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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/5/2007 12:52:56 PM | Since when and who calls it The Work?!
Bedroom department or in bed ... is "the arena" where pleasurable is mixed with beneficial  and vice versa.
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/5/2007 1:12:49 PM | | If I'm doing all of the work I expect to get paid for "working". Just leave a $50. on the night stand ladies, lol. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/5/2007 1:28:17 PM | This is not the Olympics nor hopefully not quaker (like their engine oil) time. Are you making love to your partner be just getting down to business? You Will never have a more intimate meeting with your partner and if you have ever had any erotic dream talk about it.
With a "think I'll paint the ceiling green" kinda partner, lucky to even get started and if you are the only one there that might be what they are thinking.
Foreplay! Foreplay! Foreplay! Then ask yourself do I really have to be on top? | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/6/2007 11:59:36 AM | [Bedroom department or in bed ... is "the arena" where pleasurable is mixed with beneficial and vice versa.
(Did I just say that? ) ]
The arena Buzz sounds like a fight to the death (oh what death that would be)I'm back  | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:05:36 PM | Well OP. I am sorry you are not the worlds best lover. Not being an expert is the good thing.. Because you are willing to experiment.. So instead of coming in with all the energy, and effort, Also I didn't see if you are only doing one nite stands' that is alot of it.
So I am going to go on the approach you are into a relationship.. Go in with less effort, energy, Communicate. can't stress that word enough.. It takes time to learn what your lover likes and dislikes...what turns that little shiver into a groan.. I am not but alot of women could have a problem coming right and asking What makes you groan and moan. to the point of you not hearing the phone. darlin..
Slow down.. tone it down.. some of us need to be played like a violin and the results will be astounding.. You won't be the only one burning calories, sweating, or having sore muscles the next morning...
Happy fishing or f**king
edited: By the way when did it ever become work? I have always thought of it as drowning in Sensations | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/6/2007 9:29:26 PM | re the OPost
OP, I hear your "pain", but as we men know, "no pain, no gain". It is hard being a guy, we have to get it hard and keep it hard, and that is something few women really appreciate (and of course cannot ... relate)!
That is why we men deserve to be lazy in all other aspects of life: because we do most of the work (it is not a job, it is a career) in the bedroom. And if women do not want to wind up with BOBs, they have to get with the notion that we do the work on the bed, so they must go out and make money to keep us. We deserve to spend our non sexual time in the gym or sleeping. That is the truth. Because we are the ones who get and keep "ourselves" up!
Litmus test before protests: How long can the average sexually active woman keep it going when she is on top before her legs give in?
Thus, unless women want to satisfy themselves with BOBs, they must finally, in 2007, learn to appreciate the amount of energy and stamina and inspiration that we put in "The Job". We need to stand uo for our rights, in 2007. Finally!
It's a give and take! We give, give, give and what do we take?   | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2007 3:51:07 PM | Heres's the quote: "Woman are judged on many things in bed ex... who does the most work... bodies size, tightness, oral skills... and the list goes on."
Now come on body size, lets be honest by time we get you in bed the whole body size issue has already been decided. I can't think of anytime a lady took her clothes off and there was such a surprising rise in body size that I just came down with a headache. (in either head for that matter lol)
But now tightness and oral skills those are both important, you just got to understand that every guy wants a snug fit. See even the biggest sausage wont get much done if sliding into the grand canyon lol javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:24:41 AM | I like it when they do all the work but I do split the efforts and do think things like....well at least I'm burning lots of calories lol.
It helps a lot if they are expressive because its like a challenge to make them feel all helpless to what they are feeling. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:32:05 AM | | Work and sex should never be refered to in the same sentence - especially if you desire your partner. For me sex is never work - since it is something I enjoy and something I want to offer in order to please my partner! Work for me would be digging a ditch - not making love!!! I am glad there is equal desire in my bedroom - where the word 'work' is never uttered! | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:47:50 AM |
drowning in Sensations I'd like to start drowning now!! LOL
Good sex is about 90% in the mind. So talk talk talk talk talk and then the body will follow. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:54:21 AM | | Men always do the work in the bedroom department, but there are some women who prefer to be in control. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:04:32 AM | | I guess with this subject, I have been lucky. The women that I have slept with have been very adventerous. A " DeadFish " is no fun and if you can't make the effort, at least let the other person know beforehand. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 11:55:53 AM |
Men always do the work in the bedroom department....
Ahhh ... welshman, there might be exceptions to the rule but surely joined "effort" and as I like to say 50:50 feels & tastes the best. And it is not about being in control at all; actually losing control could be the answer. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:06:01 PM | | Let's face it:just the way that we are made means the male is going to do the bulk of the work,but that's fine with me as long as my partner is showing some appreciation for what I'm doing. If I want her to do more work then I'll ask her to get on top. And besides,why exactly are we calling this "work"? Isn't sex supposed to be fun? | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:11:40 PM | Could be that they want you to be dominate. Sometimes the lady,s just want to be taken and other times they are wild. I still prefer a woman that takes charge an teaches me a thing or two from time to time.  . We all choose what we want,kinda like who will give us a good thrashin in bed,W... | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:24:53 PM | You know, I have never had an issue with being accused of a dead fish. There have been times when I did all the work... and times when I have been allowed to just go for the ride and purley enjoy...However one should consider that in order to get a woman to respond to you, the process and the journey plays a huge part in getting the action...Mental and physical foreplay are very important aspects to getting a woman turned on... Do that and you can very likely get a nicely freaky bed mate.
Also, being clean will also allow one to go where one might not otherwise go...
Oh yeah, and giving a damn about who you are with will really allow one to be more freaky. Its all about trust.
As for doing all the work...change it up. Some positions are really not conducive to much movement on our part, but there are some that are...you dont like the dead fishy, make the fishy swim!
But then, maybe you just havent caught the right one for you... | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:41:00 PM | | get over the word work people. its not time to make the donuts. there is a high level of physical energy that i put into sex and i enjoy doing it. work was just the word used and i and many others went with it. some people enjoy work. why is work automatically negative. when its over and my heart is about to explode and i cant talk for a few minutes i realize something just happened. i hope my work can be appreciated. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:44:31 PM | I'm there with K-lo. You GET what you GIVE.
If you are just pounding, you are going to get just tolerance. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 4:27:41 PM | If "work" is such an incompatible word with sex/bedroom, why is it, then, I ask that many people (esp. women) say that the man and the woman have to "WORK" on their relationship? Because it so suits them?
Work does not mean "chore". Happy people enjoy their work and their "careers". And potent males "work" at maintaining their ability to launch and maintain their erection. We are not BOBs, we are humans.
Many women seem to, unintentionally or not, be doing all they can to "sabotage" this work (nagging, whining, psychological violence and oppression, and many other mind and control games that wind up "eunichising" their man, premeditated or negligent, or is it in some peoples' "nature"? to sabotage the sources of joy??)
The best penis is the care less/free one! Ladies, do not forget that! | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2007 4:38:04 PM | I won't hesitate to admit that in general men (in my experience, mind you) do much more cardio-type work than I do. I appreciate it a lot. Then again, I do more stretching and make much more flexibility-type effort. The men I've been with seem to appreciate that a lot, so I think it pretty well evens out.
It might be comparing apples and oranges, but I'll bet only a guy who does yoga can understand what's required to achieve and maintain some of the more interesting positions I've enjoyed over the years.
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I understand that concept. I was just talking about the physical "work" when all the "spirit is willing" things have already fallen into place. | |
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