| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 1:36:43 AM | the more i read this thread, the more i wonder if some people have not been having ANY "red hot sex", because they are literally afraid of getting burned by the fire!
i agree with some of the midway comments, that when i referred to my 18 month relationship, i was not talking about a one nite stand or fling. i thought we had the whole package which included, but was not limited to, passion. however my fire needs to build and it has to have a hearth. if i could have my druthers, it would be passionate at times, but also joyous, rhythmic, uplifting, happy, comforting, secure. NOT more of a tension release or alleviation of performance anxiety than a true spiritual union.
it is hard to find people who have not been burned or who have been burned and still pursuit the dream of a good partnership. it seems that when many find it and it's "great" at first, rather than being "grateful", they start to become fearful or wary of losing their independence or control. so the blazing coals soon become embers.
maybe as we get older, more confidence and a positive outlook is needed. mostly humor, i guess. when younger, you are more optimistic and not all that educated about life's ups and downs. still, to me, having a loving partner is less of a risk than whatever fears that intimacy, or letting go of control, conjure up for many people.
oh well, our creator sure does have a sense of humor! when young, you fear pregnancy. when old, you have to combat ED and vaginal dryness . and, if your knees don't hurt, your back goes out. too funny!  | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 11:11:44 AM |
I know scores of people over 50 who just accept it. Defeated attitude or realistic? I'm not sure but as I said earlier I have decided not to accept less than what I hope to find even if it never comes.
RD; Good for you! Don't give up! At 51, I feel like my life is just beginning. I've got dreams stretching out the next 20 years for my self, my business, my life (the desire for red hot stuff is definately in there). But the 50+ year old men I've been meeting seem to be winding down in their lives; they seem to have no plans for the future beyond lunch. No passion, no spark, no fire. Where are all you men with that twinkle in your eyes? | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 12:00:06 PM | it appears to me there are really two issues and only one answer. What started out as a question about red hot romance, quickly became a thread about red hot sex!!
The answer is all in the head!! For either.
If you really think there is such a thing as red hot anything after 50....then go for it!!
I, myself take the road to reality!! I believe there are people who talk themselves into believeig thay are as "hot" as when they were young........but let's get serious!!
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 12:07:38 PM | I have to agree with shipoker. Sure after 50 you can have romance and it can hot, but as far as "red hot" not so sure about that. I don't think anyone can be as they are in their 20s, it may be different and hot.. but this "red hot" sex or romance.. I haven't seen it yet... maybe that is the key, yet.. if it happens, I will let everyone know! JMO | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 12:47:14 PM | OP - I believe that a red hot romance is possible at any age. It's about attitude, it's about having a happy heart! Our largest pleasure organ is our brain, if we nourish it with good things and good thoughts it will reward us amply.
If one "expects" anything in life and those expectations aren't met, one will be sorely disappointed. Sometimes passions come on hard, fast, hot, and strong, other times they come on slowly, barely able to recognize it. Go with the flow and be happy, it's a good start. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 1:59:49 PM | Suecat 51 your a woman after my own heart
I believe that a red hot romance is possible at any age. It's about attitude, it's about having a happy heart! Our largest pleasure organ is our brain, if we nourish it with good things and good thoughts it will reward us amply.
If one "expects" anything in life and those expectations aren't met, one will be sorely disappointed. Sometimes passions come on hard, fast, hot, and strong, other times they come on slowly, barely able to recognize it. Go with the flow and be happy, it's a good start.
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Attitude, Attitude , Attitude
If you want the romance you have to have some love in your Heart ????? !!!!!! Let the love flow from inside of you, be real and put out a nice ORA, Bilive in your self.
Good luck to all you that just wont let your self be your self. An open and loving Heart will take you a long way, And I don't need pills to acheve hours of loving !!! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/12/2007 10:06:45 PM | | Shipoker, many posts back I stated that I was not talking about red hot sex. Maybe that is all a relationship is to some people. I want to meet a true soulmate where sex is secondary to the passion in our souls. No, I am not the young buck I was 20 years ago, but there is a fire burning in me still. I want to live. I want to dance slow. I want to whisper in one anothers ears secrets we have. I want to go to Disney World (I have never been). I am not ready to sit at a card table playing euchre with other 50 somethings. (See my thread on over 30 forum called "I don't know whether to kill myself or play euchre"). None of us know when our health can take a turn for the worse, and it is a real possibility in our age bracket. I don't want to go gently into that "good-night". In the words of Emile Zola "If you ask me what I came into this world to do, I will tell you: I came to live out loud". Age may have slowed me down and threw some curve balls at me, but I ain't dead yet. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/13/2007 2:21:21 PM | Very funny ^^^^
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Are you all talking about romance as in ..bringing someone flowers or sending a nice note to someone ...or are you talking SEX... cuz if its the latter...
HELL YES its possible after 50.. in fact its better in my opinion!!.. Just remember... the 50's are the new 30's... | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 12:00:05 AM | | There are a lot of nice Persons out there but should that be good enough ?, Red hot romance is possible at any age but in reading your letter i wonder if you ever have experienced it , if you never have at your age than maybe you should settle for nice if you really want a partner in life just make sure you tell them exactly how you feel maybe the feel the same way as you and then you 2 can be matches after all . I personally am in a predicament in ending a red hot romance relationship . thats all there is but we do not see eye to eye on most things that are needed in everyday life so even a red hot romance is not what it is cut out to be when your tastes wants and needs are not met and all you have is good sex. Wish you good luck with your situation. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 3:39:03 AM | | Due to the Fact, that MOST of us, who are older than 50, and are on these sites, lookin' for a TRUE ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP, haven't had the expected Life Experience PRIOR, have Re-evaluated any shortcomings on their part (if any), and have assessed previous relationships to the point of "I Know What I want NOW", it is ENTIRELY and VERY PROBABLE that we can Seek and CAPTURE what we believe what will PASSIONATELY substain our Desires !!! | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 1:34:18 PM | | Red hot romance can happen at any age. I think it is just more difficult when the internet is envolved. There is nothing like meeting someone and having your heartbeat, or you become breathless. It does not happen everyday in real life and it does not happen online often from what I read in forums today-but it does and can still happen. Of course the ones who did find that kind of magic are not writing to forums-they are together enjoying life. . . . | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 5:27:11 PM |
There just seems to be nothing there. Before I terminate this thing can anyone tell me if I am nuts to expect to find red hot romance at this age? I mean the kind of thing that inspires you to write poetry or paint pictures, that sort of thing?
Is red hot romance possible after 50? ... ABSOLUTELY and it has inspired most
of my poetry.
As distant suns explode in light
My Soul continues on its flight
As clouds of stars begin to spin.
My heart it tumbles down within.
With a flash our lips they part.
within my breast my trembling heart.
The mind it reels at how you fit
so much love in just one kiss.
Perhaps what you need to determine for yourself is whether you need
a comfortable relationship that satisfies most of your needs or the excitement of a
"red hot" romance that perhaps only satisfied 10% of them. | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 5:38:54 PM | | I would be open to a red hot romance. But I'm not willing to relocate. Any red hot romantic wannabees, over 50, in the Madison, Wisconsin area? | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/14/2007 6:38:04 PM | | Don't ever DOUBT red hot romance after 50!!!!! I will be 51 and never felt sexier....I am POSITIVE there will be red hot romance... | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 8:39:58 AM |
Most of my life I have been an incurable romantic. Didn't know that it was pathological...yet in some cases I can think that it might indeed be. So, romanticism is an affliction? | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 9:25:36 AM | Yes shadefreud^ Love / Romance can become an addiction. one I enjoy. I can devote myself entirely to another to the point that it affects me physically, emotionally and makes me question my sanity. My house becomes a mess, I either don't eat or I binge, and withdrawls are horrible.
But while I'm high, you should see me dance!
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 9:57:50 AM | It seems no matter what the topic on the over 45 threads, it always seems to be about sex. 
To me, Red Hot Romance has very little to do with sex. Romance to me is love. Of course, sex could be involved, but to find a true red hot love would be ideal. Romance goes much deeper than 2 bodies having wild sex... JMO | |
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 10:44:02 AM | All I know is I hope paper bags are still in existence when I turn 50 Maybe I should start stalking up. Two paper bags and a few bottles of wine, let the romance begin
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 11:54:56 AM | LOL firefighter did you mean you should start STOCKING up? Or is stalking something you do? 
Who are the paper bags for? You or them????? 
Maybe you need to put the wine away before you turn 50 and kill anymore brain cells!!!!!!
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| Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 10/15/2007 12:56:22 PM | ^^^^^^ I did spell that wrong didn't I!!!! Stocking lol..The paper bags are for the two of us, just in case hers falls off I will still be wearing mine its an old joke ...that's in my profile about dating... | |
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