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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 11/4/2007 6:59:21 PM | Splel chcek...siht you can raed tihs! As long as the word has all of its correct letters from(and the first and last letters are correct ) the mind can fix it and read it. All of you that **** and complain about spelling... are you here to maybe connect with someone or here to just make yourself feel better that you can jump up and say "spell that correct so I can read it. If you can't read it or it bothers you....don't read it!!
OK to the subject....looks matter to the eyes of the beholder...my taste in females is mine and mine alone...women I think are beautiful are not so great in other guys eyes. I am sure I am not that great to some females and others I look good. Looks are not that important to women, guys we are more sight oriented, but to a female it is all about how they feel around the guy. Most really beautiful women the guys just roll over and think "wow she would never want someone like me"...she is... "High maintence...I don't have enough money"...maybe even "she is just a ****". Who is shooting themself in the foot here?? The guy that rolls over thats who. So many beautiful women are wonderful people to be around but they are treated special only because of their looks and nothing else matters to the guy.
So what do women find attractive in males. Confidence the number one thing they love. Then humor number two. If you think you are not good enough for any woman...you are right you aren't. If you think she is too pretty for someone like you...you are right you aren't. If you think you have to get beer courage before you talk to her...just shoot yourself in the foot because you are right. So it is not the females that are not giving you a chance....you are doing it to yourself. Confidence is walking up and just talking...having fun...you are seeing if SHE is worthy of your time...If all you are looking for is sex...be honest about it tell them you are looking for a lover nothing else...if you are looking for a relationship that takes time and it takes 2 people to make that work but the man is the one that has to lead.
So no matter what you have to work with in the looks department you have to find your style that makes you look the best with what you have. Women notice everything about what you wear and how well it matches and how well you present yourself to them. So go and get some help if need be to find your style there are plenty of people that do this for a living and they are good at it. So good luck guys and yes it is work to fix yourself...your inner self...to groom yourself...but has what you have been doing working for you? No it hasn't so time to try something new! | |
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 11/4/2007 11:49:01 PM | On topic here , that's something I see said by both men and women. That said, it's a bullshit statement anyway.
IF it were true the world would be a radically different place. Precisely how I'm not sure but since I never see anybody drooling over the hot bods down at Weight Watchers it's fair to say that looks do count. Of course they do and only somebody with some sort of agenda would expect anybody to believe otherwise. Now, with that in mind, beauty IS still in the eyes of the beholder. What that means as it pertains to this topic is that you can be unattractive on the outside to some women but for a minority your looks are quite appealing. This is actually true for pretty much everybody.
To put that in other words : When I look at a magazine cover I know what I think of the cover model. Even if I consider her unattractive I know that a majority of people think otherwise. Therefore, even though I don't find her appealing I would still classify her as beautiful. I know that most people would disagree with me on the subject of her looks but if asked to give an opinion of them I'd probably say "Most people would find her attractive". | |
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 4/20/2008 7:13:59 PM | That is not true. I'm about as honest as they come and my honesty never has an agenda attached. I too am just looking for an honest, loyal partner. Not just someone to fill the void for the moment. If that was all I was looking for I would not be single right now. There are so many men out there just looking for a pretty face to call their own and well I am not about that. If you want to get to know me it will be not only because of my pretty face but because you saw something more. I am so much more than people give me cresit for. So to say that "if a woman was open and honest and sweet" you should watch out because "women can't be that way unless they have an agenda"...........IS NOT TRUE. We are not all users looking for the next sucker. However, it is those users that make it hard for those of us who truely do mean well and are just looking for our own happiness.
Sorry just needed to get that off my chest.
Sonia
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 4/21/2008 3:48:49 AM | | There's plenty of women as well as men out there that also say that "it's what's on the inside that counts" so they won't have to admit that they are really shallow and only are judging your value by how good looking you are and nothing else. It would end up shattering their illusionary belief about themself as being a "good" person to outright admit it. I've met only a small number of women that I can count on my fingers of who actually can look past a person's appearance which changes and care for them for who they really are. Some people have the opposite of the problem like me being a bit naturally attractive which tends to attract alot of shallow people who don't have too much depth to bring to a relationship of any kind... | |
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:02:14 PM |
They flat out are lying. They just don't want to be labeled shallow. Seems women are quck to say you're not their type even when you have a short sweet profile, so what are they basing their decision on? The picture, right? They look at a picture and say you're not their type, so in reality looks DO count to them. And when you press them on their dismissal they do that of course there has to be some chemistry, which is of course............ LOOKS
First off......Ugly Betty...... Great post as always!
hmrocker....... How many women do you date that you find to be physically repulsive or mentally just not with it? Damn skippy looks have to be there. With that being said, for me, the man also has to have a great personality. I'm sure YOU want someone that you're attracted to dont you? Damn...if we're willing to date "just anyone" we're needy, etc. If we're picky and look for someone that we actually mesh with, we're gold diggers, liars, shallow, ect. I've been single for years by choice. Granted, I'd love to find that "special someone", but I'm not willing to settle for just "anyone" when just "anyone" isnt what I want. I'd rather be single and happy, then to be with someone I'm not attracted to. Go ahead, label me to be shallow. BTW, chemistry is NOT all about looks. There has to be other things involved... Can he stimulate my mind? Does he have a good sense of humor? Jeez, there are so many men that are obvious woman haters on the site, married men, men that are hung up on their ex's, men that are for whatever reason, avoiding placing their photo, but sure have enough to say while remaining annonymous........and there are just as many women with the same traits. It amazes me that people are actually able to communicate on these sites. Why the hell can't everyone just GET ALONG? | |
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 4/21/2008 5:34:57 PM | | So what's going to happen in the relationship trying to base the other's value off their appearance if the relationship leads to a longterm marriage? Both of you are going to get old and not look as good as you did in earlier years. So what are you just going to trade the other person in for a better looking model, cast them aside when they aren't as physically attractive? There's always going to be a "better" looking person out there and if you are going to constantly be switching up your significant other every time you find a "better" looking person, you are going to find your relationships pretty fruitless... | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 10:43:04 AM | The phrase- we look at the inside more than outside- means alot more than just the words. Physical looks is not what I'm looking at- it's how he's kept- is he clean, is his hair neat and clean, is his clothes decent, is his teeth rotting out from drugs or skoal. I can't help what God made me look like but I can sure help I dress and look. I don't want some nasty looking slob just because I said looks aren't important. I care about the inside..what he's about, what he thinks, how he handles life itself. Some men read it's not the looks it's what's inside...miscontrues it into they don't need to clean up for this lady...wrong.....I see someone like that and I'm going the other way. | |
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| y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:37:57 PM | Looks do count, but it isn't the only thing. It would be nice to have someone who looks good, yet still treats the woman with respect. We, woman, can't help it if we don't find a guy attractive physically becauze this does count. It counts for me....
However, i don't turn away from people who are chubby or have a slight belly. It is just that fat people and a person of my weight just don't go together. I would get crushed accidentally by the guy and i don't want to risk it. Ya, it sounds rather mean. However, i am just being realistic.
Also, if i take the time to dress nice why should the guy get away with dressing bummy? This is lacking respect for each other. I also want someone who has a better level of intelligence than i do. I want this so that i know i can lean on him for help and advice.
This is my view on relationships and looks.....  | |
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