| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2009 7:33:35 PM | It depends on the situation and the person you are having sex with. With me personally, some women are very active (sometimes to a fault) in bed and some are rather stiff (also sometimes to a fault). No matter who I'm with I believe foreplay is essential and plus I value the art of communication. I don't always enter the bedroom with a new female thinking I know exactly how she wants it. I'm not afraid to ask questions. But overall, who does the most work in bed VARIES IN DIFFERENT INTIMATE SITUATIONS. As a man you have to be willing to explore the woman and SWITCH UP OUR LOVEMAKING STYLE to accomodate her sexual needs. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:02:26 PM | | It's usually me that does most of the work. I'm most satisfied when the women takes more of an active role, however. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:05:47 PM | | It depends upon the partner. Many of us love being on top and active. I imagine there are women who feel like they "should" be more passive, and others who would happily be more active if you asked them to be. Do you communicate with your sex partners or ask them to climb on top? | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:10:16 PM |
I imagine there are women who feel like they "should" be more passive, and others who would happily be more active if you asked them to be.
And what catagory would you fit into? :) | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/7/2009 9:50:56 PM | I think whether or not you think your partner is doing "work" has a lot to do with expectations. Does it mean you want to spend half the time with her on top, or you'd be happy with her on the bottom thrusting her hips back and forth against yours?
You just need to communicate about your expectations.
And yes, I think many women think they're expected to be a bit submissive, or they have a fear of rejection if they're not used to being more aggressive in bed | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:07:35 AM | | It should be the male. Making love to your women is the only thing left for male dominance.. I`m positive your women wouldn't object either..LOL | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:38:32 AM | WORK in bed?
This equates physical intimacy with a chore. If that is the attitude, then you get what you deserve.
so whys it the guys job to get you going?
It's called foreplay...like priming a pump.
If you don't or won't see the importance of this, then you get what you deserve. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 6:40:04 AM |
It should be the male. Making love to your women is the only thing left for male dominance.. I`m positive your women wouldn't object either..LOL
It "should" be whoever the couple wants to be doing the work in that moment--it can switch during one sex session, or by night, or if one person likes being more passive and the other enjoys a more active role, then it can be a pretty constant thing. In sex, there is no "should" beyond what the participants wants and agree on.
As to male dominance: Plenty of women aren't into being dominated, and plenty of men aren't interested in dominating the women they're with. There's no constant here. Personally, I'd object quite heavily if I were always cast in a submissive role. It's not anywhere near as simple as you're trying to make it out. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:00:59 AM | | We're into bipartisan playtime, and haven't noticed that it's work, though sometimes one or the other takes a leading role. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:13:05 PM | Women have so many little secrets they don't share. I will express my own thoughts not all women feel this way, just from my own experience and girlfriends I have talked to and some men that I have discussed this with.
So, here goes.
I have found some men think that just pounding away without stopping is the way to bring it, I had a few men friends tell me the man doing this is really just masterbating and not into pleasing the woman. In alot of cases it is the stopping occasionally during love making and taking the time to be able to FEEL the person that helps a woman. I have read about this and often a woman becomes numb if the friction just goes on and on and on. Sometimes just laying there and feeling the person can be very erotic.
The great lovers I have known know about this little secret, they stop and let the woman become the aggressor at times. If the man is all into being the one doing it all, then it leaves the woman out.
So I say, learn about her body, take nice slow easy penetration off and on, and then when both ready I think you will feel her respond with some action.
Just my opinion. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 12:42:59 PM | "Work in Bed"...my first thought was of Lil' Abner sleep testing the mattresses at the mattress factory!
I don't consider it work, true, it may be tiring if I'm lucky! haha However, I've never considered it work. I think, if two people are really connecting, the 'work' is even. If you're talking about things like who's on top, switching around is wonderful. Sex with your partner doesn't always mean continual non-stop penetration. It should be an ebb and flow of attention. Change positions, vary the thrust, stop for a few minutes and just touch/caress each other. Kiss a lot. All over. Then more love making.
Don't consider it 'work'. Consider it PLAY!
But, that's just my opinion. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 4:20:43 PM | | I can't say I have ever done work in bed. I've had a lot of fun and I am hardly passive but work? Not a bit of it. Still have managed sore muscles, sweat and to be exhausted but it's all been good, dirty fun. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:28:18 PM | Most men are much stronger than women (thanks to testosterone), and are able to sustain some positions longer, so it's easier for men to "work" harder. Like many others here, I wouldn't consider it work, and have never compared who put more into it. It's all about mutual pleasure.  | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:36:09 PM | | are there two individuals in the bed? then there should be two individuals having sex...have the person teach you...study videos and books...do not worry you will learn. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:49:19 PM | | I've always done the most work, though I do like a nice ride to slap sum bewbs around. Even when I am on top, most every woman hasn't been "inactive" lol. If you are getting tired learn to roll and put her on top. Actually I could live the rest of my life with me doing all the "work"(work, c'mon...) I try to run 3 times a week, work out so I can have lotsa fun in the bed- I love working on a woman- makes me feel good- I have never felt a woman to be lazy in the bed. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:56:28 PM | Ha ha ha... yep. That's the norm, and it reflects a deeper philosophy present inside of them. What comes out of someone at their most naked moments is what is there inside, at their deepest being. We need to start raising our young ladies to be more committed to participation in every aspect of life, love, society and more.
I don't mind it if a lady atleast goes along with what I request in bed, but a lady who has the passion and fire of a fierce, dedicated lover will usually have the same passion and dedication in all her life's endevours. Hang in there. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:22:08 PM | who does all the work?....
let's see the guy generally works up quite a sweat doing nothing and the chicks have to fake it like it's the best ever.... do u guys know how hard that is?
naw, i'm totally playing, it's not that hard to fake it. lol.
in my opinion the guys generally do most of the work, but if it's going good, the woman is more than willing to put in a lil extra effort to make sure things go her way so to speak. i think in our own ways we both have to equally work hard...
the woman has the physical/mental/vocal workout, while the guy has mostly physical work.
good luck fishies with ur erotic exercises. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:22:30 PM | I don't think anyone considers sex work unless they are a pimp or prostitute  . Perhaps the word "work" is not the right term. Maybe the OP meant "taking a more active roll". | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:36:50 PM |
Ha ha ha... yep. That's the norm, and it reflects a deeper philosophy present inside of them. What comes out of someone at their most naked moments is what is there inside, at their deepest being. We need to start raising our young ladies to be more committed to participation in every aspect of life, love, society and more.
I don't mind it if a lady atleast goes along with what I request in bed, but a lady who has the passion and fire of a fierce, dedicated lover will usually have the same passion and dedication in all her life's endevours. Hang in there.
Please don't even think this will happen. men have wanted women to act like this for centuries. it has never happened. and it never will.
if men want to date they should accept they will get a raw deal. just the way it is. | |
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| Who Does All The Work In Bed?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:39:00 PM |
the woman has the physical/mental/vocal workout, while the guy has mostly physical work.
wtf is a physical/mental/vocal workout? how can you have a physical workout if the man does the work? and a mental/vocal workout? get real. women are lazy.
but mental/vocal workout. that is rich. | |
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