| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/27/2007 5:28:13 AM | | well i think that some people dont say it as they may feel like the person who seems interested in them will run a hundred miles away.and some do but if u cant be honest ,wats the point.years ago it wasnt excepted, but i think these days with divorce and single parents.its ok.if they dont like u for that ,well then to bad .someone out there does. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/27/2007 7:45:11 PM | | I personally feel that its me you would want to date and not a persons kids, do fat people advertise that they are fat on their profiles? NO, no one is hiding anything its that persons choice on what they wish to expose publicly. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:56:55 PM |  I just have to put my two cents in and say even though I have a kid and readily admit it, a friend of mine does not want and never intends to have kids. It's her own personal choice, and people should respect that. If she is still single in "that age bracket" as you guys put it, and doesn't have kids, who cares? People should be respectful no matter the age, or if they do or do not have children. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:42:28 AM | | It actually asks if we want children and for the longest time I chose "prefer not to say" because i'd rather explain to someone later that I do not want anymore kids. I have my two and i'm happy not having any more. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 4:28:29 AM |
The ones who advertise childlessness at 35+ are the ones I have to question.
Yes, better to have lots of kids with mulitple dads that you no longer see, than to actually be over 35 and not have kids.
Hello! Not every woman wants kids! | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 6:53:53 AM | | look i dont care i have 5 beautiful kids i have 4 adult kids who dont live with me and a 7 yrold who i worship in my profile i state i have kids who i addore i dont have a problem has long as woman state there not looking for a dad for them they can be a friend fine but men who dont except you have kids well you just go straight past dont even bother cause they want you they except your beautiful kids as well or bye bye | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:21:02 AM | | I have one beautiful child who is my world. I have never been ashamed of her or of the fact that I am a mother, but I do say "prefer not to say" on my profile when asked if I have children. The reason behind it is simple. I'm a private person and tried to put as little about myself as I could. When talking to a man that I think I may have a connection with, it's the first thing I tell him. I never hide it. I would never be with someone who wasn't ok with the fact that I' am a mom, and I never apologize for it. Just because I put "prefer not to say" on my profile doesn't mean I'm not proud to be a mom. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 4:07:17 PM | To all The Ladies from this point up to my post we all agree its our choice and none of anyones damn business, we are not advertising our child(ren) to date you want to choose us, so perhaps you are the pedophiliac we need to be concerned with, we all choose to prefer not to say , we are not ashamed its just none of your business we have privacy, i guess we should post all of our personal business on the net or we are hiding something huh? Give me a darn break. Its our choice the end, overlook our profiles then, we could care less RIGHT LADIES?!!!!!  | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 10/28/2007 4:12:33 PM | Ahh I forgot what about the people who say that they are separated when in fact their wife is out of town on business or vacation with the children, or how about saying prefer not to say when it asks if you are married, smoke, drink, or do drugs? Hmm how about meeting a person who says prefer not to say as far as relationship, drinking or drugs and come to find out they are habitual drinkers, drug users and drink every day all day????? Now Im not mad but to try to attack a personal choice that is not cool,especially when we gave birth to those children and the very men, decided to up and leave or whatever the case may be, we are protecting our children, not hiding anything.  | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:12:01 AM | strange. i don't even know why it was allowed to be a choice for having kids. you either have them or you don't
UNLESS it's a man who has no clue if he's a daddy! ..though this should be "I don't know" instead of "prefer not to say". | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 6/7/2008 9:00:15 AM | | I was thinking of not mentioning children on my profile, in no way was it because i am ashamed of them, but i did wonder if peodiphiles etc, possibly looked through these sites lookin for woman with kids. ??? I still wonder and worry about that, but they are a major part of me so its pointless even being on a dating site if im not going to mention them, so i did. So possibly this is why people dont mention their kids. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/6/2008 1:07:47 PM | The only reason I could think of is that they are afraid of predators and sickos who online so I'd say it's a safety issue. though if you say prefer not to say....they I would think that would me you do have kids  | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:23:27 PM | | I was looking it this way, if a question demands a right and no answer, and the answer was obliqued, then most probably the answer is the one most uncomfortable with, still if it's very ambiguous, and if I'm interested and I want to know, I'll call, then I'll know for sure. But my opinion. Not that it should make no difference. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:10:40 PM | I do not think the real problem for women would be the issue of someone not wanting them due to them being mothers.
For me there is a terrifying fact that many sickos on the net would particularly target mothers to actually get close to their children and we can not close our eyes and pretend these things do not exist.
Different to US, in UK we do not have a public database of potential child abusers known as Megans' Law.
So we do not know who they are.
I might sound paranoid, but when meeting someone new this is one of the first things on my mind.
So I think this is the factor number 1.
The factor number 2 is the actual wellbeing of the child and a parent wanting to protect the child of getting close to someone new in their life who might stay or might go.
Therefore IMO the child is better to be away of any new unstable situation and the parent
should keep their private and love life away from their children and their home.
But this is just my opinion based on my own situation, there are surely people around who think different. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/19/2008 8:10:11 PM | ANYONE putting "prefer not to say" in response to "Do you have children?" is saying only one thing. They have such a low opinion of the opposite genders intelligence they believe that they couldn't possibly understand that option actually scream "Yes I have children" in huge neon letters.
People don't prefere to say that they have kids because of all of the child preditors out there. Sick people out there will pretend to be interested in a guy or girl just to get to the kids.
Umm paranoid much?
And spell check please. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/19/2008 9:24:02 PM | I TOTALLY AGREE.. MEN DO IT TOO THOUGH.. JUST THE OTHER DAY THIS GUY THOUGHT HE TOTALLY HAD IT GOOD CLAIMING HIS KID IN MY INBOX THEN I LOOK ON HIS PAGE AND IT SAYS "NO"... HE GOT THE BOOT.. KIDS ARE TOO IMPORTANT TO NOT BE CLAIMED WHEN UR TRYING TO MEET SOMEBODY. 
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/20/2008 8:06:12 AM | | For starters mothers are very protective over their children. There are some very strange people in the world secondly a lot of people would need to get to know the parent 1st - other wise there can be the mis interpretation that they are looking for a replacement parent - when often not the case at all! | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:00:16 AM | prefer not to say usually means.
A their children is deceased
B missing and have not been found
C lost custody and has not seen for years
people also dont like to talk bout things that are painful so prefer not to say could also mean please dont ask it is really hard to talk bout | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:01:04 AM | | I have a son and that's clearly in my profile, but i know of other people that have kids and don't say i would never deny my child that's my life.However i believe if you want to get to know someone you can't start off with a lie. So men and woman that's don't claim the kids they have are not doing themselves any favors. | |
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| Why do women prefer not to say when it comes to kids on POF?
Posted: 7/20/2008 11:53:47 AM | | would the 'perfer not to say' sorta mean, yeah, im shy/in denial/ regret it/ embarassed etc etc about it? i dunno why its an option. i'd only see it an option if there was a child, (in this case) and u didnt know if it was truely yours or not. and or your a step parent or such. | |
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