| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 9:14:43 AM | | It is hard to believe this thread of mine is still going after being posted a couple of years ago. I will say, yes, you all have convinced me that red hot romance is possible after 50. But, and this is a BIG butt...I have also came to the conclusion that there really is NOT someone out there for everyone. The kind of thing I was talking about in my OP was what WidowsDesire wrote about in her posts. Unfortunately for me, I do not meet romantic thinking women like WidowsDesire. I seem to attract the practical "forget that romance B.S. and let's have sex" type. Now some men might have no complaints about this, but personally I like the romantic types who seem to avoid me. Oh well. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:28:54 AM | ...You just haven't met the right one yet. Hopefully one day you can come back to this thread and say, " It's not only red hot, it's sizzling"
Right now I'd settle for luke warm.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:54:13 AM | Don't give up on the passion and chemistry that you are referring to. As far as 'romance' goes, that is all what a person's tastes are. I prefer a walk holding hands, or a hand on my tush. Some things considered romantic like candles and poetry, I can do without. It is frustrating wanting and not finding that right person. I know because I am alone and lonely also. I hope that you are not settling for what you will want and need at 80... at 50! I know that sex is alive and well at 54 here!  | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 11:01:48 AM | Absolutely!!
If theres a mental,emotional,sensual 'click' the fire will burn.
I think at 50+ your ideals are more refined. Less blurred.
If you can find someone at 20 you can do it at 50.
There are alot of quality people left who know, this time around,what they dont want,what they do want,and what they intend to do about it> | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 12:03:11 PM |
you all have convinced me that red hot romance is possible after 50. But, and this is a BIG butt...I have also came to the conclusion that there really is NOT someone out there for everyone.
As sad as it seems I agree with this. The last few men I have really liked end up either being to far away (which I dont understand since they knew where I lived when they started talking to me), like to disappear and then resurface 2 to 4 months later, or are members of the why should I settle for one woman when so many other women want me club.
As far as the romantic type I think most women who are just "let's have sex" are shielding themselves from hurt by mutual use...they will become romantic when someone convinces them that they really like them but rather than be alone they will validate their attractiveness with sex. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 12:16:20 PM |
Absolutely!!
If theres a mental,emotional,sensual 'click' the fire will burn.
I think at 50+ your ideals are more refined. Less blurred.
If you can find someone at 20 you can do it at 50.
There are alot of quality people left who know, this time around,what they dont want,what they do want,and what they intend to do about it>
Your statement is true but it can also apply to making less possibilities in finding the one.
It would definitely apply to me. I used to drink and party the night away in my 20s. Chance was a big part of meeting someone back then. Chances were good because I was out a lot. I haven't been to the bars/clubs for almost 20 years now and it has dwindled my "chances" exponentially,,,
I agree I could find someone at this age but it's not as simple as it was back then because of the parameters I've chosen,,, | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 3:06:41 PM | I have also came to the conclusion that there really is NOT someone out there for everyone. The kind of thing I was talking about in my OP was what WidowsDesire wrote about in her posts. Unfortunately for me, I do not meet romantic thinking women like WidowsDesire. I seem to attract the practical "forget that romance B.S. and let's have sex" type. Now some men might have no complaints about this, but personally I like the romantic types who seem to avoid me. Oh well.
I am sorry RD, but I have to say that is a lot of baloney. This is another issue involving my post on the previous page. You are sabotaging yourself to fit your errant belief system. And the longer your beliefs keep you from finding someone, the more you are convinced that your beliefs are correct, when in fact, they are the problem.
Are you looking for someone to give you RED HOT romance, or are you looking for someone who fits into YOUR exact religious belief system? Not that either are bad, or that finding someone to fit both is out of the question, but you are looking for a damn near impossible long shot if you aren't willing to let someone have their own beliefs, or express Red Hot Romance in their own way. You certainly cannot KNOW either of these things for sure in just a PoF conversation or two, a few phone calls or even a few dates.
Don't you think that there has been at least one person, if not many, that you have dropped talking to like a hot potato because of what you preceived as greener pastures, hotter talk and other possibilities, or a closer belief system, when in fact, you were passing up someone who has everything you want and need? You ran from them, you avoided them? I am sure of it.
There is definitely someone for everyone. If you think God created anyone to be alone, then you need to re-examine who your God is and remember...
Faith is the substance of things hoped for; the evidence of things unseen.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/19/2009 6:24:23 PM | | I havent met anyone lately that I have had the urge to have a red hot romance with but that doesnt mean I'm not capable of havung one..it's all about timing and the right man ...and baby I'm there ..lol | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:09:27 AM | Oh god yes
OH GOD YES
Shame he was a player -  and yes I fell for the charms but loved every minute of it and came out without any need for antibiotics or worse | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:45:06 AM | Oh god yes
OH GOD YES
Shame he was a player - and yes I fell for the charms but loved every minute of it and came out without any need for antibiotics or worse
...Yes, I know a few of those. Some of them can be utterly charming and oh so tempting. 
...maeflowers | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 1:44:55 PM | | One of those forced to wade through the mire of suspicion left by the allegedly contemptible players, wonder if the the last two posts can only serve to sooth the concience of these much-maligned artists. Just a thought. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 1:58:39 PM | The previous two of three posters obviously did/did not mean what they wrote. Sheesh! More BS.
OT: The topic can ONLY be answered by taking a 10 second look into your soul in a mirror. So which is it for you? yes or no? It's a resounding "yes" for me! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:18:01 PM | I just get on my knees every morning and thank God in a Red Hot Prayer Session that he allowed me to wake up another day on this planet. 
With age comes perspective. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:45:35 PM | The previous two of three posters obviously did/did not mean what they wrote. Sheesh! More BS
..Huh? Can you eloborate?
Red hot romance....waiting, waiting. *sigh*
...maeflowers | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:45:29 PM | Ding. Door no. 3, Ladies! Dong.
One of those forced to wade through the mire of suspicion left by the allegedly contemptible players, wonder if the the last two posts can only serve to sooth the concience of these much-maligned artists. Just a thought.
"allegedly contemptible"? Another Berkleyism from the over-educated?
"Much-maligned"? Wherein falsely did these fair ladies report?
"artists"? There exists more descriptive words for "d1ckhead"
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:03:41 PM | I would like to believe that being over 50 doesn't mean that red hot romance isn't possible. I do think that romance at our can can be even more fulfilling than when we were younger as some have said. It would be more appreciated because we have lived and we are thankful to still be on this planet. Whether I ever have a red hot romance or not in the future, I appreciate my friends and family and enjoy the moments I have with them. Friends sometimes ending up being more than friends - one step at a time.
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:44:19 AM | | I sure hope so,just turned 49 and still looking.I remember after my Divorce my Ex told me that I will be a lonely old woman .Sometimes I believe what he had said,but then at least I got rid of him.Of course you can find some Love after 50,it just gets a little harder.Please let the Woman know that you don`t have any feeling s for here ok. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:40:26 AM | Hell yes it is! Its all up to you....and the other person to make it happen. If its not working out for the two of you, dont waste time...move on and keep looking.
What is it that you want, expect, desire, etc...in your woman?
Diamond | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:36:13 AM | | It is but tough to find. People tend to get in the "oh no i`m going to die alone" panic mode and that leads them to settle. I think we all know there is very little passion when you settle. Say what you want from a woman and if you get it happiness is yours but if you don`t you`ll still be happier alone than if you settle. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:00:15 PM |
OMG Mae......I will bite my tongue and head to that corner of the dance floor designated for those of us waiting to be asked and not asking......hehehehe......
...Ok, slip on your dance shoes twinkle toes, you've been asked.
You know what they say about dancing and red hot romance? Ummm, remind me.
...maeflowers
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:09:13 AM | | I really wonder why so many people find it hard to just let themselves enjoy the pleasures of romance. Yes, its true that things might not work out in the long run, and one certainly needs to be somewhat careful about who one falls for, but the pleasure of the experience, while on the upswing, is so good that I think it a shame to pass it by. Hedonism in all its aspects will be declining in its availability and practicality to us all as we progress in age, so why not enjoy romance while we can. The failure of a romantic relationship is always painful, but in the end we do usually recover. Where is the benefit of holding romance at bay? | |
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