| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 2:02:35 PM | | You better believe it !!!!! Age has nothing to do with it....it's all in your personality, the person you are with, the moment in time, and your attitude..... | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 2:21:26 PM | Is this person that you've been dating for a few months your first foret into the dating world? Because I think the first one out of the chute is unlikely to be a real romance. I know the first guy I dated after getting out of a 23 year marriage seemed to be the one. But when we split up, I found that I actually cried over my alcoholic ex-husband way more than the ex-boyfriend.
I went on to date 4 more. Number 2 was way wrong, so I let him go after the third date. Number 3 was a player and he was history after the first date. Number 4 was just looking for a roommate. Now I'm dating number 5 and quite frankly, I think I was in love with his picture before we met and vice versa. Then when we met, wow! He thinks I'm hot and I think he's hot. And it's more than just like each other's looks. The way he looks at me and just the smallest touch affect me. And well we're compatible in just about every way I can think of. I am 50 and he is 53.
The point I'm trying to make here is that I think you've got to kiss a few frogettes before you meet your princess. Dating is a learning experience. And no you're not nuts for terminating your current relationship. Chances are if you don't have feelings for her by now, she doesn't have feelings for you either and it's time to cut the cord. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:22:15 PM | moraima,
You are so right. I met my husband when he was 57. I had never experienced or expressed so much passion before. We had a wonderful relationship... and it remained a "red hot romance"!
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:26:22 PM |
Before I terminate this thing can anyone tell me if I am nuts to expect to find red hot romance at this age? I mean the kind of thing that inspires you to write poetry or paint pictures, that sort of thing?
The greatest love of my life (so far, lol!) occurred the year I turned 64. Neither of us were looking, neither of us expecting much but a quiet old age, doing things we liked with friends. Nevertheless, neither of us shrunk from it when it began to be clear the size and parameters of what was forming. Had one of us not died, I have zero doubt we'd still be going strong. . . .
Here's a poem from then:
Kiddles, listen up
Love at twenty is a piccolo,
pleasing and piercing.
At thirty-five, a string quartet,
sweet and mellow
Over sixty?
Full orchestra
Carnegie Hall
Toscanini
harmonics of a lifetime
JJLi
Stay hungry.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:27:11 PM | I sort of scratch my head when I read posts for men/women who post about how the romance was hot to begin with but died out. That I have never experienced personally.
Passion once found, for me never dies. It is the finding it that is the problem. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:37:19 PM |
Passion once found, for me never dies
Passion can die if the rest of the relationship isn't there. For anything to stay alive, it has to be fed and worked on. JMO | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 3:58:52 PM | | i've had it for a fleeting 18 months. it cannot always be the other person's "fix". you BOTH have to also be willing to glide in between the passionate and joyous moments. that is where love becomes a "decision" and not just a feeling. many people refuse to truly love and commit--for a variety of reasons. ah, was scott peck's concept of love an illusion or the real deal? well, call me stupid if that's what you think, but i am still going with it! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 4:04:09 PM | A red, hot romance after 50? Of course, it's possible! At any time! Don't you find the red, hot ones burn out quickly?
I want a slow, simmering seduction that becomes a true ' affaire de coeur'. *sigh*
Love is possible at any age.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 4:24:24 PM | Since passing the age of 50 I have had three remarkable romantic relationships. They were all highly sensual, romantic and sexual in every sense. The women who were great looking, athletic and shapely were 11, 20 and 16 years younger than me and that clearly helped a lot!
Go out and find some younger hotties and have fun! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:09:44 PM | "Passion once found, for me never dies
Passion can die if the rest of the relationship isn't there. For anything to stay alive, it has to be fed and worked "
When I posted Passion once found, for me never dies I was refering to a loving, long term relationship not a fling. Of course, passion can die if it doesn't have all the things important to a relationship.
One of the reasons I am selective about who I accept dates from is because I can't have a hot romance if certain things aren't present in the other person. | |
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Joined: 9/27/2007
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:26:04 PM | | Don't ever give up. I am much older than you and will settle for nothing less. Passion does not only apply to sex. Passion is in you, a passion for living and for life lives forever. Waiting around and daydreaming about a romantic novel and missing all the passion in all thing around you closes you off from the real feelings in all of us. If you are open to your feelings and the feelings of those around you, it is contagious. Don't not connect because you're afraid it won't be pie in the sky. Do your best and then say next. I am 66 and believe me it is possible, forget the old disappointments, every day is a chance for a good experience. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:27:13 PM | I have faith that red hot romance is possible after 50.
I have faith it can start before 50, at 50, or after 50.
Sure, there might be physical limitations as we age.
Does that mean that the romance is out? no.
Does it mean the red hot part it out? no.
To keep the fire going requires creativity.. Even if you are young, and fall into a pattern (no creativity) will kill the 'red hot' part, possibly even the 'romance' part.
just my two cents! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:41:33 PM | | I understand what you are saying mariama, but then again if the passion is there, the relationship should still be thriving. I wasn't talking about a fling either. I had a very passionate marriage and yes it died or we would still be married. Same as any relationship that has not worked out. JMO | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 5:53:58 PM | | Of course a red hot romance is possible after 50!!!! We are just beginning to live when we hit 50!!! Kids are grown and gone, no fear of pregnancy, uninterrupted time to spend with one another...My God...this is the BEST time for romance!!! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 6:57:08 PM | Soit-ny . . ! [Nyuck-Nyuck!]
Even if it begins with a chance meeting at a Karaeoke Bar . . and admiring each others singing . . !!
Romance is possible at ANY age . .
and . . with the proper chemistry . .
Call the F . D . ......!!! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:06:51 PM |
A red, hot romance after 50? Of course, it's possible! At any time! Don't you find the red, hot ones burn out quickly?
I want a slow, simmering seduction that becomes a true ' affaire de coeur'. *sigh*
I'm with you soleil...
I think we all have different ideas of what a red hot romance is ....
some people are thinking passion= really liking someone and having great hot sex....
some are thinking passion=really being 'IN' Love and thinking your partner is a god/godess, walks on water, and you adore every fiber of their being.
The first is definitely possible... have experienced it and I'm SURE sex is better after 45.
The second one I'm not so sure about but I'm really praying it is.....I just haven't experienced it since I was in my 30's. I was beginning to have my doubts about its existence myself. But I'm not giving up yet. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 7:25:14 PM | [Since I still have a pluse I have the capacity to fall head over heals, get stupid ,silly,sweaty palms heart racing, act like a Jr High School kid , drunk with romance red hot to white heat in love. ]
Absolutely! Positively, hands down  emphatically YESSSSS | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 8:50:59 PM | bless you mellow123! i was beginning to worry, as my birthday is coming up and i don't like to date men who are too young (as i don't see it as lasting and i am really over the playing field by now). so, i can look forward to more of the same?!* with a man in his 50's? and also with someone who is not afraid of love?!* well, you have made my day!  | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 9:49:32 PM | | I think too often, because of past relationships people do not take chances, do not let their guard down to even a possibility.. they walk,no I mean they run,, but still they desire,even afraid..the possibility is still there.. if you allow it.. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 10:02:00 PM | | I'm turning 56 this month and I absolutely believe that its possible. Now...there have been times over the past 10 years since my wife died that I have doubted it......but something has always happened to renew my faith. And right now...I am in the early stages of a relationship with a lady 14 years my junior....and...so far anyway......it definitely shows some promise. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/9/2007 10:10:18 PM | Some interesting responses to my quiry. I think some people thought that I am just looking for red hot sex. That is not what I meant. Sex is easy to find. I am talking about a true intercourse of the souls. If you don't know what I mean, well sorry. I can see that a few of you have experienced what I am referring to.
The most helpful answer came from robin4wheels. Bingo. Some people just do not have that in them whether they are 18 or 50. I am one of those types and have come to the conclusion, that yes, it is still possible.
To the person who scoffed at my mentioning writing poetry. All I can say is that poetry normally bores me, so to meet a woman that inspires me to write a poem, it would have to be something really special. That is what I am talking about when I say red hot romance. | |
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