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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:40:14 AM | | I met my stbx husband at a bar...in Mexico, lol..I think that the internet really changed the "bar scene", i mean 10-20 yrs+ ago we weren't sitting behind the computer, we were "out" with friends or family. I don't think where you meet has anything to do with the success of a relationship, jmo. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 10:51:34 AM | OP you are not right to think that.
I rarely go to bars, but in the few times i happened to be in bars I ended up with 2 long term (3 years each) relationships with men I met there. they were wonderful guys....i was engaged to one of them for a while and the other one is still the "Love of my Life".
Decent people DO go to bars!!! We just dont live in them.
merry xmas
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 11:10:37 AM | Yes, I met many great men at bars, long ago. Had a 13 year relationship, including marriage, with one of them. Had LTRs with others as well.
I mean--how many people do you know who have NEVER been to a bar in their entire lives??? Nearly all of us go to them now and again. You just have to be at one at the right time. As they say timing is everything....
I also met my present boyfriend on-line last spring. He is truly one in a million--the most caring and romantic man I've ever met! We are now exclusive and talking about our future together. Internet dating is the new 'bar'. It seems that more and more single people eventually end up on these sites, especially those who are a bit older and divorced. Soon the same will go for internet dating (or should we call it internet meeting)--it will be hard to find anyone who never tried it.
A little open-mindedness and luck and you can find the man or woman of your dreams anywhere. Even in bars and on-line. | |
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JWA
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Joined: 5/21/2005
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 2:56:10 PM | My most recent LTR began in a bar which was for the night a small night club or concert hall----there was a band who'd helped "invent" Rockabilly music in the early 50's. My soon-to-be LTR live in girlfriend had no idea who they were so our conversation began with an innocent question. Our "first date" lasted about two full days before we parted for about two weeks or so. We both gravitated back to the same bar on another night and weren't apart very often for about 5 years afterwards. This was about two years ago and had an incredibly wonderful job opportunity in her field not happened we would probably still be together. In fact, we talk about once a week even to this day.
I know from first hand experience we can and do find someone worthwhile in a bar but it's not the the normal story we hear. Just like any other place we'd meet someone it has to do more with WHO we meet and not necessarily the place. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 8:00:09 PM | No, I have never. However, I don't find going to a bar entertaining. Most are indulging and talking shyt all night. lol Just doesn't do it for me.
I believe anything is possible. You can meet someone of substance ANYWHERE. Now if this person "lives" in bars than I don't know if I would date him. If it's someone that is out with friends that's not an issue. I just don't need someone in my life that feels the need to drink all the time to have a good time. | |
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EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:48:18 PM | | I had 2 serious relationships with women that I met at a bar/club. I had some short term relationships with other women that I met at a bar/club. I usually go to bars/clubs to hang out with some friends, watch a sporting event, drink some beers, listen to music, dance with some women ( maybe make out with them on some instances ), but not necessary date them. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:57:26 PM | I met a girl in a bar and it turned into a relationship. Pretty crappy relationship, though. But yeah, I think the odds are not very good.
I think the best thing to do is find clubs and groups with similar interests, or take an evening class at the local JC (first and foremost for the fun of it, but you can also make friends and find dates, too).
Or you could join a dating site. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/8/2007 9:57:42 PM | I think it's probably the wrong place.
I goto the bar two or three times a week. I have done so for just about ten years. I have met more women than I can remember at the bars and they usually don't go anywhere, mostly because I cannot bring myself to call a woman I pickup at the bar. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 12:13:17 AM | I think the difference is in the area, not in the bar. I used to live in a very small comunity in the central part of the state, and just about everyone there met their spouse/partner in a bar, myself included. Come to think of it, my granfather picked up my grandmother in a bar!  | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 1:05:11 AM | IMO, bars, and in the old days discos, and loud music parties, are the ultimate "meat markets". Why? Because selection is based purely on appearance and style, no room for intellectual or other parameters to work under the loud music, the influence of the alcohol and the smoke. In other words, ideal for one night stands. Strangers in the night ........ in the morning! Yikes! Remids me of frat parties in college, but that was college, so at least you knew that the person you were meeting was a fellow student. So, no, I do not remember/recall having a serious rel with a woman I first met in a bar. Coffee shop and other social places, well, that is different. For one thing, there is "room" to actually talk, thus not a meat market. Planes, trains and hospitals have far less of a meat market dynamic. So does the workplace (eg when you visit the office of a potential business client and wind up having a great chat with his/her assistant or even the client, then things flow much more intellectually). Thus, funnily, the markets/work life are less of a meat market for meeting women than bars and certain other social occasions!!! Mini markets are IMO the best. Especially when they have some room to sit and chat.
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 1:24:42 AM | | Absolutely, of course I only go on weekends, decent people go out to have fun and meet people on weekends too. There is way more chance of finding a significant other in a bar than on the internet, for me anyway. I can see them, converse with them, sense them. I don't drink much and sometimes not at all so it isn't a case of misjudgement due to alcohol. I think it's much better to meet someone at a bar, dance or party, than the internet. I find that a lot of people that hide behind a computer are often lacking social skills, not all, but some.... I often meet nice guys at bars, and they call for a date. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:33:01 AM | I met a person in a club on my 18th when I was drunk- was pushed into him by my sister who was trying to make me talk to him since he had been attempting to get my attention for about 30 mins- and had even come onto the dancefloor in the attempt to get me to dance with him- despite the fact he had 2 left feet and knew this himself.
It lasted 3 years and I ended it.
Suppose he was a decent person-good looking, nice family, good morals, nice job/car/personality.
But intellectually we were not compatible! I couldnt have a decent conversation with him and that was the end of it! | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:59:21 AM | lynsay wrexham , It took you 3 years to realize you couldn't have a decent conversation with him? Sorry but that just strikes me as funny.
Now to the question; Yes you can, I have met some great woman in bars one or two have resulted in semi long term relationships. i tend to go to places that are more social neighborhood type bars. the kind of place where you can sit enjoy a drink havea good conversation and munch on peanuts. | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:24:02 AM | Ive met some really cool woman in bars...Not all are sluts...We men arent any worse..
I think its nice to get out amongst people and get a little crazy once in a while...There are plenty of nice woman that go to bars to steal a little of the atmosphere, get away from the stress, have a drink, and have a good time...
Ive had serious relationships with woman Ive met in bars, some were good and some were bad..Couldnt be any worse than internet dating...Dont you think?Face to face is a lot better..YOUVE GOT NOT PLACE TO HIDE IN A BAR...NO KEYBOARD    | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 11:01:01 AM | Until I started internet dating ALL my relationships were with men I met in a bar. (other than my first... where I was too young)
When I first started going to bars I discovered pool tables and took to it like a duck to water. Every man I met, I met on the pool table. All of them were LTR... including one husband... they just never went the distance for many reasons... none of them the fact that we 'met' in a bar. When I started internet dating it was because I wanted to try a different approach.
I don't believe it's where you meet that makes the difference... an idiots an idiot whether you meet them in a bar or in the library... I believe it's the connection that takes place... period. :-) | |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship with someone you met from a bar?
Posted: 10/9/2007 11:36:33 AM | I am currently in a serious relationship with someone i met in a bar downtown last April. Unbelievably the most amazing guy i've ever met. We both just happened to go out that night, no intentions of meeting anyone and it was love at first sight.
Not all men are out looking for a one night stand.....there are some guys who just go out with friends for a good time, just like i was ....just out with a friend for the night...the "bar" was actually the choice of the other people we were with that night. Phew! thank god for them or we wouldn've never met. | |
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