| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/21/2007 9:30:33 AM | Friends that tell me I'm picky. I call it standards and its WAY more understanding on excepting others and giving chances than what they would do. Sigh... the king can choose what to eat, a beggar can't.
Friends that throw the "You judge someone by their looks!” this is the same people that I am interested in and after telling me I am everything thing they look for BUT physical attraction and won't date me.
Join Church - I would catch on fire!
Go Dancing - done that, still able to make ppl laugh!
Be a player - The out going part isn’t bad idea, just can’t manage to treat women in that way.
"You're a nice guy don't change that, she will come along." or "You have a ton to offer and any gurl would be lucky to have you."
The words are from someone that is only trying to comfort you but only repeating something easy and programmed without thinking. It’s not from the heart and they have nothing else to say for that comfort. Even though some of the real and honest truthful answer I have gotten from friends can hurt, I would rather hear that then the dribble of repeating.
Something likes "You need to drop weight; the types of women you like aren't going to want you." This is a sad truth, while someone will state not all women are like that. It is enough to state all in my world. The one that would have accepted me, she accepted someone else before I came along. Lol....
The point is my friend took it upon herself to state something that would help me vs. letting me wallow in my own filth wondering why something hasn't change when it really was ME that needed to change.
Some of this is advice I just tired of hearing, some of it can be bad advice but generally just sick of hearing it.
The stop looking...blah, blah, blah I hate too but understand the meaning behind it.
It when you have fun and drop your guard you are able to except others that don't fit your preferences easier thus not passing up a good thing.
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shoree
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 77 | |
| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/21/2007 10:45:44 AM | I think the most annoying advice I ever got was to continue dating someone I definitely WASN'T attracted to because he had money.
It insulted me to no end! | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/21/2007 5:23:38 PM | | I've found that the old "women can't see a happy single" is mostly true. I've had women at work and female relatives trying to set me up with their single friends. The thing is, none of the friends is ever hot. Not even one. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/21/2007 11:19:36 PM | I've had plenty advice. But the worst advice is from the girlfriend that says...You'll find it when you're not looking for it...look at me and Mr. X. We're engaged and so much in love that...it really almost makes you gag.
In reality they have the MOST f'd up relationship I have ever seen! | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/22/2007 4:07:26 AM | Advice??
Most of the replies so far have been pretty good and spot on.
How about the worst vice in the world is unsolicited advice? There you are, minding your own business and otherwise enjoying life when someone happens to say "You know, if I were you...."
Not that the thought is unappreciated, but if someone is looking for advice, most people will ask for it in some way. Yes, people who think enough of you are trying to help but still.... | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/22/2007 5:56:39 AM | Poster number 25 said:
In biology when sperm meets egg, the very first thing the newly formed cell does is divide back in two, which tells us the sad fact even nature realizes what a mistake it was in the first place. That spontaneous division repeats countless times in a tremendous scene of frantic sexual back-peddling, resulting in a new human being. Then that human being will in time mature, and find a mate to start the process all over again. That is how dedicated human beings really are to trying to undo the original catastrophe of sex. It is supremely ironic that our compulsion to undo the consequence of sexual union is exactly what perpetuates us and this sad ritual.
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Holy MACKERAL! I'd never thought of it that way before. OMG!!! That poster could be ONTO something there!!!!! | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/23/2007 4:24:59 AM | "You should try dating a NICE guy for a change." I guess they didn't approve of my choices. A lot of time, 'nice' means 'boring'. I'm not saying that dating someone abusive is good, but at may age, I know what I like. Hey, if you're not attracted to a person, you shouldn't act like you are. In the long run, it's not fair to either of you.
Oh, and how about "You just haven't found the right one". Nice... now tell me HOW to find the RIGHT one...  | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/23/2007 8:11:47 PM | Usually it's people who met the love of their life through some accidental meeting which required no effort on their part who say "love happens when you're not looking". That's like saying "why work at a job when you can win the lottery." The few winners get all the attention while you never hear about the losers.
Bethlet: What does biology (cell division) have to do with bad dating advice? | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/24/2007 3:19:46 AM | The stupides one I've heard of is directed at the girls.
IE "Dont' say "yes" the first time or he wont respect you.
Fact is if you dont say yes the first time he will think you arent interested in you and will go looking elsewhere. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/24/2007 3:31:32 AM | Nothing worng with looking for a mate, it is natural to not want to be alone. Just don't look "too hard" and "settle" for someone for the sake of not being lonely. I have found that learning to live alone has allowed me to really get to know myself and what I have to offer.
A group of church men won't be much different than most crowds of guys except maybe those from a cell block of the state penitentiary. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2007 8:56:43 AM | "you will never meet anyone at work", well I have had this job for 20 years , and unless you count the parents of some of my students who said they wanted to date me since they had no job and I had a steady paycheck, yeppers this is true, and the people who say these things must think I am a moron since I don't realize that working in public schools does not allow me to meet a plethora of potential suitors.
"you should lie and say you are divorced" mmmmm he might find out that was not true when he met my friends and family, plus honesty is the best policy in my book.
"You should move to Alaska", sure just move to probably the coldest state in the USA hoping to find a man when I am miserable when it is below freezing here in my sunny Southern state.
"You need to act needy and passive", well, hell, just tell me to change my personality. | |
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/24/2007 1:45:24 PM | The "not looking thing" probably irritates you most because you're still on an expectant timeline. You have to put it out of your mind and do other things. While you're doing those things and enjoying them, someone will come along when the time is right. Right now, you sound like you're too wrapped up in the pursuit. Relationships don't necessarily come because you're looking. One thing about waiting is that you can be sure that the person is attracted to you when they do the approaching. You also have to go after what you absolutely must have. If it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant for you. Jobs and relationships are two entirely different entities. I wouldn't look in one specific place. You have to allow it from all avenues for it to arrive. I've met plenty of ladies in church that were the most demonic of the demonic, so meeting someone at church does not guarantee that they will be a good person. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/25/2007 12:24:27 PM | | Make yourself available, but don't be obviously looking. Ask female friends to take you places where men can be 'run into'. Ask old boyfriends if they know anyone...there are lots of ways. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/25/2007 12:26:18 PM | bassgirl747 on 10/3/2007 12:08:26 AM wrote:
Well maybe I don't want mail from 45 year olds or 25 year olds!!
Why not? How closed-minded can you be? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 12:43:41 PM | | Has no one else gotten this one? "You just need to lower your standards..." Ok my standards are I don't want to be with an abuser, an alcoholic or smoker...that's the only standards I have ever expressed to friends. Is that REALLY too much to ask for? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2007 12:47:13 PM | I'd have to say without a shadow of a doubt the whole "she'll find you when you stop looking" and "be yourself" are the most retarded statements ever.
First off, women don't look for men.
When they're young, they basically are sick and tired of people staring at their anti-gravity breasts and slim thighs and cop an attitude.
When they're middle aged, they simply sit around relationship forums whining as to why people can't see the inner beauty beneath (but they still don't want a guy who hasn't got any money hehehe) | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:45:04 PM | I'm glad I am not the only one who has been subjected to this over the years! I've heard the "you'll find the right one when you least expect it" one for years from various family members, the older I get, the more it annoys me!
I've also heard the business about how I should be looking for a man at church. I agree with previous posters here that some of the most evil men I've ever encountered I met at church. I enjoy going to church but honestly, church is the last place I'm going to go meet someone!
My favorite by far is what I've heard from my own mother: "someday your prince will come." At least, the older I am getting, the less I am hearing it so maybe she's finally wising up and realizing I've been using selective hearing where that comment is concerned!
"Be yourself" is also skewerd as far as I am concerned. I've been "being myself" for 44 years and all I have to show for the dating marriage thing is my toad collection (my two ex husbands!)! Oh well, as one of my freind's so adequately puts it, "what's a mother to do?" | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/25/2007 10:51:11 PM | Yeah I've been to church and synagogue thinking it might be a place to meet someone nice. Well there were nice people there. But they were all over 60! And I have nothing against dating a 60 yr old even, but even they were taken! The church was nothing but old couples. There was no one even in their 30's at the church period!
If I'm suppose to meet them at the church, then I'd like to have the address of that church I'm suppose to go to! | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/26/2007 12:40:20 PM |
Annoying dating advice: "Just put down interests that you think they will like"
Ok.. but how long does b.s really last? ;)
Yes, how many people would respond positively to:
"I drown kittens and stomp on puppies. I have no job and no prospects. My sentence is up in six years, but I will have to remain on Thorazine for the foreseeable future", | |
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Posted: 12/2/2007 11:01:40 PM |
"I drown kittens and stomp on puppies. I have no job and no prospects. My sentence is up in six years, but I will have to remain on Thorazine for the foreseeable future",
You haven't read the profiles of women 18-22. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 12/3/2007 3:54:16 AM | Actually, the "when you're not looking" thing seems to work for a lot of people.
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No it doesn't Adam.
When youre not "desperate" it helps. But you still have to be looking to find. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:12:54 AM | ^^^^ When women hit on me, I always make a point of saying "Sorry, I'm not looking right now - in order that I might induce the appearance of The One - and so if I were to 'look' at you, you couldn't be her."!  | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:30:46 AM | Annoying advice? Well, not exactly advice, but I've gotten a lot of "meet this guy - he's perfect for you," and it turns out he's some awful freak who carries a purse and makes a clicking sound when he breathes.
Evidently people have no idea what I'm looking for. | |
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| annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 12/3/2007 9:34:53 AM |
Love it!
Re: Meeting people at church - The last time I was inside of a Christian church (no, I did not melt....), there were indeed two very lovely ladies there.
Both of them were the groom's sisters, one married, one too young (as in under 18).
I did dance with both of them, they were clueless, but I'm a good leader, so it didn't matter. | |
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