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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/5/2007 8:12:25 PM |
Am I right to think that you can never meet a decent person in a bar?
I think if i didn't work at a bar for so long, i might have considered it at some point... but i've seen so many break ups happen at bars, now i would rather meet them anywhere except a bar. A flea market, a library, a cafe, movie theatre..whatever....
A bar is just a bad idea IMO. | |
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Joined: 9/14/2007
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Viel
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/5/2007 9:03:04 PM | One of the best- -on my birthday, out with friends- I never go to bars shopping and especially one night stands---I have more self respect than that..it was 12+ years, and ended only because I moved away..we loved each other, but was never IN love with him or things would have been different--I have met several ---long term really good relationships in a neighborhood bar we use to hang out--and I am VERY picky about any man I date. I act the same in a bar as I would anywhere.. always a lady, but ladies can have a good time too...and its only gotten better with age more confident and independent I think.... | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/5/2007 9:18:45 PM | candi apples, I met my EX-husband in a bar (LMAO). Although we were obviously not meant to be together, I'm sure he is right for someone out there.
My sister met her husband in a bar and they have been married now for 18 years and still happy and in love.
A co-worker of mine also met her husband in a bar and they have been married for 12 years now.
There are many mediums to find "the one", you just can't predict where that will be. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:26:35 PM | I have had serious relationships result from meeting in a bar.
As long as you or they aren't drunk off your butt or go home with them that night, no reason why it is different than anywhere else. I don't see how it is different than the internet. The internet is just a big sober bar and I think some of the people are worse than the one's you meet in a bar. At least in a bar, both of you are with friends, so you get a take of the people they hang around with and your friends can help in judgement. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 12:36:37 AM |
Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
I met someone in a bar a long time ago. He was a friend of my friend. We met, moved in together, got engaged and then three years later we broke up. I used to be into the bar scene a lot when I was younger but I was never skanky or had a one night stand or casual sex with any man so people should not pass judgment so easily on those who go to bars all the time. Some are like that, some are not. But my bar days are behind me. But I still think that not all people who go to bars are players or skanky.
~Carrie | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:06:04 AM | | I've met quite a few people who ended up in a relationship from a bar. But most of those, were where the girl approached the guy, and NOT the other way around. I suspect that this is because in the majority of guys I have seen and known, confidence didn't help to successfully approach a woman in a bar, but an attitude of relaxed carelessness, which usually came from not caring about the woman in the first place. Perhaps you are waiting to be approached, and are therefore approached by men looking for a hook-up? | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:12:54 AM |
I've never known one person to have a serious relationship with someone they have met in a bar.lol
candi apples - meet your first one then lol..though we were friends first, my ex and I met in a bar and were together almost 20 yrs. and we're still very good friends..nice to meet you :) | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 7:01:54 PM | Am I right to think that you can never meet a decent person in a bar?
Back in my Christian days, I met someone at college that seemed like the "right" guy. We married, had a son, and he was a raging wife beater. Jerk extraordinaire.
A couple years later met a man in a bar, had a five year live in relationship and it was the most stable, peaceful and overall loving relationship I've ever had. I thought he was just a cowboy who loved to play pool. Turned out he had a Ph.d in Cell and Molecular Biology. Guess you really can't judge someone by where you meet. I don't do bars today, I'm too lazy. People are just people ~ good and bad in all. Just because you meet someone in a bar doesn't mean you have to live your life there. At least we didn't. JMO  | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 8:18:34 PM | 
I met my husband in a bar.
I was there to interview for a bartending job.
He was there for the beer.
We were together for 24 years and I've been trying to get rid of him for almost 4 years  I keep thinking any day now, it'll happen any day now.
The judge will not sign the papers until he does what he's suppose to do. He probably hasn't done what he's suppose to because he's in a bar somewhere. lol
 Now I feel like I need to have a drink.
I have a one drink limit since two Tylenol knock me out....
it's about the same with drinks. One drink and everything is so funny and it seems to speed my speech up.
There's more "beer joints" here than bars. I'd not try to find someone in any of them. To many "billy bob's", chewing tobacco and wearing mullet haircuts. 
Love can happen anywhere, when you least expect it.
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/6/2007 10:44:59 PM | | can you find more than a one night stand in a bar sure you can i married the one i found in the bar and he came after me and tracked me down we were married for 10 years divorced and was going to marry him over so yea it can happen i think we grew apart and he cheated.so it can happen and we had 2 kids | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/7/2007 1:34:39 AM | Well Jeepers!
Of the three really serious relationships I've had I met all three of them in a bar (the SAME bar as a matter of fact!) The first guy was the first marriage proposal I ever had...Army guy, during Desert Storm, obviously it didn't work out But after he dumped me..lol...we did talk years later and figured it all out
(amazing what a little maturity and wisdom can do!) Althought we haven't kept in touch any more, I know that if I bumped into him we'd be able to pick up right where we left off. He's a GREAT guy and a good friend now!
Let's see....guy #2 was a real sweetheart....we were together for two years while I was in college. I told him once that I had always thought it would be cool to have a canopy bed and lo and behold, on my birthday I came home from class only to find this beautiful tapestry canopy had been hooked up over ny bed. (his Mom worked for an Interior Designer in Chicago....When we moved in together and told her that we needed a tablecloth for our kitchen table she sent us a $450 tablecloth!!! Yikes....!!!)
And last but not least...(three guys, all great and I met 'em at a bar...the SAME bar, remember!) It was just after a weird and funky break-up and my best friend and I went out. (She was trying to cheer me up, I think?!) And each guy that walked up the steps she would say..."How 'bout him? No wait..he's not your type...what about THAT one?!" And there he was....This guy comes and sits down at the table right next to ours with his friends. He was VERY shy so I was the one who turned to him and said, "Instead of sitting there all alone....why don't you come hang out with my friend and I?" He was very sweet....and we had out first date a week later. Six months from the date that we met we got married....and he's still one of my best friends, even though the marriage didn't work out. We were still together for a pretty good number of years. There were some mitigating factors that ruined it....it wasn't him OR me....It was just a crummy time that neither one of us dealt with very well.
Sooo, I know it sounds crazy but actually...meeting guys at a bar used to be my good luck charm! Now that I'm not really into the "bar scene" (I think that I'm gettin' too damn old! boo-hoo-hoo!!!) I'm trying the internet....lol...and I have to be honest, I've met some really great people here as well. Maybe it has more to do with the person and their attitude than it does the "forum" or the "environment"??? (just a thought...)
No matter what I think, if you want it, you'll find it....I just try never to pass up a new FRIEND no matter what! You never know when you might meet someone who's "just a friend" and they end up being more OR you meet someone who's only going to be a friend and they end up being there for you when no one else is. Funny how the Universe works...hm? Best of luck in your search, but I think it's important to never turn your back on someone because the "situation" or the "way" that you met doesn't fit your ideal. I actually gave my phone number to a really cute guy at a stop light and we went out many times and he was SUPER sweet!!! So, I just think that it's silly to close your eyes to the options......you never know, Mr. or Ms. PERFECT FOR ME could be the person you accidentallly run your cart into at the grocery or....pull up at the next stoplight next to. It could happen!!! Just be careful (common sense comes in handy here...lol...) and remember to have fun. It'll all work out! | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/7/2007 2:41:06 AM | no my past gfs were not ones i met in a bar.wich kinda tells me what i already knew that bars are not the place to meet someone for a relationship.i think it might be possible to meet someone in a bar thats decent but the chances are like zero to none lol
especially the bars in my town.LOL THEY SUCK BADLY AND SO DOES THE CROWDS IN THEM LOL | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:19:24 AM | Back in 97 I had just gotten out of the service. I had just gotten one of my Harleys running after it sat for almost 7 yrs. I ended up at a local watering hole, about 10;00,
made it 5 ft. in the bar, and this girl grabbed me up and told me we're going home in 15 min. I hadnt' drank anything, and was sober as a judge. She was seriously trashed. Looking back, I think basically she just wanted a ride. Instead, I took her to Denny's and got her sobered up. It rained really hard that night, and by the time we got to her house, I had to crash there. She let me park the scooter in her living room, and I crashed on the sofa. The next morning, she thanked me for not taking advantage of her, we ended up cooking out on the grill that night, and it led to a 5 yr. relationship. The only time she set foot back in a bar was if I wanted to shoot pool. She didn't even keep beer at the house. I'm not a big drinker anymore, thank God. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:46:06 AM |
Am I right to think that you can never meet a decent person in a bar? NO, you are not right....I think that is the excuse many people use when they don't have luck at bars or their relationships don't work out with people they have met at bars.I have met several of my past girlfriends in bars, we dated for several years the relationships didnt work out not because of where we met, but because I was an ass.......doesn't matter where you meet someone.There are guys that just want to hook up, but I think there are probably just as many if not more who go to bars to find someone to date because they don't really know where else to meet women..besides church....lol | |
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