written profiles or perfectly crafted e-mails that will pull the chicks. I'd be interested to know what you think these "chick magnets" do to have so much online success.
Offline men are still the hunters in the dating game and this is still generally true online. As regards the playa, I wish him or her the best of luck meeting someone and certainly don't hate them. As regards the game, it's a numbers game and I think we all know that luck plays a huge part and even though people make their own luck to a certain extent, there will always be very lucky people out there as well as very unlucky ones.
I once heard that a definition of luck was "To achieve success at a particular endeavour by putting a minimal or no amount of work in to achieve that success". What do you think of that definition? | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 4/16/2010 6:17:43 PM | This site does seem to be a gateway for other sites by the looks of the
types of ads for other dating sites here.
I get mostly emails saying things like "wanna chat?"
or "can I call you?" I keep expecting the "one" to have a thought
out intro to me where he tells a bit about himself and then lets me
know who he is and where he works, and how I can contact him on
the phone or at least on yahoo messenger.
I am starting to think it won't happen. I am feeling like I'm not
good enough to get a real nice introductory note. Hey guys I'm
not that desperate yet to grab onto a two word note like a
drowning woman, lol.
If this site was created for women, then I must be the wrong kind. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/27/2011 10:06:06 AM |
...just read this (written by a man) in another thread ...
"... you have to remmeber these and other sites are created for women."
... was that guy right when he said that online dating sites are created for women?
When I read something like that, I just think the guy is bitter. A comment can indicate bitterness, whether it is a man or woman writing it. If I read something like this in a profile or on the forums, it would let me know, if I were looking, that this is a person to avoid. I think it is patently obvious that dating sites are for both genders. They are also used by gays..... so they are not designed to favor or be for the primary benefit of heterosexual females....duh.... | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/28/2011 9:46:11 AM | Like Many other things in society...(Cars, furniture, appliances, clothing, food, etc..etc..
Dating sites...(at least 99% of them) are created for $$$Profit$$$ !!!
When I first discovered dating sites, I signed-up on Dozens..!!
But found that in order to go ANY farther than to create a profile and _Maybe_ do a search or send a *Flirt*...
You needed a Paid membership of between $15 and $35 Per Month..!!!
Some sites even publicized that some 'members' were company employees...
attempting to generate 'interest and membership'...with fictitional profiles..!!
* Profit * . . Where do you think that companies like GEICO get their
Advertising Budget?
....and...considering that they are spending over _$800 Million_ (at last count) on _Advertising_...
If they 'can save you 15%' ...and STILL spend That Much....
just Think of what you'd 'Save' if Half of your premium wasn't going into their Ad-Budget...!!! | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/28/2011 10:40:58 AM |
i tell you what it feels like a lot of times........us guys are the old dogs at the shelter........we just sit here hoping like crazy someone will come and pick us instead of the cute lil puppies
I actually prefer the old dogs, those cute little puppies are usually a real PITA - gotta housetrain them, socialize them, teach them how to be reasonably good house mates. The older ones already know all that stuff... but once in awhile that not-s0-cute and far from little puppy does show up. (see the white one in my pics)
But as for being picked myself - by anyone at all - I get a lot more messages from elsewhere than locally, "elsewhere" being anywhere including Europe and Australia. Great email buddies, but it's so not happening as far as meeting face to face.
Maybe there's room in the shelter for an old bit*h, too? | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/28/2011 4:48:10 PM | | I wouldn't put it that way but I think they're pretty useless for the vast majority of men unless they get very, very lucky. There are so many more men on here and so few women that are actually prepared to send out messages, and lets face it the women can be pretty choosy. I think the only men that do well on these sites are the sort of men who do well in real life, and the site is just a convenience for them so they can meet MORE women. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/29/2011 8:24:34 AM |
There are so many more men on here and so few women that are actually prepared to send out messages, and lets face it the women can be pretty choosy. I think the only men that do well on these sites are the sort of men who do well in real life, and the site is just a convenience for them so they can meet MORE women.
I used to send messages, but I gave that up except to forumites. It's been so rare for anyone to reply... I have had some interesting correspondences stringing along scammers, though.
Choosy is on both sides of the fence. I'm not an aging Barbie, never was and never claimed to be. But I am what most of the men claim to want - down to earth, no games, loyal, etc. None of them are in the least bit interested in contacting me, or in keeping up a conversation, or - heaven forbid! - actually meeting. As for there being so many more men, well, I'm on just about all the free sites that aren't into kinky, and it's the same faces there, too. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 8/29/2011 9:31:39 PM | Everything I've read in these fora (and on another, similar site) has said that these sites are heavily skewed in favor of females. Just for giggles, I've asked a couple of dozen women, in real life and through email messages, how many messages they get. The answers have been anywhere from ten a day to over fifty.
I felt like throwing a party the day I got two.
I send a fair amount of messages out and get very few responses. After reading SO MANY threads of men's complaints, I know it's not only me.
I've gone from feeling mild outrage to ambivalence and everything in-between. It still strikes me as odd that anyone, regardless of gender, would sign up and fill out the profile, upload photos, and then totally ignore messages from potential dates. I've read all the reasons. "Women get so many messages that they can't possibly respond to them all." "Ignoring a message is the easiest method of signaling no interest." "I've gotten too many nasty replies to rejections that I just don't bother sending rejections anymore."
It seems that we've "evolved" to the point of non-communication being accepted as the new communication.
I've even seen this: " Rejection messages aren't necessary. No reply is your rejection."
I'm not going to let it change me. I'll keep sending out thoughtful, polite messages, hoping that someone will eventually respond and dating can commence. Actually, I have met a few women from here and talked with quite a few on the phone. Keep playing those numbers, boys...  | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 6/4/2012 6:46:01 PM | I know this post has been dead for quite some time, but I thought I would open it back up. I can say with 100% that this site in particular was made for men, by men.
I have never been spoken to more disrespectfully and been propositioned inappropriately in my life than on this site. This site does nothing to protect women! You should be able to report guys that say or ask for inappropriate things. Maybe it's just nyc, but out of the hundreds of guys that I have talked to and maybe I've met around 50 only 2 were polite. The rest were disgusting hornballs. There were a few that were just weirdos, but I can deal with that. I can't deal with men I've known for all of 15 minutes trying to turn me into their sexual fantasy over the phone, chat or texting. Get real!
What happened to real men? Why have all these man-child, sex-crazed, rude guys been invading my life? I'm fed up and done with this site. I need a classier way to find a guy. | |
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| Are online dating sites created just for women?
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:14:26 PM | I can't say I believe dating sites were created specifically for us, women or men. I mean..goodness, there are soo many of them!
I think that they were created for both gender of fish and different species. :) | |
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