| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 1:03:12 PM |
Mine is so trivia compared to some..but I started chatting with a guy last year and he said he thought smart women were great and he liked that I had a degree. I said thank you and kept talking. He took a breath and proclaim..." but YOU women should know your place. YOU women with your degrees are the reason the world is in so much trouble; if you want a BS/BA fine but you should be at home with your children and taking care of your husbands" He was dead serious. I couldn't block him quick enough on my Yahoo. of course I can't say what I told him on this forum but if you would like to know..feel free to email me. My girlfriends still laugh when they think of my response.
Now..how's a women w/ a degree gonna make any money if she stays at home?
Geez...what was that idiot thinking???
She can take care of her husband,kids,clean,cook AND hold down a good job!!!
She's not a woman...she's a SUPERWOMAN!!!
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 1:25:04 PM | This is not a "dumbest thing said to me during a chat/date" story but a "I can't believe what I just heard" story after a first date that never happened but was supposed to. Many, many moons ago, when I was a shy lad of 19, I developed a crush on a voluptuous woman at work who was in her late 20s. We went out for coffees and lunches a few times. She said she was single. There was chemistry there, I felt, and when I asked her to come to my place for dinner one night after work, she appeared delighted and so we made a plan for 7 pm on a Friday.
Seven p.m. rolls around but not Bev. When 7:30 came, I tried her number but just got voicemail. At 8:00, I decided to crack open the wine and eat. I tried her number a couple more times that evening, then thought I'd try one last time at 11:00. Bev answered, cheery and bubbly as always, as if nothing was wrong. When I asked her why she hadn't shown up or at least called to tell me why she couldn't make it, she said, in that cheery, bubbly way of hers, "oh, I'm really sorry but I just found out that this ex-boy friend of mine has just got out of jail and he wanted to see me so I didn't call you because I didn't think you'd understand."
I was 19 so admittedly it took a couple of weeks to get my hormones under control enough to realize I had to forget about this and not pursue anything further. Now I look back and think, wow, thank God I managed to dodge that bullet.  | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 2:13:56 PM | He said, Do you mind if I go into the washroom to rinse off my dentures? To which I replied, "Thank you for not doing it at the table!" Needless to say, no second date!!! | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:28:45 PM | brandi: maybe he wasn't that dumb. let's say he was always looking for a Leo starsign. no he considers also Pisces too....not as good, but not too many Leos
maybe the same standard isn't lower for you, so it's lower from his point of view, but from another it may not be. for example some people might think pisces is better than leo. who knows what is lower, that aøways depends on the value-coordinate system | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:38:42 PM | She was late to our lunch date so I ordered a glass of red wine.
She sat down and her first question was,
"Does your company let you drink on the job?"
I replied, "I can do what I want, I'm unemployed".
Instantly I saw the phrase "Drunken bum" pass across her forehead.
And that's when I got the idea of Dating JuJitsu - letting the woman's paranoia weed me out of consideration! It's so much easier. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 3:58:34 PM | Whoa broward. As I recall, you work by contract. Freelance. Nothing wrong with that. Provided me a great living.
Sad that others are too quick to categorize... | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:55:25 PM |
Honesty is the best policy.
Best from what standpoint?
It's clearly a sub-optimum strategy for having sex.
And I've discovered that "tactical lying" is a better strategy careerwise, too, as I've watched quite a few younger, less ethical guys pass me by. I often wonder if women (and corporate managers) have any idea of all. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:02:45 PM | Ok, here goes, I still remember this like yesterday, and it happened well over 5 yrs ago.
This guy ask me to dinner, I accepted, and met him at the restaurant he chose. I get there he tells me I look fabulous... Then he asks me if I really want to eat... Ummm yeah, set the date up for a dinner...
He then says well ok, go ahead I already ate.
He then launches into this thing about how good looking I am and that he wants to do me in the corner of the parking lot...
I was in shock someone would be that extremely rude, so I continued eating...
He then asked me if I would eat faster... LIKE NO!!
Fianlly he says well how about he drive me to his place, ya know in case I changed my mind.. Yeah not leaving my car hear A$$hole...
So get done, and head out the door tell him to LEAD THE WAY... So I know he is really really worked up... YA KNOW...
He gets to where he turns off to his road, and funny thing happened I just kept on going straight....
LMAO
I get this beyond pissed of message in my e mail box when I got home...
Dang, what do ya know, a woman totally turned off by a guy thinking she was just a quick or not so quick lay on a first date.... GEEZ!!!!!!! | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:17:57 PM |
When I met my ex's mother for the first time at a Christmas party (all the family and friends present), we went to kiss each other on the cheek and both planted one on the lips instead... YUK! To get over the embarassment, I announced that she was a better kisser than her son... She was chuffed but juding by his face - he wasn't impressed.
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:40:50 PM | This comment sounds like a technique used by players and pickup artists called a "negative hit". It is supposed to be used on women who normally think they are better than most men deserve and is used to create as sense that the guy is of equal or higher social value (because who else would be looking down on an attractive woman?). It sounds counter intuitive but there must be some validity to it if all the pickup artists use it.
I would bet this technique creates disasters most of the time it is deployed but player strategies tend to focus on quantity rather than quality. If they piss off 100 women in a night but go home with one woman and that relationship only lasts one night then that is a success (to a player or pickup artist). | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:55:10 PM | | I had been chatting with a guy but we never met and he said I have dated the pretty girls before that's not what I want anymore.........He said I don't want a girl that turns heads...I want one that only I want.He said they were always collecting other guys numbers when out with him.....I told him I hated to inform him but I did turn heads I just had enough self-respect and respect for the guy I am with to handle myself properly. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 7:34:50 PM | I stopped into my work place one day.... but was not working. So I was dressed in my street clothes. I had a really nice diamond ring.
I was standing there talking to this fellow... He actually said " Do you know how many s it took to dig up them diamond?" I said you obviously do not know my children are half black. He turned and walked away. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 7:45:06 PM | I said this because I like the gal and I was pretty much was in a panic because she looked bored.
"This may have been more interesting if wen't to a movie"
Yup thats what I said and ever since I regret letting those words come out of my mouth. After the date when I got in my car I bashed my head on the steering wheel a few times... I sent a email to her apologizing for being an ass but I never heard a thing from her heh I can't blame her either. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:09:03 PM | Got an IM via one of those other personals sites from a gal my age, in my town, rather abruptly, I hadn't even gotten the notice yet that she'd viewed my profile... We chatted amiably for ~15 minutes, general likes, movies, etc...
Her: If we were together right now, watching a movie under a blanket, what would you be doing?
Me: Watching the movie, maybe scarfing down some popcorn?
Her: What if I stopped the movie and took the popcorn away, what then?
Me: Well I really can't predict that, because I barely know you right now, and since every situation is different, I couldn't say...
Her: You mean you wouldn't F* me? You must have intimacy issues!
Yeah okay bye.
Another one, on a second date in her bedroom (of all places), completely innocent since her parents were ~4 feet away and her son was outside playing..
Her: My shrink told me that, in order to get over my nymphomania, I need a man who won't f* me at the drop of a hat...
Then there was the one who said after about two months of dating...
Her: I'm 25 and have never been to the OBGYN
Oh oh then there was the one (same service as the first one)
Me: It's nearly Halloween, have you made a jack'o'lantern yet? I know a great place we could pick our own, they serve hot cider and sandwiches, we could make an afternoon of it
Her: You expect me to go on an outdoors date on the first date? You're supposed to spend MONEY on the first date.
Yeah okay bye. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/29/2007 1:03:17 AM | WOW, there are sooooo many conversations/attempts at conversation that I could post on this topic....let's see , here are a few,sitting in my inbox lol....
"You have great lips. I'm sure you get that all the time, but they are gorgeous. The rest of your face too. Don't get me wrong. But those lips.... wow." Ummm, gee thanks....
"not too bad ur self? u r hot. hell id b ur sex slave:)"this was the 2nd email after me saying 'Hello, how's it going?"
"how are you doing ummm tell me a little about yourself???" This came from a guy*I'm guessing* that had NO pictures, and very little info on himself in his profile,ah hello!! | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/29/2007 1:34:36 AM | OP I think the emailer was testing out a****/funny line on you hoping to get you attracted - he certainly hit the funny button but went too over the top on the**** side. He probably never expected to actually get with you so felt he had nothing to lose by experimenting.
The number one question that shuts me down with someone is 'why don't you drive?' which tells me all I need to know.
There was a blind date a few years ago where the first sentence the lady said to me was: 'You didn't tell me the truth, you're not 5'9" you're 5'7" but don't worry I don't expect you to tell the truth as I've known all my life that men are born liars'.
I spent an hour with that lady and it was the same kind of comments all the way through.
At one point she asked me if I wanted to see a picture of her ex-husband and I said yes and she went to the back of her car and pulled out a two-foot by 3-foot gilt-framed professional photograph of him.
At the end of the hour she told me she liked me and would I like to go to a furniture sale with her - at which point I told her I had a pile of ironing waiting at home and had to be off. | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/29/2007 12:31:14 PM | Solarpanel, I am not sure why someone asking why you don't drive should be a bad question.
I would ask someone if they didn't drive the reason why. It isn't a judgment call, or a I don't want to know you kind of question, but rather a get to know you...Call me niave, but that just seems like a normal question....Well unless you live in London City or NYC, which goes without saying.
I have seen another post about how offensive it is if a person or woman asks if you own a car, what you do for work, and if you live with your mother question.
For pete sake, I don't have an issue with what a person drives, but yes it is nice if they do. I don't care what kind of job a person has, but them having a source of income is something I have found important in a ltr. I have also found that if a guy past the age of 25 is living with dear ol mum, that it better be to help her out, and not because she is supporting him.
Part of getting to know each other is well getting to know each other, and finding out what makes the other tick. If someone doesn't drive that is important information, I would want to know if you have agrophobia. Perhaps so many DWI's that you are lucky not to be locked up.
ANYWAY, just curious what that is so offensive???? | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/30/2007 5:42:37 AM |
A woman that I speaking w/ on the phone for the first time told me that I was the type of guy she thought she could marry.
I made light of it...and she got REALLY pissed.
She started screaming...and calling me an a8shole...
So I disconnected...and didn't answer when she called back.
Twice
Then again...when I told my ex her current beau is a convicted child molester...she said "No,he's not"..and then later she said "He just pleaded guilty to get it behind him.."
Which sounds dumber?
I'm going to have to go with B....
" but YOU women should know your place. YOU women with your degrees are the reason the world is in so much trouble; if you want a BS/BA fine but you should be at home with your children and taking care of your husbands"
It's amazing that some men still think that way....
"oh, I'm really sorry but I just found out that this ex-boy friend of mine has just got out of jail and he wanted to see me so I didn't call you because I didn't think you'd understand.
I wonder why she thought that...
"Thank you for not doing it at the table!"
brandi: maybe he wasn't that dumb. let's say he was always looking for a Leo starsign. no he considers also Pisces too....not as good, but not too many Leos
maybe the same standard isn't lower for you, so it's lower from his point of view, but from another it may not be. for example some people might think pisces is better than leo. who knows what is lower, that aøways depends on the value-coordinate system
That's a possibility, but since he prefaced his comment with comments about how hot his ex-girlfriend was and how she had a "tight body" just before he said it I'm guessing that wasn't the case. ;)
This comment sounds like a technique used by players and pickup artists called a "negative hit". It is supposed to be used on women who normally think they are better than most men deserve and is used to create as sense that the guy is of equal or higher social value (because who else would be looking down on an attractive woman?). It sounds counter intuitive but there must be some validity to it if all the pickup artists use it.
I've never heard of that before. It seems, ummmm, rather stupid to me.
I had been chatting with a guy but we never met and he said I have dated the pretty girls before that's not what I want anymore.........He said I don't want a girl that turns heads...I want one that only I want.
Wow.... just wow....
OP I think the emailer was testing out a****/funny line on you hoping to get you attracted - he certainly hit the funny button but went too over the top on the**** side. He probably never expected to actually get with you so felt he had nothing to lose by experimenting.
Well, he got a laugh alright, but the second part of your post confuses me. I was actually enjoying the chat, thought he was adorable, we made each other laugh etc. Why would he not expect to "get with me"... and why would he go ahead and make sure it would never happen?
At one point she asked me if I wanted to see a picture of her ex-husband and I said yes and she went to the back of her car and pulled out a two-foot by 3-foot gilt-framed professional photograph of him.
Uh...... | |
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| Dumbest thing said to you during a chat/date.
Posted: 12/30/2007 6:55:12 AM | I have encountered several stupid comments and questions... another that I will never forget: I had chated with a guy only once very very briefly the next night he popped up on im and started a conversation. After only a few lines he gave me his phone # and said call me I dont like to type. I explained how I normally chat to get to know someone before exchanging #'s.
He got upset and said are you married?
I said no.
He said well only married or fat chicks play this game your playing !!
I responded ::: Well it isn't a game but it does weed out a lot of A$$holes....And obvioulsy it has been successfull once again BYE !!!!!
He countaced me later on another sight obviously not remembering that we had ever spoken. I reminded him of our conversation and that I was still weeding and he was still out... | |
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